Shadowing Practice: Why Watching Porn Ruins Your Brain (and how to reverse it) - Learn English Speaking with Video
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I love this one, particularly for porn addiction, use porn anytime you want, be aware of the porn,
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but your job is to make sure that the porn
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that you use is always more enjoyable than the last time you use porn.
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You have to figure out a way to make porn super enjoyable, like, like whatever you have to do,
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like candles, whatever you got to do to like make porn more and more enjoyable.
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I didn't mean like quick pleasure i mean like you're really savoring feeling the pleasure
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you can do the same thing with potato chips
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if someone actually does that it like disrupts bad habits unbelievably quickly on the surface what
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that sounds like is you uh speed running the hedonic treadmill and uh
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that oh well this is going to make the the habit
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even more alluring even more addictive even even more uh self -reinforcing why is
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that not the case why does it do something else yeah
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so most of the time the person who's doing it is trying to escape an emotional experience.
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So I'm going to use porn so I don't have to think about something, not have to be in pain,
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not have to, so I can cure my anxiety in that moment, in that second.
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This is bringing such a deep amount of presence to it.
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To actually enjoy it, you actually have to have presence.
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And then you start to find out is that the enjoyment is far better than what porn was giving you.
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There's a neuroscience version.
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Please.
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So I think, so when he says, enjoy porn, notice what he also says.
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Don't tug one out, bro.
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Yeah.
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Right?
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So this is what I think is really interesting.
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A lot of people don't realize pleasure and contentment are inversely related.
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Okay?
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So the more pleasure you have in your life, the less content you'll be.
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And this is down to the neuroscience level so dopamine
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and serotonin are like this is rough but if you guys want to get complicated we can
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dopamine and serotonin are like inversely related so
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if you look at someone who has a highly dopaminergic life like the person i wanted to be right
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so a lot of sex a lot of affairs pointing at you not me
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i'm just saying a lot of a lot of or as much anal as you can handle
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just have anal sex bro
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just say yes to anal that's gonna be i have i have practical teachings too i have practical teachings too
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so so so so literally like if you
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if you live a dopaminergic lifestyle you will be your serotonin levels will drop
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and so you'll become discontent and then you chase dopamine
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so dopamine is a substitute for serotonin and then what we find is
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that as people become more content their draw for dopamine decreases on average would you say
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that more people have a dopamine problem than a serotonin problem they're using
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that they're chasing after that whereas
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if they were more in i always think about dopamine chris serotonin chris
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and cortisol chris like dopamine chris is achieving things
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and making new 24 -hour play records on the channel serotonin chris is uh relaxing in a hammock
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and cortisol chris is arguing about something over email what's the word
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you're using chris chris himself chris oh oh okay
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i was like oh i was gonna say oxytocin chris oxytocin chris yeah scared
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that it's gonna go away anal sex that's all three
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i'm sorry for opening that door serotonin problem more people in dopamine
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so so i'd say that you can't have one problem without the other right
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so the whole point is that they're related so
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if you have a dopaminergic that's a problem
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if you live a dopaminergic lifestyle your serotonin by definition is going to be low
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and if you look at these yogis in the himalayas they're i mean we no one's doing
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interest not even intracellular intercellular measurements of dopamine
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and serotonin between neurons like no one's like doing brain biopsies to measure that stuff so this is basically functional neuroscience.
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But if you look at like a yogi, a yogi is content.
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And so they can still engage in pleasure.
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But that contentment is also enters the endocannabinoids circuitry.
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But if you think about your piece, right, if I am fundamentally content,
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and I think this is what I'd love to get to the methodology of that bifurcation that you were talking about,
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because I think this is what Connor's talking about, is like, if you are confident in yourself, if you're relationally connected, the fuel that dopamine,
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the problems that dopamine solves actually disappear.
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And I think that's what he's talking about as well, which is like, if you don't tug one out,
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which by the way, is the hard part if you're addicted, right?
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Especially if you're watching pulling the candles on.
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Right.
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There comes a time where I just get outgunned in these conversations.
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It's like, I don't even know.
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How many of them want to have that?
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And so I think one day I'll be strong enough.
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One day.
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One day.
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So we get to this point where what I really like about that exercise, it's a shift to serotonin.
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It's a shift.
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This is exactly the potato chip exercise.
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When you start to settle in awareness, when you become aware of something, the bite of it like literally decreases.
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And there's some fascinating neuroscience about this where like, I don't know if this kind of makes sense, but you know, if I,
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you know, the difference between people who dance and people who don't know how to dance.
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Confidence.
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Once that is traumatized.
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So, so I think one, one group tries to do it and one group doesn't try to do it.
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Does that make sense?
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Yeah, I get what you're saying.
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Right?
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So something really interesting happens.
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So if I were to like give you guys like something to eat and I tell you consciously control every movement,
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you would not be able to chew.
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If I tell you consciously, okay, contract the calf, now lift, now extend the foot, now put it down.
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So anytime you become aware of something, something really interesting happens.
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It's the anterior cingulate cortex.
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Once that turns on and you become aware of something, the automaticity of the brain turns off, right?
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So I think this serotonergic circuit is really, I mean, it's fascinating, but like the more aware you become, things just lose their power.
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Like the power that emotions have over you, if you really lean into the emotion and you feel that emotion, that reckoning of pain, right?
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Like when, when you actually face that reckoning, when you face the music, the strength that it has to control you actually goes away.
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That's cool.
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You create a pattern interrupt, right?
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Like when you think about the porn example, somebody's feeling something, they're anxious, they're angry, they're bored, they're lonely.
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They don't want to feel that way.
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Their brain has created a, uh, cause our brains are largely pattern recognition machines
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and they're looking for patterns to largely keep us safe and
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so for a lot of guys they're watching porn they're re -watching porn
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because they feel a certain way that they don't want to feel
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and their brain has learned oh and i feel this
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when this emotion pops up in my body i go jerk off
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and that cycle plays out
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and they have a very specific cycle there's a cycle of how they do it
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and when they do it and
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and how they're feeling before there's like there's a whole yeah there's a whole cycle
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that plays out and then they always feel a specific way after
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which is usually shame regret you know
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it's like what's the post not regret right it's like what the was i just watching um
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and so what joe's talking about is creating
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a different type of confrontation or a type of confrontation that creates a different pattern
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that starts to slow things down
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and accentuate from a place of like okay what am i
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actually feeling what i've given to guys is set a timer go sit down go breathe
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and feel into what you're feeling and i called it the fire meditation
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and it's like okay you're feeling something in that moment
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that you're running from yeah
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and you don't want to feel it you're feeling anger you're feeling loneliness you're feeling whatever it is
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and you are avoiding it and
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so let's move towards it right jung talked about uh carl jung talked about like
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when you are facing a monster in a dream the worst thing you can do is run from it
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and but this is what we do when we have habits
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or behaviors or choices that we largely don't want to deal with
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or emotions that we don't want deal with we run from them
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and so what what i'll often do with men is let's turn towards it
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so he says when there's a monster in a dream the first thing
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that you need to do is you need to turn towards it
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and you need to turn towards the thing
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that you're afraid of you don't want to feel you don't want to experience
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because not always but sometimes it'll start to dissipate you can start to build a relationship with it
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and instead of oh i feel this way i don't want to feel
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this way it's oh i feel this way
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and i'm starting to build tolerance for it i'm actually still okay even though i'm feeling this way and that
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that oftentimes is a byproduct of a family system a nervous
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system within a family system where somebody just didn't learn how to deal with heart emotions right
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they didn't learn how to deal with anger or anxiousness
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or whatever it is And so they've adopted all of these methods to deal with internal states that they don't like.
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Like a lot of dysfunction that people are experiencing is I'm experiencing an internal state that I don't like,
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and I have all of these ways of avoiding what's happening inside of me. And
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so I think part of what we're talking about is how
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do we support people in turning towards the internal state that they're ultimately trying to avoid.
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And one of the things that I say to guys all the time is like, there's no change without some form of confrontation.
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There's no change without some form of confrontation.
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Super union, yeah.
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And it's like, but that's, and I think from a masculine perspective, that is something that we're really missing.
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Like a lot of young men are, they have been neutered when it comes to confrontation.
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They've been told that confrontation is toxic.
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They've been told that confrontation is bad.
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They're wrong for it and so they're really these fragile not just men
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and i was the same way right like i you know i was okay with getting into bar fights
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that was totally okay that type of confrontation was fine
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but i wasn't okay with the confrontation of like wow i feel really fucking sad
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or i feel really weak or i'm really scared about this thing
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that type of confrontation was never taught to me and i think
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that that's the case for
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so many people where they're not taught how to confront the hard negative perceived negative experiences
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that are going on inside of them a quick note lots of people tell us
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Vocabulary and speaking notes for this lesson
This speaking lesson is built on the video “Why Watching Porn Ruins Your Brain”. The speaker keeps coming back to these words: porn, dopamine, serotonin, chris, confrontation. This video has 186 sentences and 2237 words to shadow. The speech runs for 12:09. The speaker talks fast, about 184 words per minute, so expect linked and reduced sounds. 83% of the words are among the 3,000 most common in English; the rest is worth studying before you start.
Key vocabulary in this video
15 words from the video worth learning, with pronunciation and meaning:
| Word | Pronunciation | Meaning |
|---|---|---|
| confrontation noun | /ˌkɑn.fɹənˈteɪ.ʃən/ | The act of confronting or challenging another, especially face to face. |
| emotion noun | /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/ | A person's internal state of being and involuntary physiological response to an object or a situation, based on or tied to physical state and sensory data. |
| element noun | /ˈɛləmənt/ | One of the simplest or essential parts or principles of which anything consists, or upon which the constitution or fundamental powers of anything are based. |
| habit noun | /ˈhæb.ɪt/ | An action performed on a regular basis. |
| enjoyable adjective | /ɛnˈd͡ʒɔɪ.ə.bl̩/ | Pleasant, capable of giving pleasure. |
| practical adjective | /ˈpɹæk.tɪ.kəl/ | Relating to, or based on, practice or action rather than theory or hypothesis. |
| chase verb | /t͡ʃeɪs/ | To follow at speed. |
| anger noun | /ˈæŋɡə/ | A strong and unpleasant feeling of displeasure, hostility, or antagonism, usually combined with an urge to yell, curse, damage or destroy things, or harm… |
| regret verb | /ɹɪˈɡɹɛt/ | To feel sorry about (a thing that has or has not happened), afterthink: to wish that a thing had not happened, that something else had happened instead. |
| chip noun | /t͡ʃɪp/ | A small piece broken from a larger piece of solid material. |
| wisdom noun | /ˈwɪzdəm/ | An element of personal character that enables one to distinguish the wise from the unwise. |
| lifestyle noun | /ˈlaɪfˌstaɪl/ | A style of living that reflects the attitudes and values of a person or group. |
| anytime adverb | At any time. | |
| decrease verb | /dɪˈkɹiːs/ | Of a quantity, to become smaller. |
| potato noun | /pəˈteɪ.təʊ/ | The edible starchy tuber of the plant species Solanum tuberosum. |
Phrasal verbs you will hear
| Word | Meaning |
|---|---|
| go away verb | To depart or leave a place. |
| play out verb | To play (a game etc.) to its conclusion. |
| figure out verb | To come to understand; to discover or find a solution; to deduce. |
| find out verb | To discover, as by asking or investigating. |
| have over verb | To host (a visiting guest) at one's house. |
| sit down verb | To assume a sitting position from a standing position. |
| turn off verb | To power down, to switch off, to put out of operation, to deactivate (an appliance, light, mechanism, functionality etc.). |
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המבנים שהדובר משתמש בהם הכי הרבה, עם המילים המדויקות מהסרטון:
| מבנה | בסרטון |
|---|---|
| סביל (Passive voice) be + past participle — הדגש הוא על מה שקורה, לא על מי שעושה את הפעולה | is traumatized · is set · is run |
| הווה מושלם (Present perfect) have/has + past participle — פעולה שקרתה בעבר ועדיין יש לה חשיבות או השפעה עכשיו | has created · has learned · i've given |
| משפטי זיקה (Relative clauses) who / which + clause — מידע נוסף על אדם או דבר | someone who has · well, which is · people who dance |
Pronunciation to watch
The speaker uses 82 contractions and reduced forms, such as don't, they're, you're. Say them the short way, as you hear them.
- The “th” sounds: breathe /bɹiːð/, athlete /ˈæθ.liːt/, methodology /ˌmɛθ.əˈdɑ.lə.d͡ʒi/
- The “sh” and “zh” sounds: confrontation /ˌkɑn.fɹənˈteɪ.ʃən/, emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/, recognition /ˌɹɛkəɡˈnɪʃ(ə)n/, ratio /ˈɹeɪ.ʃoʊ/, artificial /ˌɑː.tɪˈfɪʃ.əl/
- Long words — get the stress right: confrontation /ˌkɑn.fɹənˈteɪ.ʃən/, complicated /ˈkɑm.plɪˌkeɪ.tɪd/, recognition /ˌɹɛkəɡˈnɪʃ(ə)n/, anxiety /æŋˈzaɪ.əti/, artificial /ˌɑː.tɪˈfɪʃ.əl/
How to practise with this video
- Listen to the whole video once without speaking and note the words you do not know.
- Start at 0.75× speed, shadow it sentence by sentence, then go back to normal speed once it feels easy.
- Record yourself and compare with the original, paying attention to words like confrontation, emotion, element.
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