Shadowing Practice: Why You're So Good At Being Shy... - Learn English Speaking with Video
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I'm going to show you how to become a confident person even if you see yourself as being naturally shy.
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And there's one simple sentence that completely destroyed the way I thought about shyness in my 20s,
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which helped me transform from shy to someone who's now spoken on thousands of stages to millions of people.
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And once you hear this sentence, you won't be able to unhear it.
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The reason you are so good at being shy is because you've been practicing shy behaviors for the last 10, 20, 30 years of your life.
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In communication, you become what you practice.
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And because you've been practicing shyness consistently, of course you're great at it.
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Now, here's what this means.
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Shyness is not a personality.
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It's not who you are.
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It's just a set of behaviors that you've practiced so consistently for
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so long that they now feel like they're a part of your identity.
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But they're not.
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confident people on the other hand, they're doing the exact same thing.
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They're just doing it in reverse.
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They're practicing confident behaviors consistently.
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And they've become what they've been practicing.
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Which means if you want to be more confident, you don't need to change your identity and who you are.
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You just need to change what you practice.
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And think about this.
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Have you ever met someone who's, look, I'm going to be a bit honest here.
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Someone who's a bit of a dickhead.
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Yeah, you know the type, the selfish, self-centered, always interrupting people, always making the conversation about themselves, never lets anybody finish a sentence.
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Yeah, that person.
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That person became that way because they've been practicing those behaviors their entire life without ever realizing it.
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And they don't have any friends who care about them or love them enough to tell them the truth, that they're being a d*head.
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And also because they've never stopped to examine themselves, they've got zero self-awareness and trust me, I'd much rather be shy than be a dkhead.
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Back to my point, this video isn't for dkheads, it's for those of you who are shy.
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So let me ask you this question right now.
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Who are you practicing being every single day?
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That's the question I want you to just take a moment and think about.
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If you're not happy with how you come across, and you're not happy with how people perceive you, and you're not happy with the way you perceive yourself even,
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then change the things you're practicing and it will change the person that you become.
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You are not stuck.
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You're not stuck being shy.
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And yes, even the dheads.
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If they practice more compassionate, more kind, more loving behaviors, they could become a wonderful person.
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You too could become a more confident person, a more charismatic person, a more authoritative person if you practice those behaviors.
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Now before I get into the confident behaviours, let's first become more aware of the shy behaviours that are no longer serving you.
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You probably can't tell right now from the way that I'm speaking, but when I was younger, I was really, really shy.
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And I'll be honest, I was a bit of a d*head as well, but luckily I practiced that part out of me.
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You're still a d*head, Vin.
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So's your face, Peter.
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What?
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That doesn't make sense.
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So's your face.
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So's your face.
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Always makes sense.
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This video
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that I'm about to share with you is footage of me
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from about 16 years ago I was trying to just turn on the camera
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and speak and as you watch it I want you to look for the shy behaviors.
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See if you can spot them.
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Hey everyone Welcome to my garage office slash home where I sleep everything.
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I Just have to make this video I think I said my name was video already.
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I'm not sure but I press record
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and I just want to see what comes out
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but that's enough of that did you catch the shy behaviors
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because once you can name the shy behaviors you can actually start to change
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and transform them but if you didn't catch them and
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if you didn't know what to look for let me break
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down specifically what shy behaviors are shy behaviors fall into three categories you've got visual vocal
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and verbal let's start with visual that's what you do with your body.
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And the first thing is poor eye contact.
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When you speak, your eyes are either looking down, they're darting around really quickly,
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or they're avoiding the other person completely and you're not even looking at them.
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In the world of communication, eye contact signals trust.
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When you avoid it, people unconsciously read it as nervousness, a lack of belief in what you're saying and low levels of confidence.
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Now the next one is bad posture.
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Here's where your shoulders are rolled forward, your head is slightly down and your body is caved in.
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Most people don't realize that your body actually introduces you before you introduce yourself.
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If someone sees you from across the room with that posture that I had before, they've already made a judgment.
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They will look at you as being someone who's shy, low status, low levels of confidence before you've even said a single word.
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You've been categorized without being given a chance to speak.
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That's how powerful posture is.
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It's the loudest form of body language.
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And lastly, limited gesture vocab.
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Here's where your hands are generally clasped to get clasped.
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Is it clasped?
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This is where your hands are clasped.
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Here's where you have your hands in the prayer position.
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Your elbows are close to your sides.
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You are taking up as little space as possible.
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Gestures are the amplifier for your words.
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When you strip them out, everything you say becomes flatter.
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It becomes less convincing.
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Think about the most confident speakers you've ever watched.
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Their hands are alive.
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They're moving with purpose.
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They're taking up space compared to that someone who's standing completely still, arms pinned, prayer position, they're being as small as humanly possible.
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I mean, doesn't this look like somebody who's shy?
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The second category of shy behaviors is vocal.
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That's what you do with your voice.
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And the first limiting behavior here is a low default volume.
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What I mean by this is that if you imagine volume having a scale from zero to 10,
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you're speaking at about a three and you're staying there as a default.
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And then as an example for you, if I stay at about a three out of 10, and I stick to this, how do you perceive my level of confidence?
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Seems pretty low, doesn't it?
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Next is mumbling and poor articulation.
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When you do this, people have to work really hard to understand you.
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Do you know who mumbles in life?
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Babies and mumble rappers.
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And do they deserve respect?
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Absolutely not.
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Watch what happens when I start to mumble.
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I'm going to start talking about this now.
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I mean, you know, how you perceive my level of confidence.
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It's so bad, isn't it?
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And the last thing is monotone delivery.
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That's where you speak at one level, no variation.
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A big part of confidence is aliveness.
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When you speak in a monotone, for example, if I spoke like this, how alive do I sound?
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I don't sound alive, do I?
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A core component of confidence, once again, is aliveness.
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So you've got to be careful of the monotone delivery.
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And the final category of shy behaviors, verbal.
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What you do with your words.
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This is where you are talking in circles, rambling and speaking with no clear point.
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And more often than not, people who are really good at being shy tend to not speak up at all.
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and sometimes you think by not saying anything at all you're able to avoid judgment avoid being in the spotlight
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and you think it's a good thing but what you don't realize is
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that you're also avoiding career growth the people who speak up during team meetings
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and at work related events they have more visibility
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and the more visibility you have
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when it comes time for promotion guess who gets picked for the promotion those who are the most visible
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because if you're invisible they don't even consider you.
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And then guess who gets the promotion?
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Bloody Jason, the d*head.
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He's always speaking up in team meetings, even when he's got nothing brilliant to say.
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But he's the only one doing it, and as a result of that, he's the only one that is visible.
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And as a result of that visibility that he has, when it comes time for a promotion, he's the one that gets it.
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And you're sitting there going, damn it, it should have been me.
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So, if you're sick and tired of Jason, and you want to learn how to be more visible in your workplace, and you want to learn how to turn your thoughts into words quickly
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so that you can speak up in a team meeting so
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that you can ask questions without feeling stupid then join me
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for a free two-hour masterclass where I take you through three powerful communication frameworks
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that are going to allow you to speak up at a moment's notice
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while under pressure and speak in a way
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that has high levels of authority high levels of clarity that's also concise
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so come learn with me click the link in the description
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or scan the QR code on screen go check it out now
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that you're aware of the shy behaviors let's learn about the confident behaviors
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and they're actually relatively simple it's literally the opposite of what
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we just spoke about starting with the visual behaviors the first
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one is strong deliberate eye contact next is great posture
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and let me let me get up
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and show you what i mean by this specifically great posture
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is where your feet are shoulder width apart shoulders down and back, head held nice and high,
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large gestures, elbows away from your body and you move.
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You use the space that you've been given.
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So if you're speaking in a boardroom, use the space that you have with purpose and by doing this it communicates and radiates confidence.
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And the final thing just to note here is that when you're willing to take up more space,
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you will appear more confident.
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I want you to watch how one of my students immediately
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upgrades their perceived levels of confidence just by taking up space and using more hand gestures Check this out.
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Hi, I am Bingkan from Jakarta,
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Indonesia and I would like to take this challenge from Vint from day one of Break the Mold.
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Hello everybody.
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My name is Bingkan and I'm here to improve my communication skills Why do I want to improve my communication skills?
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It's because I would like to make my world bigger than it is currently.
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How much more confident did they look?
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All right, on to the next category, vocal.
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The first thing is strong volume,
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great articulation, pronunciation, and lots of melody.
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And the thing about confident people is that they have lots of vocal variety.
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Now, I want you to listen to another student of mine here play with their volume.
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One simple change, but watch the transformation check this out so
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if i did improve my communication it will give me confidence
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that i can take my career to the next level it will give me the confidence
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that i can do the things
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that i really want to do in life reason why i'm doing this course is so
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that i can take my career to the next level i
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will be able to do what i have not yet able to do until now people will take me seriously
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if i'm able to communicate those things clearly articulate my point make them so
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that they learn what i'm trying to say once again how
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much more confident did they sound as they started to practice
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these new set of behaviors it's wild right verbal the number one thing
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that all confident people do
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when they're speaking is they use frameworks they don't just wing what they say they follow frameworks
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which helps you structure your thoughts so you can speak more clearly concisely
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and coherently and
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if you want to learn the three most powerful frameworks click the link in the description
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or scan the qr code now i want you to watch
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how one of my students uses one of the simple frameworks they learned from
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that training to be able to share their thoughts in a more concise coherent
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and clear way that's oftentimes my problem with communication as i'm
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rambling as you put it yesterday is to be more direct
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but also to be more empathetic um typically at work
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but also i've got a wife and two daughters so
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if there's one key takeaway for this course it's for uh
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me to have more control over my message oh how good is that now i know what you're thinking
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The biggest question at this point is, all right, Vin, I get it.
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I understand now that shy is not my identity.
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Shy is just a series of behaviors.
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And now that I've identified that I do a lot of these behaviors
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and I've also identified the behaviors that I should practice, the confident ones, then my question to you, Vin, now is, how long does it take for me to change?
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How long does it take for me to see the transformation?
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Well, that's a very long question you just asked me.
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But here's what I'm going to say.
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The changes that you saw with my students in the videos that I've shared, it took them three days.
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Most people will wait their entire lives before they change the way they communicate.
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Some actually never do.
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So most of them spend their entire lives living inside the illusion that they are shy, that they're stuck with being shy.
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And then from that belief, they build a stack of limits around themselves.
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Oh, I'm shy so I can't ask for a pay rise.
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I'm shy so I can't get that damn promotion.
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Jason's probably gonna get it.
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I'm shy so I can't advance in my career.
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I'm shy so I can't step into the life that I actually want.
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All of these are myths.
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They're false beliefs.
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They're not real.
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They're built on a case of mistaken identity.
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Shy is just a series of behaviors and behaviors can be changed.
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So here's what I want to leave you with.
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You are not shy.
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You've been practicing shyness.
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And the most important question you can ask yourself right now about your communication skills, about how you show up, is this.
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Is the person that I'm practicing the person I want to be?
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If the answer is no, you know what to do.
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Start practicing confident behaviors.
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The ones that I shared with you in this video.
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Do it consistently.
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Do it with intention.
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And give the future version of yourself a chance.
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And this is just the beginning.
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As you're practicing new communication behaviors, you're gonna make some common mistakes that can be avoided.
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So make sure you watch this video up here to learn what they are.
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These are simple things you can adjust to help you level up your confidence even more.
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See you in the next video.
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אוצר מילים והערות הגייה לשיעור הזה
שיעור הדיבור הזה ברמה B2 מבוסס על הסרטון “Why You're So Good At Being Shy..”. המילים שחוזרות הכי הרבה: shy, behavior, confident, practicing, confidence. בסרטון הזה יש 230 משפטים ו-2611 מילים לתרגול Shadowing. הדיבור נמשך 14:51. הדובר מדבר בקצב טבעי של כ-176 מילים בדקה, קרוב לשיחה יומיומית. 84% מהמילים נמצאות בין 3,000 המילים הנפוצות ביותר באנגלית; כדאי ללמוד את השאר לפני שמתחילים.
אוצר מילים מרכזי בסרטון הזה
15 המילים המתקדמות ביותר בסרטון, עם ההגייה והמשמעות שלהן:
| מילה | הגייה | משמעות |
|---|---|---|
| gesture שם עצם | /ˈd͡ʒɛs.t͡ʃɚ/ | מחווה \ מֶחֱוָה |
| concise שם תואר | /kənˈsaɪs/ | תַּמְצִיתִי |
| elbow שם עצם | /ˈɛlboʊ̯/ | מַרְפֵּק |
| transform פועל | /tɹænsˈfɔɹm/ | לשנות |
| scan פועל | /skæn/ | סָרַק |
| amplifier שם עצם | /ˈæm.plə.faɪ.ə/ | מַגְבֵּר |
| categorize פועל | /ˈkætɪɡəˌɹaɪz/ | קטלג, סִוֵּג |
| radiate פועל | /ˈɹeɪdieɪt/ | קָרַן |
| takeaway שם עצם | /ˈteɪkəweɪ/ | טֵיְיק אֶוֶוי, אֲרוּחַת קַח וָלֵךְ |
| pronunciation שם עצם | /pɹəˌnʌn.siˈeɪ.ʃən/ | הֲגִיָּה, בִּטּוּי |
| compassionate שם תואר | /kəmˈpæʃənət/ | רַחֲמָן, רַחוּם |
| coherent שם תואר | /koʊˈhɛɹ.ənt/ | עקבי, עקיב |
| melody שם עצם | /ˈmɛl.ə.di/ | מַנגִינָה, לַחַן |
| deliberate שם תואר | /dɪˈlɪb.(ə.)ɹət/ | מכוון |
| spotlight שם עצם | /ˈspɒtˌlaɪt/ | זְרַקּוֹר |
Phrasal verbs שתשמעו
| מילה | הגייה | משמעות |
|---|---|---|
| come out פועל | /ˌkʌm ˈaʊt/ | יָצָא |
| get up פועל | קָם |
משפטים שכדאי לחזור עליהם
משפטים קצרים ושלמים מהסרטון שאפשר להשתמש בהם בשיחה יומיומית:
- Who are you practicing being every single day?
- I mean, doesn't this look like somebody who's shy?
- Do you know who mumbles in life?
- I don't sound alive, do I?
- Is the person that I'm practicing the person I want to be?
דקדוק בסרטון הזה
המבנים שהדובר משתמש בהם הכי הרבה, עם המילים המדויקות מהסרטון:
| מבנה | בסרטון |
|---|---|
| הווה מושלם ממושך (Present perfect continuous) have/has been + -ing — פעולה שהתחילה בעבר ועדיין נמשכת עכשיו | you've been practicing · they've been practicing |
| הווה מושלם (Present perfect) have/has + past participle — פעולה שקרתה בעבר ועדיין יש לה חשיבות או השפעה עכשיו | you've practiced · they've become · Have you ever met |
| סביל (Passive voice) be + past participle — הדגש הוא על מה שקורה, לא על מי שעושה את הפעולה | are rolled · You've been categorized · are generally clasped |
| משפטי זיקה (Relative clauses) who / which + clause — מידע נוסף על אדם או דבר | friends who care · people who are · people who speak |
הגייה ששווה לשים לב אליה
הדובר משתמש ב-101 קיצורים וצורות מקוצרות, כמו you're, I'm, they're. אמרו אותם בצורה הקצרה, כפי שאתם שומעים אותם.
- הצלילים של “th”: authoritative /əˈθɔɹɪˌteɪtɪv/, empathetic /ˌɛmpəˈθɛtɪk/, width /ˈwɪtθ/, myth /mɪθ/
- הצלילים של “sh” ו-“zh”: shyness /ˈʃaɪnəs/, articulation /ɑɹˌtɪk.jəˈleɪ.ʃən/, unconsciously /ˌʌnˈkɑnʃəsli/, pronunciation /pɹəˌnʌn.siˈeɪ.ʃən/, compassionate /kəmˈpæʃənət/
- מילים ארוכות — שימו לב להטעמה: visibility /ˌvɪz.əˈbɪl.ɪ.ti/, articulation /ɑɹˌtɪk.jəˈleɪ.ʃən/, amplifier /ˈæm.plə.faɪ.ə/, authoritative /əˈθɔɹɪˌteɪtɪv/, categorize /ˈkætɪɡəˌɹaɪz/
צלילים שדוברי עברית מתקשים בהם:
- /w/ — שפתיים מעוגלות, לא /v/: takeaway /ˈteɪkəweɪ/, width /ˈwɪtθ/, workplace /ˈwɝkˌpleɪs/
- /æ/ — פתוח יותר מה-“אֶ” העברית, לא כמו “a” ב-“cup”: clasp /klæsp/, ramble /ˈɹæmbəl/, transform /tɹænsˈfɔɹm/, scan /skæn/, amplifier /ˈæm.plə.faɪ.ə/
- /r/ — הלשון לא נוגעת בשום מקום, לא ה-“ר” הגרונית: articulation /ɑɹˌtɪk.jəˈleɪ.ʃən/, ramble /ˈɹæmbəl/, transform /tɹænsˈfɔɹm/, authoritative /əˈθɔɹɪˌteɪtɪv/, boardroom /ˈbɔɹdˌɹuːm/
איך לתרגל עם הסרטון הזה
- הקשיבו לכל הסרטון פעם אחת בלי לדבר, ורשמו את המילים שאתם לא מכירים.
- התחילו במהירות 0.75×, תרגלו Shadowing משפט אחר משפט, וחזרו למהירות רגילה כשזה מרגיש קל.
- הקליטו את עצמכם והשוו למקור, תוך תשומת לב למילים כמו gesture, concise, elbow.
מהי טכניקת השאדואינג?
שאדואינג היא טכניקת למידת שפה מבוססת מדע שפותחה במקור להכשרת מתורגמנים מקצועיים ופופולרית על ידי הפוליגלוט ד"ר אלכסנדר ארגואלס. השיטה פשוטה אך עוצמתית: אתה מקשיב לאודיו באנגלית ילידית וחוזר עליו בקול רם מיד — כמו צל העוקב אחרי הדובר עם עיכוב של 1–2 שניות בלבד. בניגוד להאזנה פסיבית או תרגילי דקדוק, שאדואינג מכריח את המוח והשרירים בפה לעבד ולשחזר דפוסי דיבור אמיתיים בו זמנית. מחקרים מראים שזה משפר משמעותית את דיוק ההגייה, האינטונציה, הקצב, הדיבור המחובר, הבנת השמיעה ושטף הדיבור — מה שהופך אותו לאחת השיטות היעילות ביותר להכנה לIELTS Speaking ולתקשורת באנגלית בעולם האמיתי.