Pratica di Shadowing: The Evolution of Tashira & Dru | Couples Therapy - Impara a parlare inglese con i video
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Well, trust takes time.
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And I do trust you.
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It's not that I don't trust you.
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Well, you don't trust 100%.
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I don't trust the situation 100%.
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What does that mean?
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I just...
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A situation.
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Meaning, like...
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The relationship?
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The rela...
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Meaning that it could end at any possible moment.
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I mean, that's the truth.
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We could have a house, we could have four kids, we could have five dogs.
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It could still end.
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See what I mean?
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We got pregnant very early.
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We were only dating for a couple months before she was pregnant.
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It was a roller coaster.
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And still is.
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But you're saying that the fact that it happened at all, or that it happened so fast?
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I think that it happened so fast.
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He wanted to move in right away, and he wanted to start a family,
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and I would push back till the very day that he moved in.
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But what was your suggestion?
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I thought that we should take our time.
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I didn't think that having a baby meant that we needed to force a relationship.
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You know, at the end of the day, I was already a single parent, so...
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You were a single parent?
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Yes, I have another child.
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I see.
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Yes.
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From a previous relationship.
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From a previous marriage, yes.
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So I kind of learned my mistakes and my lessons,
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and I just didn't feel that his view of him needing to be there was
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so much more important than us figuring out each other, because we were only together.
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So you wanted, in a way, to prioritize the relationship.
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Correct, yes.
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Developing slowly.
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Yes.
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I totally understand where she's coming from, But at the same time, it's like, how could you be okay with having a part-time father for your kid?
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And then on top of that, me seeing my child, what, on the weekends?
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Yeah.
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No. So tell me, how's it been?
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I mean, it has its ups and downs.
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We're very much separated in the house.
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What does that mean?
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I sleep with the boys, and he sleeps in my eldest son's room.
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And are you both happy with that?
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No. That's not the way I want it at all.
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You're not happy with that.
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That's where she feels most comfortable.
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Are you happy with that?
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I mean, sometimes, yeah, I need my space.
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I have two kids, and sometimes I retreat to my room.
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I don't think it's right that the boys see us separated all the time, and I don't feel, you know,
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the love in the house when that happens.
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You're missing something that you want. For sure.
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Mm-hmm.
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Yeah. And you?
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She's getting what she wants because she's in her room.
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What's here?
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Sorry.
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Um, I just...
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It's difficult for me because it's just not a comfortable situation.
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You know, and I know that he loves me.
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I mean, that's...
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For sure, he won't go.
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Mm-hmm.
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You know, he always tells me he's not gonna go.
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It's forever.
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Not in like a threatening way.
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But it's just been hard to like, have that connection and kind of want that connection with him.
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I'm gonna go back to actually ask both of you.
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What do you feel like Tashi would need from you to create more togetherness?
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Um...
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I really don't know what she needs for her to, you know, turn around.
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I mean, I'm not saying it right, but I don't know.
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But it's interesting that you don't know.
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Maybe you might want to figure that out.
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I've tried for so long.
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But you seem like you have no idea.
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So it sounds like Dru doesn't have any idea what would actually bring you two closer from your end.
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Can you say?
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More understanding.
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You know, I want him to have empathy.
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I want him to listen to me.
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For me, it's just, it's not just touching and hugging and kissing.
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I get that he needs affection.
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I get that he needs all those things, because that's what makes him who he is.
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But I'm not sure Drew feels understood.
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No. How do I not understand you?
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Perfect example.
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You feel that I need affection.
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Mm-hmm.
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And it's more about being seen.
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You're so in with the boys and cooking, and I appreciate it all to the max.
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But I feel like I'm a ghost in the house.
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And I feel like I'm a robot.
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That I see, and I acknowledge that, 100%.
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Wait, that sounds meaningful.
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That I'm a robot and that he feels like a ghost?
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No. I heard Drew say that when you say he needs affection, you're not hearing him.
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That he's saying he feels like a ghost, like you don't see him.
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I understand that.
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Well, you did not convey that.
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Your response was, and I'm a robot.
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And that is an issue.
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It's always, but this.
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It's not...
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It goes both ways.
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You see?
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It goes both ways.
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He sent me a text last week about our sex life that he's not very happy with.
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How was this text phrased?
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I just told her that it's non-existent.
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I feel like I'm not wanted.
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Meaning you're feeling unwanted and...
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And feeling like I don't even know how to even go about sex with her anymore
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because there's been plenty of times where she's denied it or she gives an attitude about it and she's just like, oh, fine, okay.
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You know, it's not even about the physicality of the sex.
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It's more of the feeling that you get from your partner from that.
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So, Tashira, how was it to receive this text?
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I was a little annoyed, to be honest.
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And I responded to him two days later, and I was honest with him.
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Two days, you just didn't respond?
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No, I didn't.
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No, I didn't respond.
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I didn't respond.
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What was going on inside you during those two days?
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You know, it's difficult to say out loud that I find
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that he's more attracted to me than I am of him and, you know, his weight.
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And I know that he has an issue with it as well because we've only had sex maybe three times completely naked.
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I mean, I've been completely naked, you know, but he hasn't.
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Drew, you don't get impressed?
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Yeah, I'm just wearing my t-shirt.
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I'm just used to it.
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Not 100% comfortable with my weight.
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But down the line, during our relationship,
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she's said some bad things in an argument about my weight.
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So I don't understand how you could make me feel any comfortable in wanting to get fully naked. So, yeah.
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But to come to the actual point of it, she's just not attracted to me because of my weight.
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I don't know if it's because of the weight
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that maybe I gained a cup of weight after the baby was born and we moved in, or maybe she's just never been comfortable with it.
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I don't know.
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She needs to figure it out.
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Because if she's not attracted, then that's that.
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Because obviously, if there's no attraction, there's no relationship.
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And I'm at that point where I'm just, every time, it's just a new issue.
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If it's not, we can't talk about it, she feels like she can't talk to me, or if it's not the resentment of having the baby or if it's not the resentment of moving in together,
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and now it's the wait thing.
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So every time, it's just a new thing, you know?
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And I'm just tired at this point.
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I really am.
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It does seem like you...
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I don't actually get a real sense that you're invested in the relationship. Am I wrong?
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No, not to...
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Not, no, you're not wrong.
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What are we doing?
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I mean, I'm trying to figure it out.
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I'm trying to work on this.
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I mean, like I said before.
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I think your way of bringing yourself into,
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let's say, this kind of therapy might be similar to what you're doing in the relationship,
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which is you show up and your entire message seems to be, I got nothing.
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I have no wish here, which might be simply that indeed you've got nothing, you don't have any interest,
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or it might be your way of positioning yourself.
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And I think that's something for you to think really hard about.
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Okay.
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What do you want?
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To be alone with the kids.
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That's what she wants.
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To be alone with the kids.
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Is that what you want?
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It's not always what I want.
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You know, I mean...
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he supports me.
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You know, and I know that if something were to happen, he would always be there for me.
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But, I don't know, maybe I'm just scared of...
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of being close to somebody, of giving somebody that...
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I got chicken for baby.
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Giving somebody that power, I guess, of committing to somebody in that way.
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You know, it's easier when you're alone.
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It's just you.
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You don't have to depend on anybody.
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So I, you know, it's not easy.
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It's not easy for me.
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I mean...
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Hi!
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Say hi!
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Hi.
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Good morning.
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Yeah.
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Good morning.
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Oh, that was so sweet.
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Do you want to put him on his chair?
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I'll see if you want to.
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So yeah, I just, I think that, um.
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But you have a lot of fear of connecting and depending.
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Yeah.
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I do, for sure.
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You know, and that's what I mean when I say, like, I know he's a good guy.
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You know, he's one of the best guys that I've ever had.
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So I know that if I continue this way, you know, I may lose him.
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Same.
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You know, I mean, I'm trying.
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I'm here.
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I'm trying to figure this out and do this with him to the best that I can, but sometimes I don't know if I can't.
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This relationship could end, you know, it's possible.
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I'm not saying, you know, and but my kids are always going to be there.
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So sometimes it's like, well, I don't want to put in all this work.
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and then something happens between us and you leave.
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And then, you know, like my older son will be left without having a stepdad or having to go through that hurt.
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Are you thinking about a stepfather when you're saying this?
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Your stepfather?
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I mean, yeah, my stepfather, my father.
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Both of whom did not stay connected, involved.
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Yeah, I mean, my dad was around.
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You know, my mom got remarried, but she ran the ship.
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My stepfather was there, but he didn't really parent us to an extent.
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My dad hated my stepdad.
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You know, he did some bad things to him.
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Who did bad things?
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My dad.
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My dad would, you know, beat him up when he would come and drop us off.
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Trash his car when he would come.
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You know, he would wait on the corner.
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Really hated him.
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Yeah.
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So, and then my stepdad left too.
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There's just always that fear of my kids not having a consistent father figure
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or that fear of me not being able to hold a relationship with a man.
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Sometimes I do want to get married and do all those things
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so that I can lead by example and show my son that it's still possible.
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But then there's still that little voice in my head that tells me that it's not possible. So.
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I honestly feel that I can literally ask her to marry me right now and go tomorrow and get married.
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And she would still have this feeling of I'm going one day.
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I could buy her a whole island and say I'm going to live here with you.
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And she'd still think that I'm going to take a boat out into the ocean.
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I felt myself fuming.
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And I'm like, it's a very, very sketchy topic, you know.
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Should we talk about it?
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It was between him being a stepfather and my older son.
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He drinks a lot of water during the day, right?
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And we have, like, this water pitcher that, like, strains or whatever in the fridge.
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He, meaning your stepson?
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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So he drank all the water, and I just made a comment.
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I said, you've got to learn how to fill this thing up, you know, because it's always empty, right?
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But this one chimes in out of left field and is like, well, like, right in front of him, too.
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Like, she's like, well, you need to learn how to fill it up yourself.
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But I guess the choice to do it right in front of the kids, that is an interesting choice.
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That I understand.
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And that is, I mean, it's hard for me.
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I always, it's just like a defense.
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Like, I don't know, like when he tells him to do something, it's just, like, it bothers me.
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It bothers you that Drew takes a position of authority?
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Yeah, it does.
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It bothers me.
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It doesn't make me feel comfortable, and I get defensive.
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Meaning you don't want Drew to have that position in the family?
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I do want him to have it, and I've been trying to allow him,
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not allow him, but, you know, just...
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You could say allow.
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I understand that.
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Okay, so allow him and give him the opportunity, because I do understand that if we're going to be a family unit, that he needs to have that authority as well.
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Well, I mean, different people have different ideas about paternal authority.
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Maybe you have, maybe you're struggling to figure that out for yourself.
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Well, yeah, no, I absolutely think so.
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I think it has a lot to do with that I did it by myself for a long time.
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you know, and maybe also because I didn't really grow up with a paternal authority or whatever.
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And because your father maybe exploited his paternal authority by being ultra-violent.
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I mean, there might be all sorts of reasons why you feel like you need to undermine Drew's authority.
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Yeah.
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Sometimes I go back to that place, you know, And I don't know if I go back to that place,
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maybe because sometimes I feel like it's not going to be forever.
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So it's kind of like...
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You go into mistrust.
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Yeah.
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I go into...
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Mistrust.
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The father is not part of the family.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Mm-hmm.
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You know, and it's like I'm trying, and sometimes I can keep it at balance.
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But other times, like that particular time, you know, it just came out.
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And it's also been like...
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So just to pause for a second.
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I mean, that's a very honest expression of what's going on, right?
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Do you appreciate that?
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The Tashira's trying to figure out a way to honestly let you in,
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despite history, despite years of doing it on her own.
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And it's a real process.
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I assume you can appreciate that.
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Yeah, I understand.
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But are you still upset?
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I'm not really upset, you know.
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Just the natural thought of like, all right, how long is this going to go on before you realize...
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You just got to say that.
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Well, I'm just saying it from my mind, you know.
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No, no, no, I know.
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How long is this going to go on until.. before she can trust that I'm not going anywhere.
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You know?
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Yeah.
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Well, trust takes time.
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And I do trust you.
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It's not that I don't trust you.
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Well, you don't trust 100%.
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I don't trust the situation 100%.
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What does that mean?
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I just- A situation.
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Meaning like- The relationship?
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The relationship.
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Meaning that it could end at any possible moment.
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I mean, that's the truth.
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We could have a house.
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We could have four kids could have five dogs it could
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still end see what i mean though i mean what are you actually saying
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but i think
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that that's that's the reality of it some people break up
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some people don't last some people what what are the factors
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that make that happen i'm just saying are you saying this generic that we can't hold on to anything, things always change?
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Are you saying this person that I trust will turn on me?
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Are you saying there's no way to get out from under history?
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I think all of that.
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I mean, I don't...
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What are you saying?
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I just think it's...
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It's...
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Okay, but in the statement, it's the fear of believing that it will all work out and then it doesn't.
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But what does this mean, it will all work out?
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Meaning that we'll be together forever, that we'll have a relationship.
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But what do you think that depends on?
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I think it depends on the work that two people do.
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But do you believe that the two of you will put the work into it?
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I believe that the two of us will put the work in.
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But I don't know if I believe that he's going to want to forever. Does that make sense?
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It's a little suspicious.
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Why is it suspicious?
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Because I don't really know what you're saying.
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That she doesn't trust me still.
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But based on the person you know.
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OK, I feel like if I don't figure out all my shit, that he's going to get tired of it.
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So you don't trust yourself, really?
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Yeah.
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OK, that's something you can work with.
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You're maybe saying, I don't know, maybe you're saying that you don't trust yourself to not somehow push him out.
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Yeah.
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OK.
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Well, you got work to do.
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Yeah.
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So we added a new member to the family.
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I got her her pup.
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Oh, really?
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Yeah.
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Her early birthday present.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Wow.
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Yeah, he surprised me on Thursday.
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We came home, and he had a puppy with a red bow on it.
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Like, I didn't even, I don't even think I believed it for the first day or two because it's just...
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I've never had a dog.
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I've never received a gift like that.
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When he was explaining to my son, like, you know, it's our dog, but it's your mom's dog because your mom has been through a lot this year,
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and she deserves to be happy and have something like this. So...
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Sweet. So loving.
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Yeah.
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She knows, I mean, I hope she knows now that I go to the end of the earth for her.
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Mm-hmm.
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You know?
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And when we said goodnight to each other, she asked for a hug, and I gave her a hug, and she started hysterical crying.
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And it took me, like, by surprise.
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Because you would think that it would come when you give them the gift.
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Mm-hmm.
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I've never heard her cry the way she cried, as long as I've known her.
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You know, in my head I'm like, it was not confused, but like wondering,
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like what triggered that, you know, that such strong cry.
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Like, I didn't ask her about it, you know, I just let her be in the moment.
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But do you understand?
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No. No. No. You know, I was just there for her.
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I don't know.
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It just kind of just like happened.
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It's just that no one has ever done anything like that for me.
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And I'm not talking about, you know, spending the money or it's just the gesture
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and what he had said about me having a hard year and him going out to do something like that.
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At that moment, I was so grateful, and I just didn't know how.
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So when he hugged me, I just got hysterical.
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You know, I didn't mean it to come out.
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No, no, no. And I wasn't unhappy.
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It was just, like, just this...
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whoosh of emotions.
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Mm-hmm.
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When you say, and you've said that before, You said that before, that you don't know how.
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Yeah.
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Maybe you can say some more?
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I think it's like I don't know how to accept the happiness, maybe.
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There's always this block, something that just stops me.
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And I think maybe that's another reason why I got hysterical,
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because, like, there was no stopping the happiness.
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You made your choice.
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Yeah.
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But you're in.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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You know that, right?
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Yeah.
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Oh, okay.
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Just making sure.
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You wouldn't have got no puppy if I didn't know that.
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Yeah.
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How have you been feeling with each other?
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Good.
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I mean, personally, good.
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What has made for the most change?
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Being able to express my feelings a little bit better.
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The vulnerability thing.
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Mm-hmm.
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The realizing that the anger is more of a cover-up for the hurt.
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Yeah.
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And not wanting to say, you know, and give that peace to somebody and say, you hurt me.
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Yeah.
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You know?
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You know, it's crazy, because I always said I can trust her.
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Never had a doubt in it, but did I trust her enough to be vulnerable?
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Which I didn't for a long time.
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Both of us had this big issue of pride and being right
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and not truly expressing what we were feeling at that exact moment.
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You know, whether it was hurt or sad or disappointed or whatever.
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And I think, yeah, that it was definitely hard for the both of us.
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We still have our mishaps here and there.
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Yeah, but I can't tell you the last time we had an argument and we didn't talk for days. So good.
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Yeah.
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Wow.
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That's why I don't want it to end.
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I was like, no, I'm thinking about it.
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I'm like, shit.
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Yeah, I know.
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We're talking about all this progression.
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Right.
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It's just like.
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We could do it.
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We'll be OK.
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We could do it.
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Yeah.
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There was a year to have therapy?
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This is the year.
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No, no, we didn't.
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That was not in the plan.
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Yeah.
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Take good care of each other.
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We will.
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The kids, the cats, the dogs.
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You too.
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Yes.
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Exactly.
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You want to meet the pup?
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Yeah.
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Yes, I do.
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Yes, yay.
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OK.
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All right, let's go.
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Oh my god, this is ridiculously cute.
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Oh my god.
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Hey, Riley.
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What?
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Oh my god, this is ridiculously cute.
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Oh my god.
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Vocabolario e note di pronuncia per questa lezione
Questo video contiene 471 frasi e 3729 parole da ripetere con lo shadowing. Il parlato dura 27:47. Chi parla mantiene un ritmo costante di circa 134 parole al minuto, comodo per lo shadowing. Il 87% delle parole rientra nelle 3.000 più comuni dell’inglese, quindi il lessico è facile da seguire.
Vocaboli chiave di questo video
15 parole del video che vale la pena imparare, con pronuncia e significato:
| Parola | Pronuncia | Significato |
|---|---|---|
| depend verbo | /dɪˈpɛnd/ | dipendere |
| naked aggettivo | /ˈneɪkɪd/ | nudo, ignudo |
| ghost sostantivo | /ɡoʊst/ | fantasma, spettro |
| bother verbo | /ˈbɑðɚ/ | disturbare, infastidire |
| robot sostantivo | /ˈɹoʊ.bɑt/ | robot |
| attract verbo | /əˈtɹækt/ | attirare |
| happiness sostantivo | /ˈhæpinɪs/ | felicità, gioia |
| connect verbo | /kəˈnɛkt/ | connettere, connettersi |
| hug verbo | /hʌɡ/ | abbracciare |
| suspicious aggettivo | /səˈspɪʃ.əs/ | sospetto, ambiguo |
| puppy sostantivo | /ˈpʌpi/ | cucciolo, cagnolino |
| ridiculously avverbio | /ɹɪˈdɪk.jə.ləs.li/ | ridicolmente, irrisoriamente |
| topic sostantivo | /ˈtɑpɪk/ | tema, categoria |
| consistent aggettivo | /kənˈsɪs.tənt/ | costante, continuo |
| confused aggettivo | /kənˈfjuːzd/ | confuso |
I phrasal verb che sentirai
| Parola | Significato |
|---|---|
| figure out verbo | scoprire, rendersi conto |
| break up verbo | spezzettare, tagliuzzare |
| go through verbo | attraversare |
| turn around verbo | girare, girarsi |
La grammatica di questo video
Le strutture che chi parla usa di più, con le parole esatte del video:
| Struttura | Nel video |
|---|---|
| Present perfect have/has + participio passato — un’azione passata che conta ancora adesso | I've tried · I've been · I've never received |
| Forma passiva be + participio passato — conta ciò che accade, non chi lo fa | being seen · was born · will be left |
Pronuncia a cui fare attenzione
Chi parla usa 139 contrazioni e forme ridotte, come don't, I'm, didn't. Pronunciale nella forma breve, così come le senti.
- I suoni “th”: bother /ˈbɑðɚ/, threaten /ˈθɹɛt.n̩/, empathy /ˈɛmpəθi/
- I suoni “sh” e “zh”: affection /əˈfɛk.ʃən/, suspicious /səˈspɪʃ.əs/, trash /tɹæʃ/, suggestion /səˈd͡ʒɛst.ʃən/, emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/
- Parole lunghe — attenzione all’accento: ridiculously /ɹɪˈdɪk.jə.ləs.li/, disappointed /ˌdɪsəˈpɔɪnɪd/, vulnerability /ˌvʌln(ə)ɹəˈbɪlɪti/, hysterical /hɪˈstɛɹɪkəl/, prioritize /pɹaɪˈɒɹ.ə.taɪz/
Come esercitarsi con questo video
- Ascolta tutto il video una volta senza parlare e annota le parole che non conosci.
- Fai shadowing frase per frase a velocità normale, ripetendo ognuna finché il tuo ritmo coincide con quello di chi parla.
- Registrati e confronta con l’originale, facendo attenzione a parole come depend, naked, ghost.
Cos'è la tecnica dello Shadowing?
Shadowing è una tecnica di apprendimento delle lingue supportata da studi scientifici, originariamente sviluppata per la formazione dei traduttori professionisti e resa popolare dal poliglotta Dr. Alexander Arguelles. Il metodo è semplice ma potente: ascolti un audio in inglese di madrelingua e lo ripeti immediatamente ad alta voce — come un'ombra che segue il parlante con un ritardo di solo 1–2 secondi. A differenza dell'ascolto passivo o degli esercizi di grammatica, lo shadowing costringe il tuo cervello e i muscoli della bocca a elaborare e riprodurre simultaneamente i modelli di discorso reale. La ricerca dimostra che migliora significativamente la precisione della pronuncia, l'intonazione, il ritmo, il discorso connesso, la comprensione dell'ascolto e la fluidità del parlato — rendendolo uno dei metodi più efficaci per la preparazione alla prova di speaking dell'IELTS e per la comunicazione reale in inglese.