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Friendship should be one of the high points of existence, and yet it's also the most routinely disappointing thing we have to deal with.
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Too often you're at supper at someone's house, there's an impressive spread and the hosts have evidently gone to a lot of trouble.
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But the conversation is meandering and devoid of any real interest.
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It flits from an overlong description of the failings of the
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in-flight service on a particular airline to a strangely heated discussion about the tax code.
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The intentions of the hosts are hugely touching, but as so often, we go home wondering what on earth the whole performance was really about.
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The key to the problem of friendship is to be found in an odd-sounding place, a lack of a sense of purpose.
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Our attempts at friendship tend to go adrift
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because we collectively resist the task of developing a clear picture of what friendship might really be for.
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The The problem is that we're unfairly uncomfortable with the idea of friendship having any declared purpose,
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because we associate purpose with the least attractive and most cynical of motives.
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Yet purpose doesn't have to ruin friendship, and in fact, the more we define what a friendship might be for,
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the more we can focus in on what we should be doing with every person in our lives, or indeed, the more we can helpfully conclude that we shouldn't be with them at all.
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There are at least four things we might be trying to do with the people we know.
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Firstly, networking.
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It's an unfairly maligned idea.
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We're small, fragile creatures in a vast world.
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Our individual capacities are entirely insufficient to realise the demands of our imaginations.
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So of course we need collaborators, accomplices who can align their abilities and energies with ours.
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This idea of friendship was given a lot of space in classical literature.
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Like the Argonauts, the legendary ancient Greek tale
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which traced how a heroic captain called Jason networked in order
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to assemble a band of friends to sail on the Argo in search of the Golden Fleece.
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Later, the same idea emerged
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when Jesus networked to put together a band of twelve disciples with whom he could spread one
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or two world-changing ideas about forgiveness and compassion.
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Rather than diminish our own efforts as we hand out our business cards,
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such prestigious examples can show how elevated and ambitious networking friendships could ideally be.
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Secondly, reassurance.
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The human condition is full of terror.
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We're always on the verge of disgrace, danger and disappointment.
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And yet, such are the rules of polite conduct
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that we're permanently in danger of imagining that we are the only ones to be as crazy as we know we are.
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We badly need friends because with the people we know only superficially, There are few confessions of sexual compulsion or of regret, rage and confusion.
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These superficial acquaintances refuse to admit that they too are going slightly out of their minds.
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Yet the reassuring true friend gives us access to a very necessary and accurate sense of their own humiliations and follies,
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insights with which we can begin to judge ourselves and our sad and compulsive lives slightly more compassionately.
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Thirdly, fun.
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Despite talk of hedonism and immediate gratification, life gives us constant lessons in the need to be serious.
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We have to guard our dignity, avoid looking like a fool and pass as a mature adult.
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The pressure can become onerous and in the end even dangerous.
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That's why we constantly need access to people we can trust enough to be silly with them.
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They might most of the time be training to be a neurosurgeon or advising middle-sized companies about their tax liabilities.
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But when we're together, we can be therapeutically daft.
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We can put on accents, shared lewd fantasies or doodle on the newspaper, adding a huge nose and a missing front tooth to the president,
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or giving the fashion model distended ears and masses of curly hair.
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The fun friend solves the problem of shame around important but unprestigious sides of ourselves.
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Fourthly, clarifying our minds.
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To a surprising degree, it's very hard to think on our own.
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The mind is skittish and squeamish.
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As a result, many Many issues lie confused within us.
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We feel angry but are not sure why.
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Something is wrong with our job but we can't pin it down.
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The thinking friend holds us to the task.
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They ask gentle but probing questions which act as a mirror that assists us with the task of knowing ourselves.
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One side effect of getting a bit more precise about what we're trying to do with our social lives is
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that we're likely to conclude that in many cases we're spending time with people for no truly identifiable good reason.
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These proto-friends share none of our professional ambitions or interests, they aren't reassuring and may indeed be secretly really very excited by the possibility of our failure,
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We can't be cathartically silly around them
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and they aren't in the least bit interested in furthering our or their path to self-knowledge.
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They are, like so many of the people in our social lives,
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simply in our orbit as a result of some unhappy accident that we've been too sentimental to correct.
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We should dare to be a little ruthless in this area.
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Culling acquaintances isn't a sign that we've lost belief in friendship.
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It's evidence that we're starting to get clearer and therefore more demanding about what a friendship could really be.
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In the best way, the price of knowing what friendship is for may be a few more evenings at home in our own company.
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Thank you.
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Vocabolario e note di pronuncia per questa lezione
Questa lezione di conversazione di livello C1 si basa sul video “The Purpose of Friendship”. Le parole che ritornano più spesso: friendship, purpose, lives. Questo video contiene 67 frasi e 957 parole da ripetere con lo shadowing. Il parlato dura 5:58. Chi parla ha un ritmo naturale di circa 160 parole al minuto, vicino a una conversazione quotidiana. Solo il 79% delle parole rientra nelle 3.000 più comuni dell’inglese, quindi il lessico è impegnativo.
Vocaboli chiave di questo video
Le 15 parole più avanzate del video, con pronuncia e significato:
| Parola | Pronuncia | Significato |
|---|---|---|
| reassure verbo | /ˌɹi.əˈʃʊɹ/ | rassicurare, tranquillizzare |
| acquaintance sostantivo | /ʌˈkweɪn.təns/ | conoscenza |
| conclude verbo | /kənˈkluːd/ | finire, concludere |
| accomplice sostantivo | /əˈkɑm.pləs/ | complice, correo |
| adrift aggettivo | /əˈdɹɪft/ | alla deriva |
| collaborator sostantivo | /kəˈlæbəɹeɪtɚ/ | collaboratore |
| devoid aggettivo | /dɪˈvɔɪd/ | privo, senza |
| diminish verbo | /dɪˈmɪnɪʃ/ | diminuire, ridurre |
| doodle sostantivo | /ˈdud(ə)l/ | scarabocchio, scarabocchi |
| elevate verbo | /ˈɛləveɪt/ | elevare |
| gratification sostantivo | /ˌɡɹætɪfɪˈkeɪʃən/ | gratificazione |
| hedonism sostantivo | /ˈhiːdənɪzəm/ | edonismo |
| meander sostantivo | /miˈæn.də(ɹ)/ | meandro |
| neurosurgeon sostantivo | neurochirurgo | |
| onerous aggettivo | /ˈɑnəɹəs/ | oneroso, ostico |
I phrasal verb che sentirai
| Parola | Significato |
|---|---|
| hand out verbo | distribuire |
| put together verbo | assemblare, montare |
La grammatica di questo video
Le strutture che chi parla usa di più, con le parole esatte del video:
| Struttura | Nel video |
|---|---|
| Present perfect have/has + participio passato — un’azione passata che conta ancora adesso | we've been · we've lost |
| Forma passiva be + participio passato — conta ciò che accade, non chi lo fa | be found · was given |
Pronuncia a cui fare attenzione
Chi parla usa 19 contrazioni e forme ridotte, come we're, aren't, can't. Pronunciale nella forma breve, così come le senti.
- I suoni “th”: fourthly /ˈfɔːɹθ.li/, therapeutically /ˌθɛɹ.əˈpju.tɪk.li/, thirdly /ˈθɚdli/, ruthless /ˈɹuːθləs/, tooth /tuθ/
- I suoni “sh” e “zh”: reassure /ˌɹi.əˈʃʊɹ/, compulsion /kəmˈpʌlʃən/, diminish /dɪˈmɪnɪʃ/, gratification /ˌɡɹætɪfɪˈkeɪʃən/, skittish /ˈskɪtɪʃ/
- Parole lunghe — attenzione all’accento: collaborator /kəˈlæbəɹeɪtɚ/, gratification /ˌɡɹætɪfɪˈkeɪʃən/, hedonism /ˈhiːdənɪzəm/, prototypical /ˌpɹoʊtəˈtɪpɪkəl/, therapeutically /ˌθɛɹ.əˈpju.tɪk.li/
I suoni difficili per chi parla italiano:
- /h/ — va soffiata, non è muta: hedonism /ˈhiːdənɪzəm/, helpfully /ˈhɛlp.fəl.i/, humiliation /hjuːˌmɪliˈeɪʃən/, hugely /ˈhjuːd͡ʒli/, heroic /hɪˈɹoʊ.ɪk/
- Consonante finale — senza aggiungere una vocale dopo: acquaintance /ʌˈkweɪn.təns/, bind /ˈbaɪ̯nd/, conclude /kənˈkluːd/, accomplice /əˈkɑm.pləs/, adrift /əˈdɹɪft/
- /æ/ — più aperta della “e”: collaborator /kəˈlæbəɹeɪtɚ/, gratification /ˌɡɹætɪfɪˈkeɪʃən/, meander /miˈæn.də(ɹ)/, clarify /ˈklæɹ.ɪ.faɪ/, fragile /ˈfɹæd͡ʒəl/
Come esercitarsi con questo video
- Ascolta tutto il video una volta senza parlare e annota le parole che non conosci.
- Inizia a velocità 0,75×, fai shadowing frase per frase e torna alla velocità normale quando diventa facile.
- Registrati e confronta con l’originale, facendo attenzione a parole come reassure, acquaintance, conclude.
Cos'è la tecnica dello Shadowing?
Shadowing è una tecnica di apprendimento delle lingue supportata da studi scientifici, originariamente sviluppata per la formazione dei traduttori professionisti e resa popolare dal poliglotta Dr. Alexander Arguelles. Il metodo è semplice ma potente: ascolti un audio in inglese di madrelingua e lo ripeti immediatamente ad alta voce — come un'ombra che segue il parlante con un ritardo di solo 1–2 secondi. A differenza dell'ascolto passivo o degli esercizi di grammatica, lo shadowing costringe il tuo cervello e i muscoli della bocca a elaborare e riprodurre simultaneamente i modelli di discorso reale. La ricerca dimostra che migliora significativamente la precisione della pronuncia, l'intonazione, il ritmo, il discorso connesso, la comprensione dell'ascolto e la fluidità del parlato — rendendolo uno dei metodi più efficaci per la preparazione alla prova di speaking dell'IELTS e per la comunicazione reale in inglese.