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Are you a good friend?
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Are you a good friend?
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Are you a good friend to your friends?
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Are your friends good to you?
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You know, who do you,
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do you call people when you are stuck and down?
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Or do you make TikTok videos by yourself?
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Which, you know, and you get,
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I mean, literally people who are depressed make TikTok videos by themselves.
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I don't know how many times they reshoot that either.
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To post it, to get the validation for their feelings.
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But to call a friend and say the same thing you're struggling with is actually more difficult.
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Why doesn't the industry exist?
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Because typically- And we take it for granted.
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Yeah, so the demand isn't there for those kinds of things.
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But that's the problem, which is I think the demand is there.
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We don't realize it, right?
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Like we know that our relationships fail and our marriages fail,
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so there's an entire industry to help us maintain better relationships.
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Well, friendships fail, and we think we have friends,
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yet we still struggle and feel lonely.
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If you have good friendship,
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you will not feel lonely.
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You may have moments of loneliness,
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and in those periods, you will pick up the phone and say to your friend,
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I need you, I'm lonely.
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And your friends will be there.
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You will feel not alone, right?
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Or, and you and I have talked about this,
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but you will feel that someone will get in the mud with you.
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And I think the problem is we don't give intention to friendship. So think about it.
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And you and I are both guilty of this.
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In fact, I would argue that everybody's guilty of this,
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which is we've got plans booked with a friend.
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Let's call it a lunch.
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a work thing comes up.
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We call up the friend,
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I got a work thing.
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And the reason we keep bumping our friends is because they'll understand they're our friends.
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So why aren't we prioritizing our friendships?
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Why aren't we saying to the work thing,
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I'm sorry, I've got a thing.
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If we had another meeting,
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we would say, sorry, I've got an appointment, I can't make it.
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So why don't we treat our friends with the same intentionality that we treat any other meeting?
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So one of the things that Will did for a friend that I thought was genius, brilliant, beautiful.
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Will Godera, who I'm writing the book with.
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Will's friend's dad died.
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Will texted him and said, I feel for you.
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I know what you're going through.
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I lost my mom at an early age.
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I'm sure you're being inundated with calls and texts.
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So I'm not going to call you today.
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but what I will do is I will call you every single day at 9.45 a.m.
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Do not feel obligated to pick up.
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I don't mind if you don't,
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but when you're ready, know that I'm calling you.
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And for the next, I think it was three months,
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eight months, something, he called every single day at 9.45 a.m.,
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and for the first week his friend didn't pick up at all,
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and then after the first week he picked up every day and they talked every day for months.
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Like, think about the intentionality that somebody who loves
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and cares about you so much
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that they will call you every single day at 945 just
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so that you can see their name pop up and the caller ID to know that you're not alone.
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I mean, it brings me to tears just thinking about it.
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Like, how many of us are that good a friend?
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You know, I want friends like that.
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Here's a good question.
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Like, what's a friend?
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Like, what makes a good friend?
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Like, I don't even know if we have a definition of that.
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You know, I've been asking people and somebody said to me,
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well, somebody who's there for you,
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to support you in the hard times.
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That's a real friend, right?
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And I got thinking, and I talked to somebody else.
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She has a friend who she calls Mr. Schadenfreude because he seems to love when things go wrong.
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So in hard times, he's always there.
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He's always there in hard times.
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He's got the shoulder to lean on.
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He's giving advice.
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But in good times, he's nowhere to be seen.
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And so what happens is it creates this horrible sort of
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codependent relationship that you want to keep the hard times because that wonderful human being is always there.
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So you never want to let go and you become codependent.
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And so you realize that there's something called a fair weathered friend who's only there in the good times,
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but be equally cynical
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and suspicious of the foul weathered friends who's only there in the hard times
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because somehow it makes them feel good about themselves,
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but they're not there for the good times.
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And so you realize what's the value of good time versus bad time.
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So yes, yes, you and I have friends that in hard times we would call them,
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but I would bet money that you have even fewer friends that you want to text out of the blue and say,
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I won an award.
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Right?
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Think about that.
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Like if something goes wrong,
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I've got a group of friends,
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probably, I've probably got a,
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you know, a dozen people I could say and say,
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I need your help.
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Things have gone horribly wrong.
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I need your advice.
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But if something amazing happens to me,
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that number probably shrinks down to four.
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That I'm going to text out of the blue and go,
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something amazing happened today and not feel like I'm bragging.
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Not feel like I'm trying to overwhelm them or prove them that I'm better than them.
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But knowing that they will be so happy for me.
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And so I've started thinking that maybe a friend isn't just the person who's there for you in the hard times,
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but the person you can go to in the great times.
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Think about that.
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I have fewer friends that I can go to when things go perfectly than I would go to when things go wrong.
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So are those my true friends?
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So this is on the journey I'm on.
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I'm trying to understand what friend means.
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And I'm trying to understand the responsibility we have to look after those friends.
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You look at all the longevity studies,
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you know, all the blue zone work.
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Sure, they eat healthy.
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Sure, they walk a lot.
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But they also eat with each other.
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Whereas you look at some of the people who are promoting longevity
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and all of those biohacks and how you have to exercise this certain way and eat this certain way,
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you'll find a lot of them are pretty unhappy people and pretty lonely people.
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I don't think they're going to live very long.
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So here's a crazy, crazy one.
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Here's a crazy, crazy one.
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Physiologically, what are the most important organs to keep strong for longevity?
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We know the data.
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So I'll tell you what they are, right?
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Number one, heart.
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Obviously, that makes perfect sense, right?
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You got to have a healthy heart if you want to live a long time, right?
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Second one, lungs.
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Got to have healthy lungs to live a long time.
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Cardio and all the rest of it, right?
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Don't smoke.
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Like we know that.
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Makes perfect sense.
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Do you know what the third most important organ is?
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I don't know.
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I was going to say the brain, but...
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The thighs.
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thigh muscles are the other so if you have a healthy heart healthy lungs and healthy thighs
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statistically you're more likely to live longer i know i said
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the same thing thighs do you want to know why
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because historically thighs are the most important muscle responsible for what
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motion walking right not exercise social going to visit your friends
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before there were cars before there were trains we had to walk to go visit our friends
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and so people who are mobile if you're more mobile,
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you're more likely to maintain friendships,
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which means you're likely to live longer.
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So the three most important organs to keep healthy historically as human beings,
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heart, lungs, and thighs for mobility,
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thighs for sociability, which I think is amazing that we never thought about.
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So all of these things that technology has interrupted,
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mass transportation, cars, social media,
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all of these things, they've interrupted our ability to make friends,
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proper friends where you can look each other in the eye.
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You and I could do this over Zoom.
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It wouldn't feel the same.
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No. But the macro, so the remote work culture,
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the rise in, as you say,
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screens and phones, optimizing interaction out of our lives.
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I mean, like, you know,
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if you think about social networking or Uber Eats or,
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I don't know, Deliveroo, you're living your life behind a screen
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in white walls now and it feels like it's becoming harder and harder
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and harder to make friends also to find someone to remember
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to make friends in fact just what's interesting thing is sometimes
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when i come off stage i'll have it's always young men come up to me
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and they'll get right up in my personal space
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and i go this is strange
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and then they'll say something to me like um how do i make friends
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and they and i i respect them so much for saying it
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because i can see how difficult it is for them to utter
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that those words and i reflect on it i was doing something at canary wharf
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and a kid kid in the front row in a crowd of 500 people they're all wearing suits
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because they're working in the corporate world he's surrounded by 500
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of his peers his age in the front row past the
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microphone his question to me on stage is how do i make friends yeah
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and there's 499 people sat next to him that are his age yep
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and he's asking in the front row how do i make friends yeah
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and it was so moving because you know looking looking down on that individual surrounded by people i'm like well You know,
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the brain, the simple brain goes,
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well, just turn to the person next to you and introduce yourself.
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But clearly that was not the answer.
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Because if it was so simple,
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he would just do that.
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And you said something interesting as well,
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which I think maybe overlays with that,
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which is that we've kind of like lost the art or the skill of making friends.
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Yep.
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What would you have said to that kid?
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So I'll tell you by way of a story,
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how I would answer that.
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So a friend of mine was struggling.
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Her career, it wasn't going as well as she'd wanted.
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And her marriage was in a bad place.
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So in other words, when it rains, it pours.
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Like she couldn't get a break, right?
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And she was in a really bad place.
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And so she knows what I do for a living.
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So she asked me, can you help?
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Can I come and talk to you and get some advice?
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And I said, of course.
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And so we had a standing Wednesday meeting, get together.
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We got together every Wednesday for 90 minutes.
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And she would tell me what was going on in her life.
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I gave her some advice.
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She felt amazing when she left me.
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It lasted about two days.
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And then she'd go back into her slump.
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And then we'd get together the next Wednesday.
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She'd feel amazing for about two days.
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and she'd go back into Islam.
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And this went on for months.
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This was our pattern, right?
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So I thought I was doing good work and then I'd just rinse and repeat, right?
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Then I remembered my own work and I remembered Alcoholics Anonymous,
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which is the final step.
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The 12th step is service,
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helping somebody who's struggling with the problem you're struggling with, right?
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Is the way to actually help you overcome your problem.
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So I have struggles, I have needs,
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I have insecurities and I don't have a safe outlet to talk to.
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So she's one of my closest friends in the world.
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I trust her implicitly.
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So I said to her,
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I need the coaching as well.
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Can we split our time?
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45 minutes for me, 45 minutes for you.
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She agreed.
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And I knew what I was doing, right?
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There was kind of an experiment happening,
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which I didn't let on,
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which is I wanted her to help me as a way of helping herself.
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And so what ended up happening was it ceased to be 45-45 five,
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we got together and for 90 minutes we talked about me.
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And then the next Wednesday,
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we got together and for 90 minutes we talked about me.
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And then we got together and for 90 minutes we talked about me.
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And within about three or four weeks,
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her life was full on back on track, fully back on track.
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Because when you help someone with a thing that you were struggling with,
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you actually end up solving your own problems.
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And so what I would say to
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that kid is find somebody who's struggling to make a friend and help them make a friend.
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Make it an act of service.
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because fundamentally we dig down deep.
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The true skill that we've lost is service.
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We've overemphasized taking over giving.
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We've overemphasized selfish over selfless.
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Selfish is important.
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Taking is important, but not at the expense of giving and not at the expense of serving.
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the bigger the guests.
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Le 5 Frasi Chiave per la Comunicazione Quotidiana
- Are you a good friend? – Sei un buon amico?
- I need you, I'm lonely. – Ho bisogno di te, mi sento solo.
- I'll be there for you. – Sarò lì per te.
- Let's prioritize our friendship. – Diamo priorità alla nostra amicizia.
- I'm sorry, I've got a thing. – Mi dispiace, ho un impegno.
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