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Are you a good friend?

Are you a good friend to your friends?

Are your friends good to you?

You know, who do you,

do you call people when you are stuck and down?

Or do you make TikTok videos by yourself?

Which, you know, and you get,

I mean, literally people who are depressed make TikTok videos by themselves.

I don't know how many times they reshoot that either.

To post it, to get the validation for their feelings.

But to call a friend and say the same thing you're struggling with is actually more difficult.

Why doesn't the industry exist?

Because typically- And we take it for granted.

Yeah, so the demand isn't there for those kinds of things.

But that's the problem, which is I think the demand is there.

We don't realize it, right?

Like we know that our relationships fail and our marriages fail,

so there's an entire industry to help us maintain better relationships.

Well, friendships fail, and we think we have friends,

yet we still struggle and feel lonely.

If you have good friendship,

you will not feel lonely.

You may have moments of loneliness,

and in those periods, you will pick up the phone and say to your friend,

I need you, I'm lonely.

And your friends will be there.

You will feel not alone, right?

Or, and you and I have talked about this,

but you will feel that someone will get in the mud with you.

And I think the problem is we don't give intention to friendship. So think about it.

And you and I are both guilty of this.

In fact, I would argue that everybody's guilty of this,

which is we've got plans booked with a friend.

Let's call it a lunch.

a work thing comes up.

We call up the friend,

I got a work thing.

And the reason we keep bumping our friends is because they'll understand they're our friends.

So why aren't we prioritizing our friendships?

Why aren't we saying to the work thing,

I'm sorry, I've got a thing.

If we had another meeting,

we would say, sorry, I've got an appointment, I can't make it.

So why don't we treat our friends with the same intentionality that we treat any other meeting?

So one of the things that Will did for a friend that I thought was genius, brilliant, beautiful.

Will Godera, who I'm writing the book with.

Will's friend's dad died.

Will texted him and said, I feel for you.

I know what you're going through.

I lost my mom at an early age.

I'm sure you're being inundated with calls and texts.

So I'm not going to call you today.

but what I will do is I will call you every single day at 9.45 a.m.

Do not feel obligated to pick up.

I don't mind if you don't,

but when you're ready, know that I'm calling you.

And for the next, I think it was three months,

eight months, something, he called every single day at 9.45 a.m.,

and for the first week his friend didn't pick up at all,

and then after the first week he picked up every day and they talked every day for months.

Like, think about the intentionality that somebody who loves

and cares about you so much

that they will call you every single day at 945 just

so that you can see their name pop up and the caller ID to know that you're not alone.

I mean, it brings me to tears just thinking about it.

Like, how many of us are that good a friend?

You know, I want friends like that.

Here's a good question.

Like, what's a friend?

Like, what makes a good friend?

Like, I don't even know if we have a definition of that.

You know, I've been asking people and somebody said to me,

well, somebody who's there for you,

to support you in the hard times.

That's a real friend, right?

And I got thinking, and I talked to somebody else.

She has a friend who she calls Mr. Schadenfreude because he seems to love when things go wrong.

So in hard times, he's always there.

He's always there in hard times.

He's got the shoulder to lean on.

He's giving advice.

But in good times, he's nowhere to be seen.

And so what happens is it creates this horrible sort of

codependent relationship that you want to keep the hard times because that wonderful human being is always there.

So you never want to let go and you become codependent.

And so you realize that there's something called a fair weathered friend who's only there in the good times,

but be equally cynical

and suspicious of the foul weathered friends who's only there in the hard times

because somehow it makes them feel good about themselves,

but they're not there for the good times.

And so you realize what's the value of good time versus bad time.

So yes, yes, you and I have friends that in hard times we would call them,

but I would bet money that you have even fewer friends that you want to text out of the blue and say,

I won an award.

Right?

Think about that.

Like if something goes wrong,

I've got a group of friends,

probably, I've probably got a,

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you know, a dozen people I could say and say,

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I need your help.

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Things have gone horribly wrong.

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I need your advice.

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But if something amazing happens to me,

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that number probably shrinks down to four.

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That I'm going to text out of the blue and go,

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something amazing happened today and not feel like I'm bragging.

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Not feel like I'm trying to overwhelm them or prove them that I'm better than them.

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But knowing that they will be so happy for me.

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And so I've started thinking that maybe a friend isn't just the person who's there for you in the hard times,

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but the person you can go to in the great times.

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Think about that.

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I have fewer friends that I can go to when things go perfectly than I would go to when things go wrong.

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So are those my true friends?

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So this is on the journey I'm on.

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I'm trying to understand what friend means.

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And I'm trying to understand the responsibility we have to look after those friends.

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You look at all the longevity studies,

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you know, all the blue zone work.

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Sure, they eat healthy.

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Sure, they walk a lot.

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But they also eat with each other.

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Whereas you look at some of the people who are promoting longevity

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and all of those biohacks and how you have to exercise this certain way and eat this certain way,

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you'll find a lot of them are pretty unhappy people and pretty lonely people.

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I don't think they're going to live very long.

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So here's a crazy, crazy one.

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Here's a crazy, crazy one.

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Physiologically, what are the most important organs to keep strong for longevity?

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We know the data.

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So I'll tell you what they are, right?

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Number one, heart.

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Obviously, that makes perfect sense, right?

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You got to have a healthy heart if you want to live a long time, right?

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Second one, lungs.

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Got to have healthy lungs to live a long time.

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Cardio and all the rest of it, right?

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Don't smoke.

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Like we know that.

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Makes perfect sense.

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Do you know what the third most important organ is?

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I don't know.

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I was going to say the brain, but...

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The thighs.

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thigh muscles are the other so if you have a healthy heart healthy lungs and healthy thighs

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statistically you're more likely to live longer i know i said

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the same thing thighs do you want to know why

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because historically thighs are the most important muscle responsible for what

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motion walking right not exercise social going to visit your friends

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before there were cars before there were trains we had to walk to go visit our friends

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and so people who are mobile if you're more mobile,

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you're more likely to maintain friendships,

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which means you're likely to live longer.

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So the three most important organs to keep healthy historically as human beings,

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heart, lungs, and thighs for mobility,

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thighs for sociability, which I think is amazing that we never thought about.

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So all of these things that technology has interrupted,

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mass transportation, cars, social media,

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all of these things, they've interrupted our ability to make friends,

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proper friends where you can look each other in the eye.

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You and I could do this over Zoom.

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It wouldn't feel the same.

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No. But the macro, so the remote work culture,

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the rise in, as you say,

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screens and phones, optimizing interaction out of our lives.

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I mean, like, you know,

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if you think about social networking or Uber Eats or,

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I don't know, Deliveroo, you're living your life behind a screen

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in white walls now and it feels like it's becoming harder and harder

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and harder to make friends also to find someone to remember

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to make friends in fact just what's interesting thing is sometimes

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when i come off stage i'll have it's always young men come up to me

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and they'll get right up in my personal space

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and i go this is strange

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and then they'll say something to me like um how do i make friends

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and they and i i respect them so much for saying it

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because i can see how difficult it is for them to utter

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that those words and i reflect on it i was doing something at canary wharf

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and a kid kid in the front row in a crowd of 500 people they're all wearing suits

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because they're working in the corporate world he's surrounded by 500

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of his peers his age in the front row past the

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microphone his question to me on stage is how do i make friends yeah

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and there's 499 people sat next to him that are his age yep

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and he's asking in the front row how do i make friends yeah

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and it was so moving because you know looking looking down on that individual surrounded by people i'm like well You know,

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the brain, the simple brain goes,

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well, just turn to the person next to you and introduce yourself.

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But clearly that was not the answer.

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Because if it was so simple,

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he would just do that.

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And you said something interesting as well,

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which I think maybe overlays with that,

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which is that we've kind of like lost the art or the skill of making friends.

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Yep.

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What would you have said to that kid?

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So I'll tell you by way of a story,

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how I would answer that.

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So a friend of mine was struggling.

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Her career, it wasn't going as well as she'd wanted.

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And her marriage was in a bad place.

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So in other words, when it rains, it pours.

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Like she couldn't get a break, right?

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And she was in a really bad place.

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And so she knows what I do for a living.

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So she asked me, can you help?

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Can I come and talk to you and get some advice?

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And I said, of course.

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And so we had a standing Wednesday meeting, get together.

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We got together every Wednesday for 90 minutes.

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And she would tell me what was going on in her life.

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I gave her some advice.

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She felt amazing when she left me.

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It lasted about two days.

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And then she'd go back into her slump.

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And then we'd get together the next Wednesday.

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She'd feel amazing for about two days.

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and she'd go back into Islam.

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And this went on for months.

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This was our pattern, right?

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So I thought I was doing good work and then I'd just rinse and repeat, right?

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Then I remembered my own work and I remembered Alcoholics Anonymous,

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which is the final step.

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The 12th step is service,

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helping somebody who's struggling with the problem you're struggling with, right?

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Is the way to actually help you overcome your problem.

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So I have struggles, I have needs,

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I have insecurities and I don't have a safe outlet to talk to.

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So she's one of my closest friends in the world.

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I trust her implicitly.

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So I said to her,

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I need the coaching as well.

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Can we split our time?

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45 minutes for me, 45 minutes for you.

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She agreed.

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And I knew what I was doing, right?

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There was kind of an experiment happening,

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which I didn't let on,

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which is I wanted her to help me as a way of helping herself.

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And so what ended up happening was it ceased to be 45-45 five,

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we got together and for 90 minutes we talked about me.

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And then the next Wednesday,

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we got together and for 90 minutes we talked about me.

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And then we got together and for 90 minutes we talked about me.

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And within about three or four weeks,

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her life was full on back on track, fully back on track.

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Because when you help someone with a thing that you were struggling with,

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you actually end up solving your own problems.

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And so what I would say to

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that kid is find somebody who's struggling to make a friend and help them make a friend.

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Make it an act of service.

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because fundamentally we dig down deep.

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The true skill that we've lost is service.

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We've overemphasized taking over giving.

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We've overemphasized selfish over selfless.

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Selfish is important.

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Taking is important, but not at the expense of giving and not at the expense of serving.

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the bigger the guests.

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אוצר מילים והערות הגייה לשיעור הזה

שיעור הדיבור הזה ברמה B2 מבוסס על הסרטון “Why You Have No Friends..”. בסרטון הזה יש 257 משפטים ו-2290 מילים לתרגול Shadowing. הדיבור נמשך 12:06. הדובר מדבר מהר, כ-189 מילים בדקה, אז צפו לצלילים מחוברים ומקוצרים. 87% מהמילים נמצאות בין 3,000 המילים הנפוצות ביותר באנגלית, כך שקל לעקוב אחרי אוצר המילים.

אוצר מילים מרכזי בסרטון הזה

11 המילים המתקדמות ביותר בסרטון, עם ההגייה והמשמעות שלהן:

מילה	הגייה	משמעות
thigh שם עצם	/θaɪ/	יָרֵךְ
lung שם עצם	/ˈlʌŋ/	ריאה, רֵאָה
organ שם עצם	/ˈɔːɡən/	אֵיבָר
canary שם עצם	/kəˈnɛəɹi/	כנרית
loneliness שם עצם	/ˈloʊnlinəs/	בְּדִידוּת
microphone שם עצם	/ˈmaɪ.kɹəˌfəʊn/	מִיקְרוֹפוֹן
fundamentally תואר הפועל		עֶקְרוֹנִית
cease פועל	/sis/	חדל
pour פועל	/poɹ/	שפך, מזג
peer שם עצם	/pɪɹ/	עָמִית, רֵעַ
depressed שם תואר	/dɪˈpɹɛst/	מדוכא, מדוכדך

Phrasal verbs שתשמעו

מילה	משמעות
pick up פועל	הרים, אסף

משפטים שכדאי לחזור עליהם

משפטים קצרים ושלמים מהסרטון שאפשר להשתמש בהם בשיחה יומיומית:

Are you a good friend?
Are you a good friend to your friends?
Are your friends good to you?
What would you have said to that kid?
Can we split our time?

דקדוק בסרטון הזה

המבנים שהדובר משתמש בהם הכי הרבה, עם המילים המדויקות מהסרטון:

מבנה	בסרטון
הווה מושלם (Present perfect) have/has + past participle — פעולה שקרתה בעבר ועדיין יש לה חשיבות או השפעה עכשיו	have talked · have gone · I've started
משפטי זיקה (Relative clauses) who / which + clause — מידע נוסף על אדם או דבר	people who are · problem, which is · somebody who loves
סביל (Passive voice) be + past participle — הדגש הוא על מה שקורה, לא על מי שעושה את הפעולה	are depressed · being inundated · be seen

הגייה ששווה לשים לב אליה

הדובר משתמש ב-78 קיצורים וצורות מקוצרות, כמו I'm, don't, you're. אמרו אותם בצורה הקצרה, כפי שאתם שומעים אותם.

הצלילים של “sh” ו-“zh”: selfish /ˈsɛlf.ɪʃ/, reshoot /ɹiːˈʃuːt/, sociability /ˌsoʊ.ʃəˈbɪləti/, validation /ˌvæl.əˈdeɪ.ʃən/, suspicious /səˈspɪʃ.əs/
מילים ארוכות — שימו לב להטעמה: longevity /lɒnˈd͡ʒɛv.ɪ.ti/, historically /hɪˈstɔɹɪkli/, macroeconomics /ˌmæk.ɹoʊˌiː.kəˈnɒ.mɪks/, prioritize /pɹaɪˈɒɹ.ə.taɪz/, sociability /ˌsoʊ.ʃəˈbɪləti/

צלילים שדוברי עברית מתקשים בהם:

/æ/ — פתוח יותר מה-“אֶ” העברית, לא כמו “a” ב-“cup”: macroeconomics /ˌmæk.ɹoʊˌiː.kəˈnɒ.mɪks/, validation /ˌvæl.əˈdeɪ.ʃən/, unhappy /ʌnˈhæpi/
/r/ — הלשון לא נוגעת בשום מקום, לא ה-“ר” הגרונית: interrupt /ˌɪntəˈɹʌpt/, surround /səˈɹaʊnd/, historically /hɪˈstɔɹɪkli/, canary /kəˈnɛəɹi/, cardio /ˈkɑɹ.di.oʊ/
עיצור קולי בסוף מילה — /b/, /d/, /g/, /z/, /v/ בלי להפוך אותם לאטומים: surround /səˈɹaʊnd/, optimize /ˈɑptɪmaɪz/, prioritize /pɹaɪˈɒɹ.ə.taɪz/

איך לתרגל עם הסרטון הזה

הקשיבו לכל הסרטון פעם אחת בלי לדבר, ורשמו את המילים שאתם לא מכירים.
התחילו במהירות 0.75×, תרגלו Shadowing משפט אחר משפט, וחזרו למהירות רגילה כשזה מרגיש קל.
הקליטו את עצמכם והשוו למקור, תוך תשומת לב למילים כמו thigh, lung, organ.

מהי טכניקת השאדואינג?

שאדואינג היא טכניקת למידת שפה מבוססת מדע שפותחה במקור להכשרת מתורגמנים מקצועיים ופופולרית על ידי הפוליגלוט ד"ר אלכסנדר ארגואלס. השיטה פשוטה אך עוצמתית: אתה מקשיב לאודיו באנגלית ילידית וחוזר עליו בקול רם מיד — כמו צל העוקב אחרי הדובר עם עיכוב של 1–2 שניות בלבד. בניגוד להאזנה פסיבית או תרגילי דקדוק, שאדואינג מכריח את המוח והשרירים בפה לעבד ולשחזר דפוסי דיבור אמיתיים בו זמנית. מחקרים מראים שזה משפר משמעותית את דיוק ההגייה, האינטונציה, הקצב, הדיבור המחובר, הבנת השמיעה ושטף הדיבור — מה שהופך אותו לאחת השיטות היעילות ביותר להכנה לIELTS Speaking ולתקשורת באנגלית בעולם האמיתי.

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אוצר מילים והערות הגייה לשיעור הזה

אוצר מילים מרכזי בסרטון הזה

Phrasal verbs שתשמעו

משפטים שכדאי לחזור עליהם

דקדוק בסרטון הזה

הגייה ששווה לשים לב אליה

איך לתרגל עם הסרטון הזה

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