Shadowing Practice: How to Deepen Your Friendships - Learn English Speaking with Video
בחר מצב תרגול
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We are inclined to think
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that the secret of great friendship is all about finding someone with whom we mysteriously and wonderfully just click,
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without having to do very much about it.
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But this is arguably an unhelpful stance, because it implies that there is nothing that any of us can do to become better friends.
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Friendship is made to look like a mere happy accident.
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At the School of Life, we think differently.
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We believe that good friendships follow certain principles which can be identified, discussed and taught.
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We firmly believe that we can learn to become better friends and are not any of us born knowing how to be.
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Here then are some of the principles of being a good friend.
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Firstly, asking the right questions.
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We need to learn the art of teasing out of people the bits of themselves that are sincere, vulnerable and true.
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Society tends to encourage us to stay on the surface.
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True friends know how to go deep.
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In order to do so, they ask questions like, How did it feel when X or Y loss occurred?
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They show empathy.
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They say, You must have felt quite sad when...
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They use self -disclosure to encourage others to throw off their masks.
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They might say, I found myself very scared when… Secondly, sincerity.
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Allow space for sadness, regret and melancholy.
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Don't come in with aggressively cheerful, leading questions like, is everything okay then?
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Keep enquiries open.
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Allow room for intimate disclosures.
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Thirdly, silence.
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Don't always speak or interrupt corrupt, allow the other person to unfurl their concerns.
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Fourthly, going deep in you allows them to go deep in themselves.
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People can only go as far with others as they have gone inside themselves.
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A key part of the art of friendship is therefore to know yourself as well as possible, and then to use the data about who you are are,
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as a guide to who others are liable to be.
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We all know that around some people we feel we're boring and have nothing to say.
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This is solely a reflection of how many rooms such people have opened up in their own minds.
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The more they've explored, the more interesting their interlocutors will feel in themselves.
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5. Don't Jabber It can be tempting to talk too much on pet themes.
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Ask yourself with courage, what could another person possibly do with what I propose to tell them? Be ruthless.
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Do they really need to know this?
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Can there be a space in someone else's minds for this, or not so much?
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Sixthly, allow room for weirdness.
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We are all stranger than we're meant to be.
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Know this of yourself and of others, and therefore clear conversational space,
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which will allow space for the odour yet still utterly normal parts of them to assume shape.
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Remember the essential dictum, no one is normal.
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Seventhly, know that everyone is anxious and scared.
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However confident others seem, they are always likely to be inside, close to despair, panic or regret.
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Don't wait for them to tell you this, assume it's true and then just respond accordingly,
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with pre -emptive signs of sympathy and tenderness.
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8. Love in a cold universe We are probably the only things in the universe.
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Out there, it's mostly just gas, rock and silence.
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So, concentrate inside our bonds on conviviality and good humour.
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It's a very strange and tricky business being human, think of how odd it is to have nostrils or elbows.
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So use the alienation and fear of out there to inspire warmth and compassion for ourselves in here.
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Vocabulary and speaking notes for this lesson
This B2 speaking lesson is built on the video “How to Deepen Your Friendships”. The speaker keeps coming back to these words: allow, friendship, themselves, space, deep. This video has 49 sentences and 600 words to shadow. The speech runs for 4:18. The speaker talks at a steady 139 words per minute, a comfortable pace for shadowing. 83% of the words are among the 3,000 most common in English; the rest is worth studying before you start.
Key vocabulary in this video
The 15 most advanced words in the video, with pronunciation and meaning:
| Word | Pronunciation | Meaning |
|---|---|---|
| disclosure noun | /dɪsˈkləʊʒə(ɹ)/ | The act of revealing something. |
| scare verb | /skɛɚ/ | To frighten, terrify, startle, especially in a minor way. |
| alienation noun | /ˌeɪli.əˈneɪʃən/ | The act of alienating. |
| conversational adjective | /ˌkɒnvə(ɹ)ˈseɪʃənəl/ | Easy in conversation, chatty. |
| conviviality noun | /kənvɪviˈælɪti/ | The state of being convivial; a feeling of comfort and happiness, as from celebrating casually with friends. |
| dictum noun | /ˈdɪk.təm/ | An authoritative statement; a dogmatic saying; a maxim, an apothegm. |
| fourthly adverb | /ˈfɔːɹθ.li/ | In the fourth place; fourth in a row. |
| interlocutor noun | /ˌɪn.təɹˈlɑk.jə.təɹ/ | A person who takes part in dialogue or conversation: a locutive partner. |
| melancholy noun | /ˈmɛl.ənˌkɑ.li/ | Great sadness or depression, especially of a thoughtful or introspective nature. |
| mysteriously adverb | In a mysterious manner. | |
| nostril noun | /ˈnɒs.tɹɪl/ | Either of the two orifices located on the nose (or on the beak of a bird); used as a passage for air and other gases to travel the nasal passages. |
| seventhly adverb | In the seventh place; seventh in a row. | |
| sincerity noun | /sɪnˈsɛɹəti/ | The quality or state of being sincere. |
| sixthly adverb | In the sixth place; sixth in a row. | |
| tenderness noun | /ˈtɛn.dɚ.nɪs/ | Quality, state or condition of being tender. |
Phrasal verbs you will hear
| Word | Meaning |
|---|---|
| throw off verb | To confuse; especially, to lose a pursuer. |
דקדוק בסרטון הזה
המבנים שהדובר משתמש בהם הכי הרבה, עם המילים המדויקות מהסרטון:
| מבנה | בסרטון |
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| הווה מושלם (Present perfect) have/has + past participle — פעולה שקרתה בעבר ועדיין יש לה חשיבות או השפעה עכשיו | have gone · have opened · they've explored |
| סביל (Passive voice) be + past participle — הדגש הוא על מה שקורה, לא על מי שעושה את הפעולה | is made · can be identified |
Pronunciation to watch
The speaker uses 7 contractions and reduced forms, such as don't, we're, they've. Say them the short way, as you hear them.
- The “th” sounds: fourthly /ˈfɔːɹθ.li/, thirdly /ˈθɚdli/, ruthless /ˈɹuːθləs/, empathy /ˈɛmpəθi/, warmth /wɔɹmθ/
- The “sh” and “zh” sounds: disclosure /dɪsˈkləʊʒə(ɹ)/, alienation /ˌeɪli.əˈneɪʃən/, conversational /ˌkɒnvə(ɹ)ˈseɪʃənəl/, compassion /kəmˈpæʃ.ən/, anxious /ˈæŋkʃəs/
- Long words — get the stress right: alienation /ˌeɪli.əˈneɪʃən/, conversational /ˌkɒnvə(ɹ)ˈseɪʃənəl/, conviviality /kənvɪviˈælɪti/, interlocutor /ˌɪn.təɹˈlɑk.jə.təɹ/, melancholy /ˈmɛl.ənˌkɑ.li/
How to practise with this video
- Listen to the whole video once without speaking and note the words you do not know.
- Shadow it sentence by sentence at normal speed, repeating each one until your rhythm matches the speaker.
- Record yourself and compare with the original, paying attention to words like disclosure, scare, alienation.
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