Shadowing Practice: How to Get Over Someone - Learn English Speaking with Video
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34 משפטים
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We tend to be generous towards people who can't get over someone.
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It sounds romantic, if a little sad.
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The love affair happened a year ago but still the ex's thought remain loyal to every detail of the story.
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Maybe they've moved to another country.
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Perhaps they've married someone else.
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Maybe, they're dead. None of it matters.
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The most famous fictional love affair of the 18th century Goethe's Sorrows of Young Werther is a hugely sympathetic study of this kind of romantic fixation.
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The hero, Werther, an ardent young student falls passionately in love with a charming and beautiful woman named Charlotte.
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She likes him but doesn't love him back in part because she's married to someone else.
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There are plenty of other nice women who single, attractive, and interested in Werther.
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But, he has no time for them.
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The only one he cares for is Charlotte.
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The one who doesn't care for him.
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Eventually, unable to have Charlotte's love Werther decides to kill himself.
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The novel proved hugely charming to its original audiences.
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Who praised it for its deep and pure understanding of love This sort of unrequited passion so often celebrated in literature and society more generally may sound generous, and in that sense, loving, but, a devotion to an unrequited situation is in truth, a clever way of ensuring that we won't end up in a relationship at all.
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That we won't ever need to suffer the realities of love.
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Fixation on an absent other allows us to be publicly committed to love while privately sheltered from any of its more arduous demands.
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The fear of love maybe motivated by a range of factors A squeamishness around hope, a self-hatred which makes someone else's love feel eerie, or a fear of self revelation which breeds a reluctance to let anyone into the secret part of ourselves.
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The fears are serious and deserve sympathy.
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But they are generally not the issues that the romanticly fixated person ever wants to discuss.
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They prefer to keep the spotlight on the unresponsive ex, rather than on their motives for continuing to dwell on them.
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The way to unfixate is not to tell ourselves that we never like the person.
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It's to get very serious and specific about what the attraction was based on.
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And then to come to see that the qualities we had admired in the ex must necessarily exist in the other people who don't have the set of problems that make the original relationship impossible.
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The careful investigation of the character of one person, paradoxically but very liberatingly shows that we could in fact, also love someone else.
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This is not an exercise in getting us to give up on what we really want.
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The liberating move is to see that what we want has to exist in places beyond the pain enducing character we originally identified it in.
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We should gently recognize that being dissapointed and abandoned has its curious satisfactions.
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It is in an emotional sense, a very safe position to be in indeed.
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Yet true love isn't to be acquitted with pining for an absent figure.
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It means daring to engage with a truely frightening prospect.
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A person who is available and thinks despite our strong background supposition to the contrary that we're really rather nice.
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That is perhaps, the only sort of challenge that properly deserve the lyrical and grand word ROMANTIC.
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Vocabulary and speaking notes for this lesson
This C1 speaking lesson is built on the video “How to Get Over Someone”. The speaker keeps coming back to these words: Werther, romantic, fear. This video has 34 sentences and 569 words to shadow. The speech runs for 3:34. The speaker talks at a natural 160 words per minute, close to everyday conversation. Only 81% of the words are among the 3,000 most common in English, so the vocabulary is demanding.
Key vocabulary in this video
The 15 most advanced words in the video, with pronunciation and meaning:
| Word | Pronunciation | Meaning |
|---|---|---|
| fixation noun | /fɪksˈeɪʃən/ | The act of fixing. |
| unrequited adjective | /ˌʌn.ɹɪˈkwaɪ.tɪd/ | Not returned; not reciprocated; not repaid. |
| hugely adverb | /ˈhjuːd͡ʒli/ | Greatly; to a huge extent. |
| absent adjective | /ˈæb.sn̩t/ | Being away from a place; withdrawn from a place; existing but not present; (sometimes) missing. |
| acquit verb | /əˈkwɪt/ | To declare or find innocent or not guilty. |
| ardent adjective | /ˈɑɹdənt/ | Full of ardor; expressing passion, spirit, or enthusiasm. |
| arduous adjective | /ˈɑɹ.d͡ʒu.əs/ | Needing or using up much energy; testing powers of endurance. |
| fixate verb | /ˈfɪkseɪt/ | To make something fixed and stable; to fix. |
| frighten verb | /ˈfɹaɪ.tən/ | To cause to feel fear; to scare; to cause to feel alarm or fright. |
| liberate verb | /ˈlɪbəˌɹeɪt/ | Often followed by from: to allow or cause (someone or something) to be free; to set free, to release. |
| liberatingly adverb | In a liberating manner. | |
| lyrical adjective | /ˈlɪɹɪkəl/ | Appropriate for or suggestive of singing. |
| paradoxically adverb | /ˌpɛɹəˈdɑksɪkli/ | In a paradoxical manner; so as to create a paradox. |
| passionately adverb | /ˈpæʃənətli/ | In a passionate manner. |
| reluctance noun | /ɹɪˈlʌktəns/ | Unwillingness to do something. |
Phrasal verbs you will hear
| Word | Meaning |
|---|---|
| get over verb | To overcome. |
דקדוק בסרטון הזה
המבנים שהדובר משתמש בהם הכי הרבה, עם המילים המדויקות מהסרטון:
| מבנה | בסרטון |
|---|---|
| משפטי זיקה (Relative clauses) who / which + clause — מידע נוסף על אדם או דבר | people who can · women who single · one who doesn |
| סביל (Passive voice) be + past participle — הדגש הוא על מה שקורה, לא על מי שעושה את הפעולה | was based · being dissapointed · be acquitted |
| הווה מושלם (Present perfect) have/has + past participle — פעולה שקרתה בעבר ועדיין יש לה חשיבות או השפעה עכשיו | they've moved · they've married |
Pronunciation to watch
The speaker uses 11 contractions and reduced forms, such as doesn't, they've, won't. Say them the short way, as you hear them.
- The “th” sounds: sympathetic /ˌsɪm.pəˈθɛt.ɪk/, sympathy /ˈsɪm.pəθ.i/
- The “sh” and “zh” sounds: fixation /fɪksˈeɪʃən/, passionately /ˈpæʃənətli/, supposition /ˌsʌpəˈzɪʃən/, devotion /dɪˈvoʊʃən/, fictional /ˈfɪkʃənəl/
- Long words — get the stress right: unrequited /ˌʌn.ɹɪˈkwaɪ.tɪd/, paradoxically /ˌpɛɹəˈdɑksɪkli/, passionately /ˈpæʃənətli/, supposition /ˌsʌpəˈzɪʃən/, sympathetic /ˌsɪm.pəˈθɛt.ɪk/
How to practise with this video
- Listen to the whole video once without speaking and note the words you do not know.
- Start at 0.75× speed, shadow it sentence by sentence, then go back to normal speed once it feels easy.
- Record yourself and compare with the original, paying attention to words like fixation, unrequited, hugely.
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