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This morning in our series Life Lessons, we are talking about the importance of setting boundaries, whether it's at work or at home with loved ones.

Speaking up for our needs can help create healthier relationships.

Psychotherapist and author Nero Feliciano is going to walk us through it.

We're lucky she's here.

Good morning.

Great to see you.

Okay, here's the thing though.

This is hard, right?

To set boundaries, to say things that you need.

You can feel guilty about it, especially I think probably when it's home and loved ones.

How can we get over that and do something

that is healthy for us first of all you know i love me a boundary is my favorite b word

so but it is so hard for people

because they often perceive boundaries as unkind and inflexible

but it's actually quite the opposite boundaries are a love language for ourselves

and for everyone else because when we can protect our limits mentally

and physically we show up better for people we feel more connected

and here's the tip anyone who has issues with your boundaries they're the people who benefited from you not having them

you know in fact how do you set them

and i know personal boundaries are important

but to your point those work boundaries you know those people

who who benefit whether it's the boss who's sending you emails

late late in the evening we're going to talk about

that yeah so so how do we set healthy boundaries

so here's some guidelines first we have to identify where do we need boundaries so any area of our life, relationship or situational, where we feel exhausted,

depleted, resentful, that's a bigger one.

There's likely a boundary that needed to be set that wasn't.

We want to use I statements, not you, you, you that puts people on the defensive, but we're not controlling other people's behavior.

We're defining our limits.

And clear and direct, no convoluted explanations.

No one wants to hear about your grandmother's cat

that had eye surgery

so you couldn't show up to the bar mitzvah we overshare yeah we overshare clear

and kind so tone is also important like this dylan i would love to come

but i i have a commitment

that night thank you for thinking of me you know you felt loved

but right i'm a problem yeah

but that's fine i define my limit i'm not coming

so let's go through some other prompts here let's start off with family

and friends how can we tell the people we love we

need some space big one especially for people who are a

little overbearing i need to take some time for myself right now

and find a better balance in my life okay what

if someone is asking too many personal questions

and we want to set a limit around a certain topic we all know people like

that so two ways one we can deflect it no one wants to hear about me right now

but tell me where did you get that fabulous dress

or for some people we have to be more explicit i am not talking about my relationship status this tonight.

So if someone brings it up, I'm going to change the topic, or I might have to leave.

It seems so simple.

But how do you get to that?

Yeah.

How do you get to that?

So that you can define it simply.

One, you have to know your limits.

Again, what triggers you?

What makes you feel stressed?

Where are your limits?

What are you okay with?

What can you give in that moment?

What about for that person who just offers too much advice?

You just don't need it or want it.

Every well -meaning auntie in every family.

Yes, we can say, I appreciate your concern, but I've thought about this and I've figured it out.

But what would help me is if you listened and supported my decision.

So we're saying what we don't want, but also what we need to feel closer to each other.

All right.

What about in the workplace?

Let's say you just feel like you have way too much on your plate.

How do you communicate that? just

so many people these days we can say given all of our deadlines right now this is

when i can get you that information on monday oh

and you're just like out of the gate setting expectations yes you are what about

when somebody in these stressful work situations is rude to you

oh this we get a lot right we can say i really want to have this conversation with you

but when you are calm and can talk to me respectfully

and funny thing i was saying this out loud my husband was like oh I've heard

that a lot because I use boundaries it protects our relationships

and that's it ensures the longevity of a relationship

so what do you do

when you're on the receiving end of somebody who's taken your

advice about boundaries how do you how do you receive that

and respond and if you feel like oh why are they not meeting my needs in

that moment yes I want you to think about putting yourself in their shoes

and practicing some empathy what are they going through right now where they're saying they can't do something

or what they need from me we have to think about protecting their limits too

and think about them doing that for themselves

and also extend to them the grace you want for yourself sure

when you need to set a limit with someone else

because sometimes we feel like we're being rejected that's right we do yeah

and that's why the tone is important when i said that to you I'm still coming across as kind and loving, but just explaining where my limit is.

I want to put you in my pocket.

No, I know.

Pocket in a row.

I'll take you along for all my social situations.

I'll just come along.

Little in a row, bring her out.

What should I say?

100

Texts that need a response.

101

I'm overwhelmed.

102

I don't know what to do.

103

That would be great.

104

You are the best.

105

Obviously, we love you.

106

Thank you so much.

107

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이 영상의 핵심 어휘

영상에 나오는 익혀 둘 만한 단어 15개를 발음, 뜻과 함께 정리했습니다.

단어	발음	뜻
topic 명사	/ˈtɑpɪk/	화제, 주제
pocket 명사	/ˈpɑ.kɪt/	호주머니, 포켓
gate 명사	/ˈɡeɪ̯t/	문, 대문
explanation 명사	/ˌɛkspləˈneɪʃən/	설명
connect 동사	/kəˈnɛkt/	잇다, 연결하다
rude 형용사	/ɹuːd/	버릇없다, 무례하다
trigger 명사	/ˈtɹɪɡɚ/	방아쇠
shoe 명사	/ˈʃu/	신발, 신
podcast 명사	/ˈpɑdˌkæst/	팟캐스트
deadline 명사	/ˈdɛdˌlaɪn/	마감, 데드라인
workplace 명사	/ˈwɝkˌpleɪs/	직장, 일터
explicit 형용사	/ɪkˈsplɪs.ɪt/	명백(明白)하다, 명확(明確)하다
prompt 동사	/pɹɑmpt/	부추기다
empathy 명사	/ˈɛmpəθi/	공감
perceive 동사	/pɚˈsiv/	감지하다, 지각하다

영상에 나오는 구동사

단어	뜻
get over 동사	극복하다

따라 말해 볼 만한 문장

영상에 나오는 짧고 완결된 문장으로, 일상 대화에서 그대로 쓸 수 있습니다:

How do you get to that?
What makes you feel stressed?
What are you okay with?
What can you give in that moment?
How do you communicate that?

이 영상의 문법

화자가 가장 많이 쓰는 문형을 영상 속 실제 표현과 함께 정리했습니다.

문형	영상 속 표현
관계절 who / which + 절 — 사람이나 사물에 대한 추가 정보	anyone who has · people who are · person who just
현재완료 have/has + 과거분사 — 과거의 일이 지금도 관련이 있을 때	I've thought · I've heard
수동태 be + 과거분사 — 누가 하는지보다 무슨 일이 일어나는지에 초점	be set · being rejected

주의할 발음

화자는 we're, I'm, don't 같은 축약형과 약화된 형태를 26번 사용합니다. 들리는 대로 짧게 발음하세요.

“sh”와 “zh” 소리: explanation /ˌɛkspləˈneɪʃən/, shoe /ˈʃu/, expectation /ˌɛk.spɛkˈteɪ.ʃən/, situational /sɪtjuːˈeɪʃənəl/
긴 단어 — 강세 위치에 주의: explanation /ˌɛkspləˈneɪʃən/, communicate /kəˈmjuːnɪkeɪt/, expectation /ˌɛk.spɛkˈteɪ.ʃən/, longevity /lɒnˈd͡ʒɛv.ɪ.ti/, convoluted /ˌkɑnvəˈlutəd/

한국어 화자가 어려워하는 소리:

/f/ — ㅍ(/p/)으로 바꾸지 말고 윗니를 아랫입술에 대기: define /dɪˈfaɪn/, defensive /dɪˈfɛn.sɪv/, physically /ˈfɪz.ɪ.kli/, fabulous /ˈfæbjʊləs/, stressful /ˈstɹɛsfəl/
/v/ — ㅂ(/b/)과 구별하기: defensive /dɪˈfɛn.sɪv/, wherever /(h)wɛɹˈɛvɚ/, perceive /pɚˈsiv/, longevity /lɒnˈd͡ʒɛv.ɪ.ti/, convoluted /ˌkɑnvəˈlutəd/
/z/ — ㅈ이 아니라 성대를 울리는 /s/: physically /ˈfɪz.ɪ.kli/, exhaust /ɪɡˈzɔst/, resentful /ɹɪˈzɛntfəl/

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자신의 목소리를 녹음해 원본과 비교하고, topic, pocket, gate 같은 단어에 특히 주의합니다.

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쉐도잉(Shadowing)은 원래 전문 통역사 훈련을 위해 개발된 언어 학습 기법으로, 다언어 학자인 Dr. Alexander Arguelles에 의해 대중화된 방법입니다. 핵심 원리는 간단하지만 매우 강력합니다: 원어민의 영어를 들으면서 1~2초의 짧은 지연으로 즉시 소리 내어 따라 말하는 것——마치 '그림자(shadow)'처럼 화자를 따라가는 것입니다. 문법 공부나 수동적인 청취와 달리, 쉐도잉은 뇌와 입 근육이 동시에 실시간으로 영어를 처리하고 재현하도록 훈련합니다. 연구에 따르면 이 방법은 발음 정확도, 억양, 리듬, 연음, 청취력, 말하기 유창성을 크게 향상시킵니다. IELTS 스피킹 준비와 자연스러운 영어 소통을 원하는 분들에게 특히 효과적입니다.

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