Shadowing Practice: I See You: The UNTOLD Truth About True Connection - Learn English Speaking with Video
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I’ve given my time to my phone, so much time to my phone, just scrolling through, looking at nothing...
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nothing I can remember.
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But to give that time to someone who needs to be seen...
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that’s eternal.
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If you’ve allowed yourself to feel exactly what you feel then you’ve gone pretty low.
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Most people have had opportunities to feel a depth of pain.
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And I would feel very lonely and feel that kind of pain because people that I really cared about would say painful, hurtful things and almost treat me like I didn’t exist.
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In those moments, all I really wanted was to be cared for, understood, seen.
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But in those moments I would feel very lonely.
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And so I don’t want other people to feel that way.
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If you hang out with me through a day you would catch me talking to a lot of strangers.
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And my friends interpret me as someone who is very gregarious and extroverted.
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But I just talk to people because they exist and I’m recognising that they exist.
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I really value connection with people.
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And to connect with people, to really connect with people, you’ve got to be straight up, you’ve got to be real.
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There’s no other way...
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there’s no other way to connect with people than to be true.
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And to be true means to recognise a lot of things within people that are within you.
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To be true means to say ‘I see you for who you are’ ‘and I’m going to do right by you.’ ‘Sonder’ is a word of realising that everyone’s life is just as complex as your own.
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People are not just there as a backdrop.
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People are as deeply complex as you.
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It gives you permission to see people beyond their politic, their clothing, their outward appearance and realise the way that you care about what you care about, the way that you want to love the people you love, you get hungry, sad and you have all these moments in between...
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they’re having every single emotion that you are having.
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Everything that you have, they have, or they are capable of.
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And that means you have to see them as yourself.
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That word is so good because if you really feel it, and you really believe it, then you have to humanise the person next to you.
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And that’s hard.
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It’s hard because there’s a lot of things you can receive and get, there’s a lot of things you can walk away with when you don’t humanise people.
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But the question is, is it worth it?
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I feel that every human is seeking...
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this sounds corny, but I think we’re seeking love.
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Love is powerful, it’s a powerful thing.
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We know that innately.
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And I think sometimes we’re confused as to how to go about accessing love.
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Each and every one of us deserves to care for and love each other.
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We all know that.
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But the systems around us sometimes just make it very difficult to see that and to give that.
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Because we believe that when we give it, we lose something.
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We lose respect, we lose power, we lose resources, when we give love.
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There are those who are asking to be cared for all the time.
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And we ignore them all the time.
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Because we feel like to give our time, we’re losing something more precious than the life that we see in front of us.
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I don’t feel like I lose anything from giving someone my time or what I have... food, resources, care.
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I don’t lose a thing.
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There’s so many coffees that I’ve bought, there’s so many ways in which I’ve just given money.
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How much more powerful is it to give money to someone who needs it and to be generous.
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Just being aware of what you have, your privileges, your resources, and knowing that you have a responsibility to show up for those who need you.
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I read this essay recently.
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This person in particular was saying how they’re a paper mache’d construction of the people who love them.
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I thought that was beautiful.
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As you pass through this life, people put their own little piece to help make you.
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Or plant a little seed within your inner heart that might bloom some other time.
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You are changed every time.
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I do like to think of this heart space, this space of which we can’t see or touch, but exists between each other, as a garden.
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There’s pathways that you could take that have been trodded before, there’s beautiful things blooming all the time, there’s fruit.
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But there’s also seasons too, right.
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The garden is something that we all could tend to and we all could enjoy.
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We are all tending to this garden while being of the garden.
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In the same way that the world is something we are of and we also tend to, like literally.
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The things of my own heart are things of which actually are of your heart too.
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Imagine this world as like a ship on the horizon and when you anchor a ship you have to do the work of pulling it in.
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This is a ship full of all the beautiful things we want in this world...
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kindness, love, compassion.
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We all want it... but...
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some of us feel it’s so far, we don’t think it’s worth it to rope it in.
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But the more of us help rope it in, the quicker it gets here.
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And so when people see you doing that work they think let me help him out in the ways in which I know how.
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It’s not an easy process.
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There’s work to that, there’s labour to that.
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You get rope burns you know, if you think about that analogy.
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The waves start crashing a little harder when you’re closer to the shore.
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But I believe we’re going to get there, period.
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Maybe not in my lifetime.
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But I’m going to pull it in as much as I can, and so are you.
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It’s just pulling in that new world.
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Vocabulary and speaking notes for this lesson
This B2 speaking lesson is built on the video “I See You: The UNTOLD Truth About True Connection”. The speaker keeps coming back to these words: lose, exist, garden. This video has 75 sentences and 1019 words to shadow. The speech runs for 9:21. The speaker talks slowly, about 109 words per minute, so there is time to copy every sound. 89% of the words are among the 3,000 most common in English, so the vocabulary is easy to follow.
Key vocabulary in this video
The 15 most advanced words in the video, with pronunciation and meaning:
| Word | Pronunciation | Meaning |
|---|---|---|
| rope noun | /ɹoʊp/ | Thick strings, yarn, monofilaments, metal wires, or strands of other cordage that are twisted together to form a stronger line. |
| humanize verb | /ˈhjuː.mə.naɪz/ | To make human; to give or cause to have the fundamental properties of a human. |
| blooming adjective | /ˈbluː.mɪŋ/ | Opening in blossoms; flowering. |
| extroverted adjective | /ˈɛkstɹəˌvəɹtɪd/ | Turned or thrust outwards, especially |
| gregarious adjective | /ɡɹɪˈɡɛɚ.i.əs/ | Who enjoys being in crowds and socializing. |
| hurtful adjective | /ˈhɜɹtfʊl/ | Tending to impair or damage; injurious; occasioning loss or injury. |
| innately adverb | In an innate manner, referring to a property that is possessed merely by its nature. | |
| politic noun | /ˈpɑ.lɪ.tɪk/ | A politics; a set of political beliefs. |
| outward adjective | /ˈaʊt.wɚd/ | Outer; located towards the outside. |
| backdrop noun | /ˈbæk.dɹɑp/ | A decorated cloth hung at the back of a stage. |
| analogy noun | /əˈnæləd͡ʒi/ | A relationship of resemblance or equivalence between two situations, people, or objects, especially when used as a basis for explanation or extrapolation. |
| pathway noun | /ˈpæθˌweɪ/ | A footpath or other path or track. |
| interpret verb | /ɪnˈtɜː.pɹɪt/ | To decode the meaning of a topic and then act, whether to continue researching the topic, follow through, act in opposition, or further the understanding… |
| scroll noun | /skɹoʊl/ | A roll of paper or parchment; a writing formed into a roll. |
| bloom noun | /blum/ | A blossom; the flower of a plant; an expanded bud. |
Phrasal verbs you will hear
| Word | Meaning |
|---|---|
| pass through verb | To go through, to travel through, to transit or lie across a place or from one place to another. |
| walk away with verb | To win (a competition or contest) handily or by a large margin. |
Grammar in this video
The structures the speaker uses most, with the exact words from the video:
| Structure | In the video |
|---|---|
| Relative clauses who / which + clause — extra information about a person or thing | someone who needs · someone who is · those who are |
| Passive voice be + past participle — the focus is on what happens, not who does it | be seen · be cared · are changed |
| Present perfect have/has + past participle — a past action that still matters now | I've given · you've allowed · I've bought |
Pronunciation to watch
The speaker uses 25 contractions and reduced forms, such as don't, we're, you've. Say them the short way, as you hear them.
- The “sh” and “zh” sounds: compassion /kəmˈpæʃ.ən/, emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/
- Long words — get the stress right: extroverted /ˈɛkstɹəˌvəɹtɪd/, gregarious /ɡɹɪˈɡɛɚ.i.əs/, analogy /əˈnæləd͡ʒi/
How to practise with this video
- Listen to the whole video once without speaking and note the words you do not know.
- Shadow it sentence by sentence at normal speed, repeating each one until your rhythm matches the speaker.
- Record yourself and compare with the original, paying attention to words like rope, humanize, blooming.
What is the Shadowing Technique?
Shadowing is a science-backed language learning technique originally developed for professional interpreter training and popularized by polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. The method is simple but powerful: you listen to native English audio and immediately repeat it out loud — like a shadow following the speaker with just a 1–2 second delay. Unlike passive listening or grammar drills, shadowing forces your brain and mouth muscles to simultaneously process and reproduce real speech patterns. Research shows it significantly improves pronunciation accuracy, intonation, rhythm, connected speech, listening comprehension, and speaking fluency — making it one of the most effective methods for IELTS Speaking preparation and real-world English communication.