Shadowing Practice: Lean Beef Patty on Learning to Be Yourself Without Everyone’s Approval - Learn English Speaking with Video

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After I had quit the gymnastics and that was my whole identity, I just felt like a failure.
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I literally don't know what to do with my life, so it was super uncomfortable.
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How did you find your new identity?
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I tried new things.
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I found things that I liked.
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I tried to stop putting so much weight on that sense of identity.
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You just seem so not worried about other people's perception.
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What are some things that have helped you get there?
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I just gotta live my truth.
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As long as I'm living my truth, things will feel better.
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You live a very simple life.
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Do you care about materialistic things?
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I think I enjoy a simple life because it feels less complicated.
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If I just have too many things, like there's just like so much stuff.
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Like it's freaking me out and there's a mess everywhere.
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Do you have a relationship with any kind of like higher being than you?
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I grew up going to church, but currently like I don't feel that's a big part of my life.
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In your opinion, what does success mean to you?
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I think success would be like peace.
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Whatever you got going on, if you feel at peace with yourself and with your life, I think that's success.
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I'm Liana Diab.
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This is Being Human.
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I'm glad you're here.
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Hello and welcome back to another episode of Being Human.
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I am sitting down with Patti today, which she's also known as Lean Beef Patti and she is one of the most prominent female fitness influencers.
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But other than that, she is so much more than just a fitness influencer.
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She is someone who has such a quirky and cool personality, and I'm so excited to learn more about her story.
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And yeah, thank you so much for being here today with me.
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Thank you for having me.
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Happy to be here.
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So the first thing I want to start off with is for those
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that don't know why you go by lean beef patty obviously your name is patricia
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but why did you choose lean beef patty that's a great question
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because i can't totally remember i know i have a friend who will say
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that he came up with the name
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but i'm like i think i came up with it i know
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that it settled on lean beef because i tried to get a different username
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that was like full beef patty and it was already taken
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so i had go with lean beef patty as the runner -up
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and that's where we're at we just got lunch as well
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and we were like discussing this and um was it
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because of like a cow was
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that inspired it not really a cow necessarily like a the
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image of a cow wasn't in my head it was just patty like a burger
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and then lean beef like a burger so sometimes
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when i bring up those two things
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and people will think of a nice little moo cow and then they're like, ah, burger.
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There's like some sort of disconnect, but yeah, I was thinking of a burger.
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Okay, nice.
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So you grew up on a farm or did you grow up somewhere else?
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I grew up more, maybe it'd be like a suburb.
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Okay.
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And then my mom had a farm further away for basically my whole life.
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Okay.
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So most of the time we spent more just like a regular suburban area.
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Okay.
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And also time on the farm.
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Okay, nice.
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And so do you really enjoy being like on the farm with your family?
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I do, yeah.
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I'll go there.
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My mom goes there super regularly.
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She's there for like half the week usually.
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And I try to go out and see her because she also likes when I go and see her.
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And I like being there.
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It is really calm.
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And you just do, there's always something to do on the farm, like a task to be done.
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Yeah.
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So I like to go and help her.
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Are you only American?
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Or is your family from somewhere else?
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Because I feel like you don't look just American.
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What do I look like?
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I don't know.
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Just ambiguous?
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No, maybe like, I don't know if you have any Russian in you, or no. I've gotten that before.
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I don't think so.
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Well, I got that a while ago.
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I think when I had a different style, and I was like, oh, maybe this is giving Russia?
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I don't know.
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I mean, I'm American.
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My dad is from Germany, but he was adopted as a baby.
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So I feel like that, you know, there's not really a connection there.
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Uh -huh.
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And what about your mom?
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Is she originally from, were you born and raised in California?
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Yes.
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Okay.
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So I was born and raised in California.
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My mom was born and raised in California.
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I think at least her mom was born and raised in California.
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So I'm still here and it's in my roots.
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And originally she was just like born and raised in America?
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Yes.
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My grandma on my mom's side did like one of those lineage things.
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And I think they came over here like a while ago, like not anytime recently.
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And before that it was England and I think Ireland.
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Okay, cool.
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Because I know you said you grew up playing gymnastics, right?
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And your mom was a gymnast as well.
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And I'm always thinking like it's usually Russians or something
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or kind of like Ukrainian or something
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that is like a strong like yeah into gymnastics
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and everything russia has a really good gymnastics team
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and like uh reputation yeah so i guess that's kind of like where i was like thinking but um so
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Being a gymnast, and how long did you do that for?
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Like 12 years.
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Gymnastics, it requires a lot of dedication.
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It's like every single day you have practice, right?
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Yeah, I had practice five days a week for as long as I can remember doing that.
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So do you feel like that taught you discipline from like a young age?
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I would say so, yeah.
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It definitely helped.
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And I don't know if it's just the way that I am or that probably contributed a lot, but I like structure
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so those two things kind of formed me what was a
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part of your life where it like you stopped doing gymnastics
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and did you go straight into the gym
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or was there like a period of where you like kind
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of stopped doing everything I think there was a super small time frame where I stopped doing everything
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but it was just because I don't know I didn't know what to do so my life felt really
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fragmented like it there was no structure I was like I
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don't I literally don't know what to do with my life
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so it's super uncomfortable that probably didn't even last a year
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and then I asked my dad to take me to the gym
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and he took me to the gym
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that he had been going to for like 20 years
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and yeah and I guess for those that don't know about your dad
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because you said like we were talking and you said
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that he's from like he's he's rode a bike like a hundred miles yeah
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and that's not even like crazy for him which is insane
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because I told you guys at lunch like it's not people
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will think of those like distance bikers with the really skinny bikes
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that weigh like less than a pound and they got their spandex on
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and they got the whole thing going on which is awesome
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but that's not my dad he's just like a regular bike
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just with his headphones on he does wear a helmet i got him like one of those little reflective things
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because i was like you need to be safe out there
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but he'll just go on a weekend and be like oh the weather's I think I'm gonna bike ride 100 miles.
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And so I'm like, where are you going?
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My goodness.
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So does your family inspire you with like, I don't know, being disciplined or even like your career?
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I would say so, yeah.
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Not that like one parent is more one way or the other, but I feel like my mom is very entrepreneurial.
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So that has inspired me to be like, you know, you don't have to do something traditional for things to work out.
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Like you can really just make life what you want to make it.
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And then my dad is very disciplined with everything that he does pretty much.
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But he's also really chill.
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Like it's not overly that, but yeah.
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So did you grow up in a dynamic where your mom was like the provider?
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No, I think both my parents do well, but because, at least in my mind, you know, I haven't like asked them to clarify for me, like who was actually the breadwinner.
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But at least in my mind growing up, It was like my dad had the traditional, stable, constant job.
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So I was like, okay, this is like the stability.
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And then my mom maybe would have like seasons
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because her job can be a little more seasonal of like she's making a lot more.
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Like she's running a camp or something.
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And then there's times like when it's raining, which it doesn't rain very much in California.
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But when it's raining, she can't do her job.
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Your mom being ambitious and like, you know, an entrepreneur, would you say that, I guess you took that trait and kind of just started posting on social media?
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I don't think so, just because I never really went into it with any sort of intention like that.
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Like, I didn't use social media very much before I started posting on it.
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Okay.
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So I didn't understand a lot of things, you know?
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I think the most I really did was watch music videos on YouTube.
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Okay.
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And I would make like pictures on like PixArt and post that to my private Instagram.
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I started just posting because I was going to the gym.
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I had people telling me like, oh, you're fit.
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You should like share your fitness stuff.
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And for a long time, I was like, I don't want to do that because this is like mine.
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And this is special to me.
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And I don't want to pollute it.
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But then I decided to do that.
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And my content, I just wanted to try to be helpful.
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What timeline before you started social media did you start going to the gym?
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Was it like two to three years of transforming your body first?
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It was actually quite a few years.
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But I'm not sure my body really transformed all that much because I had done gymnastics.
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Right.
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So as a child, I was pretty lean and pretty muscular.
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kind of a scrawny kid for a while
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but like with muscle yeah um and then
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when i started going to the gym i already had this image of myself as like i'm strong you know
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so that's kind of how it felt
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and there was some years where i struggled with eating
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and food and so my body changed yeah
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but i don't know i don't feel like i ever experienced newbie gains or things like that
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and use my code liana what was your relationships back then
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with the gym i feel like it might have changed now slightly
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because it's your work i mean it has for me at least like in terms of like fitness
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if you're filming and everything it becomes like it's still a a stable
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and an essential part of your life
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but do you feel like back then it was something different
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for you yeah it was something different it was well i
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also didn't have as much information about working out back then
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and there's a ton of good information now easily available online
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but i wasn't really online
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so I just kind of would go move my body kind
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of like a bit of a tweaker like I was one of those people just going everywhere like being crazy
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and doing everything super intensely I think just to relieve
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some sort of emotion or tension yeah
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and now as grateful as I am sometimes there's just not the same relief why do you think
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that maybe because it's like the main thing that i do
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so when i had like a nine to five
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and i was going to that
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and i would go to the gym afterwards i was like
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oh this is like my time to let everything out
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but now i'm like it's a it's a blessing that i don't have to
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let something out that hard yeah
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but it uh it's just different it feels like a force now yeah for me at least too i
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but it's like still pushing myself to go
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but yeah it felt it feels harder now to go versus then
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when i used to
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and i i kind of like try to incorporate new kind of styles of training are you doing that
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or are you kind of like just one way you enjoy
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bodybuilding the most i changed it up a little bit like i was doing power lifting for a
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while i don't know if i just was doing something wrong
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or i'm sure i was moving something weird or but i started to get this really bad neck pain.
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Like it was pretty intense and just like crippling.
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And you know, when you have like a chronic pain and then you're just like, just everything kind of is a bummer.
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So I stopped doing heavy squat bench deadlift for a while doing bodybuilding -esque things.
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I mean, I've never competed, so I don't know.
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It's not that structured and the neck pain kind of went away.
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So I haven't deviated much from those two styles.
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Okay.
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And you enjoy that the most?
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Yes, I think so.
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You don't think you'd ever start biking or anything?
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I like to bike, just casually.
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Okay, really?
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Yeah.
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Just around in California, you're biking?
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Yeah.
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Oh, nice.
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There's a lot of nice places to bike around here.
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So there's a lot of riverbeds.
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You can just bike next to the riverbed.
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Oh, that's nice.
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Yeah.
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So your relationship with food, was it toxic if you're open to sharing that?
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Kind of both.
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And amongst other things.
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Like, those issues kind of developed either right before I quit gymnastics, definitely after I quit.
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Like, right before I quit, I kind of started to hit puberty and I was scrawny before.
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And then I just started to gain a little more, you know, figure.
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And I can distinctly remember the very first time I was standing, like, with my legs together and my thighs touched.
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I remember the day and, like, the time and what I was doing.
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And I was, like, I just, like, became aware.
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So that was really weird and that made me uncomfortable.
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And I mean, I'm sure you know, there's like that arrow when it's like, oh, the thigh gap.
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Yeah, no, I wanted the, yeah.
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Same, I remember like taking a picture of my thigh gap.
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Yeah, so there was that.
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And then when I quit, it was a combination of being a lot less active.
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So I was like, oh, well, if food is fuel and I'm not doing anything to need fuel, why do I need fuel?
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And also I was like a kid, so I didn't know all these other things.
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Yeah. And...
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I don't think a lot of people are taught like how to listen to their body
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and like understand hunger cues and things like that.
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So I didn't understand that and everything was just scary and overwhelming.
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So I thought I should just, I don't know, not do any of it.
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What were the emotions that you were going through at the time?
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Was it just like not wanting to pick up certain foods?
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Did you feel like repulsed by food?
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I don't think I felt repulsed.
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every once in a while I'd like look at meat
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or something and just start thinking about it and be like
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that is horrific so it was just like meat specific
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but other than
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that I wasn't repulsed it was fear kind of there's going to be a lot of people
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that tune in in like are maybe going through an eating
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disorder what was the journey like of getting out of the eating disorder it was pretty long for me
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and I think it's long for a lot of people
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and I was lucky enough to be able to get professional help not everybody is able to do
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that and even sometimes people will struggle for a lifetime
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and that's unfortunate so I kind of took a physical decline rather quickly
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that was noticeable to those around me so
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and my mom already had like some knowledge of eating disorders
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and things like that so she was like okay we need to take it
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or see someone so I went to see I think just like a therapist
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and we were talking and then the therapist was like I think you need
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more intense treatment and I was like no I don't you know I was like actually I think I was upset
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I was like crying to them I was like no I'll be better I'll be better don't send me away
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so so I tried to be better
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but then I didn't try to be better because I didn't want to get better
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so I was trying to like trick them
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and I don't know they're just all the tricks in the
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book I was pulling eventually after a few years it becomes very taxing
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and it just isn't pleasant to live through so after a
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while i decided like okay now i want help
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and this was after going in and out of like residential treatments more than once
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which i'm very lucky to have been able to do
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but eventually i was like okay i want help because this sucks
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so i went got the help still struggled for a long time
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but then I had this one relationship and it was so traumatic that it like cured my eating disorder which is insane.
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I think because I was just so stressed about my partner at the time
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and like what was going on I just forgot about worrying about food.
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So it was kind of like that for me
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which is not nice to say for other people
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because I don't think that's realistic for everybody's journey but that's what happened with me.
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Do you have any tips or advice
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if you were to to put yourself back in like your shoes of where you were at in
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that time of your life for people
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that might be going through a similar thing
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that you wish you would have like known then I mean it's difficult to say
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because I think there was a lot of things I knew
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but I just didn't want to accept
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because I mean I was like it started out as like a preteen
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so I didn't really want to listen to anyone saying anything and I didn't care what they were saying.
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Yeah.
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But I think a lot of people at some point feel like an inkling of like, I don't like doing this.
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Like, I don't want to do this.
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And to understand like, they don't, they don't have to do that.
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And there are ways to help.
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Some of the ways are more complicated if they're not in the best, you know, don't have insurance or something.
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It can get a little more complicated.
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If they can do that it's scary but I would do
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that because it feels a lot better to get help yeah you don't think it's something
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that someone can do on their own I think they can I I don't know
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if I could have done that I think
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that people definitely can just do things themselves I don't know
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if I would have had the strength yeah so really being open
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and talking to someone about it instead of just like hiding it yeah at least in my experience
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and for a lot of other people i'd talked to a big part of
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that was hiding and feeling shame or just fear over either having to change
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or people judging them or feeling exposed something like
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that would you have wished you would have said something
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and like not had that shame i mean when i was younger no
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because i just i wanted to do that yeah
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and the underlying issue was something else like i think after i had quit the gymnastics and
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that was my whole identity um i just felt like a
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failure like i felt like i don't have an identity
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and part of it was a self -punishment
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so i went through a similar journey of like losing my identity
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when i kind of made a transformation in my life so i guess like how did you find your new identity
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or try to figure out who am I supposed to be after gymnastics when that's kind of like everything that you knew?
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I tried different things like I tried other sports as time
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went by it was I mean time can be a great healer
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so it was kind of easier to let that go a bit
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and accept that but I tried new things I found things
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that I liked I tried to stop putting so much weight
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on that like sense of identity especially now I try to do things
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that it's like it's it's okay to change it's okay to
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be wrong you know it's okay to grow yeah did you
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go to college what did you major in psychology oh I don't think that influenced me that much
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so do you want did you ever want to be a psychologist not really originally I wanted to study neuroscience
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but then I realized I was
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so bad at math I didn't believe it was realistic for me
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so then I did psychology because I was like oh well it's kind of you know
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and I didn't have any other interests.
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What else can you be with like a psychology major?
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Is it understanding awareness around the things that we do?
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Like what did you learn from that experience?
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Well I don't think my degree would uh be enough to really say anything about anything but
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if you're a smooth enough talker you can definitely manipulate some
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sort of an interview to be like this is what this taught me
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and this is what i'm bringing to the table
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because i did get a job once because i had
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that degree didn't bring anything to the table but the guy just assessed that like oh you're reliable
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and because you have a degree yeah
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so you're hired i was like okay there's just now this
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thing where people are like kind of leaning towards becoming a creator
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and not using their degree or do you feel like you needed your degree to do what you do now?
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I did not need my degree to do what I do now, but I'm still happy that I went to school.
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Yeah, because it taught you discipline or I mean you've already learned discipline, so did it teach you something else?
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It taught me a lot about myself as a person and at the time and also I like structure, so I liked thinking like,
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okay, what am I doing right now in my life?
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Oh, I'm going to school, so this is what you do
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when you go to school yeah yeah did you go to school i dropped out of college okay yeah
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but i was going for kinesiology okay yeah
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because i always loved movement too i played soccer growing up
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and that was kind of my identity as well and so
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when i stopped playing college soccer i kind of went through
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like a similar chapter where i was like not sure what to do with my life
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and that's kind of when i was just like picking up jobs
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and trying to find my purpose i ended up being like a personal trainer
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and then yeah
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but i think it took a lot of failing to get
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there though to figure out like this is not for me this is for me
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but i sometimes wish i would have went to school
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because i feel like it teaches you i never was good at school in general like studying
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and applying myself to things i i feel like school does help
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that so i i'm not like a i don't hate college
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but i also don't think you need college nowadays for everything i guess it just depends on what major right
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or what job you want to do okay
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so i guess in terms of like practices
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that you do for like your mindset or mental health especially
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because like you are an online persona
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and i feel like it just requires a lot of you
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and so i i guess how are you navigating like mental health
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and being in tune with yourself i mean there's like different aspects that are weighing from the social media thing.
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Some of it I've just just internally my mindset is like you just gotta let it go you know
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because like it's happening or it's not happening or
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if there's nothing you can do about it just don't make your life worse thinking about it.
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I was trying to meditate for a
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while I was doing like morning breathing practices going for walks I don't usually talk to like friends
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or anyone about these things because i don't think
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that they would understand
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and sometimes it feels i don't know like i try not to either get online
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and be like i'm feeling like this
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because i'm sure you know like people are going to be
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like your life is amazing why are you feeling like this
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and i'm like no i know it's amazing it's amazing
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but like i still feel like this yeah most of my
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practices i do are just like mindfulness adjacent stuff is it like a regular thing
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that you do is like meditate or go for walks.
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Going for walks, yeah.
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I do pretty normally.
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I started running a little bit, which feels similar to the walking, but just like a little more exertion.
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So maybe like releasing something a little bit more.
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Yeah.
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Feel more accomplished after.
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Keeping a routine is really big for me to keep like mental peace.
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Are you a person to sit with emotions that you're feeling
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or do you kind of like escape them i guess it depends what emotion
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because i do kind of sit with them okay i feel
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them nice what i'm curious what do you do is it the journaling
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and the prayer for your daily yeah like routine yeah
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so i i every day i'd like pray five times a day like in my faith
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and then that's kind of like i i use it as
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kind of like a way to just step step away from
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the world it's kind of like meditation in many ways it's
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just like being in tune with your thoughts obviously i'm like
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kind of speaking to a creator something greater than me thinking for my life
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and the things that i have it's kind of like a reminder
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that the problems that i'm going through in life are not
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that deep and i need to just like continue to keep going
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so i would say like that really helps me but also journaling
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and like communicating like brain dumping instead of holding all the
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thoughts in my mind kind of helps me just like feel more in tune with myself
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and stop overthinking because I used to struggle with like really bad anxiety
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and just like speaking to myself and trying to make it positive
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so yeah I guess are you a big journaler I journal sometimes I wouldn't say a big journaler maybe
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if I'm lucky like two entries a year okay pretty good for me I mean, the journal I have right now,
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I think I've had since elementary school.
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And it's not full.
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I don't even know if it's halfway.
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and use my code liana for 20 % off Do you
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have a relationship with any kind of like higher being than you?
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I don't know.
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I grew up going to church, I guess non -denominational.
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So I grew up with that a lot, but currently, I don't know.
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Maybe I just don't think about it.
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Like I don't feel that's a big part of my life at the moment.
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Do you believe in something greater in terms of like a God or like a universe?
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Yeah, I think I do, or at least I would like to.
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Yeah.
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You know, I think of how there's like matter
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and it's neither created nor destroyed and it just maybe it changes what it is
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but it's still there
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so I'm like I think there's something more yeah yeah do you think what do you think
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that more is I don't know I don't know yeah
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because I mean a lot of people tend to take on like practices of like family um
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or like being born into
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that do you feel like there was a time of your life where you kind of just like no I'm
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like I don't know not following a religion to the T
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yeah I mean I'll still go to church every now
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and then and I'll like listen to a sermon
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and be like like I think the last one I went to I was like literally crying sitting there
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because like it's just like touched my soul um
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but it's like not that frequent and there's definitely things
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that I'm like I don't know about this one
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but yeah I think for me there was like a turning point
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when I was in middle school and just like something happened in middle school where I was like, I don't know.
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I don't know about this anymore.
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And then other things that went along with that that other people deal with just like sort of religious guilt things.
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And I'm already a person that I feel guilty about everything all the time, always, so I'm like, I don't know if I can keep compounding that and survive.
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So I don't know, a lot of these things I just don't think about that hard.
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But do you feel like, I guess religion always feels like, I don't know
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if you're not a perfect human it kind of makes you feel guilty about things rather than like
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because I used to interpret it in that way
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that like I grew up thinking that religion it kind of made God seem as this like scary thing
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in that we're not perfect and we never are going to be perfect kind of thing
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and it comes with a lot of guilt and i would always be
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so hard on myself if i ever made a mistake
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and it was like a sin whereas now i'm like i look at things
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and i'm like okay i try to be a better person
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but i'm not gonna like have
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so much guilt to the point where like i self -sabotage
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and then like feel extremely low
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so i guess did you kind of like feel as
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if religion it just like highlighted guilt all the time a
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lot of it did yeah I didn't think it was like God is this punisher
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and making me feel guilty it was more like the overall
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structure just like as a system I guess made me feel bad
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so I never was like oh God hates me it was
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kind of like this person over here telling me this I was kind of shifting whatever blame on to
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that I was like this person is making me feel this way
531
and I don't want to be around this yeah no it's it's like scary
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or it's not scary but it's like sad
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that like a lot of people can also ruin religion i
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guess it's tough right it's don't get me wrong i think religion is extremely important
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and like beneficial yeah to people okay so i know
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that you started your own clothing brand which what is the exact name
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if you want to share a little bit about it i
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mean it's not like a full clothing brand it's just these t -shirts with cows on it
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and it's called leanbeefteas .com nice honestly i just feel like it represents your personality
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and I feel like a lot of people don't know
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that you paint or draw I don't know if it's something
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that you frequently share but is that something
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that you turn to in terms of like trying to de -stress
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because you're a great artist thank you like
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that cow is just kind of silly no like
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but it's such a great cow though oh thank you I don't usually turn to art when I'm alone
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if someone else is there with me
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and they're like oh this would be nice then I'll do it
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and it can be like cathartic and relaxing and feel really good
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and I'm happy about it
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but I don't know I just don't ever do it by myself I think I'm
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so stimulated and I'm like
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if I'm not doing something where I feel productive I'm like oh I'm uncomfortable yeah so what inspired you to paint
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I guess a cow and just start painting.
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I don't remember why I decided to paint the cow.
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It was like painting with my friends at my friend's house
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and sometimes we'll think of a theme so everyone paints
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that theme but I think this is one of the times we didn't
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and so my other two friends were painting something else
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and for whatever reason I just painted a cow on a surfboard surfing and And after that, when we got together again,
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I don't know, I just decided I'm just going to keep painting just cows.
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And I paint other things, but I don't share them.
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Creating that into clothing, I guess, like when you're wearing the item, I guess, what does it feel for you?
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Does it like, do you tap into something different?
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Because for me, when I see that, it also kind of gives me this feeling of like tapping into your inner child a little bit.
566
And I feel that when I'm even just talking to you, is you have this childlike,
567
not personality, but I feel like it's so important to keep that a part of us, which a lot of us lose, because it makes life so much lighter and easier.
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And so what is the feelings that you get from wearing the clothing
569
that you've created and what you want other people to feel?
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I mean, because I created it, I can be a lot more critical, I think, of it than probably other people would be.
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But apart from that, it's just kind of silly.
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It's like, oh, what's going on there?
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You know, it's just like a silly little something going on.
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So that's what I like to feel.
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Where do you get the urge to be so free in life?
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Like, you seem very free -spirited.
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Oh, thank you.
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Is that from your parents, or is that something that you just, like, try to...
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Are you aware of
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that? like being what is the free spirited this thing it
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gives me like just tapping into your inner child like it
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just feels it feels very comforting like your energy oh thank
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you I'm not sure I don't know I mean I don't really view myself as being
584
that free spirited
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but of course I'm only experiencing reality from my own you
586
know yeah I mean perspective you have like two braids that you're growing out.
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Oh, that's true.
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But for me, it was just kind of like, I want to see how long my hair will get, but I don't like when the hair is touching my skin.
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So what if I just have a little bit?
590
And I didn't freaking grow.
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So it's so like carefree though.
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I mean, do you have any tips or advice for people
593
that care so much about things like you just seem so like careless
594
and not worried about other people's perception or judgment or anything?
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You just seem like yourself so I guess like what are some things
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that have helped you get there well thank you I think something
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that comes to mind I think you mentioned earlier when you were talking about
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prayer which not the same thing this is like my mindset but that like your problems aren't
599
that deep maybe so a lot of my problems might come from some sort of insecurity
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or like a fear
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and those things keep me like this it helps having also compassionate people around you
602
but when I just start realizing it's like okay I just gotta live my truth you know
603
and And as long as I'm living my truth and hopefully no one gets hurt in the process, then probably things will feel better.
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Yeah.
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And were you always like that?
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No. No. Because I don't love being perceived, even apart from like the internet stuff,
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with my friends and my family.
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I also don't share very much about like what I'm thinking.
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I don't know if in my family we were big talkers about things.
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Like it was always super loving.
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Like I had a great family life, but I don't remember like talking that much about painful things.
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So I don't like talking about that with people.
613
And I don't want to hurt people.
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And I don't want to be hurt by people.
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So it kind of, I'm like more of a wall.
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And just recently I'm trying to just let it out.
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What are the feelings of like holding it in? is it
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feel like you're not afraid to like talk about things
619
but I guess like is it
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because you don't want to be perceived I think it's
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because I don't want to be perceived like I don't want to speak my truth to someone
622
and then they come back and be like wow you're horrible
623
or usually it's like someone I really care about like I
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might not want to say like my full honest whatever answer
625
because I'm afraid it's going to be the wrong answer for them.
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And then maybe I'll lose this connection with this person and that would hurt me and whatever.
627
But then I came to realize it's like,
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how true was that connection anyway if I wasn't being totally open with this person?
629
Because maybe their perception of me is a totally different person than what I actually am.
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And it's because I'm withholding that from them.
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This is not only like on social media is this in
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like your day -to -day really like your relationships not speaking
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really yeah i don't really tell like i'm pretty private online even though yeah i'm open i myself yeah
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but i just don't share that much and i don't share
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that much in real life either so was there a thing
636
that kind of made you feel like you can't communicate
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or share that information does it not feel like you're holding so much in at times?
638
Or is it kind of like you just don't need to say something?
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Sometimes it feels like holding in, but most of the time, maybe it's just because I'm kind of used to it.
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It's like I don't feel the need to most of the time.
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So I guess in relationships, are you a good communicator about what's bothering you?
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I've been told no. But I'm working on it.
643
Yeah, which I could see that because I mean, there's been a lot of...
644
not a lot.
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There's been some times where, I don't know, I'll just like not share something,
646
not trying to like hide anything necessarily, but I'm just like, I don't know.
647
You know, I'm like, I don't know if I should say this thing
648
and then this person flips out on me or so I'll just keep it to myself.
649
And then eventually that usually also ends up bad.
650
So I realized you should probably just say what you're feeling and thinking at the time.
651
And so I guess, are you trying to get better at doing that?
652
I am trying.
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It's not easy, but I'm trying.
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so i want to talk about your content
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because yes you're a fitness creator but you create content in such a unique way
684
and you also showcase your personality with like anime
685
or like you know different kinds of characters posing is something that's big in the fitness space
686
but i just feel like you're the posing is kind of
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also unique in a different way yeah um the posing actually like originally the posing people i think this is
688
when jojo's was
689
more popular too or like a new season to come out
690
or something what is jojo's oh jojo's bizarre adventure it's an anime okay
691
but you know i tried anime a little bit what is
692
the main one it's like seven rings seven deadly sins seven
693
deadly sins oh that's one i would tell you i was like i don't know
694
if you should watch that one okay i don't know i mean i like it
695
but sometimes there's some scenes where i'm just like this is weird like something weird is happening
696
or like there's too much fan service
697
and i'm just like what am i watching fan service fan service it's like
698
when they make a character over sexualized yeah i mean to be honest i didn't i didn't know
699
that it like there was that kind of different like differences in anime um
700
so you don't like i i guess for example like what is i guess the anime
701
that you watch first i i didn't know
702
that the seven deadly sins i mean i watched seven deadly sins i do like it i do like it
703
but it's one of those also i feel like sometimes in these different online communities like people can be like so
704
polarized one day or the other
705
and it's just like one day everyone's like okay we don't like this anymore
706
and so then if you're like oh i like this like you're horrible you know
707
so it's like i don't know i i like seven deadly sins
708
but there are some parts where like if i think about it i'm just like
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what's going on i feel like you have acquired so much success thank you in social media
710
but you live a very simple life yes like you took a video
711
that you still have the same car I love that Prius yeah
712
and I wanted to understand like do you care about you know materialistic things
713
or do you just enjoy like a simple life I think I enjoy a simple life
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because it feels less complicated
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and growing up I lived a simple life like my parents
716
weren't poor I think we were like middle class maybe upper middle class
717
but I think they came from families that maybe weren't as well off
718
so that kind of trickled down to our family just living conservatively I guess
719
and that never bothered me and I like it because it's simple
720
and sometimes I find even where I live now like
721
if I just have too many things like there's just like
722
so much stuff like it's freaking me out and there's a mess everywhere
723
and it's like there's not really a mess but
724
if I have a lot of things it will become a mess
725
so I don't want
726
that I don't care about the image I don't know maybe it's cool to drive like a cool car
727
but I think people get over it pretty quick like
728
that feeling yeah that feeling so I don't even really care to have it in the first place in your opinion
729
what does success mean to you I think success would this
730
is just kind of my view would be like peace
731
so just like feeling peace in your life whether you know you're well off you're not
732
so well off whatever you got going on
733
if you feel at peace with yourself
734
and with your life i think that's success what are some things
735
that help you feel at peace for me personally spending a
736
lot of alone time i like being alone going for walks i usually i'm not a person
737
that feels lonely most of the time i just don't feel like
738
that really yeah i just don't really feel lonely
739
which i like being around the people that i like you know it's always nice but when i'm alone
740
I don't think I've ever felt lonely.
741
So having alone time brings me peace.
742
Seeing my parents brings me peace and now that I'm an adult kind of like
743
really appreciating them and what they've done and the memories that we've had things like that bring me peace.
744
Taking care of myself, like fueling my body.
745
maybe having a treat but like eating in a way that i know that i'll i'll feel good
746
sleeping i love to sleep what are things
747
that bring you peace prayer for sure brings me a sense of peace being aware of the things
748
that are also like disrupting my peace so i feel like
749
if i'm in conversations with people
750
or it's like something apparent in my life is like going
751
through reoccurring situations where it's like i feel my peace consistently disrupted whether
752
that be like energy like people taking away your energy and whatnot so i think like being firm
753
in setting boundaries with people has bringing me peace like it brings me peace to just like not have
754
so much i don't know like noise around me if
755
that makes sense yeah that does also i feel like i don't know
756
if you struggle with this but being on social media does not bring me peace at at all.
757
So I really have to set like rules with myself in terms of like, how many times I pick up my phone.
758
I started using this like app blocker that blocks my app sometimes
759
because social media can drain your peace and just being online or constantly consuming something.
760
And you kind of feel like in the moment it might bring you peace
761
because it's like the easier thing to do is just like for free time, for example.
762
But it ends up like leaving you drained
763
so yeah i feel like yeah my habits for sure do
764
you do other things other than i mean like are you
765
working instead of spending that social media phone time or are you doing other things or
766
so i like to read okay yeah i like reading i
767
like to just sit in silence sometimes with my thoughts oh yeah
768
and just like let them in yeah um
769
but sometimes my thoughts will go like all over the place
770
so journaling starting like sewing like a little bit here
771
and there trying to get better at it i just i don't know i feel like there's
772
so many hobbies that we want to do
773
but we are not doing them
774
because we end up like yeah yeah doing the easier thing
775
like scrolling i guess like how do you navigate boundaries with
776
people in your life i think that's something i am kind
777
of still learning like my learning to be more open is
778
not a lot of people do a lot of things
779
that bother me that much like the people
780
that are in my life constantly like you know random people will do things
781
and I'm like oh my gosh that was whatever
782
but I don't think that I ask
783
that much of the people in my life
784
so sometimes they'll be like they'll set a boundary with me
785
and they'll be like oh well now I feel bad
786
because like you never bring anything up
787
and I'll be like I don't think there's anything to bring up
788
so maybe that's an issue from me you know okay how
789
do you set boundaries I think it's about the way
790
that you approach the conversation so I used to be such a hothead
791
and I would just like be mad all the time like
792
or the way that I would communicate was kind of with like anger
793
but I realized if I'm communicating in an angry way
794
that person might not actually hear it
795
and it's not actually going to do anything
796
so it's like really just taking a step back
797
and communicating with the person of like things
798
that I might be struggling with um in the way
799
that we're working or maybe it's like a relationship in my life
800
but even then sometimes when you communicate they don't also hear you even
801
if it's in like a calm way and it's kind of just like putting your foot down and
802
I am realizing like if a person is not going to respect it
803
and if they're not meant to be in my life
804
or it's not meant to work out then like it's better than feeling consistently drained
805
if that makes sense so it's like communicating in a calm way for sure
806
and also trying to look at the problem as
807
if you guys are trying to solve it together rather than it's like you versus each other
808
if that makes sense so i feel like that's kind of how
809
but communicating in a calm way because i used to struggle with communicating too
810
but it was in like always just like anger yeah makes sense no
811
that makes sense
812
so do you have a big like friend group no it's pretty small yeah yeah how How many friends do you have?
813
A handful, maybe five.
814
Oh, that's a lot of friends.
815
Okay, yeah.
816
I was gonna say three, but then I was like, oh, that person's my friend.
817
Yeah, like a friend, as in someone you trust with everything.
818
Oh.
819
Like everything.
820
I don't wanna hurt their feelings.
821
I don't know.
822
Are they gonna listen to this?
823
Maybe one, maybe.
824
One?
825
Yeah.
826
Cause do you have like a strong support system?
827
Yeah.
828
Yeah.
829
I don't know, I feel like it's hard with social media like navigating real relationships
830
and stuff so is it a person
831
that was in your life from the beginning no all the other ones are
832
but maybe it's because i've known them way longer
833
and like we've gone through things where i'm like why did you betray my trust yeah um
834
Not that I don't still love them, you know, but I'm like, okay, well, I need to watch what I say with you.
835
I don't know if you went through a situation where when you also became successful on social media,
836
did you start feeling like people around you started kind of not switching up, but acting weird?
837
Sometimes, yeah.
838
Like people that knew me, I don't know, but would like never say anything to me.
839
And now they're saying something to me or I'm also not like, I think I'm friendly and I like people, but maybe I'm not the most welcoming.
840
So I feel like, I don't know how to explain it, but I feel like not that many people have approached me, I think trying to like get something.
841
It's only been like a small amount of people.
842
You don't seem like a people pleaser.
843
Oh, well thank you.
844
That's a great thing.
845
Yeah, I think so.
846
Thank you.
847
Is that because of, is that something that just comes naturally to you?
848
Maybe.
849
I feel like I try to people please in the aspect of like, I'm afraid to say something because oh i guess that's true
850
because you know yeah that but
851
because like i think the welcoming aspect of it like i don't know people just don't i can't think of
852
that many times people have come at me
853
that i've known from before like trying to do something in
854
my case i sometimes had to feel like i had to be overly nice
855
or overly welcoming oh yeah just to kind of like please someone else
856
if that makes sense
857
and there's still times i struggle with it i think sometimes i don't do
858
that because I'll just be kind of emotional and irritated
859
and then in the moment I can't get over my irritation so I don't really care to please anyone else.
860
Maybe it's that.
861
Would you consider yourself shy?
862
Kinda, yeah.
863
Yeah.
864
Yeah, I think so.
865
Is any of your parents shy?
866
They're not shy.
867
My dad's really quiet but he's not shy.
868
Okay, so I want to talk about like baggy clothes.
869
Okay.
870
Because you're always wearing like baggy fits sometimes. Is
871
that just like a comfort thing? yeah I like the option
872
of the layering like I like the little matching sets whatever
873
but sometimes I don't want to be wearing them all the time
874
so I like the option of a lot of times
875
if I go to the gym I'll show up in something
876
like this I might keep it on the whole time
877
and then you know like sometimes for social media like you said how you would know
878
that something would be better so I'm like okay
879
if I'm just going like this and this then probably won't do as well
880
but usually I'll keep this on like the whole time.
881
Yeah.
882
Especially at a commercial gym.
883
Is there a reason why?
884
Comfort, I think.
885
I don't know.
886
Um, I think I used to not think about it as much and maybe it's the social media thing, but I'm just like, I don't want to be looked at.
887
And I think someone's going to listen to that and be like, that's a bunch of baloney.
888
But it's like, I feel like I'm already looked at a lot.
889
I don't need to be looked at all the time.
890
Yeah.
891
No, I understand that perspective because even when I used to wear shorts or sports bras, I would always feel like, i don't know when i was in the gym i would do it like
892
because i felt well i kind of struggled with like wanting validation
893
and stuff which is not every single woman who wears shorts
894
and sports bras there's times where i also just love like looking at my body
895
but i think that like i always wore baggy fits at home
896
but then i felt like on social media also feels more comfortable in a way to like post
897
that stuff versus like being in person
898
and people actually staring at you i know because and i think
899
that there is this like perception of
900
if you are wearing like shorts in a sports bra
901
that you kind of give men the right to look at you
902
when you don't actually want those eyes on you i just feel like
903
when i see the fact that you were like baggy clothes
904
when you have like an amazing body and you could be showcasing it is
905
that because like you don't have a need for validation
906
or is it kind of just like a comfort thing it might be a bit of both i I mean, sometimes I still wear the smaller fits and it's not for the validation,
907
but it's like maybe for the self -validation.
908
I don't know, to like see myself as I'm working out.
909
Most of the time it's the baggy fits for comfort and physical comfort and like mental comfort of like,
910
okay, I'm a little bit incognito, I guess.
911
Like less people are probably gonna look at me.
912
Is there any other points that you want me to like cover about your story?
913
What about mine?
914
I wanted to know what your definition of success was though.
915
I would say sticking to my word, like sticking to the thing that I said I was going to do.
916
I used to think success was materialistic things or having a certain amount of money.
917
And I bought so many dumb things like cars or bags, designer things that left me feeling so empty inside
918
and i thought that's kind of what success was
919
and i felt like i needed to prove that as well by showing
920
that i had those things or it made me feel like worthy
921
and but i realized more and more of just like it just left me feeling emptier
922
and yes money is a blessing right you can pay your bills you can help your family whatever
923
but i think the true like meaning of success is also
924
like being able to create impact in other people's lives like helping other people
925
and And just.. being like content with who you are as a person.
926
I feel like that's something that I still work towards, but it's not money, it's not wealth.
927
And it's just like truly loving who you are.
928
I feel like that's like success in many ways.
929
But okay, so I am so grateful that you came onto this podcast.
930
And I have one more question that I ask every single one of my guests.
931
What does it mean to be human?
932
The word that comes to mind is just like raw.
933
Like, I don't know.
934
To be human is to be raw.
935
Yeah, that's an amazing answer.
936
Just being yourself.
937
Yeah, just being yourself, whatever that is.
938
That's an amazing answer.
939
Thank you so much.
940
Thank you so much for coming on.
941
And where can people find you?
942
Lean Beef Patty on most places.
943
Instagram, TikTok, YouTube. And your clothing brand?
944
Leanbeeftease .com.
945
Okay, amazing.
946
Thank you so much.
947
Thank you.

Improve Your English Speaking with Lean Beef Patty's Authentic Dialogue

Speaking Goals for This Clip

This conversation is perfect for practicing casual fluency and natural self-expression. You’ll learn to discuss personal stories, clarify misunderstandings, and ask follow-up questions—key skills for real-world interactions. The relaxed tone helps you master conversational rhythm, making it ideal for the shadowing technique, where you mimic speech patterns to build confidence.

Phrase Bank: Reusable Expressions from the Dialogue

  • "I literally don't know what to do with my life" – Expressing uncertainty about the future.
  • "stop putting so much weight on" – Reducing importance of a specific idea or identity.
  • "live my truth" – Staying authentic to oneself.
  • "it was already taken" – Common when discussing usernames or unavailable options.
  • "there's some sort of disconnect" – Describing a lack of clarity or link between ideas.

Fix Your Weak Spots: Pronunciation & Rhythm

The video’s conversational flow highlights reduced speech (e.g., "I'm like" instead of "I am like") and contractions ("it's", "don't"), which are crucial for sounding natural. Use a shadowing app or shadowing site to practice mimicking these patterns—repeat phrases like "I think I came up with it" to match the speaker’s pace and intonation. Focus on the rhythm of questions like "Why did you choose lean beef patty?" to master rising intonation. The shadowing technique (or "shadow speech") helps train your mouth and ears to adapt to casual English, making these structures second nature.

By practicing with this dialogue, you’ll not only build vocabulary but also learn to communicate authenticity—just like Lean Beef Patty. Start with short clips, use a shadowing app to record yourself, and compare your delivery to the original to refine your skills.

Grammar in this video

The structures the speaker uses most, with the exact words from the video:

StructureIn the video
“Used to” used to + verb — a past habit or state that is no longer trueused to struggle · used to interpret · used to it
Conditional sentences if + clause, will/would + verb — a condition and its resultif I go to the gym I'll show
Present perfect continuous have/has been + -ing — an action that started earlier and is still going onhave been using · i've been using
Present perfect have/has + past participle — a past action that still matters nowhave helped · I've gotten · has inspired

What is the Shadowing Technique?

Shadowing is a science-backed language learning technique originally developed for professional interpreter training and popularized by polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. The method is simple but powerful: you listen to native English audio and immediately repeat it out loud — like a shadow following the speaker with just a 1–2 second delay. Unlike passive listening or grammar drills, shadowing forces your brain and mouth muscles to simultaneously process and reproduce real speech patterns. Research shows it significantly improves pronunciation accuracy, intonation, rhythm, connected speech, listening comprehension, and speaking fluency — making it one of the most effective methods for IELTS Speaking preparation and real-world English communication.

Shadowing technique: read the full step-by-step guide →