Shadowing Practice: deen vs dunya - how to detach from this world - Learn English Speaking with Video
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Hello, my beautiful family, and welcome back to another YouTube video.
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So, we are currently in the last 10 nights of Ramadan.
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I don't know why it's been so hard for me to talk lately.
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Like, I am literally starting a podcast.
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Why can't I talk?
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I have wrote down all the points that I want to speak about, but it has just been so hard for me to get on a camera and talk about the way that I feel, talk about the things that I'm thinking.
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I don't know what it is, and I'm just mentally not in it for some reason.
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But I have committed to making this video and I asked you guys what you wanted me to cover.
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And one of the main things was deen versus dunya.
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Now, what does deen versus dunya even mean?
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So the word deen essentially means faith in, I don't know if it's Arabic, but deen is kind of like a way that Muslims call faith.
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And dunya is relating to the world.
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So we always reference things like don't chase after the dunya because when you are chasing after this worldly life so much,
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you tend to lose yourself at times and you have to come back to Dean to find God, right?
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So that means when God takes us through moments of our life where sometimes he gives us everything that we want, but we lose connection with him.
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That's often a sign of not success because you are so caught up in this worldly life that you forget about God,
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but then things go wrong and all of a sudden you're back calling to God.
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This is not everyone.
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This is just kind of the reference to if you get caught up so much in this world, you will lose yourself.
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And we've all been there.
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We have all been there at a time in our life where we prioritize things, where it is money, it's relationships.
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Maybe you feel lonely and it's overtaking your life.
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Or you are not satisfied with where you're currently at to the point where you are just so unhappy with everything.
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And you've kind of accepted like that's your fate or you aren't driven or ambitious in discipline.
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Discipline is something that falls under deen, okay?
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If you look at the five daily prayers in Islam, the main concept around it is discipline.
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It's sticking to those times, showing up at those times every single day.
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And so when you look at faith as one with this world, instead of separating deen versus dunya, you can finally find that peace and balance in your life
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and I definitely feel like I have approached it in an amazing way to where I don't feel separate from it anymore.
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Because yes, there's so many times where you can get caught up in this worldly life, or it could even show through your character, or when people test your patience.
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Are you going to remove the ego, calm yourself down, fear God, and think about him in every single situation to the point where you're like, okay, this is just dunya,
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let me be so calm and aware of myself right now that I'm going to think about Dean.
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Because essentially when you're thinking about Dean instead of Dunya, you are also thinking about the hereafter.
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You're thinking about the next life.
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And why do we say the next life, right?
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Why don't we focus on this life?
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Because this life is so imperfect.
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You have to think about what is going on in the world today.
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Is this what is destined for us?
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Is there not a hereafter?
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Because this life, it can't be the final destination.
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Whether or not you believe in faith, you can't accept that it's a final destination.
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Why?
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Because it's so imperfect.
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There's too much good.
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There's too much evil.
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And there has to be an afterlife where the people
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that did good deeds are going to get into the higher ranks of a heaven or whatever you want to think of.
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And the people that are extremely evil, there has to be a place where it's, as harsh as it sounds, eternal punishment.
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Like there's no way that this can be the end life forever.
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And so when you start to think of a hereafter, you're consistently thinking about, okay, is there a blessing in my work?
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Is it pleasing to God?
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Am I doing everything to the best possible ability that I can be as a person of faith?
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Am I doing that every single day?
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And so when you start to look at it in a, I am striving for the hereafter versus I am striving for this life.
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But let me, let me point something out.
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When you are striving for the hereafter, it's about what you do on this earth, right?
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That is going to get you into the hereafter.
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That also means it's going to come down to your work ethic
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and what is your mission on this earth
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and i hear a lot of especially it's very apparent in the muslim community
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because they kind of accept
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that you know this world is just a test like we
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don't have to strive hard we don't have to do all these things
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because you know it's just dunya like we shouldn't care about it we're just like for the next life especially
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when it comes to money you're telling me
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that god doesn't want muslims to make money to give back to people need to go
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and strive and build businesses that can help impact so many people's lives, that can build schools, that can help fund communities.
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And that's where a lot of this Dean versus Dunya kind of gets mixed up because it's like, you know, don't strive for the Dunya too much.
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No, turn Dean and Dunya into one thing.
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Make your work a blessing that is going to help you strive for the hereafter.
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And that's how you kind of have to shift your perspective
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of like your day-to-day should be with the thought of God is watching my every single move, my time, my energy, the way that I speak to people,
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my actions, the things that I consume on a day-to-day basis.
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All of these things are going to impact my hereafter.
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The way people sit and scroll on social media, and we're all guilty of wasting time, but that time is so precious.
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Is that not a form of giving into dunya so much?
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Is that not a form of this worldly life, of getting so distracted?
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And I really believe we're kind of getting off topic here because I have many points that I want to cover.
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I don't know how long this video is going to be, but there's a lot happening in the world right now.
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And I haven't really spoken about politics in a long time.
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And it's not even politics.
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Okay.
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I actually heard someone say it's not politics.
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It's just standing up for justice, standing up against the oppressor.
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That's what you're standing up for, right?
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So if we're talking about things like Iran, Palestine, speaking out against Israel, speaking about the U.S government, right?
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All these things, right?
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Standing up against the oppressor.
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And when you're consuming all these things online, what it's essentially doing to yourself is making you feel hopeless.
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You feel so much empathy for people and you can't really do much.
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And then you go on about your day, like everything's normal.
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And if you consume that every single day, do you not think that it's going to have an impact on you?
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You know, I didn't actually know in Islam, someone correct me if I'm wrong I've heard
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that it's like not allowed to show pictures of people
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that have like passed essentially and whenever the whole Palestine situation happened
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and it was like it's I mean still is bad
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but like pictures and everything were being posted and you see these pictures
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and it essentially makes you feel so low in yourself
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and you don't have any drive in life
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because you're consuming all these things
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and then at the back of it you're also consuming
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so much content to where it's like you see lavish lifestyles on Instagram and then you see people at war.
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You see people that can't eat and then you see people
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that are doing these massive food hauls or the same vice versa when it comes to having things in life, right?
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You see all these things that feel very dystopian.
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Your brain is not able to process these things.
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Like this is not how as humans we are supposed to function.
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And that's not saying to not consume these things, But when it becomes a significant part of your life, you start to feel a bit more drained.
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And, you know, I would find that happening to myself.
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And sometimes when I still get into these moments where I get so consumed into it, and then I realize you feel so low.
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And then I started diving into something where it was, this guy was talking about how the distraction that social media has is
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so intentional by the people of power to make you feel hopeless, to make you be distracted, to take you away from your purpose,
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to take you away from having more drive or motivation in your life
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because they know that if you're consistently consuming all these things that are constantly making you feel this immense amount of dopamine,
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it's going to make your small tasks throughout the day feel so mundane and hard.
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And that's why being aware of these things
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and also realizing what the government
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or what the higher people of power in this world are trying to do is to have a spiritual attack on you.
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And what does that mean by spiritual attack?
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It means by taking your focus, taking your attention, taking your drive in life.
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And that's why it's so important to look at Dean and Dunya as this thing of like, I need to find my mission here.
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So whether that is helping people in need, it doesn't mean you need to be a social media influencer.
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That's not what I'm saying.
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I'm saying you need to find your mission, your drive in life.
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It should always tie back to god What are you doing
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in this world to leave an impact to help people in need?
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And then it's going to make you have even just more ambition in your life
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And maybe the current job or the current thing
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that you're doing in your life It doesn't feel like that
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that doesn't mean it's going to feel like
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that forever I wasn't at a point where I was
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so sure in myself of what I wanted to do It took time It took being in jobs
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and roles and doing things
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that I didn't want to do to lead me To being clearer in what my mission actually is
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And so you have to go through trials of your life where you fail
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But you have to think of it as this is still a part of my mission
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because it's just helping me figure out What i'm actually here to do in this life
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and it's also going to be a continuous journey It's going
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to be forever evolving like there's going to be times Where you might do one thing
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and you'd love it and then it's like, okay I want to evolve on this
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and continue growing It's going to be a forever evolution and you have to look at your life in this way
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but really tapping into what am I here to do on this earth
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and understanding that God has put you here for a reason.
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And it's not like you don't have a mission.
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It's just sometimes you are so distracted
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that you can't even focus on the small tasks that bring you clarity in your life.
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And so all of this ties under Dean versus Dunya because your attention, your focus is essentially Dunya as well that is taking you away from Dean
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and you have to look at it in this way.
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And so I know I just kind of rambled on
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but like that's how I kind of view Dean and Dunya right
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and so now I want to get into why I'm even credible to be speaking about this topic
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because I know a lot of people just come on here
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and speak stuff
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so me giving up something for the sake of God for
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example let's let's go to like I don't like continuously mentioning the fact
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that I like deleted all my content like it's just you
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know it's in the past whatever right deleting all my content right and starting all over, putting on the hijab.
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There are so many times where I still think my life would not be as difficult if I didn't wear the hijab.
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And that's just being honest.
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It's being raw and honest because I think a lot of people think
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that I earn more money because of an opportunity that I created with Gymshark in terms of like building out modesty,
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which thank God it is an amazing opportunity and we're still building it out,
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but I lost money because the things that I could sell with my body is just insane versus being fully covered up.
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And I think that a lot of people don't think that I gave up that much.
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Not that I didn't give up that much.
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That was the one thing, right?
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But I want to talk about something that I've kind of kept private between me and God for the past like three,
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four years, really since I started my journey with understanding Islam and zakat, right?
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And zakat is charity.
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I donate half of my earnings.
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That's not even within taxes like I donate because I believe
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that it helps me detach from this world and I am saying this
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because I I want to make it apparent that like I Could have
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so much more liquid cash than I do now
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if I would have held on to that money
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But I donated half of my earnings because I know
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that it's going to come back full circle And put more blessing in my work and i'm not saying that like, you know you should go donate all of it because there's been times where I'm like, should I have donated that much?
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Because I have costs and I have all these things that I need to make sure that I'm able to pay.
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But then there's times where I'm like, you know what?
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It'll come back.
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Like money always comes back if I give it for the sake of God.
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And so having this mindset that really helped me detach from this world,
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like truly detached from this world is by donating your money.
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Like honestly that's probably the one thing that I don't really have
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that close of a connection to is money
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because our life is not promised our life is not promised
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so holding on to something and feeling so attached to something
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that is given to me by God he can give me
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so much more oh my goodness
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if I think about how God has changed my life overnight my parents wanted me to continue going to college
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and that's when I had dropped out because I was like you know what I I don't want to go to college.
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I don't want to be, you know, I think my dad wanted me to be like a physician's assistant or something.
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And it's just not, it's not what I wanted to do.
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Like I love learning, but I went against my parents and I pursued social media and it didn't make sense.
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Didn't even make sense to me.
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I put myself in extreme debt and was fearful.
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I was very fearful that I wasn't going to make it and stuff, but God changed my life in an instant.
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And so I know now that like, if I am so attached, I'm going to end up losing myself.
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And I think that's how you have to approach life is
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like you can't attach yourself to these things whether it's money Relationships this perception of this like perfect life.
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What is a perfect life?
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What is success?
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You have to think of what is success success is being as close to god as possible
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And when you feel like you are chasing after this world
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so much you have to step back Reconnect with prayer truly
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reconnect don't just like go through prayer in the motions reconnect with the quran or the holy book of your faith
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It's god's words literally speaking to you and you know, it's crazy.
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Sometimes we wonder why god isn't blessing us Are you praying?
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Are you reading the holy book of your religion?
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Are you giving back in charity?
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Are you being a disciplined individual?
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Like you have to ask yourself these things
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and then you can't wonder why god isn't blessing you And
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so I know I just really went on a rant here I talked about dean
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and daniel what it means why i'm kind of like, you know I think I'm validated to speak on this topic
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because I just I don't feel
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so attached to this world there are times where I recognize
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myself where I'm like okay I need to work on this
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because I am not perfect at all all of us have things
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that we need to work on
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but it's to a point where I'm like okay I need
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to I need to fix this in my life especially
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when it comes to things like business or your work ethic right
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that is Dean as well let's talk about arrogance and ego oof now this is a big one.
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Something that I really used to struggle with is, I wouldn't say arrogance.
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I've never really been a person to have arrogance.
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I've always had respect for people, especially people that, you know, don't have as much and work a normal job.
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And I'm talking more about the service industry kind of thing.
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Like I've always had just utmost respect for people.
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But when it comes to ego, there's definitely times in my life where I've had a massive ego of thinking that things are promised to you,
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essentially, when God can take away everything from you.
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And you can't ever have ego.
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Always have to remind yourself that what God gives you, he can also take from you.
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And we are never better than anyone, especially when it comes to religiousness.
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Is that even a word?
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I hope it is.
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Because it's very prominent within religious communities, is people will go to the mosque, or go to the church, or read Quran, and you know,
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do extra prayers, and it seems like it's just this really religious person, but their soul is just, it's not kind, it's not warm,
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and I think that actually ruins a lot of religion for people, is because they have experienced or encountered interactions with people that,
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you know, do all these kinds of religious things, but then don't actually follow it in their character.
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And so that is something
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that a lot of us as a community need to check ourselves in the way that we treat people and also judgment.
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Oh my, judgment is probably the worst thing.
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If a person is doing something in public and it could be considered a sin, right?
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Why is it that that person gets attacked for what they're doing in public
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when so many people are doing so much worse probably in private?
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It's something that I've realized whenever I was, you know, before I put on hijab and I kind of had this, you know, negative connotation to Islam because of the culture.
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I was like, these people are so judgmental, so judgmental.
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And their souls are so dark sometimes.
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Like, where are the true people of faith?
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And it's because so many people have this ego and arrogance that they are like some higher being because they're religious.
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I am not higher than anyone or more religious than a person who doesn't wear hijab.
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There's so many people that aren't practicing faith, but that are kinder souls.
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So having this arrogance and ego doesn't make you a more righteous person.
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So it's like, I don't understand how a lot of us don't have the awareness.
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And it's just, it's honestly sad.
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Yeah, it's just it's just a different level of arrogance, especially when people get money They start to have more ego more arrogance more expectation.
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Oh my goodness Expectation having expectation over people in general.
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It doesn't even matter.
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It doesn't even matter about money having expectations over people Never expect anything from anyone only expect from your creator.
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That's it.
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Do not put Too much trust into people.
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Oh, that is my next point.
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Oh my gosh people
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relationships humans a lot of people don't realize
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when you are loving a human more than your creator do
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you not think that's like that's a form of putting a person before god
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when you are relying on people before god like god speaks about connection yes connection love people all these things
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but you are going to a person who god has created
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for help you're not going to your creator the one
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that made you the one that created the heavens and the earth
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but you're going to a person thinking that this person's going to solve your problems, that is also Dean versus Dunia.
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And going to a person, yes, can help.
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Asking for advice, asking for guidance, but after you have gone to your creator, and we're gonna touch on loneliness, because last year in New York,
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I was the loneliest I have ever been in my life.
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But I kind of did that to myself, to be honest.
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I literally isolated myself out there, thinking that I needed to run away from everyone.
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And, you know it was a terrible decision
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but it's fine i lived i learned and i can speak about it now
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because i'm at a point where i am still alone
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but i don't feel the same kind of loneliness i'm more
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content within myself i'm more finding love for my alone time all these things before i put
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so much emphasis on that i was lonely
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because people around me were getting married or everyone is having kids
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and it's like oh my gosh am i supposed to be doing this people are asking you know
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when When are you going to find a partner?
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Like, when are you going to get married?
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You know, all these things.
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And it's so apparent, especially in cultures that are, you know, maybe Arab or Hispanic or even white culture too.
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It's like, are you getting married soon?
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You know, are you having kids or like your time is running out?
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And it can become this thing where it just is so apparent in your mind.
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And then you try, okay?
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You try, you try.
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And then you realize, am I settling?
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I am literally settling.
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I am providing for myself or I am, you know Working on myself and this person who is coming into my life has not been working on themselves Or,
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you know, this person needs to be bringing something to my life
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that is going to be of benefit Whether
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that is compassion care love all these things
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But I don't want a person who's going to come into
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my life who is not A disciplined individual who is not ambitious who is not, you know Striving for more in their life or focused in their craft
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and so when you are put in a situation
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where you are listening to all this outside noise
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and you then think it's your reality where you do need
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that to happen you do need to get married you do
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need to have kids then you're like okay rushing into it
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and then you find yourself in situations that you should not be in
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because god really wants you to be on a alone chapter
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so you can build who you are
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and not make a decision based off of what other people want you to do
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and that's what's so apparent in communities it's like people get married young
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and then they get divorced or people get married
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and then they end up feeling more lonely in themselves
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because they are with the person who does not make them feel whole
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or seen or loved and it's like do not allow society to pressure you into things
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and i am not a person who is like you know women shouldn't get married
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or have kids and all these things one day god willing i want
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that for myself but i'm also at a point in my life where i do not attach to it anymore.
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I used to attach myself to it.
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I used to make it the very first thing on my mind.
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And y'all, when you are in a situation in life where you want something, you can't consistently think about it all the time or try to force it into your life.
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Otherwise, you are going to push it further and further away.
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I posted something on TikTok and I was talking about going through a lonely chapter in life.
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And sometimes you have to recognize
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that God is going to take you through a lonely chapter in life
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and when you're in this lonely chapter you have to be incredibly aware
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that it's literally placed by god for a reason it's not
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here to make you sad to make you isolated to make
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you alone it's here for you to truly develop your character
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and look within of where you can evolve and grow as a person
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and so when you approach life in that way
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that god is taking you through a chapter for a reason again connecting to dean not dunya
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because dunya is highlighting the things that are materialistic, like marriage, kids, all these things.
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Yes, it's a blessing, but it's also materialistic things.
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And so I know it's kind of crazy to call kids materialistic things, but it is.
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That's why God also says your children are one of the biggest tests
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because every single thing in this life is a test.
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And that's the difference between the deen and the dunya.
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It's like the deen is like trusting in God's plan for you, trusting in his time for you.
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And also it's about shifting your mindset.
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I also like listen to a lot of podcasts on this topic because it's It's about your state of mind, right?
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So if you want money in your life, you can't start thinking, you know, oh my gosh, I'm never gonna make money or the world is like falling apart and like,
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you know, I'm going to be successful and all these things or, you know, I haven't even started or I haven't done anything or I'm this certain age and, you know, all these things, you're thinking all these things in your mind, you're pushing it all away.
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You're pushing money away with these thoughts.
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You have to start shifting your mindset as I will attract money into my life.
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I will attract an amazing partner who is loyal, kind, hardworking into my life.
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I will attract children and all these things into my life.
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I will attract the career, whatever it is into my life when God wants to put it into my life.
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What is that?
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Dean, dunya, you are relying on Dean.
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You are relying on God's timing for you.
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And just know that God, again, has created you on this earth for a reason.
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He has given you so many things in the past that you've asked for.
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Why is he not gonna give you this?
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Why has he brought you this far just to leave you this far?
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Okay, so you have to shift your mindset.
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Don't become obsessed about the thing
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that you want in this world become obsessed with developing your relationship with god
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So then you will start to see why he is making you wait
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and then where you can involve and grow So when
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that blessing does come you are ready to receive it And
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so that's the shift that you have to have in your mind
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And so that's something that I changed in myself
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and i'm like all these opportunities All these blessings are coming into my life
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because I finally put my trust into god I stopped thinking about all these things and making it the main priority.
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I started working on myself.
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Work on your craft, work on your side hustles.
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Do things that truly fulfill you.
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Don't spend your time wasting it, scrolling on social media, talking to all your friends about having pointless conversations.
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Don't allow gossip into your mind.
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All these things are distractions from your purpose.
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And that's all dunya.
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because your purpose is essentially Dean if you look at it in
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that way of like my mission here on this earth is to figure out what my purpose is
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so I can go and do so much impact on this world
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so then when I do die one day I will look back
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and think I've done amazing work
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because I thought of my work as a form of worship
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I thought of my days as a form of worship my time as a form of worship to please God, because that is what we are here on this earth to do,
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is to leave a good impact, so we can look back and think, what have we done?
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And so now that we've covered all these topics, how can you go and do it?
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How can you have the mindset?
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How can you change your ways?
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I always talk about routine, and I'm a very big believer when it comes to signs, like that's a sign from God.
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Not everything, but when things are apparent, I always reflect and see where I go wrong if it's a situation in my life and I'm like, this is definitely a sign.
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Or I know this is what I'm supposed to be doing and it always falls down into your routine,
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sticking to a plan, being very intentional with your days.
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And by intentional, I mean being focused.
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That's really what it is, is being focused with your time because your time is precious and not everyone should have access to you.
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And so I didn't really cover modesty and I don't think I need to cover modesty because hijab,
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modesty, covering your beauty, it falls under all of this
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because essentially every single thing that I mentioned kind of comes down under instant gratification.
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Instant gratification is this urge to have validation.
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It's a feeling where you feel kind of fulfilled for a small moment.
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So it could be picking up your phone and watching something funny, for example.
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That's instant gratification.
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Someone calling you beautiful, instant gratification.
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Someone liking your picture.
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Someone giving you food, instant gratification.
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Money, instant gratification.
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And when you delay instant gratification as much as you possibly can,
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you start to detach from this world and form a stronger relationship with your creator,
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which then you start to see the world as a test, a true test, and you start living your days as a test.
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And that's something that I highly recommend you sit with
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and you think about what are all the ways in your life
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that you feel as if you are consistently relying on instant gratification.
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It's very apparent within like modesty.
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I would say mainly to and success the need to like show success And like don't get me wrong.
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I love nice things But what are the real things that make you feel whole in life?
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It's family.
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It's a good routine fitness your health Having food on the
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table the first sip of coffee in the morning a nice walk sitting with nature Like these are the things
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that make you truly feel fulfilled Everything else is you're gonna want the next thing
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And so I think that's mainly why I focus on charity too, is because it massively delays instant gratification.
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Yeah.
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One more thing I'll say about modesty.
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When you put on the hijab or when you start dressing modestly, the feeling of wanting attention or to be validated or to be looked at, it's not going to go away.
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It's human nature.
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It's something as women we love and we crave because that's how God designed us.
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But when you look at it as I am training myself to control the instant gratification,
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wanting to be validated, of wanting to be wanted consistently, to focusing, my love will come from the creator of the world.
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My love will come from myself.
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And when the person that is ready to come into my life, I will also have maybe a form of validation from that person.
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But it's in a way that is not going to negatively affect you.
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Because when you are validated from people that don't have sincere interest in you, in terms of wanting to marry you, or in terms of, you know,
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truly wanting to love you as a person, then it's empty at the end of the day.
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It's not going to last long.
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It's the instant gratification.
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So you are delaying instant gratification
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when you are not overly fixating on displaying your beauty or all of these things in the world.
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And so that's kind of how I look at it because yeah, it's, um, it's, it's kind of like, that's how I think of modesty.
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I don't think of it as just a hijab.
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I think of every single thing, success, life, uh, relationships, all these things as forms of instant gratification.
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Now I'm rambling on, but, um, yeah, I hope you guys enjoyed this video.
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I'm sorry.
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It's a bit of a rant.
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I hope you are having an amazing Ramadan
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and maybe by the time you watch this Ramadan will be ended or Ramadan will have ended.
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And yeah, I love you guys so much.
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Let me know what you guys thought about this video or
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if you want me to do any more topics in the future like this But um, yeah, I will see you in the next video.
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I'm filming my first ever podcast solo episode tomorrow It's about the why behind the podcast
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So i'm very excited
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because I feel like even though this video kind of felt
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like hard for me to do in terms of talking I
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don't know why I think you know what it is I'm about to like i'm about to start self-sabotaging
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because everything is actually going right and thank god
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and so when things start to go right is
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when I start to self-sabotage but I'm not going to allow that in my life right now.
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It's just, I can't even allow it.
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I've committed so much.
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So don't self-sabotage when things are going good.
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It's just a sign that God wants so much more for you and that you are capable of so much more.
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And so always remember that you have so much purpose in this life, invest into yourself, take care of yourself.
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Yeah, I love you guys and I'll see you in the next video.
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Vocabulary and speaking notes for this lesson
This B2 speaking lesson is built on the video “deen vs dunya - how to detach from this world”. This video has 457 sentences and 6007 words to shadow. The speech runs for 30:10. The speaker talks fast, about 199 words per minute, so expect linked and reduced sounds. 86% of the words are among the 3,000 most common in English; the rest is worth studying before you start.
Key vocabulary in this video
The 15 most advanced words in the video, with pronunciation and meaning:
| Word | Pronunciation | Meaning |
|---|---|---|
| gratification noun | /ˌɡɹætɪfɪˈkeɪʃən/ | The act of gratifying or pleasing, either the mind, or the appetite or taste. |
| deen noun | /diːn/ | religion; religiosity; the way of life of a pious Muslim |
| hereafter adverb | /hɪɹˈæftɚ/ | From now on. |
| strive verb | /ˈstɹaɪv/ | To try to achieve a result; to make strenuous effort; to try earnestly and persistently. |
| consume verb | /kənˈsum/ | To use up. |
| blessing noun | /ˈblɛs.ɪŋ/ | Some kind of divine or supernatural aid, or reward. |
| hijab noun | /hɪˈd͡ʒɑːb/ | A traditional headscarf worn by Muslim women, covering the hair and neck. |
| modesty noun | /ˈmɒd.ə.sti/ | The quality of being modest; having a limited and not overly high opinion of oneself and one's abilities. |
| arrogance noun | /ˈæɹ.ə.ɡəns/ | The state of being arrogant; a type of extreme or foolish pride in which someone feels much superior to another. |
| donate verb | /ˈdoʊˌneɪt/ | To make a donation; to give away something of value to support or contribute towards a cause or for the benefit of another. |
| mindset noun | /ˈmaɪn(d)ˌsɛt/ | A way of thinking; an attitude or opinion, especially a habitual one. |
| detach verb | /dɪˈtæt͡ʃ/ | To take apart from; to take off. |
| validate verb | /ˈvæl.ɪ.deɪt/ | To render valid. |
| worldly adjective | /ˈwɜː(ɹ)ldli/ | Concerned with human or earthly matters, physical as opposed to spiritual. |
| expectation noun | /ˌɛk.spɛkˈteɪ.ʃən/ | The act or state of expecting or looking forward to an event as about to happen. |
Phrasal verbs you will hear
| Word | Meaning |
|---|---|
| come back verb | To return to a place. |
| give up verb | To surrender (someone or something); to inform on (someone). |
| go through verb | To travel from one end of something to the other. |
| end up verb | To bring to a conclusion. |
| fall under verb | To belong to for purposes of categorization. |
| figure out verb | To come to understand; to discover or find a solution; to deduce. |
| look back verb | To think of (past events) in retrospect (in hindsight). |
| stand up against verb | To defy or challenge someone |
Sentences worth repeating
Short, complete lines from the video that you can reuse in everyday conversation:
- Why can't I talk?
- Why don't we focus on this life?
- Is this what is destined for us?
- Am I doing that every single day?
- It's like, are you getting married soon?
Grammar in this video
The structures the speaker uses most, with the exact words from the video:
| Structure | In the video |
|---|---|
| “Used to” used to + verb — a past habit or state that is no longer true | used to struggle · used to attach · used to make |
| Present perfect have/has + past participle — a past action that still matters now | has just been · have committed · have approached |
| Passive voice be + past participle — the focus is on what happens, not who does it | are not satisfied · aren't driven · is destined |
| Relative clauses who / which + clause — extra information about a person or thing | person who doesn · person who god · person who is |
Pronunciation to watch
The speaker uses 160 contractions and reduced forms, such as I'm, don't, you're. Say them the short way, as you hear them.
- The “th” sounds: ethic /ˈɛθ.ɪk/, empathy /ˈɛmpəθi/
- The “sh” and “zh” sounds: gratification /ˌɡɹætɪfɪˈkeɪʃən/, expectation /ˌɛk.spɛkˈteɪ.ʃən/, intentional /ɪnˈtɛnʃənəl/, gosh /ɡɑːʃ/, sabotage /ˈsæb.əˌtɑʒ/
- Long words — get the stress right: gratification /ˌɡɹætɪfɪˈkeɪʃən/, expectation /ˌɛk.spɛkˈteɪ.ʃən/, materialistic /məˌtɪəɹ.i.əˈlɪs.tɪk/, intentional /ɪnˈtɛnʃənəl/, validation /ˌvæl.əˈdeɪ.ʃən/
How to practise with this video
- Listen to the whole video once without speaking and note the words you do not know.
- Start at 0.75× speed, shadow it sentence by sentence, then go back to normal speed once it feels easy.
- Record yourself and compare with the original, paying attention to words like gratification, deen, hereafter.
What is the Shadowing Technique?
Shadowing is a science-backed language learning technique originally developed for professional interpreter training and popularized by polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. The method is simple but powerful: you listen to native English audio and immediately repeat it out loud — like a shadow following the speaker with just a 1–2 second delay. Unlike passive listening or grammar drills, shadowing forces your brain and mouth muscles to simultaneously process and reproduce real speech patterns. Research shows it significantly improves pronunciation accuracy, intonation, rhythm, connected speech, listening comprehension, and speaking fluency — making it one of the most effective methods for IELTS Speaking preparation and real-world English communication.