Shadowing Practice: Respectful people are attractive. - Learn English Speaking with Video
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I used to think attraction was about confidence, like being bold, saying the right things, having that presence, or being the loudest person in the room.
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But the more I meet people, the more I realize that's not what actually sticks with you, it's the people who are respectful.
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And I realize it's also something that you can notice right away.
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It's subtle, but it's in the way they talk to people, the way they listen to others carefully,
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the way they stay humble even when there's more to gain, the kind that don't interrupt you to prove a point,
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and the kind that don't make everything about themselves.
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And instead, they just let you be heard, and for that reason, it feels rare.
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I feel like in my life, I've been around so many different people.
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People who are funny, confident, outgoing, charismatic, calm.
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They all had their own charms and traits that made them attractive.
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But one thing that they all had in common that made them stand out was the fact that they were respectful.
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When you think about it, you could be funny and have no respect for people.
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You could be confident but let it turn into arrogance.
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And you could also be charismatic but have bad personalities.
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But when you have that ability to make others feel seen, that alone makes people feel valued and can make you attractive.
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It just feels different because you can tell that they're not trying to impress other people.
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They don't make you feel small for saying something simple.
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They don't rush you in conversations.
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And as a result, you leave those interactions feeling good because of how they responded to your stories and thoughts.
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I think people misunderstand what respect looks like.
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It's not just being polite.
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It's not just saying please and thank you.
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It's how you make people feel when you don't need anything from them.
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That's the real test because anyone can be nice when there's something to gain.
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But respectful people stay consistent with how they stay mindful even with the smallest things.
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They pay attention to seemingly trivial things and make you feel so valued.
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Back when I was in high school, I was very insecure.
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I was very insecure of my identity, where I'm from, my physical appearance, my English accent, my height, just basically everything.
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I always felt like I didn't have everything that others had.
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Like I didn't feel smart enough.
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I didn't think I was athletic enough.
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And as a result, I always felt so useless because I thought I was a disappointment to my family.
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Anything that someone did for me, I over thanked them.
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And in that way, I never kind of valued myself because I thought I didn't deserve it.
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It wasn't obvious because I was hiding them well enough for people to not notice.
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Then there was this one girl, she was older than me.
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We had one same class together but she always made me feel
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so valued and just be proud of myself because of the way she talked to me.
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She used to do this thing whenever I joked around.
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She smiled, she looked at me straight in my eyes
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and told me how funny she thinks I am and how she respects the person I'm becoming.
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And how she can tell that I try to bring so much joy to others around me.
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And in that way, she told me that I was a good person.
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Even when I felt so insecure, even though I felt so worthless every day,
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she saw the best version of me and wanted me to keep that same energy.
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You know, although that might sound confusing and it could easily come across as someone who's trying too hard,
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in those moments, I felt her intention and I felt so much respect from her.
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The reason, I don't know why, I don't know what she saw in me,
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but the fact that she believed in me so much created this non -existent confidence in me and as a result, made me believe in myself.
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Just by giving me respect and cheering me on, I could fight off whatever inner demon that I was dealing with at the time.
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And that's why I think respectful people are so attractive and most importantly, they're so valuable because it's not about surface level charm.
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It's about treating people well and paying attention.
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Like whatever people are saying are worth listening to and that kind of feeling stays with people.
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I think you're drawn to them because they feel mature.
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They don't seem to be moved by this unnecessary trauma but things that really matter like genuine friendship,
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relationship, family or kindness not because they're trying to impress you but because they're present.
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They're aware and they're intentional.
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I feel like in a world where everyone's distracted where everyone's trying to say more, be more or do more where there's so much overthinking,
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stress, anxiety and just unhappiness, someone who simply knows how to be respectful toward others and just respect oneself, that's different.
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It means you're aware enough to care, to listen a little more, to be a little more mindful, and to not make everything about yourself.
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At the end of the day, people might forget the exact words of what you said.
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They might forget what you did, but they always remember how you made them feel.
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And if being around you makes them feel respected, that's definitely something that they don't come across often.
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And that's what makes respectful people attractive.
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Thanks for watching the video.
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Today was actually the first day of my internship.
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It's full of excitement.
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It's a new environment, new people, new skills that I'll be going to learn, new tools that I'll be using,
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and I'm super excited for how this journey will turn out.
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So thanks for watching the video, and I hope you guys are doing well wherever you are, and I'll see you guys next time.
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Peace.
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Vocabulary and speaking notes for this lesson
This speaking lesson is built on the video “Respectful people are attractive”. The speaker keeps coming back to these words: respectful, respect, felt, valued, attractive. This video has 71 sentences and 1010 words to shadow. The speech runs for 4:03. The speaker talks fast, about 249 words per minute, so expect linked and reduced sounds. 86% of the words are among the 3,000 most common in English; the rest is worth studying before you start.
Key vocabulary in this video
15 words from the video worth learning, with pronunciation and meaning:
| Word | Pronunciation | Meaning |
|---|---|---|
| respectful adjective | /ɹɪˈspɛkt.fl̩/ | Marked or characterized by respect |
| insecure adjective | /ɪnsəˈkjʊɹ/ | Not secure. |
| charm noun | /t͡ʃɑɹm/ | An object, act or words believed to have magic power (usually carries a positive connotation). |
| impress verb | /ɪmˈpɹɛs/ | To affect (someone) strongly and often favourably. |
| consistent adjective | /kənˈsɪs.tənt/ | Of a regularly occurring, dependable nature. |
| rush verb | /ɹʌʃ/ | To hurry; to perform a task with great haste, often not properly or without thinking carefully. |
| carefully adverb | /ˈkɛɹf(ə)li/ | With care; attentively, circumspectly. |
| anxiety noun | /æŋˈzaɪ.əti/ | An unpleasant state of mental uneasiness, nervousness, apprehension and obsession or concern about some uncertain event. |
| skill noun | /skɪl/ | A capacity to do something well; a technique, an ability, usually acquired or learned, as opposed to abilities that are regarded as innate. |
| friendship noun | /ˈfɹɛn(d)ʃɪp/ | The condition of being friends. |
| genuine adjective | /ˈd͡ʒɛn.juˌɪn/ | Belonging to, or proceeding from the original stock; native. |
| intention noun | /ɪnˈtɛnʃn̩/ | A course of action that a person intends to follow. |
| interaction noun | /ˌɪn.təˈɹæk.ʃən/ | The situation or occurrence in which two or more things act upon one another to produce an effect; the effect resulting from such a situation or occurrence. |
| mature adjective | /məˈt͡ʃʊ(ə)ɹ/ | Fully developed; grown up in terms of physical appearance, behaviour or thinking; ripe. |
| wherever | /(h)wɛɹˈɛvɚ/ | Regardless of the place in, at or to which. |
Phrasal verbs you will hear
| Word | Meaning |
|---|---|
| come across verb | To change sides; to cross over to work for the opposition. |
| fight off verb | To succeed in defeating a challenge, or an attack. |
| stand out verb | To jut out, protrude (from a surface etc.). |
| turn out verb | To end up; to result. |
Sentences worth repeating
Short, complete lines from the video that you can reuse in everyday conversation:
- They don't rush you in conversations.
- It's not just saying please and thank you.
- I didn't think I was athletic enough.
Grammar in this video
The structures the speaker uses most, with the exact words from the video:
| Structure | In the video |
|---|---|
| “Used to” used to + verb — a past habit or state that is no longer true | used to think · used to do |
| Relative clauses who / which + clause — extra information about a person or thing | people who are · someone who simply |
| Passive voice be + past participle — the focus is on what happens, not who does it | be heard · be moved |
Pronunciation to watch
The speaker uses 29 contractions and reduced forms, such as don't, they're, didn't. Say them the short way, as you hear them.
- The “th” sounds: athletic /æθˈlɛt.ɪk/, worthless /ˈwɜːθ.ləs/
- The “sh” and “zh” sounds: rush /ɹʌʃ/, friendship /ˈfɹɛn(d)ʃɪp/, intention /ɪnˈtɛnʃn̩/, interaction /ˌɪn.təˈɹæk.ʃən/, attraction /əˈtɹækʃn̩/
- Long words — get the stress right: anxiety /æŋˈzaɪ.əti/, interaction /ˌɪn.təˈɹæk.ʃən/, unnecessary /ʌnˈnɛs.əˌsɛɹ.i/, importantly /ɪmˈpɔɹ.tənt.li/, disappointment /ˌdɪsəˈpɔɪntmənt/
How to practise with this video
- Listen to the whole video once without speaking and note the words you do not know.
- Start at 0.75× speed, shadow it sentence by sentence, then go back to normal speed once it feels easy.
- Record yourself and compare with the original, paying attention to words like respectful, insecure, charm.
What is the Shadowing Technique?
Shadowing is a science-backed language learning technique originally developed for professional interpreter training and popularized by polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. The method is simple but powerful: you listen to native English audio and immediately repeat it out loud — like a shadow following the speaker with just a 1–2 second delay. Unlike passive listening or grammar drills, shadowing forces your brain and mouth muscles to simultaneously process and reproduce real speech patterns. Research shows it significantly improves pronunciation accuracy, intonation, rhythm, connected speech, listening comprehension, and speaking fluency — making it one of the most effective methods for IELTS Speaking preparation and real-world English communication.