Shadowing Practice: Time to get confident baby - Learn English Speaking with Video

2023 is about to come

and we are gonna get confident right now right here hi guys my name is this

and welcome back to my channel let's get right into it

first things first i want you to create a would you

buy it mentality what do i mean by this would you buy it mentality is basically

when you are a business owner and you're selling a product

or you're selling a service that product and service has to be

so good to you right that you would even buy it yourself

because if you would buy it yourself you can sell

that thing with conviction and people are much more likely to buy it

and actually feel some authenticity in what you're selling to you to create this mentality about yourself look at yourself

and think like would i date myself yeah

because at the end of the day if we really become comfortable with ourselves

if we really work on ourselves if we become self -aware about our pros

and cons we can become a person that is attractive to ourselves

and other people will be attracted to that when you would date yourself

when you can literally look at yourself

and be like i would date myself i literally think

that i'm an amazing human being other people will feel the same way focus on what you can control

so your self -talk your words how you talk about yourself

how you talk about other people your attitude towards life is it oh no i'm the victim

or you know what i'm gonna fix this i do not

see problems i see solution look at on social media are you looking at things

that make you insecure and that make you compare yourself

or are you looking at things

that can educate you where you can learn new skills the people

that lift you up make you feel more positive foods you eat what you put inside of your body um

if you constantly eat fast food processed foods that make you feel sluggish

and bad about yourself or

if you actually want to put good nutrients inside of your body

because you care about this vessel your boundaries how firm are

you on them how how do you allow people to treat

you are you serious about them you can have boundaries

but not be serious about them

if you say for example right this is my boundary i do not like it

when you do this to me but then that person does

that and you just allow them to do it then okay you're not serious about your boundaries so

that person is also not going to be serious about your

boundaries do not focus on things you cannot control like um

your past your past doesn't exist the past is literally not

there it's only a thought in your head it does not

exist that's it um your future you also don't control your

future we do not know what is going to happen we

can try our best to make it the best possible outcome

but at the end of the day we do not know

what is going to happen other people's beliefs other people's opinions

who cares literally who cares about them like it's about you you are the main character of your life

so start acting like it other people say

or think about you you know my mom she said this to me uh there was a saying

and she said liz you can go live flat on the ground for people to walk all over you

and those people will start complaining

that you're not flat enough it's true people you cannot control

them not their beliefs not their thinking not it's none of

your business what other people think about you is none of

your business confidence is about knowing who you are right um

if you do not know who you are

or how to define yourself focus on who you are not i for example i know

that i am not a eventual person

so i'm i'm the opposite like i forgive i do not forget

but i forgive people i know that i'm not a lazy person i know

that if i want something i will work for it i'll have the discipline to work for it

and actually get what i want so

that i'm not an uneducated person i like educating myself i

like learning new skills i like listening to other people's opinions

and other people's beliefs i like always making my mind bigger

and bigger and more open to new things take a paper and Write down, who am I not?

And that way you can become more self -aware of yourself.

What you can also do is go on Pinterest and look up shadow work questions.

Shadow work is basically trying to figure out who you are and it relates to childhood.

You'll see all these questions pop up.

Write them down and answer the questions for yourself.

So you can create that connection with yourself.

Create routines see why school why we are in school is

so amazing is

because we have a routine we wake up at a certain

time we have to go to school then in school we have this left then we have a break whatever

and it's a whole routine our lives are based on routines

but then when we get out of school we're left out

and like adulthood and we don't know what to do

so now it's for us to decide what do we do

but in order to make your life more structured you need to create new routines for yourself.

For example, I wake up, I like to go to yoga.

i like to go walk around

and i like to do a gratitude meditation i like to do my skincare i like to shower myself

that is routine for me

and then i also have a nighttime nighttime routine before i go to bed right

so i have routines immediately when i wake up

because it sets me up for a really organized day obviously

you won't feel like doing this every single day i have days where i don't follow my routines

or something happens you can never predict things um this is okay right

but i have the basis of what my routine is so even

if i don't feel like it i can kind know what i'm going to do the next day

because i have a base routine it's your money up not your funny up listen

if you are out of a job right now just go

find a job anywhere anything literally the one thing i have always done in my life is i have worked

because i wanted money i do not feel confident in myself

if i don't have money

because uh i like i can't i can't even go out

with my friends i'm not the kind of person i i will allow my friends just to pay for me

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and stuff no i will stay home literally if i have no money

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because i do not want to go out

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and then i'm constantly paying for me um

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so i i see confidence in my successes i see confidence in um the fact

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that i have job i have money it doesn't matter what

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kind of job you have okay it doesn't have to be

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your career job whatever something to make your money i literally cleaned toilets

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when i was 12 i would literally buy like waffles in a whole pack right

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and i would sell like one waffle door to door i would like decorate it

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and i would sell it door to door for like hours

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and hours on end like knocking on every single door

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and i would make money

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that way i would always focus on like trying to create money for myself people with this kind of drive

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that have always had that they really do become successful

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because they do not care about oh it's an embarrassing job

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whatever no i worked even with grown men carrying heavy boxes

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because that would make me money now at the end of the day

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when i did accomplish like i am very well accomplished thank god um

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and i did everything i want i can walk with confidence

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because i really feel proud of myself and i am confident in myself

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and in my abilities

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because i can see liz you can do whatever literally whatever i set my mind to i can accomplish

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because i have the drive and i have the will

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and the art of communication communication is one of the biggest

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reasons people can be confident people can be successful your the way you talk to people is very important

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because you can leave an imprint on them

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and you never know who you're talking to it can be a person

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that can literally change your life overnight because people always focus on the outward

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and like the physical appearance which is also important i'm not saying that's not important

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but physical will only get you so far the way you talk to people

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and the way you make people feel when they talk to you is a big big

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positive thing and is a thing that will get you

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so far in life i remember um i was talking to my neighbor once um

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when i was uh living in the country where i grew up

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and i was just talking to her i never talked to her before

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and she literally at the end of my conversation she stopped

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me she's like liz you should literally do something with communication

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because the way you talk is insane like literally you should do a career

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that has something to do with communication and before

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that like i did at

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that time i didn't know i wanted to do like i was going to do youtube

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or things like that you know and i'm like oh okay

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so my communication is very communication is important in all aspects

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of life your relationship everyone who has been in a long

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-term relationship knows it comes all it all comes down to communication

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if you are not able to communicate correctly with your partner

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the relationship will also not last family friends everyone bosses every

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single person around you you should learn how to communicate with people um i have read books about this

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so one book that helped me is the art of people

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and the other one is how to win friends

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and influence people these two books are very good about communication

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and how can you learn to communicate better literally go out

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and socialize with people you can learn all the books you want you can get all the knowledge you want

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but at the end of the day if you do not mingle with people

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and if you don't don't surround yourself with different types of people

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and talk to them you cannot put this into practice

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and you will fail at this so

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if you talk to different people you will see these people

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are kind of weird they have weird quirks everyone is kind of different different cultures different mentalities also

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when you travel a lot you see this um

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but then you also learn like oh okay with this person i have to be like this

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because in life we have to be kind of like a chameleon you cannot act the same way with everyone

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because it will not be received the same way you know people have different cultures different beliefs

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so what you for example say to a very open -minded person

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You cannot say it to a very religious person because it will not be received the same way.

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It's not that you're not being authentic to yourself.

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No, it's more that there should be certain respect also with other people and their beliefs.

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When you go out and you talk to lots of people, male, female, you will learn so much.

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Not only about them, but also about yourself in the way you react to them, in the way you are able to communicate with them.

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Start wearing glasses and look people in the eyes.

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And this is a practice.

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Why? basically I grew up

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and I was always told to look down always told to look down look down

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so that was ingrained in my mind I always have to look down now listen

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if you're in a business setting of your or

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if you're just talking you will look like so insecure

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if you're looking down and you are not able to look

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that person in the eyes it's insane it's like literally a killer

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so what you need to do start wearing glasses outside make them like I have like really black glasses

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and i would wear them and i would start looking people in the eyes

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when they're walking by obviously they cannot see that i'm looking at them so i felt more comfortable

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um with practicing this i actually started to feel more comfortable

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to look at people whilst i'm talking whilst i'm in a meeting

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so um this thing really helped me wear glasses

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and start looking people in the eye by doing things you find cringe

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or uncomfortable in public

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so basically i find it very i used to find it

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very cringy to like record a tiktok video whilst i'm walking outside of myself

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or anything and i would be like get ashamed immediately right

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but i started to be like you know what let's just do it

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and like you can get red if you want it doesn't matter you continue

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because that way you are teaching yourself that it's okay this is not something

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so big and at the end of the day those people do not care they're not looking at you

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and the more you do that the less things you will have

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that you will feel uncomfortable about another thing is your body

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language make sure you like look up look up that's

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so important shoulders back but it doesn't have to be crazy

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but make sure you're not walking like this you know slouchy

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look at this how did this look it doesn't look confident

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but look how i'm standing like chest up shoulders back

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and you're you literally talk like this talk with your hands

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make sure you're not scared to take up the room

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when you walk somewhere don't constantly look on your phone put

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your phone away look around start walking with your head up high uh

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when you enter a room don't look on your phone don't look down

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when you enter it don't like hide away no open the door

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and enter the room look around

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and then say hi can i have a table please i'm

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so delusional listen i if you could go into my mind

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and if you could see what i think

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that i can accomplish for myself you would call me crazy today

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but the people

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that called me crazy before for what i for what i

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have right now are all saying oh wow she actually did it

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so when you are delusional and you actually believe

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that what you're trying to do

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and it has to be a good thing i'm not saying do like bad stuff

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and become delusional about that no no no a good goal

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that you want for yourself and you're

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so delusional about you know what no matter what i'm gonna achieve this you are going to achieve this

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because it's the energy you're radiating it's what you are manifesting it's what you're telling yourself

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and our brain is the most powerful thing ever what you

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believe about yourself will be your reality even the way

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that you think about yourself can affect other people's reality about you

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because i have noticed when i am walking out

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and i look at myself and i'm oh damn i look fine today

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and i'm really happy about the way i look other people start to compliment me a lot

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but when i have like a day where i just feel uncomfortable

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and i don't really feel that good

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and i just want to be you know in my little shell

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but i still have to be out i can see the

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reaction from people is totally different as well literally the way

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you think about yourself affects other people's reality as well listen to meditations affirmations um

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that make you feel confident i do this

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when i am doing my skincare or whatever i have this uh one affirmation uh

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or meditation whatever that i listen to i really like it i'm gonna put it down below

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and it's basically like constantly like uh saying like you're beautiful things like

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that but it it doesn't really matter

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because you can say like oh no that's toxic positivity no you're training your brain to listen to something constantly

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and if i am listening to something

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that says to me constantly i'm beautiful i'm beautiful i'm beautiful listen i'm gonna believe i'm beautiful just

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because i'm constantly like listening to this it's the same way

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if i would listen to a meditation or affirmation that says I'm ugly constantly, I would also start to believe that.

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So, and the brain is wired to believe negativity over positivity.

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so we ourselves already tell ourselves uh what what is wrong with us constantly

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so to refresh your brain listen to something

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that will actually lift you up another thing is

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when you are walking around put on some music

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that makes you feel confident

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or even you wake up in the morning put on some music

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that makes you feel confident stand in front of the mirror

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start dancing you know this raises your vibrations as well

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so instantly you will become more attractive

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and um also it just makes you feel comfortable with yourself

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so listen to that even whilst you're walking

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if i just uh like put on a badass song

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and i'm walking honey i feel like i literally those streets were made by me literally start making decisions

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that are best for you a confident person does what is

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best for them people even like to call them selfish no they're not selfish they always know

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that their needs have to be put forward first because they know

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that they are the most important person in their own lives i have like this friend

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and he's extremely extremely wealthy like really really wealthy

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and uh one time i was invited for dinner

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and um there were like a couple other people there

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and there was like also a producer there

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and this producer guy was constantly like talking to my friend like oh yeah

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and and there's this project that lava

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and like really trying to impress my friend like constantly constantly

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it went on for 30 minutes i felt bad for this producer

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so i started to give him like yeah like i am interested

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because my friend who's not giving any reaction at all like nothing

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and then after

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that guy finished talking i swear my friend didn't say a

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word to him he finished talking this was after 30 minutes he looks at him

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and he says after 5 p .m i do not talk business

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and he just continues with his dinner i was so shocked

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because i was literally like oh my god how powerful was

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that he does not accept anyone to cross his boundaries

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and that's also honestly why this person is

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so successful even in the ways you eat what you choose

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to put in your body what you choose to watch everything

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every single time you choose to do something it's a decision you decide what is best for you

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and you start making those decisions because

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that way you'll start to trust yourself more

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if you make the right decisions

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that way you will also become more confident in yourself envy

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and comparison is believing

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that you cannot have it okay listen i have never been a really envious person ever

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if someone became successful or or someone like had something i would always see

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that as motivation because i would look at it i was like oh my god yes

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so i can accomplish that as well

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if they can do it i can do it as well you know um envy is literally thinking

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that you cannot do it or you do not deserve it

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but that is not true you will never miss out on what is meant for you

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and that is very peaceful if that person has a certain thing at that age

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that is what was meant for them what you have right now is what was meant for you

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and you have to create peace with

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that don't focus on what they have focus on what you have

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and believe that you can accomplish it believe that you deserve

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that as well and see it as motivation see confidence is not a certain look right

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so create an aesthetic for yourself

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that you feel most comfortable in really look at your style look at who you are

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and start to look for different aesthetics you can look this on pinterest like different aesthetics whatever

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and choose the one that is most your vibe for example

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if you feel more comfortable with a classy aesthetic if you feel more comfortable with um like you know those

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sporty clothes you feel more comfortable with like baggy style whatever it is

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that you like as an aesthetic confidence is feeling comfortable in

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yourself it's you don't have to create this fake aesthetic

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that you don't feel comfortable in sometimes i myself i don't feel comfortable in dresses

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or or these things you know so

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if i don't feel comfortable other people would see it

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and i look quite insecure because i'm not comfortable in what i'm wearing um

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but other days i am comfortable so then i do choose that aesthetic

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so start to think like what is my vibe what is my aesthetic do not force yourself in certain things

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that you do not like because it will show

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that you're forcing it and that you're not being authentic to yourself no whatever

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that is that you like if even

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if you like to more darker styles like an emo aesthetic that's also

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so cool if you're confident in that besides all the aesthetics

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keep yourself clean and well groomed this is

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so important make sure your hair is clean um make sure

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you you take care of your skin make sure you take

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care of what you put in your body uh shower all these things are

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so important um make sure you you have your dental checks make sure you go to the hospital

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when something is really wrong um just make sure you keep up with your health

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and well -being because

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that is one of the most important thing healthy from the

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inside beautiful from the outside sometimes you might be insecure

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because you think oh i'm not getting enough attention whatever it

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might literally be the environment you live in i have known many women

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that have moved countries

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and were shocked by how beautiful they found them in those

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other countries you know um i had the same experience like

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obviously um i think i am genuinely an attractive person

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but some people are more shocked by my attractiveness than others

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and uh it can be like other nationalities

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that look at me a lot like whoa you know

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and then i can go like somewhere else for example where they have different beauty standards

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and there i am not that attractive become comfortable with your body

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and realize that no one is perfect listen no matter how much i try to like look my best

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and whatever i know i will never be perfect there will always be someone out there

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that is more beautiful than me um and i am okay with

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that there will always be someone either

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that is smarter than me funnier than me everything like it can explain things better than me whatever

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but they're not me and that's it

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and that's good enough for me i am me with with things

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that i cannot fix like there's even like things physically

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that i don't like or

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that i am like oh like you know i would much rather prefer

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that it was not there but still i just accept it

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because what can i do about it like i literally cannot there's certain things

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that you just cannot change like even

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if you try to do plastic surgery whatever certain things you cannot change certain things are genetics

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and whatever so become comfortable with that and realize

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that you will never be perfect no one is perfect actually draining to constantly strive for something

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that is just not there stop like thinking

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that oh perfection exists no there's even this model she was talking about the fact

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that she was so beautiful already like on camera stuff she said the way they edit my photos

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when like um they release it is insane like i have literally cried about how they release my pictures

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because they completely edit everything it doesn't even look like me

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anymore that's why we we get a false image of of

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what is supposed to what we're supposed to look like

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but nobody looks like

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that it's literally an ai like it doesn't exist also become

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comfortable with your body by uh i for example i took

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belly dance classes oh my god i have never felt more

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comfortable in my body literally i don't know what it was

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but it was like this energy and the way you move your body it feels

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so good and comfortable and you walk out of there feeling

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so confident about yourself same way with yoga i was actually listening to a doctor

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that said that yoga is one of the best things a trauma survivor can do

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because they have seen that that was most effective with abuse survivors um

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because they learn to trust their body again they can see

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how their body can move um they they also yoga has breathing exercises so

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that makes them calm down as well yoga is very very

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good it's also very good to balance yourself completely from the

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inside out uncomfortable with your own company these days people do

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not want to be around themselves they constantly look for someone to hang out with

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or look for someone to date

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because they cannot be alone i honestly i'm the quite opposite

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i need time for myself i literally tell even my partner

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like please can you just leave me alone like i want to be alone

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and maybe just with my cat

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or something you know i really enjoy my own company

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because i really think

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that i am really amazing like honestly i would be my

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own best friend that's how much i enjoy my own company

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um i like to sit with myself sometimes i do nothing

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i just stay at a wall i like it it's fun to me

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but obviously do not take it to the extremes because

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when you are constantly alone you will isolate yourself

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and you will also not know how to deal with people anymore

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or how to socialize and that way you will become more insecure because

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when you are in a social setting you you you have anxiety you don't know how to talk to people

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and do this by taking yourself out on dates going on

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walks with yourself talking to yourself hugging yourself giving yourself a little kiss

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every single thing you can do looking at yourself in the mirror telling yourself you are

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so beautiful you are so smart you are

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so magnetic oh i love your aura treating yourself as you

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would someone you love sometimes i buy myself flowers sometimes i

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buy myself gifts um i like it not sit with people that constantly disrespect you

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um i used to do this and i used to always slide it off

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and be like oh they don't mean it that way whatever no

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because then when you actually make your voice hurt

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and you say like hey listen when they do something really big

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and you're like hey listen i didn't like that you did

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that to me and then they will call you sensitive

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and you're too emotional because you let all these other things slide before

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and you continue to engage with them whilst they were disrespecting

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you no i'm not saying after like a small little thing you you blow up

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and you leave whatever no but if there is continuous disrespect

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and continuous manipulation of this person telling you i will change

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and i will do this but the actions does not line up with what they're saying then you leave

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you do not sit somewhere where someone is disrespecting you you do not

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that is very that is a sign of very low self -worth

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because you can say i don't care

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but what you're actually saying is i don't care about myself don't get offended

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or threatened easily see i'm the person i don't like to get disrespected

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but i also not the kind of person

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that will get offended by anything and everything constantly

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and oh you have to walk around eggshells no i'm really chill you know

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but i have my boundaries

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and you will not cross my boundaries do not get threatened easily honey

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if you know who you are

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if you know what you're capable of no one can threaten

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you what will you do who are you you think i'm afraid no honey sit down give people their space

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if somebody says to you hey listen i don't want to hang out with you today

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or even your boyfriend says like hey listen like i need

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some space whatever don't immediately go freak out like oh my god why is

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that blah blah no sometimes people like to be alone

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and they need their own space to collect their thoughts we are still individuals even

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if you are in a relationship give people their space because

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if you're gonna latch on and be like why why whatever it looks

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so desperate no say okay fine have your space do whatever

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and you go do your own thing have your own space

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as well then realize you are the main character of your life

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if i even have to think about the fact that my sister

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or my other siblings or my mom like they have a own life

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that doesn't revolve around me i'm shocked

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because in my head it's literally all about me

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but then sometimes i sit back

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and i'm like huh wait they also think about themselves like

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that like it's in their head they also think about their own lives

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and that's just insane to me but realize

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that you are the main character of your life

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so start acting like it do what is best for you hang with people

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that want the best for you start taking opportunities

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that are the best for you

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because at the end of the day you are your main

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character you are living your life have expectations for other people

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and yourself and be unapologetic about it listen

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if you want something in a partner if you want something in friends

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if you want something looking for a boss or a job

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or whatever um yeah you can have expectations

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and you can you can ask for things don't let these people manipulate you into thinking

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that you're asking for too much no you're not asking for too much you're asking the wrong person

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and also have expectations for yourself say hey liz i for

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example liz i expect you to be like this i expect

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you to do this whatever blah blah people can say oh

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no that's being harsh on yourself no i want to have expectations for myself

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if i have no expectations what will i do i will do nothing

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so really write down

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and think about it what are your expectations for yourself how

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do you expect yourself to be how do you expect yourself

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to show up how do you expect yourself to act start doing gratitude meditation

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so i have been doing this now for the past month

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every single morning like it's a five minute one i will link

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that one down below as well and it's just in the morning i sit and i just

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think about how my body serves me

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because that's also what she says in the meditation

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and it really makes me feel so grateful

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and grateful people can look at what they have

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and how abundant they are so in

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that state you can attract more abundance realize

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that you create your own reality whatever you think that you deserve

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or whatever that you think that you can have you will attract

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and that's it if you think that you don't deserve a good relationship

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if you think that you don't deserve to have money

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if you think

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that you don't deserve to have beauty confidence all these things

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you will not have it you will simply not have it

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because you create your own reality whatever you want will happen

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because you will create

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that for yourself do what you can with what you have

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now do not think oh i don't have this i don't

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have no no no no no start focusing on what you do have and take what you do have

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to the next level like you can literally create from nothing you have billionaires today

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that came from being homeless these people do not complain these

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people actually do what they can with what they have

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and that's how you become successful that's how you become confident

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instead of constantly complaining see look at your situation be like

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okay this is what going on this is how i am

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and this is what i can do to fix it and

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or to create peace with

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that realize what kind of blessing you are start talking acting walking like a blessing

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because you are imagine being old and looking back at your younger self

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and thinking like oh my god why was i

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so insecure like i was i had everything why was i

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so insecure right that's

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so sad literally live your best life right now like enjoy

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it do silly things sometimes you will have such bad days

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but enjoy them as well at the end of the day

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when you're when you're older

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and you can look back at your life at least make sure you look back at a life

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that was worth living look back at it say like yeah i was

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that girl i was that girl anyways i love you guys

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so much i will see you in the next video and yeah I hope you guys learned something.

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Bye -bye!

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Vocabulary and speaking notes for this lesson

This video has 507 sentences and 5944 words to shadow. The speech runs for 31:18. The speaker talks fast, about 190 words per minute, so expect linked and reduced sounds. 88% of the words are among the 3,000 most common in English, so the vocabulary is easy to follow.

Key vocabulary in this video

15 words from the video worth learning, with pronunciation and meaning:

Word	Pronunciation	Meaning
routine noun	/ɹuˈtin/	A course of action to be followed regularly; a standard procedure.
boundary noun	/ˈbaʊndɹi/	The dividing line or location between two areas.
aesthetic adjective	/ɛsˈθɛ.tɪk/	Concerned with beauty, artistic effect, or appearance.
insecure adjective	/ɪnsəˈkjʊɹ/	Not secure.
accomplish verb	/əˈkɑm.plɪʃ/	To finish successfully.
expectation noun	/ˌɛk.spɛkˈteɪ.ʃən/	The act or state of expecting or looking forward to an event as about to happen.
meditation noun	/mɛdɪˈteɪʃn̩/	A devotional exercise of, or leading to, contemplation.
belief noun	/bɪˈliːf/	Mental acceptance of a claim as true.
whilst adverb	/waɪlst/	Often preceded by the: During the time; meanwhile.
yoga noun	/ˈjoʊ.ɡə/	Any of several Hindu or Buddhist disciplines aimed at training the consciousness for a state of perfect spiritual insight and tranquillity; especially a system…
disrespect noun	/dɪsɹɪˈspɛkt/	A lack of respect, esteem or courteous behavior.
shock noun	/ʃɔk/	A sudden, heavy impact.
insane adjective	/ɪnˈseɪn/	Exhibiting unsoundness or disorder of mind; not sane; utterly mad.
communicate verb	/kəˈmjuːnɪkeɪt/	To impart or transmit (information or knowledge) to someone; to make known, to tell.
uncomfortable adjective	/ʌnˈkʌm.fɚ.tə.bl̩/	Not comfortable; causing discomfort.

Phrasal verbs you will hear

Word	Pronunciation	Meaning
look down verb		To lower one's eyes; to direct one's look downwards.
go out verb		To leave, especially a building.
look up verb	/ˌlʊk ˈʌp/	To have better prospects.
walk around verb		To walk with no planned destination; to meander.
grow up verb		To mature and become an adult.
look around verb		To inspect a building or area.
wake up verb	/ˌweɪk ˈʌp/	To stop sleeping; to awake.
write down verb		To produce or set (something) down in writing; to record something.

Grammar in this video

The structures the speaker uses most, with the exact words from the video:

Structure	In the video
Conditional sentences if + clause, will/would + verb — a condition and its result	if i want something i will work · if you're just talking you will look · if i have no expectations what will i
“Used to” used to + verb — a past habit or state that is no longer true	used to find · used to do
Passive voice be + past participle — the focus is on what happens, not who does it	will be attracted · are based · will not be received
Present perfect have/has + past participle — a past action that still matters now	have always done · has been · have read

Pronunciation to watch

The speaker uses 139 contractions and reduced forms, such as I'm, don't, you're. Say them the short way, as you hear them.

The “th” sounds: aesthetic /ɛsˈθɛ.tɪk/, threaten /ˈθɹɛt.n̩/, aesthetics /ɛsˈθɛt.ɪks/, wealthy /ˈwɛl.θi/, authentic /ɔˈθɛn.tɪk/
The “sh” and “zh” sounds: accomplish /əˈkɑm.plɪʃ/, expectation /ˌɛk.spɛkˈteɪ.ʃən/, meditation /mɛdɪˈteɪʃn̩/, shock /ʃɔk/, delusional /dɪˈluːʒənəl/
Long words — get the stress right: expectation /ˌɛk.spɛkˈteɪ.ʃən/, communicate /kəˈmjuːnɪkeɪt/, uncomfortable /ʌnˈkʌm.fɚ.tə.bl̩/, mentality /mɛnˈtæləti/, delusional /dɪˈluːʒənəl/

How to practise with this video

Listen to the whole video once without speaking and note the words you do not know.
Start at 0.75× speed, shadow it sentence by sentence, then go back to normal speed once it feels easy.
Record yourself and compare with the original, paying attention to words like routine, boundary, aesthetic.

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