ฝึกพูดภาษาอังกฤษด้วยเทคนิค Shadowing จากวิดีโอ: Understanding EMOTIONAL DETACHMENT: the key to resilience
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I'm Dr. Orion Taraband, and this is Psych Hacks, Better Living Through Psychology.
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The topic of today's short talk is understanding emotional detachment.
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So I thought this episode might be necessary after conducting a
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recent consultation with a well -spoken young man who watched my episode, How to Love Without Emotional Attachment,
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and who came away with what I considered to be some misconceptions about my message.
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However, I reasoned that if this intelligent guy had these misconceptions, then probably other people did as well, and that maybe my message wasn't entirely clear.
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So I thought I would make a follow -up episode to critically examine emotional detachment, what it is and what it isn't.
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Emotional detachment is an incredibly useful skill.
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In fact, it might be the most important emotional survival strategy of which I am aware.
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And I approach the concept of emotional detachment through a Buddhist lens,
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namely through the realization that the universe is in a never -ending process of becoming.
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Everything in this world is ephemeral.
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Even now, the present moment is changing, is dying, is transforming into something else,
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which will itself change, die, and transform.
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Within this understanding, everything that we have will eventually be taken from us.
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So why cling?
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Permanence is an illusion in the world under the sun.
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Your property, your relationships, your incarnate being, you'll lose them all in the fullness of time.
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So how will you respond when it comes time to let them go?
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Will you give back what you had with gratitude for the time that you were allowed to spend with it?
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Or will you cling to it with an attachment that is as tenacious as it is futile?
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Futile because no amount of tenacity will succeed in holding something a moment longer than you possibly can.
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On the other hand, emotional detachment is a skill that facilitates surrender.
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And surrender is something that we will eventually have to do with respect to everything that we have been given, including our own lives.
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It's a way of holding things gently.
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And this is important because, as I discussed in my episode, Hold People Like Sand, the tighter you squeeze,
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the more what you're holding tends to slip through your fingers.
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Now, I need to be clear about something.
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Emotional detachment does not mean that you have no emotions.
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A complete absence of emotion, in my opinion, is not something we should be striving for.
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Unfortunately, many men do succeed in functionally divorcing themselves from their emotional experience.
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However, I believe that such men do so at great cost to themselves.
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This is because it generally requires some degree of self -violence in order to amputate a component of your lived experience.
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Of course, most men cannot do this completely, so they arrive at a place where the only emotion that they can consistently recognize is anger.
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Long periods of a kind of numb neutrality are punctuated periodically with intense episodes of anger and frustration.
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And that is no way to live life, my friends.
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For me personally, emotions make my life richer, more interesting, more enjoyable, more complex.
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I like having emotions, but I am also very emotionally detached.
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Emotional detachment does not mean that you sort of dissociate from your emotional experience
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or that you alienate yourself from your feeling sensitivity.
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We do not want to become unfeeling rocks.
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This is an extreme solution.
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That said, we also do not want the other extreme solution, which we might call emotional fusion.
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When a man is fused with his emotions, there is no space between his felt experience and his seat of being.
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In emotional fusion, the man is his emotional experience.
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If he feels something, he not only assumes that the emotion is justified, but that he must act on the emotion in some way.
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This person has to say his piece, or wears his heart on his sleeve, or generally rides the hedonic roller coaster.
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He's overjoyed when things are going well, and heartbroken and despondent when things don't go his way.
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Such men have no emotional detachment and little self -control.
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And this is a terrible way of moving through the world for many reasons.
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In the first place, your emotions are not always justified in as much as the model of reality from
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which your emotions arise may not be entirely aligned with that reality.
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And acting on the basis of a flawed model is very likely to create pain and suffering.
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And in the second place, emotions change even when they are justified.
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Emotions are like the weather.
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they're constantly shifting.
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Acting from a place of emotion often leaves you with consequences
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that far outlast the emotion that originally produced the impulse to act.
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And that's a very dangerous asymmetry.
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You can make a decision in anger or fear or hopelessness once that will permanently change the rest of your life.
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It's not fair, but that's the way it is.
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I don't do corporate sponsorships or product placements, so I really do rely on you guys to help me make all this happen.
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And I really do appreciate your support.
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Thank you.
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Now, what should we do instead?
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It's a better idea to find some middle path between these two dangerous extremes.
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And that middle path is emotional detachment.
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To begin with, it helps to not treat your emotions like they're precious.
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I discussed this in greater detail in my episode, Emotions Are Impersonal.
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People think emotions are personal because only they get to feel them.
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However, behind every emotion is a thought, and the thoughts that consistently create those emotions are impersonal.
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If I were to think the same thoughts and believe them to be true, then the same emotion would arise in me as well.
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So we don't have to consider emotions to be these inherently valuable jewels
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that are more meaningful or significant than other aspects of our experience.
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In my opinion, it's better to hold our emotions gently and to consider them in light of multiple sources of information,
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our reason, our senses, to decrease the likelihood that we're being misled.
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In this way, we can consider emotions to be a source of information among many other sources of information.
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And we can do this more easily by kind of observing our emotions at some remove,
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like you can remain still and unmoving in the seat of your being while simultaneously watching your emotions circulate through your body.
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That's what I mean by emotional detachment.
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It's like experiencing your emotions at arm's length.
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And this allows you to consider the information or even wisdom contained within them without allowing them to permeate your entire consciousness.
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If emotional fusion is like drowning and emotional amputation is like staying as far away from water as possible,
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then emotional detachment is like swimming.
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You're in the water, but you're not of the water.
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And this is useful because our emotions are actually really important sources of information for us.
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We typically need our emotions in order to make good decisions.
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Here's something you might find interesting.
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It's sometimes the case, usually as a consequence of some tumor or growth, that a person's limbic system,
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the portion of the brain responsible for emotional processing in mammals, must be surgically removed.
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As might be expected, these people don't experience emotions after these procedures,
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but perhaps more unexpected, they also develop a terrible time making decisions.
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Like if you were to put one of these people in the cereal aisle of a grocery store,
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they would spend hours debating what box of cereal to buy.
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They'll think, okay, this box is $4 .25 and has a net weight of 22 grams.
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Now, this one's a bit less expensive, but its net weight is proportionally lower, so the cost per gram is actually two cents higher.
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That said, it also has more niacin per serving,
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so the two cent per gram savings in the one case might be more than offset by the relative deficiency in niacin,
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and so on, and so on, and so on.
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Do you see what I'm getting at?
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In the absence of emotion, there is only factual information.
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And the human mind is actually not great at keeping a
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lot of factual information in its working memory at any one time.
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This creates information overload, which in turn leads to analysis paralysis.
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On the other hand, a normal person just walks down the cereal aisle and says,
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ooh, lucky charms, and throws it in his cart and keeps on moving.
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People have to make like 10 ,000 decisions a day.
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And most of these decisions don't really matter.
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This is where emotions come in.
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One of the primary functions of emotions is to serve as heuristics in decision making,
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allowing us to navigate the world by expending fewer cognitive resources.
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People who don't have access to their emotions struggle to make decisions.
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And that's because decision is an act of the will and has more to do with emotion than thought.
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So that's emotional detachment, the ability to observe your emotional experience at some remove.
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This will allow you to access the information contained within your emotions without necessarily acting upon them.
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You can feel the emotional impulse to act without relenting to it.
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This requires some measure of self -discipline, but like any other virtue, you strengthen it by practicing it.
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By not clinging to your own emotional experience, you will increasingly learn to allow things to come and go,
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which in turn will help you to be more present, more grateful, and ultimately more loving in your relationships.
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Hopefully that clears a few things up.
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What do you think?
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Does this fit with your own experience?
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Let me know in the comments below.
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As always, thank you for listening.
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บทเรียนฝึกพูดนี้ใช้วิดีโอ “Understanding EMOTIONAL DETACHMENT: the key to resilience” เป็นสื่อ คำที่ถูกพูดซ้ำบ่อยที่สุด: emotion, emotional, detachment, experience, episode วิดีโอนี้มี 130 ประโยค และ 1749 คำ สำหรับฝึกพูดตาม ช่วงที่มีเสียงพูดยาว 11:07 ผู้พูดพูดด้วยความเร็วเป็นธรรมชาติ ประมาณ 157 คำต่อนาที ใกล้เคียงกับบทสนทนาในชีวิตประจำวัน 83% ของคำอยู่ใน 3,000 คำที่ใช้บ่อยที่สุดในภาษาอังกฤษ ส่วนที่เหลือควรดูไว้ก่อนเริ่มฝึก
คำศัพท์สำคัญในวิดีโอนี้
คำที่ควรเรียนรู้ 15 คำจากวิดีโอ พร้อมคำอ่านและความหมาย:
| คำศัพท์ | คำอ่าน | ความหมาย |
|---|---|---|
| emotion คำนาม | /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/ | อารมณ์ |
| anger คำนาม | /ˈæŋɡə/ | วิโรธ |
| gram คำนาม | /ˈɡɹæm/ | กรัม |
| cereal คำนาม | /ˈsɪə.ɹɪ.əl/ | ธัญพืช |
| surrender คำกริยา | /səˈɹɛndə(ɹ)/ | ยอมแพ้, ทู้ |
| gently คำกริยาวิเศษณ์ | /ˈd͡ʒɛntli/ | เบา |
| consequence คำนาม | /ˈkɑn.sɪ.kwəns/ | ผล, ผลลัพธ์ |
| observe คำกริยา | /əbˈzɜːv/ | สังเกต |
| consultation คำนาม | /ˌkɑnsəlˈteɪʃən/ | การปรึกษา, การหารือ |
| attachment คำนาม | /əˈtæt͡ʃmənt/ | ความผูกพันทางจิตใจ |
| impulse คำนาม | /ˈɪmpʌls/ | แรงกระตุ้น |
| topic คำนาม | /ˈtɑpɪk/ | หัวข้อ, กระทู้ |
| necessarily คำกริยาวิเศษณ์ | /ˌnɛs.əˈsɛɹ.ə.li/ | ต้อง |
| relative คำนาม | /ˈɹɛl.ə.tɪv/ | ญาติ, ญาติพี่น้อง |
| suffer คำกริยา | /ˈsʌfɚ/ | ตรำ |
กริยาวลีที่คุณจะได้ยิน
| คำศัพท์ | ความหมาย |
|---|---|
| give back คำกริยา | คืน |
ประโยคที่ควรฝึกพูดซ้ำ
ประโยคสั้น ๆ ที่สมบูรณ์จากวิดีโอ ซึ่งนำไปใช้ในบทสนทนาประจำวันได้:
- It's your support that makes all of this possible.
- That's what I mean by emotional detachment.
- It's like experiencing your emotions at arm's length.
- Do you see what I'm getting at?
- Does this fit with your own experience?
ไวยากรณ์ในวิดีโอนี้
โครงสร้างที่ผู้พูดใช้บ่อยที่สุด พร้อมคำพูดจริงจากวิดีโอ:
| โครงสร้าง | ในวิดีโอ |
|---|---|
| Passive voice be + กริยาช่อง 3 — เน้นสิ่งที่เกิดขึ้น ไม่ใช่ผู้กระทำ | be taken · were allowed · have been given |
| Present perfect have/has + กริยาช่อง 3 — เหตุการณ์ในอดีตที่ยังเกี่ยวข้องกับปัจจุบัน | have been given · you've derived · you've gotten |
| Relative clauses who / which + อนุประโยค — ข้อมูลเพิ่มเติมเกี่ยวกับคนหรือสิ่งของ | man who watched · someone who might · People who don |
การออกเสียงที่ควรระวัง
ผู้พูดใช้รูปย่อและรูปลดเสียง 22 ครั้ง เช่น don't, you're, I'm ให้พูดแบบสั้นตามที่ได้ยิน
- เสียง “sh” และ “zh”: emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/, fusion /ˈfjuː.ʒən/, consultation /ˌkɑnsəlˈteɪʃən/, consciousness /ˈkɑnʃəsnəs/, proportion /pɹəˈpɔɹʃən/
- คำยาว — ลงเสียงหนักให้ถูกพยางค์: consistently /kənˈsɪstəntli/, consultation /ˌkɑnsəlˈteɪʃən/, necessarily /ˌnɛs.əˈsɛɹ.ə.li/, priority /pɹaɪˈɒɹɪti/, incredibly /ɪŋˈkɹɛdɪbli/
เสียงที่คนไทยมักออกเสียงยาก:
- เสียงท้ายคำ — ออกเสียงให้ครบ ไม่เปลี่ยนเป็นตัวสะกดแบบไทย: cereal /ˈsɪə.ɹɪ.əl/, skill /skɪl/, absence /ˈæb.s(ə)n̩s/, consequence /ˈkɑn.sɪ.kwəns/, observe /əbˈzɜːv/
- /v/ — ไม่ใช่ /w/ ให้ฟันบนแตะริมฝีปากล่าง: observe /əbˈzɜːv/, relative /ˈɹɛl.ə.tɪv/, arrive /əˈɹaɪv/, survival /sɚˈvaɪ.vəl/, divorce /dɪˈvɔːs/
- /z/ — เสียงก้อง ไม่ใช่ /s/: observe /əbˈzɜːv/, arise /əˈɹaɪz/, wisdom /ˈwɪzdəm/, examine /ɪɡˈzæmɪn/, lens /lɛnz/
วิธีฝึกกับวิดีโอนี้
- ฟังวิดีโอให้จบหนึ่งรอบโดยยังไม่ต้องพูด แล้วจดคำที่ยังไม่รู้จัก
- เริ่มที่ความเร็ว 0.75× พูดตามทีละประโยค แล้วกลับไปใช้ความเร็วปกติเมื่อเริ่มคล่อง
- อัดเสียงตัวเองแล้วเทียบกับต้นฉบับ โดยสังเกตคำอย่าง emotion, anger, gram เป็นพิเศษ
เทคนิค Shadowing คืออะไร?
Shadowing เป็นเทคนิคการเรียนรู้ภาษาที่ได้รับการรับรองทางวิทยาศาสตร์ พัฒนาขึ้นสำหรับการฝึกนักแปลมืออาชีพ วิธีการนี้เรียบง่ายแต่ทรงพลัง: คุณฟังเสียงภาษาอังกฤษจากเจ้าของภาษาและพูดตามทันที — เหมือนเงาที่ตามผู้พูดด้วยช่วงเวลาห่าง 1-2 วินาที การวิจัยแสดงว่าเทคนิคนี้ปรับปรุงความแม่นยำในการออกเสียง ทำนองเสียง จังหวะ การเชื่อมเสียง การฟังเข้าใจ และความคล่องแคล่วในการพูดได้อย่างมีนัยสำคัญ