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Thanks for the love.
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Onto the video.
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Are you emotionally mature?
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There's a difference between being mature and being emotionally mature.
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You can have a receding hairline and be over six feet tall and still not be emotionally mature.
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So what does it mean to be emotionally mature?
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When someone is emotionally mature, they can manage their feelings in nearly any situation.
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They possess empathy for others and often know how to deescalate a conflict if necessary.
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They're the person you go to when you have a tough issue, you need to talk about.
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Sounds great, right?
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Well, to help you get a grasp on your emotions, here are eight ways to become more emotionally mature.
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Number one, identify your emotions.
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How can we get a grasp on our emotions if we don't first know what we're feeling?
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It might seem silly that you must identify your emotions, but before you get into a heated fight or start breaking down into a sob, do you know what led you there?
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Maybe a simple irritation over a comment someone made found its way deep into your thoughts, and you carried that anger with you for the rest of the day.
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If you first recognize what you're feeling, then you can start to understand why and resolve it for yourself.
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Try leaving a tally in a journal every time you feel angry or irritated, and for every time you feel sad or empty.
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Then ask yourself why you felt that way.
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Being aware and understanding why you feel these things can help you manage your emotions.
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So if you know you're getting irritated at your brother for eating the last donut, your donut.
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Take a breath and recognize that you're simply irritated at a donut before you say something you'll regret.
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That irritation could turn into anger for the rest of the day
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if you don't first identify why you were even angry in the first place.
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Now recognize your anger and acknowledge it.
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Remind yourself that your feelings are valid, but you don't have to act on them.
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Number two, take responsibility.
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Have you ever denied something just because you didn't want to admit you were wrong?
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Sometimes reality can be hard to face, but it's more mature to take responsibility for our actions instead of brushing them away.
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If we simply ignore that we were wrong during an argument or don't take action on things that are our responsibilities, we can never learn and grow from our mistakes.
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Being aware, holding yourself accountable, recognizing you were wrong, and learning from your mistakes shows that you're emotionally mature.
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Not only that, next time you're in the same situation, you won't make the same mistake twice.
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Number three, find a role model.
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If you struggle with how quickly you react negatively in stressful situations, try looking towards someone you admire as a guide.
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What would they do?
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If someone you admire acts in an emotionally mature and positive way in tough situations, it's great to use them as a role model, like Mother Teresa.
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What a role model.
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It's important to, of course, not lose track of who you are.
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You don't wanna become your role model and lose yourself.
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You just wanna learn how they handle situations so well.
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Maybe they have a great work ethic that you admire.
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and try it out.
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How do they handle negative feedback?
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Calm and smoothly, worth a try.
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So next time you're in a tough situation, think, what would Mother Teresa do?
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Number four, keep a thought diary.
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Do you suffer from negative thoughts?
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Are you constantly discouraging yourself?
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Do you point out your flaws every time you look in the mirror or complete a project?
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It's important to our mental health that we work towards having positive thoughts as opposed to negative ones.
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While we may think, oh, it's just one negative thought, no big deal, these negative comments we make to ourselves start to pile up.
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Soon, you're left with a harsh thinking pattern that will often take the lead when it comes to what you think.
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These thought processes are usually automatic and can become habitual.
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We don't wanna think of ourselves or others in a negative light, but negativity can find a way inside of our minds.
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A good way to think positive is to practice cognitive reconstructing.
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This can be done by keeping a thought diary.
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Write down what you feel every day.
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What were some thoughts that raced through your mind?
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What did you stress about?
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Was it worth it?
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What are some alternative ways to look at the situation?
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Our worry can be valid.
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But when we open up our diary and see the same thoughts take up our day over and over, we may realize they weren't worth worrying about at all.
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When we recognize this, we can start to move on
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and come up with practical solutions on how to resolve our stress and negative thoughts.
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We can always counteract the negative thoughts by writing a positive one beside it as well.
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Number five, learn to be open-minded.
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Emotionally mature people understand they don't have all the answers.
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That's why it's best to open our minds to other perspectives besides simply our own.
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We may have a strong opinion on certain subjects, but it doesn't hurt to actively listen to another's opposing opinion instead of thinking about ways we can persuade them
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that they're wrong.
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It's best not to judge someone or something right away.
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If we learn to be open-minded, even with the little things, we give ourselves the chance to try something new.
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We can enjoy different films or literature we might not have thought was our taste.
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try a unique recipe, and most importantly, hear others out.
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We may learn something from listening to another's perspective, and we may realize we were wrong.
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We can still choose our opinions in the end, but this is after we've listened with an open mind to the other's beliefs or arguments.
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Even if we don't agree, we may understand them a little bit more, and that can be powerful.
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As our role model, Mother Teresa has advised, if you judge people, you have no time to love them.
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Number six, embrace reality.
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Do you often beat yourself up because of your circumstances and your flaws?
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Remember negative thoughts?
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Do they spend a lot of time dwelling on your reality?
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Instead of dwelling on your flaws or even suppressing them, accept and embrace them.
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This is your life.
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Instead of ignoring your struggles, find a way to be at peace with them.
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If you can change it, work towards change if you can't embrace who you are where you are
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and work towards what will make you smile embracing this will not only give you clarity to move forward
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but peace as well mother theresa's wise tips on peace peace begins with a smile number seven pause
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and be patient have you ever been in in a heated argument and said something he didn't mean and later regretted it.
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This is likely because we act on impulse when upset.
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If we take a moment to pause and reflect, we can then begin to say what we really mean.
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Simply expressing how we feel and why can turn a situation around by not only making the other person understand you, but yourself as well.
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Choose to pause in a stressful or confusing situation to give yourself the option to consciously choose how you want to react.
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It will only lead you on the path to emotional maturity.
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And number eight, live in the present.
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Dwelling on the past can cause us sadness and regret.
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Dwelling on the future, don't even get me started on how stressful.
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So while we can learn from our past and make choices for our future, we need to learn to live in the present.
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If we're present and make conscious decisions, we're less likely to react negatively or fall into old habits.
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Being present is powerful.
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It's the only moment we can act, choose, experience, and enjoy if we allow ourselves to.
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We can't change the past and we can't jump to the future.
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So why waste the precious time we have dwelling upon them?
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Life is happening now, as we speak, in front of you.
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And as Mother Teresa would say, yesterday is gone, tomorrow has not yet come.
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We have only today.
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Let us begin.
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So, are you emotionally mature?
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Did you find these tips helpful?
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Let us know which one of these tips you'll follow in the comments below.
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Make sure to like and subscribe to Psych2Go for more psychology content and advice.
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And if you know someone who's emotionally immature, it might not hurt to share this video.
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Emotional maturity, here you come.

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Bu dersin kelimeleri ve konuşma notları

Bu B2 seviyesindeki konuşma dersi “8 Ways to Become More Emotionally Mature” videosuna dayanıyor. En çok tekrarlanan kelimeler: mature, emotionally, negative, situation, learn. Bu videoda gölgeleme çalışması için 118 cümle ve 1565 kelime var. Konuşma bölümü 8:31 sürüyor. Konuşmacı hızlı konuşuyor, dakikada yaklaşık 184 kelime; bu yüzden birbirine bağlanan ve zayıflayan sesler duyacaksınız. Kelimelerin %86’i İngilizcede en sık kullanılan 3.000 kelime arasında; geri kalanına başlamadan önce bakmakta fayda var. 118 cümlenin 22 tanesi soru; soru tonlaması ve kısa cevaplar için iyi bir alıştırma.

Bu videodaki önemli kelimeler

Videodaki en ileri düzey 15 kelime, telaffuzu ve anlamıyla:

KelimeTelaffuzAnlam
dwell fiil/dwɛl/oturmak, ikamet etmek
emotion isim/ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/duygu, his
embrace fiil/ɛmˈbɹes/sarılmak, kucaklamak
doughnut isim/ˈdəʊnʌt/donut, lokma
irritate fiil/ˈɪɹ.ɪˌteɪt/kızdırmak, öfkelendirmek
flaw isim/flɔ/çatlak, çizik
admire fiil/ədˈmaɪɹ/hayran olmak, bayılmak
pause isim/pɔːz/mola, teneffüs
diary isim/ˈdaɪ.ə.ɹi/günlük, ruzname
react fiil/ɹiːˈækt/reaksiyon göstermek
irritation isim/ˌɪɹ.ɪˈteɪ.ʃən/iritasyon, irkilme
maturity isim/məˈtjʊəɹɪti/olgunluk
distress isim/dɪˈstɹɛs/bun, kaygı
grasp fiil/ɡɹæsp/kavramak
hairline isim/ˈhɛɹˌlaɪn/saç çizgisi

Tekrar etmeye değer cümleler

Videodan, günlük konuşmada yeniden kullanabileceğiniz kısa ve tam cümleler:

  • Do you suffer from negative thoughts?
  • Are you constantly discouraging yourself?
  • What were some thoughts that raced through your mind?
  • What did you stress about?
  • Did you find these tips helpful?

Dikkat edilecek telaffuzlar

Konuşmacı don't, you're, we're gibi kısaltılmış biçimleri 39 kez kullanıyor. Bunları duyduğunuz gibi kısa söyleyin.

  • “th” sesleri: ethic /ˈɛθ.ɪk/, smoothly /ˈsmuːðli/, empathy /ˈɛmpəθi/, thankful /ˈθæŋkfəl/
  • “sh” ve “zh” sesleri: emotionally /ɪˈməʊʃənəli/, emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/, irritation /ˌɪɹ.ɪˈteɪ.ʃən/, shout /ʃaʊt/, harsh /ˈhɑɹʃ/
  • Uzun kelimeler — vurguyu doğru yere koyun: emotionally /ɪˈməʊʃənəli/, irritation /ˌɪɹ.ɪˈteɪ.ʃən/, maturity /məˈtjʊəɹɪti/, habitual /həˈbɪ.t͡ʃʊ.əl/, negativity /ˌnɛɡ.əˈtɪ.vɪ.ti/

Türkçe konuşanların zorlandığı sesler:

  • /w/ — dudaklar yuvarlak, /v/ değil: dwell /dwɛl/, persuade /pə(ɹ)ˈsweɪd/
  • Kelime başındaki ünsüz kümesi — araya ünlü eklemeyin: dwell /dwɛl/, flaw /flɔ/, stressful /ˈstɹɛsfəl/, grasp /ɡɹæsp/, smoothly /ˈsmuːðli/
  • /æ/ — “e”den daha açık: react /ɹiːˈækt/, grasp /ɡɹæsp/, counteract /ˈkaʊntəɹˌækt/, tally /ˈtæli/, circumstance /ˈsɝ.kəmˌstæns/

Bu videoyla nasıl çalışılır

  1. Videonun tamamını konuşmadan bir kez dinleyin ve bilmediğiniz kelimeleri not edin.
  2. 0,75× hızla başlayın, cümle cümle tekrar edin ve kolaylaşınca normal hıza dönün.
  3. Kendinizi kaydedin ve orijinaliyle karşılaştırın; dwell, emotion, embrace gibi kelimelere özellikle dikkat edin.

Gölgeleme Tekniği Nedir?

Gölgeleme, başlangıçta profesyonel tercüman eğitimi için geliştirilen ve çok dilli Dr. Alexander Arguelles tarafından popüler hale getirilen, bilim destekli bir dil öğrenme tekniğidir. Yöntem basit ama güçlüdür: ana dili İngilizce olan bir sesi dinler ve hemen yüksek sesle tekrar edersiniz — konuşmacıyı 1-2 saniye gecikmeyle takip eden bir gölge gibi. Pasif dinleme veya dilbilgisi alıştırmalarının aksine, gölgeleme beyninizi ve ağız kaslarınızı gerçek konuşma kalıplarını eşzamanlı olarak işlemeye ve yeniden üretmeye zorlar. Araştırmalar, telaffuz doğruluğu, tonlama, ritim, bağlı konuşma, dinleme anlama ve konuşma akıcılığını önemli ölçüde geliştirdiğini göstermektedir — bu da onu IELTS Konuşma hazırlığı ve gerçek dünya İngilizce iletişimi için en etkili yöntemlerden biri yapar.

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