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Are you emotionally mature?
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There's a difference between being mature and being emotionally mature.
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You can have a receding hairline and be over six feet tall and still not be emotionally mature.
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So what does it mean to be emotionally mature?
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When someone is emotionally mature, they can manage their feelings in nearly any situation.
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They possess empathy for others and often know how to deescalate a conflict if necessary.
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They're the person you go to when you have a tough issue, you need to talk about.
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Sounds great, right?
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Well, to help you get a grasp on your emotions, here are eight ways to become more emotionally mature.
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Number one, identify your emotions.
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How can we get a grasp on our emotions if we don't first know what we're feeling?
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It might seem silly that you must identify your emotions, but before you get into a heated fight or start breaking down into a sob, do you know what led you there?
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Maybe a simple irritation over a comment someone made found its way deep into your thoughts, and you carried that anger with you for the rest of the day.
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If you first recognize what you're feeling, then you can start to understand why and resolve it for yourself.
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Try leaving a tally in a journal every time you feel angry or irritated, and for every time you feel sad or empty.
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Then ask yourself why you felt that way.
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Being aware and understanding why you feel these things can help you manage your emotions.
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So if you know you're getting irritated at your brother for eating the last donut, your donut.
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Take a breath and recognize that you're simply irritated at a donut before you say something you'll regret.
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That irritation could turn into anger for the rest of the day
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if you don't first identify why you were even angry in the first place.
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Now recognize your anger and acknowledge it.
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Remind yourself that your feelings are valid, but you don't have to act on them.
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Number two, take responsibility.
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Have you ever denied something just because you didn't want to admit you were wrong?
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Sometimes reality can be hard to face, but it's more mature to take responsibility for our actions instead of brushing them away.
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If we simply ignore that we were wrong during an argument or don't take action on things that are our responsibilities, we can never learn and grow from our mistakes.
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Being aware, holding yourself accountable, recognizing you were wrong, and learning from your mistakes shows that you're emotionally mature.
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Not only that, next time you're in the same situation, you won't make the same mistake twice.
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Number three, find a role model.
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If you struggle with how quickly you react negatively in stressful situations, try looking towards someone you admire as a guide.
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What would they do?
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If someone you admire acts in an emotionally mature and positive way in tough situations, it's great to use them as a role model, like Mother Teresa.
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What a role model.
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It's important to, of course, not lose track of who you are.
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You don't wanna become your role model and lose yourself.
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You just wanna learn how they handle situations so well.
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Maybe they have a great work ethic that you admire.
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and try it out.
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How do they handle negative feedback?
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Calm and smoothly, worth a try.
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So next time you're in a tough situation, think, what would Mother Teresa do?
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Number four, keep a thought diary.
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Do you suffer from negative thoughts?
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Are you constantly discouraging yourself?
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Do you point out your flaws every time you look in the mirror or complete a project?
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It's important to our mental health that we work towards having positive thoughts as opposed to negative ones.
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While we may think, oh, it's just one negative thought, no big deal, these negative comments we make to ourselves start to pile up.
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Soon, you're left with a harsh thinking pattern that will often take the lead when it comes to what you think.
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These thought processes are usually automatic and can become habitual.
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We don't wanna think of ourselves or others in a negative light, but negativity can find a way inside of our minds.
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A good way to think positive is to practice cognitive reconstructing.
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This can be done by keeping a thought diary.
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Write down what you feel every day.
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What were some thoughts that raced through your mind?
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What did you stress about?
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Was it worth it?
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What are some alternative ways to look at the situation?
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Our worry can be valid.
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But when we open up our diary and see the same thoughts take up our day over and over, we may realize they weren't worth worrying about at all.
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When we recognize this, we can start to move on
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and come up with practical solutions on how to resolve our stress and negative thoughts.
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We can always counteract the negative thoughts by writing a positive one beside it as well.
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Number five, learn to be open-minded.
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Emotionally mature people understand they don't have all the answers.
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That's why it's best to open our minds to other perspectives besides simply our own.
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We may have a strong opinion on certain subjects, but it doesn't hurt to actively listen to another's opposing opinion instead of thinking about ways we can persuade them
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that they're wrong.
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It's best not to judge someone or something right away.
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If we learn to be open-minded, even with the little things, we give ourselves the chance to try something new.
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We can enjoy different films or literature we might not have thought was our taste.
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try a unique recipe, and most importantly, hear others out.
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We may learn something from listening to another's perspective, and we may realize we were wrong.
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We can still choose our opinions in the end, but this is after we've listened with an open mind to the other's beliefs or arguments.
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Even if we don't agree, we may understand them a little bit more, and that can be powerful.
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As our role model, Mother Teresa has advised, if you judge people, you have no time to love them.
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Number six, embrace reality.
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Do you often beat yourself up because of your circumstances and your flaws?
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Remember negative thoughts?
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Do they spend a lot of time dwelling on your reality?
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Instead of dwelling on your flaws or even suppressing them, accept and embrace them.
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This is your life.
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Instead of ignoring your struggles, find a way to be at peace with them.
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If you can change it, work towards change if you can't embrace who you are where you are
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and work towards what will make you smile embracing this will not only give you clarity to move forward
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but peace as well mother theresa's wise tips on peace peace begins with a smile number seven pause
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and be patient have you ever been in in a heated argument and said something he didn't mean and later regretted it.
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This is likely because we act on impulse when upset.
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If we take a moment to pause and reflect, we can then begin to say what we really mean.
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Simply expressing how we feel and why can turn a situation around by not only making the other person understand you, but yourself as well.
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Choose to pause in a stressful or confusing situation to give yourself the option to consciously choose how you want to react.
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It will only lead you on the path to emotional maturity.
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And number eight, live in the present.
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Dwelling on the past can cause us sadness and regret.
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Dwelling on the future, don't even get me started on how stressful.
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So while we can learn from our past and make choices for our future, we need to learn to live in the present.
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If we're present and make conscious decisions, we're less likely to react negatively or fall into old habits.
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Being present is powerful.
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It's the only moment we can act, choose, experience, and enjoy if we allow ourselves to.
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We can't change the past and we can't jump to the future.
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So why waste the precious time we have dwelling upon them?
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Life is happening now, as we speak, in front of you.
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And as Mother Teresa would say, yesterday is gone, tomorrow has not yet come.
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We have only today.
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Let us begin.
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So, are you emotionally mature?
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Did you find these tips helpful?
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Let us know which one of these tips you'll follow in the comments below.
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Make sure to like and subscribe to Psych2Go for more psychology content and advice.
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And if you know someone who's emotionally immature, it might not hurt to share this video.
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Emotional maturity, here you come.
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Vocabulary and speaking notes for this lesson
This B2 speaking lesson is built on the video “8 Ways to Become More Emotionally Mature”. The speaker keeps coming back to these words: mature, emotionally, negative, situation, learn. This video has 118 sentences and 1565 words to shadow. The speech runs for 8:31. The speaker talks fast, about 184 words per minute, so expect linked and reduced sounds. 86% of the words are among the 3,000 most common in English; the rest is worth studying before you start. 22 of its 118 sentences are questions, so it is good practice for question intonation and short answers.
Key vocabulary in this video
The 15 most advanced words in the video, with pronunciation and meaning:
| Word | Pronunciation | Meaning |
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| emotionally adverb | /ɪˈməʊʃənəli/ | In an emotional manner; displaying emotion. |
| dwell verb | /dwɛl/ | To live; to reside. |
| emotion noun | /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/ | A person's internal state of being and involuntary physiological response to an object or a situation, based on or tied to physical state and sensory data. |
| embrace verb | /ɛmˈbɹes/ | To clasp (someone or each other) in the arms with affection; to take in the arms; to hug. |
| doughnut noun | /ˈdəʊnʌt/ | A deep-fried piece of dough or batter, usually mixed with various sweeteners and flavors, often made in a toroidal or ellipsoidal shape flattened sphere shape… |
| irritate verb | /ˈɪɹ.ɪˌteɪt/ | To provoke impatience, anger, or displeasure in. |
| flaw noun | /flɔ/ | A crack or breach, a gap or fissure; a defect of continuity or cohesion. |
| stressful adjective | /ˈstɹɛsfəl/ | Irritating; causing stress. |
| admire verb | /ədˈmaɪɹ/ | To regard with wonder and delight. |
| pause noun | /pɔːz/ | A temporary stop or rest; an intermission of action; interruption; suspension; cessation. |
| diary noun | /ˈdaɪ.ə.ɹi/ | A daily log of experiences, especially those of the writer. |
| react verb | /ɹiːˈækt/ | To act in response. |
| irritation noun | /ˌɪɹ.ɪˈteɪ.ʃən/ | The act of irritating or annoying. |
| negatively adverb | In a negative manner; so as to be damaging or not positive. | |
| maturity noun | /məˈtjʊəɹɪti/ | The state of being mature, ready or ripe; the prime state of productibility and self expression. |
Phrasal verbs you will hear
| Word | Meaning |
|---|---|
| come up with verb | To manage to produce, deliver, or present (something) by inventing, creating, thinking of, or obtaining it. |
| go back to verb | To stem from; to originate in. |
| move forward verb | To cause to make progress. |
| open up verb | To open. |
| pile up verb | To form a pile, stack, or heap. |
| point out verb | To identify among a group of similar subjects, or in a scene where the subject might not be readily seen or noticed, with a gesture of the body. |
| take up verb | To pick up. |
| write down verb | To produce or set (something) down in writing; to record something. |
Sentences worth repeating
Short, complete lines from the video that you can reuse in everyday conversation:
- Do you suffer from negative thoughts?
- Are you constantly discouraging yourself?
- What were some thoughts that raced through your mind?
- What did you stress about?
- Did you find these tips helpful?
Pronunciation to watch
The speaker uses 39 contractions and reduced forms, such as don't, you're, we're. Say them the short way, as you hear them.
- The “th” sounds: ethic /ˈɛθ.ɪk/, smoothly /ˈsmuːðli/, empathy /ˈɛmpəθi/, thankful /ˈθæŋkfəl/
- The “sh” and “zh” sounds: emotionally /ɪˈməʊʃənəli/, emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/, irritation /ˌɪɹ.ɪˈteɪ.ʃən/, shout /ʃaʊt/, harsh /ˈhɑɹʃ/
- Long words — get the stress right: emotionally /ɪˈməʊʃənəli/, irritation /ˌɪɹ.ɪˈteɪ.ʃən/, maturity /məˈtjʊəɹɪti/, habitual /həˈbɪ.t͡ʃʊ.əl/, negativity /ˌnɛɡ.əˈtɪ.vɪ.ti/
How to practise with this video
- Listen to the whole video once without speaking and note the words you do not know.
- Start at 0.75× speed, shadow it sentence by sentence, then go back to normal speed once it feels easy.
- Record yourself and compare with the original, paying attention to words like emotionally, dwell, emotion.
What is the Shadowing Technique?
Shadowing is a science-backed language learning technique originally developed for professional interpreter training and popularized by polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. The method is simple but powerful: you listen to native English audio and immediately repeat it out loud — like a shadow following the speaker with just a 1–2 second delay. Unlike passive listening or grammar drills, shadowing forces your brain and mouth muscles to simultaneously process and reproduce real speech patterns. Research shows it significantly improves pronunciation accuracy, intonation, rhythm, connected speech, listening comprehension, and speaking fluency — making it one of the most effective methods for IELTS Speaking preparation and real-world English communication.