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If you want to be respected,
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liked, and taken seriously, your actions matter more than anything.
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You see, I've spent years working with the top business owners and starting my own multi-million dollar business.
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So I've seen firsthand the differences between the people who get respect versus those who get overlooked.
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So these are the five ways to make anyone respect you.
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First up is the big question.
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Do you want to be respected or do you want to be liked?
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I am a natural people pleaser
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and i think this shocks people who meet me today
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because i don't have traditional people pleasing qualities any longer
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and that's
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because i have made active choices for the last decade to
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not choose to be liked more than i want to be respected see
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when you don't know which one of the two you're going after you can get confused
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because when you're meeting people
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and you want to please people you can end up pleasing the wrong people
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and i can honestly say that until my early 20s,
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I always prioritized people liking me and what people thought about me more than choosing the right people to respect me.
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And what happens when you prioritize people liking you is you compromise.
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You spend time around people who do things that you actually disagree with.
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But because you want to be liked,
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not respected, you don't say anything,
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you don't change the environment,
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heaven forbid, and you don't correct them.
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You just keep going on agreeing to things that actually make you feel like you're compromising.
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In order to be respected,
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the first person who has to respect you is you.
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So when you think about who you spend your time with today,
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are you making compromises?
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Are you feeling like you have to make people happy
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or like they have to like you over the things that you know you need to do in order to respect yourself?
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When I first went to college,
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I wasn't really the partying type.
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However, the friends that I was hanging out with did like to party
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and they liked to drink more than I liked to drink.
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But I didn't know how to stop spending time with them.
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So I just fell into this role where I would be there.
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I would always be the sober one,
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but I was wasting all of my time trying to get them to like me
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or think that I was cool because I was still in the environment.
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It took me longer than it should have to extract myself from that environment.
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And not that there's any judgment that I have for people trying to figure their lives out while in college.
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But I know that for me,
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I was making decisions at that time based off of what somebody else thought
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and what somebody else wanted me to do instead of prioritizing the decisions that I knew would allow me to respect me.
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Remember, without respect, your voice just gets drowned out
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and your authority will be entirely ignored no matter how friendly or charming you actually are.
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You have to establish clear boundaries,
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show competence, communicate with authority to start to earn respect.
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Number two is next.
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Consistency over long periods of time creates confidence.
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It is easy to just go into the gym for a couple of days
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and you get all excited about it and you buy your cute workout clothes and you start to think,
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man, I'm going to finally take control of my health and wellness journey.
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But if you fast forward two weeks and you're no longer in the gym,
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your confidence and your ability to stick to your word goes down.
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That is the exact same thing that happens with the people in your life
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when you tell them that you are going to show up for them
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and you are going to make it to dinner and you back out last minute because you don't feel like it,
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you don't want to, you don't feel good,
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you you're not going to build confidence that you're the type of person
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that does what they say that they're going to do
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so every decision that you make whether it's consistent
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or inconsistent is giving somebody an understanding of how much confidence
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they can have in you now extrapolate this to the work
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that you do whether you're a team member you own a business
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when you say that you're going to get something done do you do it by
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that time when you say that you're you're going to follow up?
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Do you actually follow up?
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You see people learn by how you follow up,
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by how you show up over long periods of time,
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if they can or can't count on you.
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I know instantly who I can and can't count on.
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And the people who I count on are the people who always follow up with me.
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And if they follow up with me consistently for six months,
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if they happen to miss something,
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I'm not that worried about it because I know by their actions that they are a consistent person.
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But if they sometimes follow up,
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sometimes don't follow up, sometimes do what they say they're going to do.
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Sometimes they don't say what they're going to do.
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I'm just going to bypass them.
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And when you bypass somebody in an organization,
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all of a sudden you start to ask yourself,
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well, why do I need this person?
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If I'm going to end up having to do their job because they aren't consistent.
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And yet when you talk to the person,
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all they want is more opportunity.
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They want to be trusted with more.
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They want to handle more.
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They want to make more money.
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They want to do big things,
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but they can't even handle what's in front of them.
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This is actually why respect doesn't just happen overnight.
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What is so cool about being consistent,
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it is in your control if you say that you're going to do something.
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And what's also cool is you don't have to commit to something if you have no intention to do it.
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That's fine too.
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Next is number three.
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You have to set clear boundaries.
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One of the hardest lessons I've had to learn is not just setting boundaries,
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but it's actually getting other people to respect those boundaries.
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There's two steps to boundaries.
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The first is creating them.
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The second is enforcing them.
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When it comes to setting boundaries,
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the first thing that you have to ask yourself is what are you not willing to tolerate in your environment?
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Pull out a piece of paper,
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maybe the notes app on your phone and list the types of behaviors
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that you will not tolerate from people who work with you,
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who spend time with you,
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who are friends with you.
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What are the things that are absolute no's for you?
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From that list, you can then start to create the list of characteristics
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that you would expect of the greatest people who would come into your life.
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So you have a list of hard nose,
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but then you also have a list of this is what I would expect of the best people,
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people that might not even know who I am,
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to represent and bring into my life.
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Once you have that list,
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you then have to look at how do I spend my time
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and do I spend my time that's in alignment with this list?
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Because if you don't have great people in your life,
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it might be because you aren't living in the same value set as the people
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that you want to bring in your life.
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So of course, they're never going to want to spend time with you.
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When I first started wanting to spend time with Elena Cardone,
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I realized that if she hung out with me for a day,
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I would have to tell her and talk to her about things
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that I was interested in and things that I was doing.
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At the time, I wasn't working out consistently.
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I didn't hold myself accountable to goals that I was setting.
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I was wishy-washy about what I did or didn't want for my future.
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I wasn't able to clearly communicate the personal goals that I had for myself.
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And so I spent six months becoming the type of person
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that Elena would want to be friends with so that when I did have the opportunity to meet her,
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to spend time around her,
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we had similar shared interests.
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When she wanted to go to the gym on the very first trip that we took together,
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I wasn't embarrassed by how out of shape I was because I had already started to go to the gym.
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So you have your list of the things that you want.
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And when it comes to the list of things that you don't want, here's the challenge.
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When it comes to the things that you don't want
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and the boundaries that you are setting where you would kick somebody out of your life for violating those boundaries,
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it can be incredibly difficult to draw a hard line.
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I can't tell you how many people have to my face,
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made disrespectful comments, have laughed at me,
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have lessened my role, have not taken me seriously.
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And in those moments, it's challenging to actually say,
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you no longer get a spot here because they're already there for a reason.
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They're there because they're family.
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They're there because you've known them for a while, because you hired them.
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You thought that they were going to help you when they were responsible for something.
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And I have always found that if somebody is violating a boundary
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that I have and I get rid of them in my life,
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my life has never gotten worse it actually gets better but
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if you think that things are gonna get worse be challenging everything's just gonna melt down
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when you get rid of people
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that aren't respecting you then you're not gonna get rid of them
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but i can promise you just trust me on this get rid of them
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and see what happens you are going to be amazed
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because you will not go backwards you will actually springboard forward
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because you don't have somebody constantly validating you now we're on to number four one of my favorites.
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Master your craft.
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The easiest way to get respect is to be great at something.
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If you aren't great at anything,
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it's hard to think about,
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but why should somebody respect you?
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You want respect?
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Well, what have you done that would make somebody respect you?
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Is it the great person that you are?
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Is it that you're nice to everyone, friendly to people?
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You're a good person?
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Well, what does that actually mean?
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If you are a mom and you want to be respected,
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the way that you get respect is by saying,
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hey, these are my kids and this is everything that I do in order to make sure
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that I am setting them up for success,
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that I'm being a good example to them,
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and that I'm able to help them contribute positively to society.
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If you want to be a great team member,
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you would be showing the fact that your team has improved because you are there.
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The results show if you are somebody who actually deserves respect,
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the environment around you should improve because you are there.
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So when you look at your environment,
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you should ask yourself this question,
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is my environment better because I am there?
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If it's not better, if it stays the same,
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if it's worse because you get on the scene,
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then nobody should respect you because you don't do anything to make things better.
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On the contrary to that,
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if you do show up to an environment and you choose to make it better,
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you can then point to,
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hey, all of these things that are positive happened because I was there.
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And that is why people respect you.
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Now, I work with team members and business owners each and every day.
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And the fastest thing that I drive them to is a specific stat.
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What is the thing that we can measure that you did that you are great at?
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I think about the social media team that I work with.
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They have ridiculous stats now.
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Why do they have stats?
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Because they've gotten good at one thing.
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How do we take video and create compelling messages for people to understand who we are,
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what we do and what we're all about?
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See, those stats that they now have are actually in the physical universe.
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It's not just that they happen to be good at social media.
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There are social media managers who cannot produce a single great piece of content that people actually wanna watch.
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The difference between somebody who's average and somebody who's great is the stats.
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But the fastest way to get confused is to think
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that you have to be good at social media at the exact same time
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that you have to be good at PR at the exact same time
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that you have to be good at some other form of marketing.
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Get stats in one area.
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People will then respect you for those stats that you have because you can say,
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hey, I did this, I did this,
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I did this, I did this in order to make this happen.
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That creates confidence which ultimately leads people to respect you.
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To contrast my current social team compared to previous team members that I've worked with,
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I will never forget when one of my team members came to my office and she said,
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the two of us are so overwhelmed,
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we're so overworked, there's no way that we can create more content,
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it's performing as best as it can and it's just going to take time for it to perform.
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Well, fast forward, it was just her that wasn't performing because she didn't actually study the craft.
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She never decided that I'm going to be great to fully understand what is working on social right now,
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not what's working five years ago,
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not what worked two years ago,
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but what is actually working right now to drive engagement,
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to create spectacular content.
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And so we've changed up our team and it's fascinating
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that all of a sudden this growth has happened all
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because our team is dedicated to picking one thing that they are great at.
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So how does this apply to you?
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You pick one thing that you want to master
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and you go after that thing for the next 18 months or until you get undeniable results in that area.
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After that, you move on to the next thing that you want to be great at.
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And when you can show that you can deliver results over and over again by understanding the areas of your interest deeply,
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respect becomes automatic.
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Lastly, number five, your actions will always speak the loudest.
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I still don't get the level of respect from people that I would like.
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The trick is to not use someone's lack of respect as a reason for why you should stop trying.
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When I decided to marry my husband,
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I was petrified that for the rest of my life,
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people were just going to look at me as my husband's wife,
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where I would be in his shadows because he is unbelievably smart,
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successful, and truly a business savant.
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And I thought, oh, for the rest of my life,
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people would just tell me,
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oh, you got lucky, or you must not work very hard,
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or what's it like to work in your husband's business,
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even if I'm working in the business 18 hours a day and driving consistent value.
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But finally, I realized
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that people's lack of respect for me has nothing to do with the respect that I need to create for myself.
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I'm the only one who gets to see how I do or don't show up.
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You are the only one who gets to see how you do or don't show up.
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So do you respect the way that you show up?
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It doesn't matter that the world is going to judge you or say negative things or be critical because that's on them.
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But if you do what you know you are capable of,
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you go after your goals,
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it might actually be that you go through all of your life and never get the respect from others that you deserve.
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And that is completely okay.
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Respect is ultimately about your actions and your results.
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So just put in the work.
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Don't talk about it.
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Don't complain about people not respecting you.
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Nobody cares.
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Put your head down.
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Prove to people over a long period of time
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that they should respect you because of the results that you're able to drive.
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If you do these things in just a short period of time,
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you could have all the respect that you want.
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And if you like this video,
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