Pratique du Shadowing: I hate being performative - Apprendre l'anglais à l'oral avec la vidéo

I hate being performative.

I hate it when I can just feel this angst inside myself

when I'm trying to either seek someone's approval or I'm trying to just fit in.

Now, I think there's different levels.

There's different levels of being performative or performance.

And one is sort of, maybe all of them are sort of out of this sense of insecurity.

But some of them, I guess, are worse than others.

Some of them, someone is completely fake Someone could be, I don't know, maybe their whole life is a liar Just what they say and how they act is disingenuine

Versus someone who is trying to fit in, but they don't quite know how And I guess that's where I am Not right now,

but I have been in the latter

Trying to either fit in with a group Or just feel like I am not a complete outsider

and I guess especially in school high school I felt

so much anxiety and maybe I wasn't performative

but I was just very very aware too aware too conscious

to the point where I guess I wasn't really doing a whole lot from the outside

but from the inside I felt like I wasn't me I wasn't acting like myself

and it was performance without any actual outside performance

but just constant monitoring of myself which is in some sense performance

or maybe just really bad anxiety

but nonetheless I don't feel this way anymore at least not nearly as much as

when I was in school maybe sometimes in some way I feel this way

but um it's definitely gotten a lot better But I think it's weird because,

especially with social media, but even maybe just in a place like school, you know, who is being real, who is just performing?

And you wonder, well, who am I in relation to all this?

Am I performing?

Or is everyone just kind of hiding something, hiding how they really feel about their life?

I don't know.

Are people just kind of ignorant or are people just very good at performance?

I don't know but I feel like in some way our whole life is just an act.

We're all just trying to make people think we are someone

that we don't really feel like or that we hope to be

but we don't necessarily feel like we are

and we're just doing things to convince everyone but

if everyone's doing this then what's the point maybe we can all just drop the act

and just start being more real with each other maybe we can stop trying to focus

so much on being this person who is thought highly of instead just not care so much.

I don't know.

To many, it probably isn't that easy.

Maybe even to me.

I mean, just recording this video, maybe this is a performance.

I don't know.

But here's what I'll say.

To me, I do not trust the person who is always agreeable, nor do I trust the person who is always disagreeable.

I think especially on social media,

there is sort of this idea that if you're someone who's super duper relatable or super duper just like repulsive or disagreeable,

then you'll be popular.

And I wonder, well, how much of it is just trying to be agreeable or trying to be disagreeable just for,

you know, the views, the likes or the follows or whatever versus what do you actually think?

Because that's what I want to know.

I don't want to know what you think that is politically correct.

I don't know what you want to think that you think other people will approve of.

I just want to know what you think.

And it's difficult in society, at least in Western society.

Maybe this is probably just a whole world thing, but not wanting to be perceived in a certain way as negative based off of either how you act

or what you think or your opinions.

And it's maybe in some context, maybe in some context, you could say maybe it's a good thing.

But I think overall, overall, probably in 99% of situations,

it's bad because everyone kind of just keeps what they really think on the inside.

and instead they just perform.

And I don't think it helps anyone.

I don't think it helps society.

I don't think it helps people grow.

I don't think it helps people get along better either.

I think really it's just performance, like I've been saying so many times.

But yeah, I don't want to be performative.

It's like the thing about social media, posting on here, It's like, what's going to happen to me if I get famous?

Or if people start, you know, commenting more, saying things, whatever, whether it's good or bad, what's going to happen?

Will I turn into someone who I'm not actually?

Will I just start performing and just lose myself?

I hope not.

But maybe it's also a test of character. And that's the thing.

Like you see people like when they get famous, some people say, oh, that guy really changed.

They changed or they weren't the same way they are.

But I wonder in what way?

In what way did they change?

Did they change in a better way or a worse way?

It's usually a worse way when people talk about it that way. But why?

Is it fame?

Is it money?

Is it power?

I wonder.

I really do.

But I guess here's my declaration or proclamation.

I'll say it out loud here.

I declare that I will not let it destroy me or ruin me or strip out the things that are genuine.

Because in some way, the more popular or famous you get, the more you have to lose.

and it's like people care more about how they are perceived versus just in some sense their dignity

their dignity their dignity of what they stand on what they believe in And I don't like that, you know?

It's unfortunate.

And I guess I don't want to become that way.

So we'll have to see.

We'll have to see what happens to me, to my life.

In one way, I guess success would be a great thing.

But in another way, it's a test.

It's a test to see who will I become Will I just become another performer Or will I somehow remain me

I think fame changes everyone To some extent

But it shouldn't change you In a super negative way In some sense it should

I don't know Amplify the good things about you I mean, I guess that's what I would hope it would do, but maybe that's just like wishful thinking.

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That's probably not what happens most of the time.

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But yeah, that's what I'm thinking.

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I don't want to be performative.

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I just want to be me.

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Cette vidéo contient 103 phrases et 1161 mots à répéter en shadowing. La partie parlée dure 8:19. Le locuteur parle à un rythme régulier d’environ 139 mots par minute, confortable pour le shadowing. 86 % des mots font partie des 3 000 mots les plus courants en anglais ; le reste mérite d’être vu avant de commencer.

Vocabulaire clé de cette vidéo

15 mots de la vidéo à retenir, avec leur prononciation et leur sens :

Mot	Prononciation	Sens
versus	/ˈvɝsəs/	contre, face à
dignity nom	/ˈdɪɡnɪti/	dignité
anxiety nom	/æŋˈzaɪ.əti/	anxiété, inquiétude
fame nom	/feɪm/	gloire, célébrité
perceive verbe	/pɚˈsiv/	percevoir
necessarily adverbe	/ˌnɛs.əˈsɛɹ.ə.li/	absolument, nécessairement
extent nom	/ɪkˈstɛnt/	mesure
genuine adjectif	/ˈd͡ʒɛn.juˌɪn/	authentique
monitor nom	/ˈmɑ.nɪ.tɚ/	moniteur, monitrice
strip verbe	/ˈstɹɪp/	enlever
relation nom	/ɹɪˈleɪʃ(ə)n/	relation
ruin nom	/ˈɹuː.ɪn/	ruine
convince verbe	/kənˈvɪns/	convaincre, persuader
conscious adjectif	/ˈkɑn.ʃəs/	conscient
unfortunate adjectif	/ʌnˈfɔː.t͡ʃə.nɪt/	infortuné

Les verbes à particule que vous entendrez

Mot	Sens
get along verbe	s'entendre

La grammaire de cette vidéo

Les structures que le locuteur utilise le plus, avec les mots exacts de la vidéo :

Structure	Dans la vidéo
Propositions relatives who / which + proposition — une précision sur une personne ou une chose	someone who is · myself which is · person who is
Voix passive be + participe passé — l’accent est mis sur ce qui arrive, pas sur qui le fait	is thought · be perceived · are perceived

Prononciation à surveiller

Le locuteur utilise 40 contractions et formes réduites, comme don't, I'm, wasn't. Prononcez-les sous leur forme courte, telles que vous les entendez.

Les sons « sh » et « zh »: relation /ɹɪˈleɪʃ(ə)n/, conscious /ˈkɑn.ʃəs/, declaration /ˌdɛk.ləˈɹeɪ.ʃən/, proclamation /ˌpɹɑkləˈmeɪʃən/, wishful /ˈwɪʃfəl/
Mots longs — placez bien l’accent: anxiety /æŋˈzaɪ.əti/, necessarily /ˌnɛs.əˈsɛɹ.ə.li/, unfortunate /ʌnˈfɔː.t͡ʃə.nɪt/, declaration /ˌdɛk.ləˈɹeɪ.ʃən/, disagreeable /dɪsəˈɡɹi.əbəl/

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