์‰๋„์ž‰ ์—ฐ์Šต: if they donโ€™t respect boundaries, then ๐Ÿšฉ - ์˜์ƒ์œผ๋กœ ์˜์–ด ๋งํ•˜๊ธฐ ๋ฐฐ์šฐ๊ธฐ

์—ฐ์Šต ๋ชจ๋“œ ์„ ํƒ

๊ฐ ๋ชจ๋“œ๋Š” ์ „์ฒด ํ™”๋ฉด ์—ฐ์Šต์‹ค๋กœ ์—ด๋ฆฝ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

15 ๋ฌธ์žฅ
๋ฌธ์žฅ์ด ๋„ˆ๋ฌด ์งง๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ๊ธธ๋ฉด Edit๋ฅผ ๋ˆŒ๋Ÿฌ ์กฐ์ •ํ•˜์„ธ์š”.
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outgrowing people in your life doesn't necessarily mean
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that you have to end on negative terms
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that you have to cut off someone sometimes it means just re-establishing what the relationship actually is
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and the boundaries that you may need to put in place
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so you can actually allow this relationship to flourish
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but the first thing we want to do is leave a relationship
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and i'm talking about in terms of friendship in terms of
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career marriage whatever it might be you want to leave a situation
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but can you work on a situation where both people feel heard
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and understood and boundaries being set so you manage your expectations
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and both people feel respected because you guys are sticking to it
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but it's incredibly hard to stick to those boundaries
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because it's not allowing a certain level of comfort
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so before you remove a relationship out of your life communicate set boundaries
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stick to those boundaries that's probably one of the most important things

์•ฑ ๋‹ค์šด๋กœ๋“œ

์œ ์ฐฝํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋งํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐ ํ•„์š”ํ•œ ๋ชจ๋“  ๊ฒƒ

AI ๋ฐœ์Œ ํ‰๊ฐ€๋ฌธ์žฅ๋งˆ๋‹ค ์ ์ˆ˜ ํ™•์ธ
IPA ๋ฐœ์Œ ์—ฐ์Šต๋ชจ๋“  ์†Œ๋ฆฌ ๋งˆ์Šคํ„ฐ
๋‹จ์–ด ํ•™์Šต๋‚˜๋งŒ์˜ ๋‹จ์–ด์žฅ ๋งŒ๋“ค๊ธฐ
๋‹จ์–ด ๊ฒŒ์ž„๋†€๋ฉด์„œ ์™ธ์šฐ๊ธฐ

Vocabulary and speaking notes for this lesson

This B2 speaking lesson is built on the video โ€œif they donโ€™t respect boundaries, then ๐Ÿšฉโ€. The speaker keeps coming back to these words: boundaries, relationship, terms. This video has 15 sentences and 167 words to shadow. The speech runs for 0:49. The speaker talks fast, about 205 words per minute, so expect linked and reduced sounds. 86% of the words are among the 3,000 most common in English; the rest is worth studying before you start.

Key vocabulary in this video

The 15 most advanced words in the video, with pronunciation and meaning:

WordPronunciationMeaning
boundary noun/หˆbaสŠndษนi/The dividing line or location between two areas.
necessarily adverb/หŒnษ›s.ษ™หˆsษ›ษน.ษ™.li/Inevitably; of necessity.
establish verb/ษชหˆstรฆb.lษชสƒ/To make stable or firm; to confirm.
comfort noun/หˆkสŒm.fษ™t/Contentment, ease.
friendship noun/หˆfษนษ›n(d)สƒษชp/The condition of being friends.
incredibly adverb/ษชล‹หˆkษนษ›dษชbli/In an incredible manner; not to be believed.
communicate verb/kษ™หˆmjuหnษชkeษชt/To impart or transmit (information or knowledge) to someone; to make known, to tell.
expectation noun/หŒษ›k.spษ›kหˆteษช.สƒษ™n/The act or state of expecting or looking forward to an event as about to happen.
flourish verb/หˆflสŠฬˆษน.ษชสƒ/To thrive or grow well.
outgrow verb/หŒษ‘สŠtหˆษกษนoสŠ/To become too big in size or too mature in age or outlook to continue to want, need, use, experience, or accept some object, practice, condition, belief, etc.
manage verb/หˆmรฆn.ษชdอกส’/To direct or be in charge of.
stick noun/stษชk/A small, thin branch from a tree or bush; a twig; a branch.
marriage noun/หˆmรฆษนษชdอกส’/The state of being married.
negative adjective/หˆnษ›ษก.ษ™.tษชv/Not positive or neutral; bad; undesirable; unfavourable.
remove verb/ษนษชหˆmuหv/To delete.

Phrasal verbs you will hear

WordPronunciationMeaning
cut off verb/หŒkสŒt หˆษ”f/ [หŒkษษพ หˆษ”f]To remove by cutting.

์ด ์˜์ƒ์˜ ๋ฌธ๋ฒ•

ํ™”์ž๊ฐ€ ๊ฐ€์žฅ ๋งŽ์ด ์“ฐ๋Š” ๋ฌธํ˜•์„ ์˜์ƒ ์† ์‹ค์ œ ํ‘œํ˜„๊ณผ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ์ •๋ฆฌํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋ฌธํ˜•์˜์ƒ ์† ํ‘œํ˜„
์ˆ˜๋™ํƒœ be + ๊ณผ๊ฑฐ๋ถ„์‚ฌ โ€” ๋ˆ„๊ฐ€ ํ•˜๋Š”์ง€๋ณด๋‹ค ๋ฌด์Šจ ์ผ์ด ์ผ์–ด๋‚˜๋Š”์ง€์— ์ดˆ์ being set

Pronunciation to watch

  • The โ€œshโ€ and โ€œzhโ€ sounds: establish /ษชหˆstรฆb.lษชสƒ/, friendship /หˆfษนษ›n(d)สƒษชp/, expectation /หŒษ›k.spษ›kหˆteษช.สƒษ™n/, flourish /หˆflสŠฬˆษน.ษชสƒ/
  • Long words โ€” get the stress right: necessarily /หŒnษ›s.ษ™หˆsษ›ษน.ษ™.li/, incredibly /ษชล‹หˆkษนษ›dษชbli/, communicate /kษ™หˆmjuหnษชkeษชt/, expectation /หŒษ›k.spษ›kหˆteษช.สƒษ™n/

How to practise with this video

  1. Listen to the whole video once without speaking and note the words you do not know.
  2. Start at 0.75ร— speed, shadow it sentence by sentence, then go back to normal speed once it feels easy.
  3. Record yourself and compare with the original, paying attention to words like boundary, necessarily, establish.

์‰๋„์ž‰์ด๋ž€? ์˜์–ด ์‹ค๋ ฅ์„ ๋น ๋ฅด๊ฒŒ ํ‚ค์šฐ๋Š” ๊ณผํ•™์  ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•

์‰๋„์ž‰(Shadowing)์€ ์›๋ž˜ ์ „๋ฌธ ํ†ต์—ญ์‚ฌ ํ›ˆ๋ จ์„ ์œ„ํ•ด ๊ฐœ๋ฐœ๋œ ์–ธ์–ด ํ•™์Šต ๊ธฐ๋ฒ•์œผ๋กœ, ๋‹ค์–ธ์–ด ํ•™์ž์ธ Dr. Alexander Arguelles์— ์˜ํ•ด ๋Œ€์ค‘ํ™”๋œ ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํ•ต์‹ฌ ์›๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๊ฐ„๋‹จํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ๋งค์šฐ ๊ฐ•๋ ฅํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค: ์›์–ด๋ฏผ์˜ ์˜์–ด๋ฅผ ๋“ค์œผ๋ฉด์„œ 1~2์ดˆ์˜ ์งง์€ ์ง€์—ฐ์œผ๋กœ ์ฆ‰์‹œ ์†Œ๋ฆฌ ๋‚ด์–ด ๋”ฐ๋ผ ๋งํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒโ€”โ€”๋งˆ์น˜ '๊ทธ๋ฆผ์ž(shadow)'์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ํ™”์ž๋ฅผ ๋”ฐ๋ผ๊ฐ€๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋ฌธ๋ฒ• ๊ณต๋ถ€๋‚˜ ์ˆ˜๋™์ ์ธ ์ฒญ์ทจ์™€ ๋‹ฌ๋ฆฌ, ์‰๋„์ž‰์€ ๋‡Œ์™€ ์ž… ๊ทผ์œก์ด ๋™์‹œ์— ์‹ค์‹œ๊ฐ„์œผ๋กœ ์˜์–ด๋ฅผ ์ฒ˜๋ฆฌํ•˜๊ณ  ์žฌํ˜„ํ•˜๋„๋ก ํ›ˆ๋ จํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์—ฐ๊ตฌ์— ๋”ฐ๋ฅด๋ฉด ์ด ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•์€ ๋ฐœ์Œ ์ •ํ™•๋„, ์–ต์–‘, ๋ฆฌ๋“ฌ, ์—ฐ์Œ, ์ฒญ์ทจ๋ ฅ, ๋งํ•˜๊ธฐ ์œ ์ฐฝ์„ฑ์„ ํฌ๊ฒŒ ํ–ฅ์ƒ์‹œํ‚ต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. IELTS ์Šคํ”ผํ‚น ์ค€๋น„์™€ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ์˜์–ด ์†Œํ†ต์„ ์›ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ถ„๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ ํŠนํžˆ ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์„€๋„์ž‰ ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•: ๋‹จ๊ณ„๋ณ„ ์ „์ฒด ๊ฐ€์ด๋“œ ์ฝ๊ธฐ โ†’