쉐도잉 연습: Nobody Gets Away With Betrayal - 영상으로 영어 말하기 배우기
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When you've been hurt, it's really easy to believe
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that the person who wronged you gets to just move on with their life
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and live happily ever after while you're stuck behind heartbroken
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and confused and trying to pick up the broken pieces of your life.
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But that's not how life works.
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No one gets away with anything.
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No one can escape their own psyche.
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the subconscious always remembers.
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We always know deep down, even if we want to suppress it,
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even if we lie to ourselves about it, we know when we've done something that isn't right.
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We know when we've behaved inconsistently with our own character and integrity.
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and sure there are going to be people who are not willing to face it
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and you're some people who are never going to give you the apology
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that you deserve but don't tell yourself the story
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that they just get to be happy while you're upset
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because again no one gets away with anything
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and you might think well the narcissist gets away with it the narcissist doesn't care And guess what?
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It's not true.
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You think a true narcissist, you think they're happy?
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Because I'm here to tell you that they're not.
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They're deeply unhappy, profoundly unhappy.
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And yes, if someone is truly that selfish and narcissistic, they could probably repress it.
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They'll tell themselves a story about how they're the victim and, you know, they were wronged.
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And even if they're not narcissistic, it's very easy for people to tell themselves a story that,
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you know, we didn't do anything wrong or we were justified, but we'll have to face it at some point.
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And it'll come up in other ways.
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It'll come up in the relationships that we have that just are not working.
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It'll come up in physical symptoms, back aches, jaw aches, headaches.
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It'll come up in insomnia.
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It'll come up in angst and stress.
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It'll come up as just suffering and unhappiness.
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Because unless someone truly does not know the difference between right and wrong, and that is a very rare person, by the way.
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We all have to face ourselves at some point, even if you don't know the person
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and you've just been on one date with them or maybe three dates and then you just never hear from them again.
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Like none of that feels good.
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We're human beings.
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It's just having like the basic decency to to, I don't know, be polite and just tell someone,
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you know, I'm not interested rather than just to disappear.
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sometimes you're dating someone for a few weeks or even longer
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or let's just say you were dating someone for a year
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and then they just disappear you think that they are
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that they just don't care no they're going to have to face themselves too
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because the person who ghosts is only haunted by their own ghost,
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which is their unconscious.
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And that's the part of them that knows that something is just, that what they did is not right.
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And like I said, we can suppress it as much as we like.
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We can tell ourselves a story about how we're justified as much as we like, but we know it.
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And when we're brave, then we face it.
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And then we hopefully apologize to someone and own our behavior.
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Many, many years ago, my then husband, who's now my ex-husband, broke up with me over a text on the morning
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that I was having a miscarriage and my mother had a couple of months to live.
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And this was obviously a horrible thing.
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I talk about it in my book, It Begins With You.
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And one of the worst days of my life.
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When I think back to that day and I think about it very objectively,
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I don't really have any emotion tied to it all because I processed it so much.
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I remember for a long time, I would say like a good year, the only thing that could run through my mind was,
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you know, he got to do that and now look.
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You know, because inside of a year, he started seeing someone else,
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got her pregnant and like within a year and a half was like starting a family with a new woman.
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And I was working on myself and starting a new business and grieving the loss of my mom.
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And for a good year, I was I struggled with a lot of depression because of it.
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I was so sad.
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I was I was grieving so profoundly.
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And I remember thinking like he gets to break up with me in a way
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that is so terrible and was completely undeserved.
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And then he gets to be happy.
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And I remember like thinking about that and how stuck it made me feel,
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how angry, how it just kept on feeding my despair.
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But as I started to heal and as I started to get some distance
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and as I started to do the work that I do now, I realized something.
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I learned probably one of the most important lessons
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that I've ever learned and one of the most important lessons that I teach today, which is he has to live with doing that.
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and I learned I don't need the apology from him.
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I don't need the acknowledgement of that.
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I mean, for a long time, that's all I wanted.
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I don't need it anymore because I understand when I reflect on my own behavior, my own life, and when I understand human behavior,
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no one gets away with anything and the psyche always remembers.
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the body keeps the score so to speak and
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so he knows the difference between right or wrong and
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that is something that I know that he had to process
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and figure out on his own and
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if he never figured it out then it's coming out in other ways I know
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that to be true you can think of it as karma but I don't really think of it as karma.
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It's more just the reality of how we human beings operate.
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And so the next time you are sobbing over the fact that someone has, you know, gets to get away with,
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you know, moving on with their life and now you're, and your life is terrible and you're so heartbroken, people have to live with the betrayal and the wrongs
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that they have done to others
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and then they have to go through a whole process of learning how to respect and love themselves
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after doing something that they know that was wrong.
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And so you just have to trust that no one escapes that journey.
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이 레슨의 어휘와 말하기 포인트
이 B2 수준 말하기 레슨은 영상 “Nobody Gets Away With Betrayal”을(를) 바탕으로 합니다. 이 영상에는 섀도잉할 문장 91개와 단어 1122개가 있습니다. 말하는 구간의 길이는 8:15입니다. 화자는 분당 약 136단어의 일정한 속도로 말해서 섀도잉하기에 편한 속도입니다. 단어의 87%가 영어에서 가장 많이 쓰이는 3,000단어에 속해 어휘가 쉬운 편입니다.
이 영상의 핵심 어휘
영상에서 가장 어려운 단어 15개를 발음, 뜻과 함께 정리했습니다.
| 단어 | 발음 | 뜻 |
|---|---|---|
| ache 동사 | /ˈeɪk/ | 아프다 |
| karma 명사 | /kərm(ə)/ | 업, 카르마 |
| apology 명사 | /əˈpɑ.lə.d͡ʒi/ | 사과, 사죄 |
| disappear 동사 | /dɪsəˈpɪɹ/ | 사라지다 |
| acknowledgment 명사 | /əkˈnɑ.lɪd͡ʒ.mənt/ | 승인 |
| insomnia 명사 | /ɪnˈsɒmniə/ | 불면증 |
| miscarriage 명사 | /ˈmɪs.kæɹ.əd͡ʒ/ | 유산, 류산 |
| symptom 명사 | /ˈsɪm(p)təm/ | 증상, 증후 |
| despair 명사 | /dɪˈspɛə(ɹ)/ | 절망 |
| polite 형용사 | /pəˈlaɪt/ | 공손하다 |
| unconscious 형용사 | /ˌʌnˈkɑnʃəs/ | 잠재의식적, 무의식적 |
| headache 명사 | /ˈhɛdeɪk/ | 두통 |
| behave 동사 | /bɪˈheɪv/ | 처신하다, 행동하다 |
| selfish 형용사 | /ˈsɛlf.ɪʃ/ | 이기적(利己的)이다, 자기 본위(自己本位)의 |
| heal 동사 | /ˈhiːl/ | 치료하다, 고치다 |
영상에 나오는 구동사
| 단어 | 뜻 |
|---|---|
| come up 동사 | 올라오다 |
| pick up 동사 | 줍다 |
따라 말해 볼 만한 문장
영상에 나오는 짧고 완결된 문장으로, 일상 대화에서 그대로 쓸 수 있습니다:
- You think a true narcissist, you think they're happy?
- Because I'm here to tell you that they're not.
- I don't need the acknowledgement of that.
이 영상의 문법
화자가 가장 많이 쓰는 문형을 영상 속 실제 표현과 함께 정리했습니다.
| 문형 | 영상 속 표현 |
|---|---|
| 현재완료 have/has + 과거분사 — 과거의 일이 지금도 관련이 있을 때 | you've been hurt · we've done · we've behaved |
| 관계절 who / which + 절 — 사람이나 사물에 대한 추가 정보 | person who wronged · people who are · person who ghosts |
| 수동태 be + 과거분사 — 누가 하는지보다 무슨 일이 일어나는지에 초점 | you've been hurt · were wronged · were justified |
주의할 발음
화자는 don't, it'll, they're 같은 축약형과 약화된 형태를 42번 사용합니다. 들리는 대로 짧게 발음하세요.
- “sh”와 “zh” 소리: subconscious /sʌbˈkɑn.ʃəs/, unconscious /ˌʌnˈkɑnʃəs/, selfish /ˈsɛlf.ɪʃ/, emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/
- 긴 단어 — 강세 위치에 주의: narcissistic /ˌnɑɹ.sɪˈsɪs.tɪk/, apology /əˈpɑ.lə.d͡ʒi/, acknowledgment /əkˈnɑ.lɪd͡ʒ.mənt/, objectively /əbˈd͡ʒɛktɪvli/, apologize /əˈpɑləˌd͡ʒaɪz/
한국어 화자가 어려워하는 소리:
- /f/ — ㅍ(/p/)으로 바꾸지 말고 윗니를 아랫입술에 대기: profoundly /pɹəˈfaʊndli/, justify /ˈd͡ʒʌstɪfaɪ/, selfish /ˈsɛlf.ɪʃ/
- /v/ — ㅂ(/b/)과 구별하기: grieve /ɡɹiːv/, objectively /əbˈd͡ʒɛktɪvli/, behave /bɪˈheɪv/
- /r/과 /l/ 구별하기: profoundly /pɹəˈfaʊndli/, betrayal /bɪˈtɹeɪəl/
이 영상으로 연습하는 방법
- 먼저 말하지 않고 영상을 끝까지 듣고 모르는 단어를 적어 둡니다.
- 보통 속도로 한 문장씩 섀도잉하고, 화자의 리듬과 맞을 때까지 반복합니다.
- 자신의 목소리를 녹음해 원본과 비교하고, ache, karma, apology 같은 단어에 특히 주의합니다.
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