Shadowing Practice: Nobody Gets Away With Betrayal - Learn English Speaking with Video
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When you've been hurt, it's really easy to believe
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that the person who wronged you gets to just move on with their life
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and live happily ever after while you're stuck behind heartbroken
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and confused and trying to pick up the broken pieces of your life.
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But that's not how life works.
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No one gets away with anything.
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No one can escape their own psyche.
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the subconscious always remembers.
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We always know deep down, even if we want to suppress it,
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even if we lie to ourselves about it, we know when we've done something that isn't right.
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We know when we've behaved inconsistently with our own character and integrity.
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and sure there are going to be people who are not willing to face it
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and you're some people who are never going to give you the apology
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that you deserve but don't tell yourself the story
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that they just get to be happy while you're upset
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because again no one gets away with anything
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and you might think well the narcissist gets away with it the narcissist doesn't care And guess what?
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It's not true.
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You think a true narcissist, you think they're happy?
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Because I'm here to tell you that they're not.
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They're deeply unhappy, profoundly unhappy.
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And yes, if someone is truly that selfish and narcissistic, they could probably repress it.
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They'll tell themselves a story about how they're the victim and, you know, they were wronged.
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And even if they're not narcissistic, it's very easy for people to tell themselves a story that,
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you know, we didn't do anything wrong or we were justified, but we'll have to face it at some point.
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And it'll come up in other ways.
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It'll come up in the relationships that we have that just are not working.
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It'll come up in physical symptoms, back aches, jaw aches, headaches.
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It'll come up in insomnia.
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It'll come up in angst and stress.
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It'll come up as just suffering and unhappiness.
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Because unless someone truly does not know the difference between right and wrong, and that is a very rare person, by the way.
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We all have to face ourselves at some point, even if you don't know the person
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and you've just been on one date with them or maybe three dates and then you just never hear from them again.
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Like none of that feels good.
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We're human beings.
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It's just having like the basic decency to to, I don't know, be polite and just tell someone,
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you know, I'm not interested rather than just to disappear.
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sometimes you're dating someone for a few weeks or even longer
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or let's just say you were dating someone for a year
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and then they just disappear you think that they are
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that they just don't care no they're going to have to face themselves too
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because the person who ghosts is only haunted by their own ghost,
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which is their unconscious.
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And that's the part of them that knows that something is just, that what they did is not right.
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And like I said, we can suppress it as much as we like.
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We can tell ourselves a story about how we're justified as much as we like, but we know it.
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And when we're brave, then we face it.
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And then we hopefully apologize to someone and own our behavior.
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Many, many years ago, my then husband, who's now my ex-husband, broke up with me over a text on the morning
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that I was having a miscarriage and my mother had a couple of months to live.
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And this was obviously a horrible thing.
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I talk about it in my book, It Begins With You.
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And one of the worst days of my life.
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When I think back to that day and I think about it very objectively,
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I don't really have any emotion tied to it all because I processed it so much.
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I remember for a long time, I would say like a good year, the only thing that could run through my mind was,
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you know, he got to do that and now look.
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You know, because inside of a year, he started seeing someone else,
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got her pregnant and like within a year and a half was like starting a family with a new woman.
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And I was working on myself and starting a new business and grieving the loss of my mom.
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And for a good year, I was I struggled with a lot of depression because of it.
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I was so sad.
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I was I was grieving so profoundly.
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And I remember thinking like he gets to break up with me in a way
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that is so terrible and was completely undeserved.
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And then he gets to be happy.
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And I remember like thinking about that and how stuck it made me feel,
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how angry, how it just kept on feeding my despair.
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But as I started to heal and as I started to get some distance
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and as I started to do the work that I do now, I realized something.
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I learned probably one of the most important lessons
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that I've ever learned and one of the most important lessons that I teach today, which is he has to live with doing that.
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and I learned I don't need the apology from him.
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I don't need the acknowledgement of that.
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I mean, for a long time, that's all I wanted.
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I don't need it anymore because I understand when I reflect on my own behavior, my own life, and when I understand human behavior,
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no one gets away with anything and the psyche always remembers.
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the body keeps the score so to speak and
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so he knows the difference between right or wrong and
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that is something that I know that he had to process
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and figure out on his own and
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if he never figured it out then it's coming out in other ways I know
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that to be true you can think of it as karma but I don't really think of it as karma.
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It's more just the reality of how we human beings operate.
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And so the next time you are sobbing over the fact that someone has, you know, gets to get away with,
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you know, moving on with their life and now you're, and your life is terrible and you're so heartbroken, people have to live with the betrayal and the wrongs
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that they have done to others
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and then they have to go through a whole process of learning how to respect and love themselves
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after doing something that they know that was wrong.
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And so you just have to trust that no one escapes that journey.
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Woordenschat en spreektips bij deze les
Deze spreekles op niveau B2 is gebaseerd op de video “Nobody Gets Away With Betrayal”. Deze video bevat 91 zinnen en 1122 woorden om na te spreken. Het gesproken deel duurt 8:15. De spreker praat in een gelijkmatig tempo van ongeveer 136 woorden per minuut, prettig om te shadowen. 87% van de woorden hoort bij de 3.000 meest gebruikte Engelse woorden, dus de woordenschat is goed te volgen.
Belangrijke woorden in deze video
De 15 moeilijkste woorden uit de video, met uitspraak en betekenis:
| Woord | Uitspraak | Betekenis |
|---|---|---|
| narcissist zelfstandig naamwoord | narcist | |
| grieve werkwoord | /ɡɹiːv/ | bedroeven |
| profoundly bijwoord | /pɹəˈfaʊndli/ | grondig |
| karma zelfstandig naamwoord | /kərm(ə)/ | karma |
| apology zelfstandig naamwoord | /əˈpɑ.lə.d͡ʒi/ | verontschuldiging |
| disappear werkwoord | /dɪsəˈpɪɹ/ | verdwijnen, verzwinden |
| justify werkwoord | /ˈd͡ʒʌstɪfaɪ/ | rechtvaardigen |
| acknowledgment zelfstandig naamwoord | /əkˈnɑ.lɪd͡ʒ.mənt/ | erkenning, bekentenis |
| insomnia zelfstandig naamwoord | /ɪnˈsɒmniə/ | slapeloosheid |
| miscarriage zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈmɪs.kæɹ.əd͡ʒ/ | miskraam, misdracht |
| objectively bijwoord | /əbˈd͡ʒɛktɪvli/ | objectief |
| unhappiness zelfstandig naamwoord | ongelukkigheid | |
| decency zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈdiːsənsi/ | fatsoen |
| haunt werkwoord | /hɔnt/ | rondspoken |
| symptom zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈsɪm(p)təm/ | symptoom |
Phrasal verbs die je zult horen
| Woord | Betekenis |
|---|---|
| pick up werkwoord | oppakken, optillen |
Zinnen om te herhalen
Korte, volledige zinnen uit de video die je in alledaagse gesprekken kunt gebruiken:
- You think a true narcissist, you think they're happy?
- Because I'm here to tell you that they're not.
- I don't need the acknowledgement of that.
Grammatica in deze video
De structuren die de spreker het meest gebruikt, met de exacte woorden uit de video:
| Structuur | In de video |
|---|---|
| Present perfect have/has + voltooid deelwoord — iets uit het verleden dat nu nog telt | you've been hurt · we've done · we've behaved |
| Betrekkelijke bijzinnen who / which + zin — extra informatie over een persoon of ding | person who wronged · people who are · person who ghosts |
| Lijdende vorm be + voltooid deelwoord — het gaat om wat er gebeurt, niet om wie het doet | you've been hurt · were wronged · were justified |
Uitspraak om op te letten
De spreker gebruikt 42 samentrekkingen en verkorte vormen, zoals don't, it'll, they're. Spreek ze kort uit, zoals je ze hoort.
- De klanken “sh” en “zh”: subconscious /sʌbˈkɑn.ʃəs/, unconscious /ˌʌnˈkɑnʃəs/, selfish /ˈsɛlf.ɪʃ/, emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/
- Lange woorden — let op de klemtoon: narcissistic /ˌnɑɹ.sɪˈsɪs.tɪk/, apology /əˈpɑ.lə.d͡ʒi/, acknowledgment /əkˈnɑ.lɪd͡ʒ.mənt/, objectively /əbˈd͡ʒɛktɪvli/, apologize /əˈpɑləˌd͡ʒaɪz/
Klanken die Nederlandstaligen lastig vinden:
- Stemhebbende eindmedeklinker — /b/, /d/, /g/, /z/, /v/ niet verscherpen: grieve /ɡɹiːv/, miscarriage /ˈmɪs.kæɹ.əd͡ʒ/, behave /bɪˈheɪv/, apologize /əˈpɑləˌd͡ʒaɪz/
- /æ/ — opener dan de Nederlandse “e”: unhappy /ʌnˈhæpi/, miscarriage /ˈmɪs.kæɹ.əd͡ʒ/, happily /ˈhæp.ə.li/
Zo oefen je met deze video
- Luister de hele video één keer zonder te spreken en noteer de woorden die je niet kent.
- Spreek zin voor zin na op normale snelheid en herhaal elke zin tot je ritme gelijk is aan dat van de spreker.
- Neem jezelf op en vergelijk met het origineel; let daarbij op woorden als narcissist, grieve, profoundly.
Wat is de Shadowing-techniek?
Shadowing is een wetenschappelijk onderbouwde taalleermethode die oorspronkelijk is ontwikkeld voor professionele tolkentraining en gepopulariseerd door polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. De methode is eenvoudig maar krachtig: je luistert naar native Engelse audio en herhaalt het onmiddellijk hardop — als een schaduw die de spreker volgt met slechts 1–2 seconden vertraging. In tegenstelling tot passief luisteren of grammaticadrills, dwingt shadowing je hersenen en mondspieren om echte spraakpatronen tegelijkertijd te verwerken en te reproduceren. Onderzoek toont aan dat het de uitspraaknauwkeurigheid, intonatie, ritme, verbonden spraak, luisterbegrip en spreekvaardigheid aanzienlijk verbetert — waardoor het een van de meest effectieve methoden is voor IELTS Speaking-voorbereiding en echte Engelse communicatie.