Shadowing Practice: Nobody Gets Away With Betrayal - Learn English Speaking with Video

When you've been hurt, it's really easy to believe

that the person who wronged you gets to just move on with their life

and live happily ever after while you're stuck behind heartbroken

and confused and trying to pick up the broken pieces of your life.

But that's not how life works.

No one gets away with anything.

No one can escape their own psyche.

the subconscious always remembers.

We always know deep down, even if we want to suppress it,

even if we lie to ourselves about it, we know when we've done something that isn't right.

We know when we've behaved inconsistently with our own character and integrity.

and sure there are going to be people who are not willing to face it

and you're some people who are never going to give you the apology

that you deserve but don't tell yourself the story

that they just get to be happy while you're upset

because again no one gets away with anything

and you might think well the narcissist gets away with it the narcissist doesn't care And guess what?

It's not true.

You think a true narcissist, you think they're happy?

Because I'm here to tell you that they're not.

They're deeply unhappy, profoundly unhappy.

And yes, if someone is truly that selfish and narcissistic, they could probably repress it.

They'll tell themselves a story about how they're the victim and, you know, they were wronged.

And even if they're not narcissistic, it's very easy for people to tell themselves a story that,

you know, we didn't do anything wrong or we were justified, but we'll have to face it at some point.

And it'll come up in other ways.

It'll come up in the relationships that we have that just are not working.

It'll come up in physical symptoms, back aches, jaw aches, headaches.

It'll come up in insomnia.

It'll come up in angst and stress.

It'll come up as just suffering and unhappiness.

Because unless someone truly does not know the difference between right and wrong, and that is a very rare person, by the way.

We all have to face ourselves at some point, even if you don't know the person

and you've just been on one date with them or maybe three dates and then you just never hear from them again.

Like none of that feels good.

We're human beings.

It's just having like the basic decency to to, I don't know, be polite and just tell someone,

you know, I'm not interested rather than just to disappear.

sometimes you're dating someone for a few weeks or even longer

or let's just say you were dating someone for a year

and then they just disappear you think that they are

that they just don't care no they're going to have to face themselves too

because the person who ghosts is only haunted by their own ghost,

which is their unconscious.

And that's the part of them that knows that something is just, that what they did is not right.

And like I said, we can suppress it as much as we like.

We can tell ourselves a story about how we're justified as much as we like, but we know it.

And when we're brave, then we face it.

And then we hopefully apologize to someone and own our behavior.

Many, many years ago, my then husband, who's now my ex-husband, broke up with me over a text on the morning

that I was having a miscarriage and my mother had a couple of months to live.

And this was obviously a horrible thing.

I talk about it in my book, It Begins With You.

And one of the worst days of my life.

When I think back to that day and I think about it very objectively,

I don't really have any emotion tied to it all because I processed it so much.

I remember for a long time, I would say like a good year, the only thing that could run through my mind was,

you know, he got to do that and now look.

You know, because inside of a year, he started seeing someone else,

got her pregnant and like within a year and a half was like starting a family with a new woman.

And I was working on myself and starting a new business and grieving the loss of my mom.

And for a good year, I was I struggled with a lot of depression because of it.

I was so sad.

I was I was grieving so profoundly.

And I remember thinking like he gets to break up with me in a way

that is so terrible and was completely undeserved.

And then he gets to be happy.

And I remember like thinking about that and how stuck it made me feel,

how angry, how it just kept on feeding my despair.

But as I started to heal and as I started to get some distance

and as I started to do the work that I do now, I realized something.

I learned probably one of the most important lessons

that I've ever learned and one of the most important lessons that I teach today, which is he has to live with doing that.

and I learned I don't need the apology from him.

I don't need the acknowledgement of that.

I mean, for a long time, that's all I wanted.

I don't need it anymore because I understand when I reflect on my own behavior, my own life, and when I understand human behavior,

no one gets away with anything and the psyche always remembers.

the body keeps the score so to speak and

so he knows the difference between right or wrong and

that is something that I know that he had to process

and figure out on his own and

if he never figured it out then it's coming out in other ways I know

that to be true you can think of it as karma but I don't really think of it as karma.

It's more just the reality of how we human beings operate.

And so the next time you are sobbing over the fact that someone has, you know, gets to get away with,

you know, moving on with their life and now you're, and your life is terrible and you're so heartbroken, people have to live with the betrayal and the wrongs

that they have done to others

and then they have to go through a whole process of learning how to respect and love themselves

after doing something that they know that was wrong.

And so you just have to trust that no one escapes that journey.

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Bu dersin kelimeleri ve konuşma notları

Bu B2 seviyesindeki konuşma dersi “Nobody Gets Away With Betrayal” videosuna dayanıyor. Bu videoda gölgeleme çalışması için 91 cümle ve 1122 kelime var. Konuşma bölümü 8:15 sürüyor. Konuşmacı dakikada yaklaşık 136 kelimelik dengeli bir hızla konuşuyor; gölgeleme için rahat bir tempo. Kelimelerin %87’i İngilizcede en sık kullanılan 3.000 kelime arasında, bu yüzden kelime dağarcığını takip etmek kolay.

Bu videodaki önemli kelimeler

Videodaki en ileri düzey 15 kelime, telaffuzu ve anlamıyla:

Kelime	Telaffuz	Anlam
ache fiil	/ˈeɪk/	ağrımak, acımak
grieve fiil	/ɡɹiːv/	üzmek
heartbroken sıfat		kalbi kırık
suppress fiil	/səˈpɹɛs/	bastırmak, durdurmak
karma isim	/kərm(ə)/	dakka dukka, eden bulur
apology isim	/əˈpɑ.lə.d͡ʒi/	itizar, özür
unhappy sıfat	/ʌnˈhæpi/	mutsuz, üzgün
disappear fiil	/dɪsəˈpɪɹ/	gözden kaybolmak, yok olmak
justify fiil	/ˈd͡ʒʌstɪfaɪ/	haklı göstermek
insomnia isim	/ɪnˈsɒmniə/	uykusuzluk
miscarriage isim	/ˈmɪs.kæɹ.əd͡ʒ/	düşük, ceninisakıt
unhappiness isim		mutsuzluk
symptom isim	/ˈsɪm(p)təm/	semptom, belgi
despair isim	/dɪˈspɛə(ɹ)/	umutsuzluk
polite sıfat	/pəˈlaɪt/	kibar, nazik

Tekrar etmeye değer cümleler

Videodan, günlük konuşmada yeniden kullanabileceğiniz kısa ve tam cümleler:

You think a true narcissist, you think they're happy?
Because I'm here to tell you that they're not.
I don't need the acknowledgement of that.

Bu videodaki dil bilgisi

Konuşmacının en çok kullandığı yapılar, videodaki sözcüklerin aynısıyla:

Yapı	Videoda
Present perfect have/has + fiilin üçüncü hâli — geçmişte olan ama şimdi de önemli olan bir eylem	you've been hurt · we've done · we've behaved
İlgi cümlecikleri who / which + cümle — bir kişi ya da şey hakkında ek bilgi	person who wronged · people who are · person who ghosts
Edilgen yapı be + fiilin üçüncü hâli — kimin yaptığı değil, ne olduğu önemli	you've been hurt · were wronged · were justified

Dikkat edilecek telaffuzlar

Konuşmacı don't, it'll, they're gibi kısaltılmış biçimleri 42 kez kullanıyor. Bunları duyduğunuz gibi kısa söyleyin.

“sh” ve “zh” sesleri: subconscious /sʌbˈkɑn.ʃəs/, unconscious /ˌʌnˈkɑnʃəs/, selfish /ˈsɛlf.ɪʃ/, emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/
Uzun kelimeler — vurguyu doğru yere koyun: narcissistic /ˌnɑɹ.sɪˈsɪs.tɪk/, apology /əˈpɑ.lə.d͡ʒi/, acknowledgment /əkˈnɑ.lɪd͡ʒ.mənt/, objectively /əbˈd͡ʒɛktɪvli/, apologize /əˈpɑləˌd͡ʒaɪz/

Türkçe konuşanların zorlandığı sesler:

Kelime başındaki ünsüz kümesi — araya ünlü eklemeyin: grieve /ɡɹiːv/, profoundly /pɹəˈfaʊndli/
/æ/ — “e”den daha açık: unhappy /ʌnˈhæpi/, miscarriage /ˈmɪs.kæɹ.əd͡ʒ/, happily /ˈhæp.ə.li/

Bu videoyla nasıl çalışılır

Videonun tamamını konuşmadan bir kez dinleyin ve bilmediğiniz kelimeleri not edin.
Normal hızda cümle cümle tekrar edin; ritminiz konuşmacıyla aynı olana kadar her cümleyi yineleyin.
Kendinizi kaydedin ve orijinaliyle karşılaştırın; ache, grieve, heartbroken gibi kelimelere özellikle dikkat edin.

Gölgeleme Tekniği Nedir?

Gölgeleme, başlangıçta profesyonel tercüman eğitimi için geliştirilen ve çok dilli Dr. Alexander Arguelles tarafından popüler hale getirilen, bilim destekli bir dil öğrenme tekniğidir. Yöntem basit ama güçlüdür: ana dili İngilizce olan bir sesi dinler ve hemen yüksek sesle tekrar edersiniz — konuşmacıyı 1-2 saniye gecikmeyle takip eden bir gölge gibi. Pasif dinleme veya dilbilgisi alıştırmalarının aksine, gölgeleme beyninizi ve ağız kaslarınızı gerçek konuşma kalıplarını eşzamanlı olarak işlemeye ve yeniden üretmeye zorlar. Araştırmalar, telaffuz doğruluğu, tonlama, ritim, bağlı konuşma, dinleme anlama ve konuşma akıcılığını önemli ölçüde geliştirdiğini göstermektedir — bu da onu IELTS Konuşma hazırlığı ve gerçek dünya İngilizce iletişimi için en etkili yöntemlerden biri yapar.

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