Luyện nói tiếng Anh bằng Shadowing qua video: Nobody Gets Away With Betrayal
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When you've been hurt, it's really easy to believe
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that the person who wronged you gets to just move on with their life
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and live happily ever after while you're stuck behind heartbroken
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and confused and trying to pick up the broken pieces of your life.
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But that's not how life works.
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No one gets away with anything.
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No one can escape their own psyche.
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the subconscious always remembers.
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We always know deep down, even if we want to suppress it,
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even if we lie to ourselves about it, we know when we've done something that isn't right.
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We know when we've behaved inconsistently with our own character and integrity.
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and sure there are going to be people who are not willing to face it
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and you're some people who are never going to give you the apology
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that you deserve but don't tell yourself the story
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that they just get to be happy while you're upset
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because again no one gets away with anything
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and you might think well the narcissist gets away with it the narcissist doesn't care And guess what?
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It's not true.
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You think a true narcissist, you think they're happy?
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Because I'm here to tell you that they're not.
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They're deeply unhappy, profoundly unhappy.
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And yes, if someone is truly that selfish and narcissistic, they could probably repress it.
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They'll tell themselves a story about how they're the victim and, you know, they were wronged.
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And even if they're not narcissistic, it's very easy for people to tell themselves a story that,
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you know, we didn't do anything wrong or we were justified, but we'll have to face it at some point.
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And it'll come up in other ways.
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It'll come up in the relationships that we have that just are not working.
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It'll come up in physical symptoms, back aches, jaw aches, headaches.
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It'll come up in insomnia.
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It'll come up in angst and stress.
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It'll come up as just suffering and unhappiness.
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Because unless someone truly does not know the difference between right and wrong, and that is a very rare person, by the way.
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We all have to face ourselves at some point, even if you don't know the person
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and you've just been on one date with them or maybe three dates and then you just never hear from them again.
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Like none of that feels good.
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We're human beings.
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It's just having like the basic decency to to, I don't know, be polite and just tell someone,
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you know, I'm not interested rather than just to disappear.
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sometimes you're dating someone for a few weeks or even longer
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or let's just say you were dating someone for a year
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and then they just disappear you think that they are
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that they just don't care no they're going to have to face themselves too
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because the person who ghosts is only haunted by their own ghost,
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which is their unconscious.
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And that's the part of them that knows that something is just, that what they did is not right.
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And like I said, we can suppress it as much as we like.
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We can tell ourselves a story about how we're justified as much as we like, but we know it.
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And when we're brave, then we face it.
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And then we hopefully apologize to someone and own our behavior.
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Many, many years ago, my then husband, who's now my ex-husband, broke up with me over a text on the morning
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that I was having a miscarriage and my mother had a couple of months to live.
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And this was obviously a horrible thing.
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I talk about it in my book, It Begins With You.
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And one of the worst days of my life.
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When I think back to that day and I think about it very objectively,
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I don't really have any emotion tied to it all because I processed it so much.
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I remember for a long time, I would say like a good year, the only thing that could run through my mind was,
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you know, he got to do that and now look.
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You know, because inside of a year, he started seeing someone else,
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got her pregnant and like within a year and a half was like starting a family with a new woman.
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And I was working on myself and starting a new business and grieving the loss of my mom.
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And for a good year, I was I struggled with a lot of depression because of it.
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I was so sad.
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I was I was grieving so profoundly.
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And I remember thinking like he gets to break up with me in a way
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that is so terrible and was completely undeserved.
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And then he gets to be happy.
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And I remember like thinking about that and how stuck it made me feel,
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how angry, how it just kept on feeding my despair.
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But as I started to heal and as I started to get some distance
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and as I started to do the work that I do now, I realized something.
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I learned probably one of the most important lessons
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that I've ever learned and one of the most important lessons that I teach today, which is he has to live with doing that.
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and I learned I don't need the apology from him.
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I don't need the acknowledgement of that.
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I mean, for a long time, that's all I wanted.
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I don't need it anymore because I understand when I reflect on my own behavior, my own life, and when I understand human behavior,
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no one gets away with anything and the psyche always remembers.
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the body keeps the score so to speak and
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so he knows the difference between right or wrong and
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that is something that I know that he had to process
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and figure out on his own and
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if he never figured it out then it's coming out in other ways I know
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that to be true you can think of it as karma but I don't really think of it as karma.
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It's more just the reality of how we human beings operate.
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And so the next time you are sobbing over the fact that someone has, you know, gets to get away with,
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you know, moving on with their life and now you're, and your life is terrible and you're so heartbroken, people have to live with the betrayal and the wrongs
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that they have done to others
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and then they have to go through a whole process of learning how to respect and love themselves
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after doing something that they know that was wrong.
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And so you just have to trust that no one escapes that journey.
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Từ vựng và ghi chú luyện nói cho bài học này
Bài luyện nói trình độ B2 này dựa trên video “Nobody Gets Away With Betrayal”. Video này có 91 câu và 1122 từ để luyện shadowing. Phần lời nói dài 8:15. Người nói giữ tốc độ đều, khoảng 136 từ mỗi phút, vừa sức để nói đuổi theo. 87% số từ nằm trong 3.000 từ tiếng Anh thông dụng nhất, nên từ vựng dễ theo.
Từ vựng quan trọng trong video
15 từ khó nhất trong video, kèm phiên âm và nghĩa:
| Từ | Phiên âm | Nghĩa |
|---|---|---|
| ache động từ | /ˈeɪk/ | nhức |
| grieve động từ | /ɡɹiːv/ | đau lòng |
| karma danh từ | /kərm(ə)/ | nghiệp, nghiệp chướng |
| apology danh từ | /əˈpɑ.lə.d͡ʒi/ | sự xin lỗi |
| disappear động từ | /dɪsəˈpɪɹ/ | biến mất |
| insomnia danh từ | /ɪnˈsɒmniə/ | mất ngủ |
| miscarriage danh từ | /ˈmɪs.kæɹ.əd͡ʒ/ | sự sẩy thai |
| repress động từ | /ɹəˈpɹɛs/ | đàn áp |
| symptom danh từ | /ˈsɪm(p)təm/ | triệu chứng, chứng trạng |
| despair danh từ | /dɪˈspɛə(ɹ)/ | sự tuyệt vọng |
| polite tính từ | /pəˈlaɪt/ | lịch sự, lễ phép |
| headache danh từ | /ˈhɛdeɪk/ | chứng nhức đầu |
| behave động từ | /bɪˈheɪv/ | cư xử |
| selfish tính từ | /ˈsɛlf.ɪʃ/ | ích kỷ |
| apologize động từ | /əˈpɑləˌd͡ʒaɪz/ | xin lỗi |
Cụm động từ bạn sẽ nghe
| Từ | Nghĩa |
|---|---|
| pick up động từ | nhặt, lượm |
Những câu đáng luyện lại
Các câu ngắn, trọn ý trong video mà bạn có thể dùng lại khi giao tiếp hằng ngày:
- You think a true narcissist, you think they're happy?
- Because I'm here to tell you that they're not.
- I don't need the acknowledgement of that.
Ngữ pháp trong video
Những cấu trúc người nói dùng nhiều nhất, kèm đúng cụm từ trong video:
| Cấu trúc | Trong video |
|---|---|
| Thì hiện tại hoàn thành have/has + quá khứ phân từ — việc đã xảy ra nhưng còn liên quan đến hiện tại | you've been hurt · we've done · we've behaved |
| Mệnh đề quan hệ who / which + mệnh đề — thêm thông tin về người hoặc vật | person who wronged · people who are · person who ghosts |
| Câu bị động be + quá khứ phân từ — nhấn vào việc xảy ra, không phải người làm | you've been hurt · were wronged · were justified |
Phát âm cần chú ý
Người nói dùng 42 dạng rút gọn, ví dụ don't, it'll, they're. Hãy nói theo dạng ngắn đúng như bạn nghe.
- Âm “sh” và “zh”: subconscious /sʌbˈkɑn.ʃəs/, unconscious /ˌʌnˈkɑnʃəs/, selfish /ˈsɛlf.ɪʃ/, emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/
- Từ dài — đặt trọng âm cho đúng: narcissistic /ˌnɑɹ.sɪˈsɪs.tɪk/, apology /əˈpɑ.lə.d͡ʒi/, acknowledgment /əkˈnɑ.lɪd͡ʒ.mənt/, objectively /əbˈd͡ʒɛktɪvli/, apologize /əˈpɑləˌd͡ʒaɪz/
Những âm người Việt thường gặp khó:
- Cụm phụ âm cuối — đọc đủ từng âm, đừng nuốt âm cuối: acknowledgment /əkˈnɑ.lɪd͡ʒ.mənt/, haunt /hɔnt/
- Âm /tʃ/, /dʒ/ và /ʒ/ — tiếng Việt không có, đừng đọc thành “ch” hay “gi”: apology /əˈpɑ.lə.d͡ʒi/, justify /ˈd͡ʒʌstɪfaɪ/, acknowledgment /əkˈnɑ.lɪd͡ʒ.mənt/, miscarriage /ˈmɪs.kæɹ.əd͡ʒ/, objectively /əbˈd͡ʒɛktɪvli/
- Âm /æ/ — mở miệng rộng hơn âm “e”: unhappy /ʌnˈhæpi/, miscarriage /ˈmɪs.kæɹ.əd͡ʒ/, happily /ˈhæp.ə.li/
Cách luyện với video này
- Nghe hết video một lần, chưa cần nói, và ghi lại những từ bạn chưa biết.
- Nói đuổi từng câu ở tốc độ bình thường, lặp lại mỗi câu đến khi nhịp của bạn khớp với người nói.
- Ghi âm giọng mình rồi so với bản gốc, chú ý các từ như ache, grieve, karma.
Phương Pháp Shadowing Là Gì?
Shadowing là kỹ thuật học ngôn ngữ có cơ sở khoa học, ban đầu được phát triển cho chương trình đào tạo phiên dịch viên chuyên nghiệp và được phổ biến rộng rãi bởi nhà đa ngôn ngữ học Dr. Alexander Arguelles. Nguyên lý cốt lõi đơn giản nhưng cực kỳ hiệu quả: bạn nghe tiếng Anh của người bản xứ và lặp lại to ngay lập tức — như một "cái bóng" (shadow) đuổi theo người nói với độ trễ chỉ 1–2 giây. Khác với luyện ngữ pháp hay học từ vựng bị động, Shadowing buộc não bộ và cơ miệng phải đồng thời xử lý và tái tạo ngôn ngữ thực tế. Các nghiên cứu khoa học xác nhận phương pháp này cải thiện đáng kể phát âm, ngữ điệu, nhịp điệu, nối âm, kỹ năng nghe và độ lưu loát khi nói — đặc biệt hiệu quả cho người luyện IELTS Speaking và muốn giao tiếp tiếng Anh tự nhiên như người bản ngữ.