Shadowing Practice: Nobody Gets Away With Betrayal - Learn English Speaking with Video

When you've been hurt, it's really easy to believe

that the person who wronged you gets to just move on with their life

and live happily ever after while you're stuck behind heartbroken

and confused and trying to pick up the broken pieces of your life.

But that's not how life works.

No one gets away with anything.

No one can escape their own psyche.

the subconscious always remembers.

We always know deep down, even if we want to suppress it,

even if we lie to ourselves about it, we know when we've done something that isn't right.

We know when we've behaved inconsistently with our own character and integrity.

and sure there are going to be people who are not willing to face it

and you're some people who are never going to give you the apology

that you deserve but don't tell yourself the story

that they just get to be happy while you're upset

because again no one gets away with anything

and you might think well the narcissist gets away with it the narcissist doesn't care And guess what?

It's not true.

You think a true narcissist, you think they're happy?

Because I'm here to tell you that they're not.

They're deeply unhappy, profoundly unhappy.

And yes, if someone is truly that selfish and narcissistic, they could probably repress it.

They'll tell themselves a story about how they're the victim and, you know, they were wronged.

And even if they're not narcissistic, it's very easy for people to tell themselves a story that,

you know, we didn't do anything wrong or we were justified, but we'll have to face it at some point.

And it'll come up in other ways.

It'll come up in the relationships that we have that just are not working.

It'll come up in physical symptoms, back aches, jaw aches, headaches.

It'll come up in insomnia.

It'll come up in angst and stress.

It'll come up as just suffering and unhappiness.

Because unless someone truly does not know the difference between right and wrong, and that is a very rare person, by the way.

We all have to face ourselves at some point, even if you don't know the person

and you've just been on one date with them or maybe three dates and then you just never hear from them again.

Like none of that feels good.

We're human beings.

It's just having like the basic decency to to, I don't know, be polite and just tell someone,

you know, I'm not interested rather than just to disappear.

sometimes you're dating someone for a few weeks or even longer

or let's just say you were dating someone for a year

and then they just disappear you think that they are

that they just don't care no they're going to have to face themselves too

because the person who ghosts is only haunted by their own ghost,

which is their unconscious.

And that's the part of them that knows that something is just, that what they did is not right.

And like I said, we can suppress it as much as we like.

We can tell ourselves a story about how we're justified as much as we like, but we know it.

And when we're brave, then we face it.

And then we hopefully apologize to someone and own our behavior.

Many, many years ago, my then husband, who's now my ex-husband, broke up with me over a text on the morning

that I was having a miscarriage and my mother had a couple of months to live.

And this was obviously a horrible thing.

I talk about it in my book, It Begins With You.

And one of the worst days of my life.

When I think back to that day and I think about it very objectively,

I don't really have any emotion tied to it all because I processed it so much.

I remember for a long time, I would say like a good year, the only thing that could run through my mind was,

you know, he got to do that and now look.

You know, because inside of a year, he started seeing someone else,

got her pregnant and like within a year and a half was like starting a family with a new woman.

And I was working on myself and starting a new business and grieving the loss of my mom.

And for a good year, I was I struggled with a lot of depression because of it.

I was so sad.

I was I was grieving so profoundly.

And I remember thinking like he gets to break up with me in a way

that is so terrible and was completely undeserved.

And then he gets to be happy.

And I remember like thinking about that and how stuck it made me feel,

how angry, how it just kept on feeding my despair.

But as I started to heal and as I started to get some distance

and as I started to do the work that I do now, I realized something.

I learned probably one of the most important lessons

that I've ever learned and one of the most important lessons that I teach today, which is he has to live with doing that.

and I learned I don't need the apology from him.

I don't need the acknowledgement of that.

I mean, for a long time, that's all I wanted.

I don't need it anymore because I understand when I reflect on my own behavior, my own life, and when I understand human behavior,

no one gets away with anything and the psyche always remembers.

the body keeps the score so to speak and

so he knows the difference between right or wrong and

that is something that I know that he had to process

and figure out on his own and

if he never figured it out then it's coming out in other ways I know

that to be true you can think of it as karma but I don't really think of it as karma.

It's more just the reality of how we human beings operate.

And so the next time you are sobbing over the fact that someone has, you know, gets to get away with,

you know, moving on with their life and now you're, and your life is terrible and you're so heartbroken, people have to live with the betrayal and the wrongs

that they have done to others

and then they have to go through a whole process of learning how to respect and love themselves

after doing something that they know that was wrong.

And so you just have to trust that no one escapes that journey.

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Vocabulary and speaking notes for this lesson

This B2 speaking lesson is built on the video “Nobody Gets Away With Betrayal”. This video has 91 sentences and 1122 words to shadow. The speech runs for 8:15. The speaker talks at a steady 136 words per minute, a comfortable pace for shadowing. 87% of the words are among the 3,000 most common in English, so the vocabulary is easy to follow.

Key vocabulary in this video

The 15 most advanced words in the video, with pronunciation and meaning:

Word	Pronunciation	Meaning
narcissist noun		One who shows extreme love and admiration for themself.
ache verb	/ˈeɪk/	To suffer pain; to be the source of, or be in, pain, especially continued dull pain; to be distressed.
grieve verb	/ɡɹiːv/	To cause sorrow or distress to.
heartbroken adjective		Suffering from grief, especially after a failed romance.
narcissistic adjective	/ˌnɑɹ.sɪˈsɪs.tɪk/	Of or pertaining to the nature of narcissism.
profoundly adverb	/pɹəˈfaʊndli/	With depth, meaningfully.
suppress verb	/səˈpɹɛs/	To put an end to, especially with force, to crush, do away with; to prohibit, subdue.
karma noun	/kərm(ə)/	The sum total of a person's actions, which determine the person's next incarnation in samsara, the cycle of death and rebirth.
apology noun	/əˈpɑ.lə.d͡ʒi/	An expression of remorse or regret for having said or done something that harmed another: an instance of apologizing (saying that one is sorry).
unhappy adjective	/ʌnˈhæpi/	Not happy; sad.
disappear verb	/dɪsəˈpɪɹ/	To vanish.
justify verb	/ˈd͡ʒʌstɪfaɪ/	To provide an acceptable explanation for.
acknowledgment noun	/əkˈnɑ.lɪd͡ʒ.mənt/	The act of acknowledging
inconsistently adverb		In an inconsistent manner.
insomnia noun	/ɪnˈsɒmniə/	A sleeping disorder that is known for its symptoms of unrest and the inability to sleep.

Phrasal verbs you will hear

Word	Meaning
get away with verb	To get away, or escape, taking (something) with one.
come out in verb	to be afflicted by (a visible disruption of the body)
come up verb	To emerge or become known, especially unexpectedly.
go through verb	To travel from one end of something to the other.
pick up verb	To lift; to grasp and raise.
run through verb	To summarise briefly.

Sentences worth repeating

Short, complete lines from the video that you can reuse in everyday conversation:

You think a true narcissist, you think they're happy?
Because I'm here to tell you that they're not.
I don't need the acknowledgement of that.

Grammar in this video

The structures the speaker uses most, with the exact words from the video:

Structure	In the video
Present perfect have/has + past participle — a past action that still matters now	you've been hurt · we've done · we've behaved
Relative clauses who / which + clause — extra information about a person or thing	person who wronged · people who are · person who ghosts
Passive voice be + past participle — the focus is on what happens, not who does it	you've been hurt · were wronged · were justified

Pronunciation to watch

The speaker uses 42 contractions and reduced forms, such as don't, it'll, they're. Say them the short way, as you hear them.

The “sh” and “zh” sounds: subconscious /sʌbˈkɑn.ʃəs/, unconscious /ˌʌnˈkɑnʃəs/, selfish /ˈsɛlf.ɪʃ/, emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/
Long words — get the stress right: narcissistic /ˌnɑɹ.sɪˈsɪs.tɪk/, apology /əˈpɑ.lə.d͡ʒi/, acknowledgment /əkˈnɑ.lɪd͡ʒ.mənt/, objectively /əbˈd͡ʒɛktɪvli/, apologize /əˈpɑləˌd͡ʒaɪz/

How to practise with this video

Listen to the whole video once without speaking and note the words you do not know.
Shadow it sentence by sentence at normal speed, repeating each one until your rhythm matches the speaker.
Record yourself and compare with the original, paying attention to words like narcissist, ache, grieve.

What is the Shadowing Technique?

Shadowing is a science-backed language learning technique originally developed for professional interpreter training and popularized by polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. The method is simple but powerful: you listen to native English audio and immediately repeat it out loud — like a shadow following the speaker with just a 1–2 second delay. Unlike passive listening or grammar drills, shadowing forces your brain and mouth muscles to simultaneously process and reproduce real speech patterns. Research shows it significantly improves pronunciation accuracy, intonation, rhythm, connected speech, listening comprehension, and speaking fluency — making it one of the most effective methods for IELTS Speaking preparation and real-world English communication.

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