Pratique du Shadowing: The 4 Regrets Every Human Has (And How To Avoid Them) - Apprendre l'anglais à l'oral avec la vidéo
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Regret.
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It's one of our most common emotions, but also one of our most misunderstood.
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We think that the path to a good life is to ignore our regrets, to always look forward and never look back, to always be positive and never be negative.
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And that is a mistake.
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We have a rich body of science telling us that if we approach our regrets in the right way, we can enlist them to work smarter, and live better.
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In this video, I'm going to show you the four universal regrets that people all over the world have.
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And I'm going to show you how to learn from them.
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A few years ago, I created something called the World Regret Project, where I asked people all over the world to share with me one of their big regrets.
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We now have a database of more than 26 ,000 regrets from people in 134 countries.
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And what's amazing about these regrets is that around the world, people seem to have the same four core regrets.
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First category, Foundation regrets.
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These are small decisions that people make early in life, no single one of which is deadly or cataclysmic, but they'd accumulate to negative consequences later on.
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Classic example: I spent too much and saved too little, and now I'm broke.
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Foundation regrets sound like this: If only I'd done the work.
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Second category: Boldness regrets.
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You're at a juncture in your life.
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You have two choices: You can play it safe, or you can take the chance.
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and overwhelmingly People regret not taking the chance.
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And it doesn't matter what the domain of life is.
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It could be asking somebody out on a date.
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It could be starting a business.
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It could be traveling.
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What sticks with us over time are the inactions, the lack of boldness.
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Boldness regrets sound like this: "If only I'd taken the chance."
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regret doing the wrong thing because most of us are good
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and most of us want to be good it could be
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bullying it could be extramarital affairs it could be lying
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when we do the wrong thing it sticks with us moral regrets if only i'd done the right thing
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Final category, connection regrets.
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These are about relationships and not only about romantic relationships but about the full suite of relationships in our lives.
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You have a relationship that was intact or should have been intact, but it comes apart.
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and it often comes apart in deeply undramatic ways.
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It doesn't explode, It just drifts apart.
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You want to reach out, but you don't because it's going to be awkward.
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You want to reach out, but you think the other side's not going to care.
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So you wait, and the drift widens.
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Almost always a mistake.
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Connection regrets sound like this: "If only I'd reached out." So around the world, people have the same four core regrets, foundation regrets.
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If only I'd done the work.
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Boldness regrets.
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If only I'd taken the chance.
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Moral regrets.
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If only I'd done the right thing.
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And connection regrets.
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If only I'd reached out.
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These regrets are instructive.
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And one of the things I learned as a researcher is that when people tell you what they regret the most, they're telling you what they value the most.
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And these four universal regrets are telling you, telling all of us, what we value in life.
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They're giving us the path to a good life.
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Let's go to another area here.
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What do you do with your regrets?
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All of us have regrets.
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How do you turn them into an engine of progress?
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I have a three -step process for doing that.
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The three -step process is this.
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Inward, outward, forward.
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First step when you have a regret is how you treat yourself.
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When we make mistakes, when we have screw -ups, when we have regrets, the way we talk to ourselves is cruel.
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We think that being that mean -spirited toward ourselves is going to improve our performance, and that's not true.
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So the first step in dealing with a regret is to treat yourself with kindness rather than contempt.
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Don't treat yourself better than anybody else.
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but don't treat yourself worse than anybody else.
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A lot of the times the way we talk to ourselves, we would never talk to anybody else that way.
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Recognize that your regrets are part of the human condition, and recognize that your regret is a moment in your life not the full measure of your life.
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Step two: outward.
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There is a strong argument in the research for writing about your regret, talking about your regret.
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We fear that if we talk about our regrets with other people, or we talk about our mistakes or setbacks, that people will think less of us.
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But there's some very good evidence that's wrong, that people often think more of us.
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They admire our courage, they admire our candor.
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So that's one reason to talk about your regrets, to write about your regrets.
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The other reason is that when we express our regrets, it's shoulder.
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A final reason that this outward expression of regrets is valuable is that negative emotions are blobby, they're amorphous.
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They sit up there like a vapor.
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When you write about your regret or talk about your regret, you take this vaporous, abstract thing and you turn it into concrete words that's less menacing.
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So, final step: forward.
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How do you use your regret to move forward?
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You have to be very systematic and explicit about this.
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Think about your regret and ask yourself these two questions: What lesson is this teaching me
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and what am I going to do next?
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Extract a lesson from the regret and then take that lesson and say, what is my next move going to be?
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When we do that, this negative emotion can be a positive force, because looking backward can move us forward.
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Vocabulaire et conseils d’expression pour cette leçon
Cette leçon d’expression orale de niveau B2 s’appuie sur la vidéo « The 4 Regrets Every Human Has ». Les mots qui reviennent le plus souvent : regret, step, forward, boldness, mistake. Cette vidéo contient 81 phrases et 989 mots à répéter en shadowing. La partie parlée dure 5:17. Le locuteur parle vite, environ 187 mots par minute : attendez-vous à des liaisons et à des sons réduits. 84 % des mots font partie des 3 000 mots les plus courants en anglais ; le reste mérite d’être vu avant de commencer.
Vocabulaire clé de cette vidéo
Les 15 mots les plus avancés de la vidéo, avec leur prononciation et leur sens :
| Mot | Prononciation | Sens |
|---|---|---|
| boldness nom | /ˈboʊldnəs/ | audace |
| outward adjectif | /ˈaʊt.wɚd/ | externe |
| emotion nom | /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/ | émotion |
| admire verbe | /ədˈmaɪɹ/ | admirer |
| intact adjectif | /ɪnˈtækt/ | intact |
| accumulate verbe | /əˈkjuːmjʊˌleɪt/ | accumuler |
| candor nom | /ˈkæn.də(ɹ)/ | candeur |
| enlist verbe | /ɛnˈlɪst/ | s'inscrire |
| extramarital adjectif | /ˌɛkstɹəˈmæɹɪtəl/ | extraconjugal |
| inaction nom | /ɪnˈækʃən/ | inaction |
| instructive adjectif | /ɪnˈstɹʌktɪv/ | instructif |
| inward adjectif | /ˈɪnwəd/ | intérieur |
| juncture nom | /ˈd͡ʒʌŋk.t͡ʃɚ/ | jonction |
| misunderstand verbe | /mɪs.ʌn.də(ɹ)ˈstænd/ | mal interpréter, méprendre |
| setback nom | /ˈsɛtbæk/ | contretemps, obstacle |
Les verbes à particule que vous entendrez
| Mot | Sens |
|---|---|
| reach out verbe | tendre la main |
| come apart verbe | se défaire |
| drift apart verbe | se perdre de vue |
Des phrases à répéter
Des phrases courtes et complètes de la vidéo, à réutiliser dans la conversation de tous les jours :
- You're at a juncture in your life.
- If only I'd done the work.
- If only I'd taken the chance.
- What do you do with your regrets?
- How do you use your regret to move forward?
Prononciation à surveiller
Le locuteur utilise 21 contractions et formes réduites, comme I'd, don't, I'm. Prononcez-les sous leur forme courte, telles que vous les entendez.
- Les sons « sh » et « zh »: emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/, inaction /ɪnˈækʃən/
- Mots longs — placez bien l’accent: accumulate /əˈkjuːmjʊˌleɪt/, cataclysmic /ˌkætəˈklɪzmɪk/, extramarital /ˌɛkstɹəˈmæɹɪtəl/, misunderstand /mɪs.ʌn.də(ɹ)ˈstænd/, overwhelmingly /ˌəʊ.vəˈwɛl.mɪŋ.lɪ/
Les sons difficiles pour les francophones :
- /tʃ/ et /dʒ/ — à ne pas adoucir en « ch » et « j »: juncture /ˈd͡ʒʌŋk.t͡ʃɚ/, researcher /ˈɹiˌsɝ.t͡ʃɚ/
- /r/ anglais — langue recourbée, sans frotter la gorge: drift /dɹɪft/, admire /ədˈmaɪɹ/, amorphous /əˈmɔ(ɹ)fəs/, candor /ˈkæn.də(ɹ)/, extramarital /ˌɛkstɹəˈmæɹɪtəl/
Comment s’entraîner avec cette vidéo
- Écoutez la vidéo en entier une fois sans parler et notez les mots que vous ne connaissez pas.
- Commencez à la vitesse 0,75×, répétez phrase par phrase, puis revenez à la vitesse normale quand cela devient facile.
- Enregistrez-vous et comparez avec l’original, en faisant attention à des mots comme boldness, outward, emotion.
Qu'est-ce que la technique du Shadowing ?
Le Shadowing est une technique d'apprentissage des langues fondée sur la science, développée à l'origine pour la formation des interprètes professionnels. Le principe est simple mais puissant : vous écoutez de l'anglais natif et le répétez immédiatement à voix haute — comme une ombre suivant le locuteur avec un décalage de 1 à 2 secondes. Les recherches montrent une amélioration significative de la précision de la prononciation, de l'intonation, du rythme, des liaisons, de la compréhension orale et de la fluidité.