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What if I told you that the cause of much of your suffering, confusion, anxiety, shame, indecisiveness, bad decision-making, regret, lack of discipline, of confidence,

of motivation, might be because you simply don't love yourself enough.

Now, I know it's a bit of a buzzword.

I know it's vague self-love.

What the hell is that?

And why should you care?

Self-love, self-respect, self-esteem, they're all intertwined.

And in my view, it's simply about treating yourself like someone you care deeply about.

Someone you're rooting for.

It's being your own biggest fan.

It is knowing deeply and fully that you are deserving of love, respect, of good treatment, of a good life, of happiness.

It is believing that you can be anything, do anything, overcome anything.

And it has nothing to do with what you have, where you live, what you look like,

but everything to do with what you are. In here.

And up here, I guess.

And about what you do to make sure that what you feel actually aligns with your actions.

Now, self-love is not something that you accomplish.

There is no finish line.

It is a lifelong commitment, just like with any relationship.

But it's the relationship that you have with yourself, which we tend to focus a little on,

strangely enough, considering it is the longest relationship we will ever have.

It's from the moment we're conceived until our very last breath.

And no one else will be with you for that long, so I hope that answers the question as to why you should care.

But now, let's get to the how.

Define your moral compass and let it guide you through life.

Your moral compass basically tells you what's right and what's wrong.

How you should be treated and how you should treat others.

It's your rulebook for life.

Now, how do you decide what to put in your rulebook?

Where do you even start?

The overlapping question here is what do I stand for and what do I not stand for?

And you figure that out by asking yourself a ton of questions, by reading, by educating yourself,

but also honestly by learning through real life experience,

by going through things and analyzing how it made you feel and what you would to do with that information moving forward.

Let's take an example.

Let's say person X did not take no for an answer

and continued to pressure you for a good 5-10 minutes until they finally gave up.

Let's say it's a friend who really wants you to go out with them and party and stay out late.

And then you ask yourself, how did that situation make me feel?

And how would I like to act should a situation like that occur again?

Once you have been able to answer that question, put the answer in your rulebook for life.

Either physically, write it down, or take a mental note in all caps.

And so you might decide that the actions that you are going to take if a similar situation occurs is action one,

I will immediately tell them that they are pressuring me and it's making me feel uncomfortable.

Action 2.

If they continue, I will remove myself from that situation.

I will not care about how that makes them feel.

I will not stay just to make them happy or to avoid making it awkward.

No. I will tell them how I feel and if they disregard that, I am out.

You do not abandon yourself to satisfy someone else.

Okay, let's say that again because it's so important.

I don't abandon myself to satisfy someone else.

And that, my friends, is the act of self-love.

It is defining situations that make you feel a certain way, whether that is someone else doing something or you doing something to yourself,

and taking the necessary action to make sure that you feel comfortable, fulfilled, whatever the situation is.

Because remember, you care about yourself so very deeply and you only want what's best for you.

And now let's take another everyday example that is more about what you do

and that does not involve what someone else says or does.

So personally, I don't litter.

I know, gold and sar.

Not even a tiny issue, not even if no one else is around and no will ever know.

Because side note, when no one is around and no one will ever know, that's when your true character shows.

So pay close attention to how you act when you're by yourself.

You know, your moral compass should not only apply when you're being watched.

That implies, in my opinion, weak character.

But that's a different topic.

And now because I know that I don't want to litter, I know that, hmm, okay, if I go on a picnic,

for example, I need to bring some sort of a container that I can throw the trash in.

I set myself up for success.

I live in alignment with what I believe to be right, and that is the act of self-love.

Don't give yourself or people discounts.

Could you walk into any store and tell them, hey, I'm special, so you're going to give me a 25% discount?

No, you can't.

The prices are set, and if you can't afford it, leave.

It's not negotiable.

The same applies for your rulebook.

Because you are your own store, your own house, and the cost of entry is the rules

that you have for yourself and for others who would like to enter and who would like to stay.

So another example, let's say that your rulebook says, I don't want to be yelled at.

In my book, literally, that applies across the board.

I don't want my sister to yell at me, I wouldn't want a partner to yell at me,

and I wouldn't want a boss to yell at me.

And I also wouldn't want to yell at myself.

I'm no exception.

I don't give myself discounts either.

Now, all of those relationships that I mentioned are,

of course, different, and we might handle it differently depending on the person and the situation and act accordingly.

But the fact remains that I am not okay with it.

I am protecting little me, and little me will not put up with being yelled at.

It is the action that matters.

Now, it's not enough to say that you will or won't do something or that you will not tolerate XYZ.

The defining moment is, is, what do you do when it happens?

Do you love yourself enough to change?

To walk away?

To let go?

How deep is this love that you have for yourself?

Well, the depth is measured in the actions that you take.

Don't expect a 100% success rate.

Now look, we all do things that we look back on and feel stupid about, that we regret, that might feel out of character,

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things that, in hindsight, we can't really stand behind.

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You know, there are so many circumstances that can affect our actions, that make our actions not always align with this compass,

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with our rulebook, and what we believe to be true and to be right.

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So, I think the goal of making the right decisions 10 out of 10 times isn't attainable

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because we're human beings and we say dumb things, we do dumb things, and we make mistakes.

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You know, I too do things where I look back

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and I feel like that was out of character or that was unlike me or it's something that, given the chance, I might have done differently.

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But those moments are becoming less and less the more

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that I love myself because I do believe so strongly in the values

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and principles that I have set and that I let guide me through life.

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But it takes practice.

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For some people, walking away or saying no or changing the direction in your life can be very difficult.

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And the more you do it, the easier it'll become to look after yourself.

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And any other alternative will be off the table.

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이 말하기 레슨은 영상 “the 1-step guide to finally loving yourself”을(를) 바탕으로 합니다. 가장 자주 반복되는 단어는 다음과 같습니다: situation, self, Action, yell, rule. 이 영상에는 섀도잉할 문장 79개와 단어 1055개가 있습니다. 말하는 구간의 길이는 6:42입니다. 화자는 분당 약 157단어로, 일상 대화에 가까운 자연스러운 속도로 말합니다. 단어의 86%가 영어에서 가장 많이 쓰이는 3,000단어에 속합니다. 나머지는 연습 전에 미리 확인해 두세요. 전체 79문장 중 14문장이 질문이어서 의문문 억양과 짧은 대답을 연습하기에 좋습니다.

이 영상의 핵심 어휘

영상에 나오는 익혀 둘 만한 단어 15개를 발음, 뜻과 함께 정리했습니다.

단어	발음	뜻
yell 동사	/jɛl/	소리치다, 외치다
deeply 부사	/ˈdi(ː)pli/	깊이
compass 명사	/ˈkʌmpəs/	나침반, 라침반
occur 동사	/əˈkɜː/	일어나다, 발생하다
discount 명사	/ˈdɪskaʊnt/	할인
abandon 동사	/əˈbæn.dən/	단념(斷念)하다, 염단(念斷)하다
satisfy 동사	/ˈsætɪsfaɪ/	만족시키다
topic 명사	/ˈtɑpɪk/	화제, 주제
anxiety 명사	/æŋˈzaɪ.əti/	걱정, 불안
suffer 동사	/ˈsʌfɚ/	괴로와하다, 시달리다
happiness 명사	/ˈhæpinɪs/	행복, 기쁨
trash 명사	/tɹæʃ/	쓰레기, 오물
regret 동사	/ɹɪˈɡɹɛt/	후회하다
exception 명사	/əkˈsɛpʃən/	제외, 례외
tissue 명사	/ˈtɪʃ.(j)u/	조직

영상에 나오는 구동사

단어	뜻
give up 동사	항복하다

따라 말해 볼 만한 문장

영상에 나오는 짧고 완결된 문장으로, 일상 대화에서 그대로 쓸 수 있습니다:

I know it’s a bit of a buzzword.
Why would you care?
Where do you even start?
What do I not stand for?
Do you love yourself enough to change?

이 영상의 문법

화자가 가장 많이 쓰는 문형을 영상 속 실제 표현과 함께 정리했습니다.

문형	영상 속 표현
조건문 if + 절, will/would + 동사 — 조건과 그 결과	If they continue, I will remove
수동태 be + 과거분사 — 누가 하는지보다 무슨 일이 일어나는지에 초점	should be treated · being watched · are set
현재완료 have/has + 과거분사 — 과거의 일이 지금도 관련이 있을 때	have been · have set

주의할 발음

화자는 don't, I'm, won't 같은 축약형과 약화된 형태를 39번 사용합니다. 들리는 대로 짧게 발음하세요.

“sh”와 “zh” 소리: trash /tɹæʃ/, exception /əkˈsɛpʃən/, tissue /ˈtɪʃ.(j)u/, motivation /ˈmoʊ.tə.veɪ.ʃən/, confusion /kənˈfjuːʒən/
긴 단어 — 강세 위치에 주의: anxiety /æŋˈzaɪ.əti/, differently /ˈdɪf.ə.ɹənt.li/, motivation /ˈmoʊ.tə.veɪ.ʃən/, uncomfortable /ʌnˈkʌm.fɚ.tə.bl̩/, accordingly /əˈkɔɹ.dɪŋ.li/

한국어 화자가 어려워하는 소리:

/f/ — ㅍ(/p/)으로 바꾸지 말고 윗니를 아랫입술에 대기: define /dɪˈfaɪn/, satisfy /ˈsætɪsfaɪ/, suffer /ˈsʌfɚ/, physically /ˈfɪz.ɪ.kli/, differently /ˈdɪf.ə.ɹənt.li/
/v/ — ㅂ(/b/)과 구별하기: everyday /ˈɛvɹiˌdeɪ/, involve /ɪnˈvɑlv/, overcome /ˌəʊ.vəˈkʌm/, motivation /ˈmoʊ.tə.veɪ.ʃən/, vague /veɪɡ/
/z/ — ㅈ이 아니라 성대를 울리는 /s/: anxiety /æŋˈzaɪ.əti/, physically /ˈfɪz.ɪ.kli/

이 영상으로 연습하는 방법

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자신의 목소리를 녹음해 원본과 비교하고, yell, deeply, compass 같은 단어에 특히 주의합니다.

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