Shadowing Practice: How our expectations shape what we see, hear, and feel - Learn English Speaking with Video
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It can certainly feel like emotions happen to you, that they bubble up and that they cause you to do and say things.
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But that experience is an illusion that the brain creates.
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Not everybody has as much control as they might like, but everybody has a little more control than they think they do.
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When you're experiencing emotion or you're in an emotional state, what your brain is doing is telling itself a story about
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what is going on inside your body in relation to what's happening in the world.
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Your brain is always regulating your body.
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Your body is always sending sensory information back to your brain.
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And your brain isn't wired in a way for you to experience those sensory changes specifically.
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Instead, what you experience is a summary.
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And that's where those simple feelings come from.
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If you understand that every experience you have now becomes part of your brain's ability to predict,
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then you realize that the best way to change your past is to change your present.
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Just in the same way that you would exercise to make yourself healthier,
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you can invest energy to cultivate different experiences for yourself.
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The fact that your brain is using your past experience to predict what you're going to see and hear and feel
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means that you are an architect of your experience.
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And that doesn't involve breaking predictions.
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It involves seeding your brain to predict differently.
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It's my belief that the way in which emotions evolved was to deal with things like saber-toothed tigers,
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the current incarnation of which is the car that's suddenly lurching at your car at a high speed.
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You don't have time to think.
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In split seconds, you have to do and make very complex decisions.
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And if you had to think about what you were doing, you'd be dead.
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It's a system that evolved to deal with really important things without your thinking about.
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So that means that sometimes you're going to be very unconsidered, very thoughtless.
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Well, these exercises that we're giving people, moving their facial muscles,
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concentrating on the sensations to make them more aware of an emotion
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when it arises so that they will feel it at the moment
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and then can say did you really mean to ignore me?
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No. It was just an accident or maybe I shouldn't jump to the conclusion that she doesn't care about me at all.
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The way in which we can improve of our emotional life is to introduce conscious awareness.
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Nature did not want you to do that.
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So you have to do it yourself.
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All relationships are colored with expectations about myself and about the other.
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My expectations influence that which I then see or hear.
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It is a filter as well as my mood.
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That is one of the most important things to understand about relationships and communication
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is how people actually co-create each other in the context of a relationship, because those people make part of who we are.
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We will draw from them the very things which we expect from them, even when it's the opposite of what we really want.
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A lot of emphasis is put on our ability to say certain things, to say them in the right way,
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to articulate our needs, our feelings, our thoughts, our positions, our opinions.
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What is lacking is the ability to see
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that speaking is entirely dictated by the quality of the listening that is reflected back on us.
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If I am talking to someone who is on their phone, I will be expressing myself and experiencing the communication completely different than
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if I am speaking to someone who is looking at me in the eyes who says to me, I get it, I understand.
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Not necessarily I agree, because ultimately, if I speak to you, and in the end, I live feeling even more alone,
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I am literally in an existential crisis.
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There is nothing worse than to be alone in the presence of another.
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So when you listen to me, the first thing I need to know is that I have your attention.
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The second thing I need to know is that maybe you can acknowledge the validity of my point of view.
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And potentially you may even empathize with my point of view.
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You can understand why I would think or feel or experience things the way I do.
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That reflecting back, acknowledging, validating, empathizing.
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That sequence is where the depth of communication takes place.
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When you enter this world, you're not wired full of memories that your brain will use to predict.
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Other people cultivate your world
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and as a consequence they are wiring your brain full of experiences that your brain will then use to predict.
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So as an adult you can make decisions about what you experience now.
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You can make choices about how you act and those decisions
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and choices either reinforce the predictions that your brain makes or it changes them.
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Sometimes in life we are responsible for changing things not
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because we're culpable or to blame for those things but because we're the only ones who can change them.
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You always have tools available at your disposal to heal yourself,
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to act differently, and to feel differently.
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Woordenschat en spreektips bij deze les
Deze video bevat 64 zinnen en 881 woorden om na te spreken. Het gesproken deel duurt 6:51. De spreker praat in een gelijkmatig tempo van ongeveer 128 woorden per minuut, prettig om te shadowen. 87% van de woorden hoort bij de 3.000 meest gebruikte Engelse woorden; de rest kun je beter vooraf bekijken.
Belangrijke woorden in deze video
15 woorden uit de video die het leren waard zijn, met uitspraak en betekenis:
| Woord | Uitspraak | Betekenis |
|---|---|---|
| predict werkwoord | /pɹɪˈdɪkt/ | voorspellen |
| emotion zelfstandig naamwoord | /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/ | emotie |
| wire zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈwaɪɚ/ | draad |
| differently bijwoord | /ˈdɪf.ə.ɹənt.li/ | verschillend, anders |
| reflect werkwoord | /ɹɪˈflɛkt/ | weerkaatsen |
| acknowledge werkwoord | /əkˈnɑ.lɪd͡ʒ/ | bekennen, erkennen |
| expectation zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˌɛk.spɛkˈteɪ.ʃən/ | verwachting, afwachting |
| prediction zelfstandig naamwoord | /pɹɪˈdɪkʃən/ | voorspelling |
| evolve werkwoord | /ɪˈvɑlv/ | ontwikkelen |
| ignore werkwoord | /ɪɡˈnɔː/ | negeren |
| necessarily bijwoord | /ˌnɛs.əˈsɛɹ.ə.li/ | nodig, noodzakelijk |
| belief zelfstandig naamwoord | /bɪˈliːf/ | geloof |
| awareness zelfstandig naamwoord | /əˈwɛɹ.nəs/ | besef, bewustzijn |
| mood zelfstandig naamwoord | /muːd/ | humeur, stemming |
| muscle zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈmʌs.əl/ | spier |
Uitspraak om op te letten
De spreker gebruikt 14 samentrekkingen en verkorte vormen, zoals you're, we're, doesn't. Spreek ze kort uit, zoals je ze hoort.
- De “th”-klanken: tooth /tuθ/, empathize /ˈɛmpəˌθaɪz/, thoughtless /ˈθɔtləs/
- De klanken “sh” en “zh”: emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/, expectation /ˌɛk.spɛkˈteɪ.ʃən/, prediction /pɹɪˈdɪkʃən/, conclusion /kənˈkluːʒən/, potentially /pəˈtɛnʃ(ə)li/
- Lange woorden — let op de klemtoon: differently /ˈdɪf.ə.ɹənt.li/, expectation /ˌɛk.spɛkˈteɪ.ʃən/, necessarily /ˌnɛs.əˈsɛɹ.ə.li/, potentially /pəˈtɛnʃ(ə)li/, validity /vəˈlɪd.ɪ.ti/
Zo oefen je met deze video
- Luister de hele video één keer zonder te spreken en noteer de woorden die je niet kent.
- Spreek zin voor zin na op normale snelheid en herhaal elke zin tot je ritme gelijk is aan dat van de spreker.
- Neem jezelf op en vergelijk met het origineel; let daarbij op woorden als predict, emotion, wire.
Grammatica in deze video
De structuren die de spreker het meest gebruikt, met de exacte woorden uit de video:
| Structuur | In de video |
|---|---|
| Lijdende vorm be + voltooid deelwoord — het gaat om wat er gebeurt, niet om wie het doet | isn't wired · are colored · is put |
| Betrekkelijke bijzinnen who / which + zin — extra informatie over een persoon of ding | someone who is · ones who can |
Wat is de Shadowing-techniek?
Shadowing is een wetenschappelijk onderbouwde taalleermethode die oorspronkelijk is ontwikkeld voor professionele tolkentraining en gepopulariseerd door polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. De methode is eenvoudig maar krachtig: je luistert naar native Engelse audio en herhaalt het onmiddellijk hardop — als een schaduw die de spreker volgt met slechts 1–2 seconden vertraging. In tegenstelling tot passief luisteren of grammaticadrills, dwingt shadowing je hersenen en mondspieren om echte spraakpatronen tegelijkertijd te verwerken en te reproduceren. Onderzoek toont aan dat het de uitspraaknauwkeurigheid, intonatie, ritme, verbonden spraak, luisterbegrip en spreekvaardigheid aanzienlijk verbetert — waardoor het een van de meest effectieve methoden is voor IELTS Speaking-voorbereiding en echte Engelse communicatie.