Shadowing Practice: How to Argue with a Gaslighter - Learn English Speaking with Video
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How to argue with a gaslighter.
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Number one, trust your gut.
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Don't get caught up in trying to prove that your history happened a certain way because gaslighters will just shift the narrative.
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So instead of focusing on filling every hole that they dig, trust your gut and put down the shovel.
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Number two, you will assertively use the phrase, we remember things differently.
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And when they argue and push back against you, you just repeat it.
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We remember things differently, or that wasn't my experience.
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And get comfortable with those phrases and use them as many times as you need.
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And number three, a gaslighter's playground is the past.
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That's what they use to manipulate your current reality.
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And that's why it's no good to keep talking about it.
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So to shift away from it, one phrase that I like to use is, I have no interest in debating the past.
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My only interest is agreeing on the future.
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So try that and follow me.
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Vocabulary and speaking notes for this lesson
This speaking lesson is built on the video “How to Argue with a Gaslighter”. This video has 14 sentences and 166 words to shadow. The speech runs for 0:44. The speaker talks fast, about 228 words per minute, so expect linked and reduced sounds. 83% of the words are among the 3,000 most common in English; the rest is worth studying before you start.
Key vocabulary in this video
15 words from the video worth learning, with pronunciation and meaning:
| Word | Pronunciation | Meaning |
|---|---|---|
| phrase noun | /ˈfɹeɪ̯z/ | A short written or spoken expression. |
| argue verb | /ˈɑɹ.ɡju/ | To show grounds for concluding (that); to indicate, imply. |
| differently adverb | /ˈdɪf.ə.ɹənt.li/ | In a different way. |
| narrative noun | /ˈnæɹ.ə.tɪv/ | The systematic recitation of an event or series of events. |
| playground noun | /ˈpleɪɡɹaʊnd/ | A large open space for children to play in, usually having dedicated play equipment (such as swings and slides). |
| manipulate verb | /məˈnɪp.jʊ.leɪt/ | To move, arrange or operate something using the hands |
| gaslighter noun | One who, or that which, lights gas. | |
| assertively adverb | In an assertive manner. | |
| shovel noun | /ˈʃʌv.əl/ | A hand tool with a handle, used for moving portions of material such as earth, snow, and grain from one place to another, with some forms also used for… |
| shift noun | /ˈʃɪft/ | A movement to do something, a beginning. |
| comfortable adjective | /ˈkʌm(p)f.tə.bəl/ | Providing physical comfort and ease; agreeable. |
| hole noun | /hoʊl/ | A hollow place or cavity; an excavation; a pit; a dent; a depression; a fissure. |
| debate noun | /dɪˈbeɪt/ | An argument, or discussion, usually in an ordered or formal setting, often with more than two people, generally ending with a vote or other decision. |
| fill verb | /fɪl/ | To add contents to (a container, cavity, or the like) so that it is full. |
| repeat verb | /ɹɪˈpiːt/ | To do or say again (and again). |
Phrasal verbs you will hear
| Word | Meaning |
|---|---|
| put down verb | To insult, belittle, or demean. |
Pronunciation to watch
- The “sh” and “zh” sounds: shovel /ˈʃʌv.əl/, shift /ˈʃɪft/
- Long words — get the stress right: differently /ˈdɪf.ə.ɹənt.li/, manipulate /məˈnɪp.jʊ.leɪt/
How to practise with this video
- Listen to the whole video once without speaking and note the words you do not know.
- Start at 0.75× speed, shadow it sentence by sentence, then go back to normal speed once it feels easy.
- Record yourself and compare with the original, paying attention to words like phrase, argue, differently.
What is the Shadowing Technique?
Shadowing is a science-backed language learning technique originally developed for professional interpreter training and popularized by polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. The method is simple but powerful: you listen to native English audio and immediately repeat it out loud — like a shadow following the speaker with just a 1–2 second delay. Unlike passive listening or grammar drills, shadowing forces your brain and mouth muscles to simultaneously process and reproduce real speech patterns. Research shows it significantly improves pronunciation accuracy, intonation, rhythm, connected speech, listening comprehension, and speaking fluency — making it one of the most effective methods for IELTS Speaking preparation and real-world English communication.