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Hello and welcome for this episode at the house.

I hope you are well and that you have taken care of you since the last time we got in the ears.

The last week there, there was no episode because I had planned to make you a story time episode on my marathon,

but it was annuling last minute, the week of the race.

So I didn't want to record an episode for you, without really thinking and doing something, and to complete a void.

So I thought we would wait for the next week

And we are here for an episode on the notion of pleasure

And on the fact of losing pleasure in the things that we do in life

That's what our passions, relationships, habits, hobbies, objectives that we have

Because it's true that I think growing up, I've lost a bit of a flame and an étincell On certain things that I could do,

on certain things that I could do

I have a lot of put it on the ground and said that somehow we can't always do what we love,

that everything can't always be a part of pleasure and

that we have to know how to do things even when it's not what we wanted, even if it's not exactly what we wanted.

And I think

that I have a lot of received this excuse in my head on all these little things of my life, whether it be on my objectives,

on my passions, on my relationships, saying that if I don't take pleasure to do that, it's just because it's life and it's like that.

I think there is much more behind and

that it is much easier to say that it is just

because we grow

and we take less pleasure to do all these things rather than there is a real reason behind

and that it is between our hands and our actions daily

and the way we talk and how we manage certain things

that has direct impact on the pleasure that we can take

and it is true

that recently I have been asked a lot of questions about the pleasure in everything

that I've been in my career in my goals, in my relationships, etc. In terms of what I've learned in my life,

I don't think I'm never considered a perfectionist.

In the contrary, I'm the last to have an attention to detail.

I'm the least perfectionist who exists.

But one of my biggest mistakes, I think that I have a lot of expectations towards myself.

I always expect to have some results, I always expect to achieve some things in a certain way.

And I think that these expectations towards myself are sometimes very beneficial

because they have allowed me to do excellent things in my life

and to achieve incredible goals and to achieve things that make me happy and which are super cool for me.

But I think there are also moments where these expectations

that I put on my shoulders and that I feel are the center of many things that I do,

I can't take this pleasure in things that I take into my life, in my habits, in my passions, in my career, in my relationships.

When we have a lot of expectations in ourselves and we can't always fill them all the time,

even if we wait for ourselves to always respond to these things that we have in mind,

It's a vicious circle of eternal satisfaction because it doesn't stop.

Once you've reached some expectations, you have others who are going to place.

And in fact, these expectations, for me, have taken a lot of place, and I think there's a lot of place,

I think, in what I do in my life and what I do in my life.

And I've been asked this question in the moment, to ask if it's not my fault, if I don't have too much expectations in my life.

I was talking about an article on Substack, which was talking about this notion of pleasure.

A woman, I don't know her name, but she mentioned the writings and research of Natalie Goldberg.

And she called it

What is keeping us from pleasure?

What is what retient us to take pleasure?

It's an anagramme of pleasure.

P -L -E -A -S -U -R -E Each letter of pleasure is related to a notion

that retains us to take pleasure in our lives.

Whether in our work, in our hobbies, in our relationships, in our habits,

in all these things what is what really retient us at the prise of pleasure

and the fact of to aim and to take pleasure at what we do.

The first thing that we retient in life to take pleasure is obviously for the P, the perfectionism.

And she calls it, I need to be brilliant all the time, dès que I do something.

This is obviously impossible.

We never would expect someone in front of us to be 100 % perfect

and brilliant at each thing he or she entreprend.

And the perfectionism, I think it's natural that we want to do the things the most perfectly possible.

In fact, I think I think today we have

so much access to success and perfection through everything we consume

and clicking on a button and out a thing from our pocket each minute of the day,

each second of the day that we wait to arrive at this level of perfectionism.

But I think it's quite logical

that perfectionism comes completely against pleasure in the actions of life

because it takes a lot of place because

when we want to be perfect it's going to eat

and it makes us forget everything else we just want to do everything to perfection.

But the problem with perfectionism is that it empires everything to do completely natural and logical.

It is to say that to grow in a relationship, to improve in any hobby, to evolve in your work,

in your knowledge, etc. You have to learn, and to learn, you have to repeat,

you have to fail, you have to learn from what we do of what we do well, we have to know.

to not be perfect for just to improve or to learn more.

And I think that sometimes even if I lack a bit of perfectionism in what I do in my life,

I'm still happy to not be blocked by doing things that I like, just because I know that I'm not perfect at what I do.

And where it comes from with the notion of pleasure, it's that there are maybe a lot of things we want to do,

like dance, dance, theater, whatever, maybe artistic thing we want to test, but we say that I'm not brilliant and I'm not brilliant until I start,

so I don't want to do it because I know I'm null.

And this notion of perfectionism

and this research of perfectionism in each aspect of our lives can prevent us from doing things

that could potentially bring a lot of pleasure.

Then, for the second letter, the L, it talks about legitimacy.

It explains it as, I'm not this person.

At first I didn't understand what she wanted to say, but when we think about it,

let's take an example of someone who wants to go into a sport, who would like to go in a jump course,

and who would like to go in a semi -marathon, but this person has this problem of legitimacy where she says I'm not a sportsman,

I'm not a sportsman, I can't do that I don't know who I am

and I think that I had a lot of

that at the time but I didn't have been a sportsman or I didn't have been a sportsman I can't do that,

I don't know, it's not me I was told that we're all out of a mom we're all out of someone

everyone is becoming someone everyone is becoming who he is everyone

in growing is becoming a mosaics of everything who he is going to happen,

a mosaics of all the people he has met a mosaïque of all the things that he interested, all the things that he decided to work,

to push, on which he decided to grow, to educate.

Maybe today we are not exactly these people who think are legitimate to do things, because we have given an ideal and we think

that everyone who does this thing has this type of character

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or this type of habit in his life and that we don't.

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But in reality, everyone can become who they want to become.

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And the big problem today is that we really put people in categories, So when you look at any industry or even sport,

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when you look at the people who have been riding a marathon semi -marathon, no one has the same story.

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Maybe there are many people who have a little bit of predisposition

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and who have been doing a lot of athletes for a long time, but most people have a completely different story.

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Most people have started differently, at different times of their lives, for different reasons.

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There is no status quo, no way, no type, no profile of the type, everyone can do that and it's too much to put barriers like

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that and I'm the first to say I'm not an writer, I'm not an actress, I can't write books,

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I can say that, while in reality there are already so many things in our life, in our civilization that prevent us from doing things,

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that make us access to things more difficult.

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Why would we come to put the buttons in the chair while there are already so many buttons exist.

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We are legitimate to test everything in our lives, we have all our place here,

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we have all the right to test what we want to test.

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And I don't know, I read this article in my mind,

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it made me realize how to legitimize it takes place in this equation of action and pleasure.

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And it really gave me to be aware of how I speak, how I see, and what I say,

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and to really try to see and understand where I feel like I'm missing from legitimize.

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To remember that it's not the case, that I have my life in my hands, that I have my personal life in my hands,

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that I have my I have my daily life in my hands

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and that I have the capacity to model my life

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and to reconstruct this mosaic that I have completed and made that I am today.

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And I thought it was important to share it with you through this episode.

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The third point, the E, the pleasure, because it's the word in English, it's not the word in French.

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It talks about exhaustion, so that's how I feel.

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It reminds me of another quote that I love, which is you can never do it with someone who can enjoy it.

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When we do something to do something until we get to no longer power, we have pushed the ball too far.

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I'm going to go back to the course to pieds, but it's like when you say you want to prepare a marathon

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and you're at your third month of preparation and you don't even know what you're at, you're all given.

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And sometimes when you go too far, you lose this notion of pleasure because you're feeling to force it, because it's the case, and

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because there's a sense of courage of exhaustion really takes a lot of place at this moment in our lives.

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And it's very difficult sometimes to find this balance between doing what we love, but not doing too much, but not doing too much.

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Because sometimes I feel that when I try to listen and really slow on certain things,

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I feel that I lose the line and then I don't want to be as good as certain things, because I'm a bit content.

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and that I feel like I don't need to leave because if I leave,

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I will lose the film and I can be as well as it is.

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And again, my waiting is sometimes a bit of perfectionism, in fact, but it's very complicated, I think, to find this balance,

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especially when we talk about business, passion, etc. You can be a photographer and be too happy that doing the photo is your job and,

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therefore, you want to and accept all things, and at the end, and not sleep, and be exhausted of what you do,

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and so lose the notion of pleasure, it's super hard.

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And I think it's inevitable to fall on top of it at a moment.

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It's inevitable, sometimes, when you do something that you like, to want to do too much,

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and so to get exhausted and to lose the notion of pleasure.

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And I think that, in fact, it's a balance balance where you have to remove weight from one side, add another, find a balance.

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It's really personal to each other.

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There's not one person.

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I think we can't do a copy -and - paste on how other people manage their sports, their hobbies, their past -temps, their job, their relationship.

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There's no copy -and -coller possible because we have all different characters, we have all different receptors, different ways to feel different,

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different pleasure, we're all completely different on that.

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And I think it's really important to sometimes be able to

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break a little bit to understand where we are going too far and how we can find this balance between

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and not to do enough enough for not to get tired because this notion of disappointment comes to ruin the pleasure.

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And I think that sometimes it's the thing that really comes to gâchers the pleasure.

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And once we realize that it's just that we're doing too much and that it's removed the pleasure,

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it allows us to slow down a little bit and so to find the pleasure.

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And that's what happened recently when I prepared the marathon which was just annuling, which I talked about in the beginning of the episode.

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I was going to do it at all, I'm going to do it at all, I'm going to do it at all,

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