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Yeah, my friend said no to me.

But strangely, I wasn't mad at him at all.

I felt respected and I started to rethink everything I thought I knew about the word no.

And that's what I want to talk about today.

It feels like it's been a while.

Welcome back to another episode of This is Hazel.

This happened pretty recently because I've been thinking a lot about what I should do

if I want to go back to acting again

if you've seen some of my videos

that i've made recently i yeah i i talked about it

you probably know what i've been thinking about i've had

so many questions in my head like should i go back to korea i mean the market

that i know about this acting field is korea not in canada

and also the language is difficult for me speaking english for the play and i don't know like i don't know

and also like is starting this career again actually a realistic

choice just i've these thoughts kept circling around in my head

so i reached out to a friend i met this friend through acting i met him in my university

and he's still working in the industry not as an actor

but he is working in that industry

and i thought he was probably one of the few people

that i knew who could look at my situation objectively

so i reached out

because i wanted his help i told him what i'd been

thinking about why i want to go back to acting again

and without going back to korea was actually the right decision for me

and everything to me it was a pretty serious and important conversation

and honestly it was just so different from the kinds of things that we

normally talked about so I had no idea how he was gonna take it.

I don't always feel comfortable asking people for help, you know.

I was already being really careful about reaching out to him because of this reason.

But he listened to me and honestly explained the practical reasons behind his answer.

He wasn't trying to emotionally comfort me.

He wasn't trying to tell me what he thought I wanted to hear.

He simply told me how he saw the reality of the situation.

I can't really go into the details.

I don't know how far I can go.

I'm sorry.

But basically, he told me he couldn't help me with it.

He said, no, I can't help you.

And the really strange thing was, I wasn't hurt at all.

And even though that was not the answer that I expected from him, because that's not the person that I expected.

Like he, I know him.

He's not that kind of person maybe the time passed

and he changed a little bit

but his answer didn't make me give up it didn't make me stop wanting to act again even though

that was a rejection i think it was more this person

really took what i said seriously that's what i thought like

that's how i felt he didn't just blindly support me you know

but he also didn't dismiss my dream I had brought him a serious question

and he gave me an equally serious and realistic answer.

And for the first time, I thought maybe a rejection or a negative answer doesn't necessarily have to break me.

Maybe sometimes someone is being honest because they actually respect me.

And I think that's probably when I first started to realize that maybe no doesn't have to be cold or hurtful.

Maybe if you genuinely respect someone, being honest with them can actually be kinder than giving them vague hope.

I kept thinking about that conversation afterwards.

Why did my friends no feel like a gift?

It didn't feel like a no. And looking back, I think there were a few reasons.

First, he really listened to me.

He wasn't just waiting for his turn to speak to decline.

He was fully in the conversation.

On second, he acknowledged how I felt first.

He started by saying yeah thank you for thinking of me for this like i'm glad

that you called me third he didn't give me some vague

answer instead of saying like i'm just really busy these days

or like you know i don't know he actually told me

the actual reason he was willing to have the difficult conversation with me on

that honesty itself felt like kindness

and the fourth one he spoke from his own perspective not

like just the fact he said I don't think I can give this the attention it deserves right now

so it wasn't about you like me it was about his own situation

and what he was capable of I think those four things

are why I felt respected even though I was being turned down

when you say yes to people you get this immediate sense of relief you avoid conflict and you tell your brain,

okay, I said yes.

So the social danger just passed.

It's almost like our nerve system learns to use people pleasing as a shortcut to avoid uncomfortable situations.

The problem is that can eventually lead to burnout.

When you say yes to everything, you're actually constantly saying no to yourself.

No to your time, no to your energy, no to your own health and happiness.

If you can say yes to people, that's a beautiful thing.

But there are times when you simply can't help people.

And if you can't say no in those moments,

you will eventually find yourself with nothing left to give when someone actually really needs you.

This experience completely changed the way I saw the word no.

I think I used to think no was a negative word but now I see I see that as a powerful tool.

Every time you say no to something you don't have the capacity for, you're actually saying yes to something that truly matters.

You're saying yes to your mental health, you're saying yes to your family, you're saying yes to the projects that really matter to you.

This isn't about my acting career, this isn't about my friend turning me down.

My friend didn't teach me how to accept rejection.

He taught me how to deliver a rejection with care.

Real respect isn't about making someone happy in the exact moment.

It's about being honest enough to prevent a bigger disappointment later.

It's about caring enough about the relationship not to make a promise you can't keep.

So I learned

how to say no by being told no

and ultimately i feel like we became better friends because of it if

that makes sense what does the word no mean to you

you've heard no from someone you of course experienced rejection in your life

so i'm curious like how was your experience

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and tell me your story in the comments i'd really love to hear

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that and i can learn from it too so thank you for being here bye

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這段影片共有 101 個句子、1190 個單詞可供跟讀。講話部分時長為 7:19。說話人語速自然，每分鐘約 163 個詞，接近日常對話。 86% 的單詞屬於英語最常用的 3,000 詞，其餘的詞建議在練習前先學一下。

影片中的重點詞彙

影片中 15 個值得學習的單詞，附發音和釋義：

單詞	發音	釋義
rejection 名詞	/ɹɪˈd͡ʒɛkʃən/	拒絕 /拒絕
realistic 形容詞	/ˌɹɪəˈlɪs.tɪk/	現實 /現實, 栩栩如生
vague 形容詞	/veɪɡ/	模糊, 糢糊
necessarily 副詞	/ˌnɛs.əˈsɛɹ.ə.li/	必然地, 必定地
practical 形容詞	/ˈpɹæk.tɪ.kəl/	使用的, 實用 /實用
curious 形容詞	/ˈkjʊɹ.i.əs/	好奇, 有好奇心
happiness 名詞	/ˈhæpinɪs/	幸福, 快樂 /快樂
afterwards 副詞	/ˈæf.tɚ.wɚdz/	然後 /然後
comfort 名詞	/ˈkʌm.fət/	舒適 /舒適
decline 動詞	/dɪˈklaɪn/	惡化 /惡化
equally 副詞	/ˈiːkwəli/	一樣地 /一樣地, 同樣地 /同樣地
nerve 名詞	/nɝv/	神經 /神經
uncomfortable 形容詞	/ʌnˈkʌm.fɚ.tə.bl̩/	不舒服
acknowledge 動詞	/əkˈnɑ.lɪd͡ʒ/	承認 /承認
disappointment 名詞	/ˌdɪsəˈpɔɪntmənt/	失望

影片中出現的短語動詞

單詞	釋義
give up 動詞	投案, 自首
look back 動詞	回顧 /回顧
turn down 動詞	拒絕 /拒絕, 回絕 /回絕

需要注意的發音

說話人用了 50 次縮略和弱讀形式，例如 didn't, don't, wasn't。請按聽到的簡短形式來說。

“sh” 和 “zh” 音: rejection /ɹɪˈd͡ʒɛkʃən/, emotionally /ɪˈməʊʃənəli/, shortcut /ˈʃɔːtkʌt/
長單詞——注意重音位置: necessarily /ˌnɛs.əˈsɛɹ.ə.li/, uncomfortable /ʌnˈkʌm.fɚ.tə.bl̩/, genuinely /ˈd͡ʒɛn.ju.ɪn.li/, emotionally /ɪˈməʊʃənəli/, disappointment /ˌdɪsəˈpɔɪntmənt/

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先完整聽一遍影片，不要開口，記下不認識的單詞。
先用 0.75 倍速逐句跟讀，熟練之後再回到正常速度。
錄下自己的聲音並與原聲對比，特別注意 rejection, realistic, vague 這類單詞。

影片中的語法

說話人最常用的結構，並附上影片中的原話：

結構	影片中的用法
現在完成進行時 have/has been + -ing — 以前開始、現在仍在繼續的動作	I've been thinking
現在完成時 have/has + 過去分詞 — 過去發生但與現在仍有關聯的事	it's been · you've seen · i've made
被動語態 be + 過去分詞 — 強調發生了什麼，而不是誰做的	wasn't hurt · being turned · being told

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