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There is somebody who needs to have a very difficult conversation that they've been avoiding tomorrow.
有个人明天得进行一场一直回避的艰难对话。
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How do they work up the courage to say the thing that needs to be said?
他们是怎么鼓起勇气说出那些必须说出口的话的？
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The first thing is, is I wouldn't have the conversation if you're doing it so you feel better, because you're going to be disappointed.
首先，如果你只是为了让自己好受才来找我谈，那我根本不会跟你聊，因为最后你肯定会失望。
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If you can enter the conversation on how I can serve that person on the other side, how can I serve them?
如果您能参与讨论我该如何为另一方提供服务，我要怎样才能为他们提供帮助？
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How can I leave the conversation and them have been helped?
我要怎样才能结束对话，同时确保对方已经得到了帮助？
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I like that a lot.
我很喜欢这一点。
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Then your job is to build a persuasive case.
那么你的任务就是构建一个有说服力的论证。
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Your job is to form your words in such a way that they're helpful, not just you feel better
你的任务是把话说得有帮助，而不只是让自己心里舒服。
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because you puked on them people ruminate about these conversations in their head over
就因为你吐了他们一身，那些人就会在脑子里反复琢磨这些对话。
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and over and over and over on the walking trail.
在步行道上一遍又一遍地走。
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I've done it.
我做到了。
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Yeah.
是的。
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And I'm going to say this, I'm going to say this, and then I go, why am I, what's the purpose of this conversation?
我本来打算说这个，说那个，然后突然就懵了，我这是在干嘛？这场对话到底有什么意义？
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Is it for me? Is it for them?
这是给我的吗？这是给他们的吗？
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Yeah.
是的。
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And if I get my purpose right, then you know what I end up doing?
要是我真找对了自己的目标，那你猜我最后会做什么？
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I end up not having some of the conversations.
最后有些对话我还是没聊成。
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Right.
对。
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Because it's for me, and it's not going to end up, the actual practical outcome is not going to be valuable.
因为这是为我自己做的，而且最终实际的成果不会有什么价值。
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Right.
对。
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And so I find
于是我发现
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that was sometimes people go I just have to look I just have to say my first thought is no you don't
有时候人们会说“我就是得看看，我就是得说出来”，而我的第一反应就是，不，你没必要这么做。
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You don't have to say anything exactly this is for you.
你什么都不用说，这本来就是给你的。
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It's not it's not for the other person
这不是为了对方。

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本课的词汇与口语要点

这节口语课以视频“Hard conversations are NOT about you..”为素材。 这段视频共有 24 个句子、275 个单词可供跟读。 讲话部分时长为 1:33。 说话人语速自然，每分钟约 177 个词，接近日常对话。 88% 的单词属于英语最常用的 3,000 词，词汇容易理解。 全部 24 个句子中有 7 个是问句，适合练习疑问语调和简短回答。

视频中的重点词汇

视频中 14 个值得学习的单词，附发音和释义：

单词发音释义
practical 形容词/ˈpɹæk.tɪ.kəl/使用的, 實用 /实用
trail 名词/tɹeɪl/足跡 /足迹, 蹤跡 /踪迹
helpful 形容词/ˈhɛlp.fl̩/有幫助 /有帮助
disappointed 形容词/ˌdɪsəˈpɔɪnɪd/敗興 /败兴, 失望
courage 名词/ˈkʌ.ɹɪd͡ʒ/勇氣 /勇气, 膽量 /胆量
persuasive 形容词/pə(ɹ)ˈsweɪsɪv/有說服力的 /有说服力的
ruminate 动词/ˈɹumənət/反芻 /反刍
valuable 形容词/ˈvælju(ə)bl̩/寶貴 /宝贵, 貴重 /贵重
conversation 名词/ˌkɑn.vəɹˈseɪ.ʃən/會話 /会话, 談話 /谈话
purpose 名词/ˈpɜːpəs/目的, 目標 /目标
serve 动词/sɝv/服務 /服务
avoid 动词/əˈvɔɪd/避免, 回避
actual 形容词/ˈækʃuəl/實際的 /实际的
somebody/ˈsʌmˌbədi/有人, 某人

视频中出现的短语动词

单词释义
end up 动词到达

视频中的语法

说话人最常用的结构，并附上视频中的原话：

结构视频中的用法
现在完成时 have/has + 过去分词 — 过去发生但与现在仍有关联的事have been helped · I've done
被动语态 be + 过去分词 — 强调发生了什么，而不是谁做的be said · have been helped

需要注意的发音

说话人用了 10 次缩略和弱读形式，例如 don't, I'm, you're。请按听到的简短形式来说。

  • “sh” 和 “zh” 音: conversation /ˌkɑn.vəɹˈseɪ.ʃən/, actual /ˈækʃuəl/
  • 长单词——注意重音位置: disappointed /ˌdɪsəˈpɔɪnɪd/, conversation /ˌkɑn.vəɹˈseɪ.ʃən/

中文母语者容易读错的音：

  • /v/ — 不要读成 /w/，上齿轻触下唇: persuasive /pə(ɹ)ˈsweɪsɪv/, valuable /ˈvælju(ə)bl̩/, conversation /ˌkɑn.vəɹˈseɪ.ʃən/, serve /sɝv/, avoid /əˈvɔɪd/
  • 词尾辅音 — 要读清楚，后面不要加元音: disappointed /ˌdɪsəˈpɔɪnɪd/, courage /ˈkʌ.ɹɪd͡ʒ/, persuasive /pə(ɹ)ˈsweɪsɪv/, puke /pjuːk/, ruminate /ˈɹumənət/
  • /r/ 和 /l/ 的区别: practical /ˈpɹæk.tɪ.kəl/, trail /tɹeɪl/

如何用这段视频练习

  1. 先完整听一遍视频，不要开口，记下不认识的单词。
  2. 先用 0.75 倍速逐句跟读，熟练之后再回到正常速度。
  3. 录下自己的声音并与原声对比，特别注意 practical, trail, helpful 这类单词。

什么是跟读法？

跟读法 (Shadowing) 是一种有科学依据的语言学习技巧，最初开发用于专业口译员的培训，并由多语言者Alexander Arguelles博士普及。这个方法简单而强大：您在听英语母语原声的同时立即大声重复——就像是一个延迟1-2秒紧跟说话者的影子。与被动听力或语法练习不同，跟读法强迫您的大脑和口腔肌肉同时处理并模仿真实的讲话模式。研究表明它能显着提高发音准确性，语调，节奏，连读，听力理解和口语流利度——使其成为雅思口语备考和真实英语交流最有效的方法之一。

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