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Have you ever found yourself trapped in a cycle of relentless thoughts about someone?
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Maybe it's an ex who broke your heart, or a crush who doesn't reciprocate your feelings.
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Whatever the case, obsessing over someone can be mentally exhausting and emotionally draining.
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But fear not, because there are ways to untangle yourself from this mental web and regain your peace of mind.
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Here are some psychology-backed strategies on how to stop obsessing over someone.
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Recognize the illusion Obsession happens when we project our desires onto someone who's unavailable and over-idealize them.
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Realistically, you probably know only about 10% of who that person truly is, and then you fill in the rest,
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and it's that 90% that you're actually obsessed with.
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You long for someone that doesn't exist.
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the idea potential and the fantasy of what could be
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and perhaps you don't even really want them perhaps you simply
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want them to want you to break free from this illusion reflect on what underlying needs
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or insecurities might be driving your obsession are you seeking validation acceptance
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or a sense of belonging through your fixation on this person by gaining insight into the deeper motivations behind your behavior.
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You can address these needs in healthier ways, like through self-validation, building strong relationships with friends and family,
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or seeking professional therapy.
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Embrace reality.
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Ever caught yourself lost in a whirlwind of thoughts about that special someone?
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replaying conversations, or imagining future scenarios, mindfulness can be a powerful antidote to obsessive thinking.
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Take some time each day to practice mindfulness meditation or activities that can help you focus on being present in the moment,
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like painting, journaling, running, dancing, or playing music.
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When intrusive thoughts about the person pop up,
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acknowledge them without judgment and gently guide your attention back to the present.
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By grounding yourself in the here and now,
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you can disentangle from obsessive thoughts and find peace within yourself. Do an emotional detox.
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When you're obsessed with someone, you probably have compulsive behaviors that reinforce and intensify the cycle of obsession.
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For example, stalking them on social media, rereading your conversations, and replaying imagined scenarios in your head.
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Just as you cleanse your body with a detox, it's essential to detoxify your mind from thoughts and emotions that no longer serve you.
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Start by setting boundaries for yourself.
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Unfollow them on social media.
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Stop bringing them up in conversations and limit your interactions with them.
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Create some distance to help you heal and find better things to fill your life with, like learning a new skill, focusing on your friends and family,
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or pursuing something you're passionate about.
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Cultivate radical self-love.
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When we harbor doubts about our worthiness or desirability, we may seek validation and fulfillment externally,
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fixating on others to fill the void within ourselves.
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But once we cultivate more love, acceptance, and compassion towards ourselves,
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we begin to recognize that our worthiness does not hinge on the approval or affection of others.
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Radical self-love is a powerful antidote to obsession, as it shifts our focus inward towards nurturing our own happiness and well-being.
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So create a self-care routine to practice daily.
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Practice positive affirmations or self-love and self-worth, and engage in more activities that bring you joy and fulfillment.
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Let go of attachment.
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Obsessive thoughts often arise from a resistance to accepting reality as it is.
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Practice the art of detachment by letting go of the need to control outcomes
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or force closure with the person you're obsessing over.
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Accept that you may never get all the answers or closure you desire and focus instead on finding peace within yourself.
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Embrace uncertainty as a natural part of life and trust that you have the strength to navigate whatever comes your way.
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Seek support.
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Don't hesitate to lean on your support system during this time, whether it's friends, family, or a therapist.
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Having someone to talk to can provide valuable insight and perspective.
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Their support, or even just their presence, can remind you that you don't have to overcome this struggle alone,
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and they can be a safe space for you to explore your feelings and discover healthier ways of relating to others.
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So, did you learn anything valuable from this video?
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Do you have any tips of your own on how to overcome an obsession?
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Share your insights in the comments down below.
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이 레슨의 어휘와 말하기 포인트

이 B2 수준 말하기 레슨은 영상 “How To Stop Obsessing Over Someone”을(를) 바탕으로 합니다. 가장 자주 반복되는 단어는 다음과 같습니다: thoughts, self, obsession, practice, obsessing. 이 영상에는 섀도잉할 문장 58개와 단어 769개가 있습니다. 말하는 구간의 길이는 5:28입니다. 화자는 분당 약 141단어의 일정한 속도로 말해서 섀도잉하기에 편한 속도입니다. 영어에서 가장 많이 쓰이는 3,000단어에 속하는 단어가 80%뿐이라 어휘가 어려운 편입니다.

이 영상의 핵심 어휘

영상에서 가장 어려운 단어 15개를 발음, 뜻과 함께 정리했습니다.

단어발음뜻
antidote 명사/ˈæn.tɪ.doʊt/해독제, 해독약
cultivate 동사/ˈkʌltɪveɪt/갈다, 재배하다
detox 명사/ˈdiːtɒks/디톡스
replay 명사/ˈɹiːpleɪ/리플레이
illusion 명사/ɪˈl(j)uːʒ(ə)n/환상
embrace 동사/ɛmˈbɹes/끌어안다, 껴안다
scenario 명사/sɪˈnɛəɹioʊ/각본, 대본
affirmation 명사/æfɝˈmeɪʃn/인정, 확인
cleanse 동사/klɛnz/씻다
intensify 동사/ɪnˈtɛnsɪfaɪ/강화시키다
unfollow 동사언팔로우하다
whirlwind 명사/ˈ(h)wɝlwɪnd/선풍
reinforce 동사/ˌɹiː.ɪnˈfɔːs/보강하다
hesitate 동사/ˈhɛz.ə.teɪt/망설이다
arise 동사/əˈɹaɪz/일어나다

주의할 발음

화자는 don't, you're, doesn't 같은 축약형과 약화된 형태를 10번 사용합니다. 들리는 대로 짧게 발음하세요.

  • “th” 소리: worthiness /ˈwɜː(ɹ)ðɪnəs/, therapist /ˈθɛɹəpɪst/
  • “sh”와 “zh” 소리: obsession /əbˈsɛʃən/, validation /ˌvæl.əˈdeɪ.ʃən/, illusion /ɪˈl(j)uːʒ(ə)n/, closure /ˈkloʊ.ʒɚ/, affirmation /æfɝˈmeɪʃn/
  • 긴 단어 — 강세 위치에 주의: validation /ˌvæl.əˈdeɪ.ʃən/, disentangle [ˌdɪsɪnˈtæŋɡəɫ], intensify /ɪnˈtɛnsɪfaɪ/, reciprocate /ɹɪˈsɪpɹəˌkeɪt/, unavailable /ˌʌnəˈveɪləbəl/

한국어 화자가 어려워하는 소리:

  • /f/ — ㅍ(/p/)으로 바꾸지 말고 윗니를 아랫입술에 대기: fulfilment /fʊlˈfɪl.mənt/, mindfulness /ˈmaɪn(d)fʊlnəs/, affirmation /æfɝˈmeɪʃn/, fixate /ˈfɪkseɪt/, fixation /fɪksˈeɪʃən/
  • /v/ — ㅂ(/b/)과 구별하기: obsessive /əbˈsɛs.ɪv/, validation /ˌvæl.əˈdeɪ.ʃən/, cultivate /ˈkʌltɪveɪt/, compulsive /kəmˈpʌlsɪv/, intrusive /ɪnˈtɹuːsɪv/
  • /z/ — ㅈ이 아니라 성대를 울리는 /s/: cleanse /klɛnz/, idealize /aɪˈdɪəlaɪz/, hesitate /ˈhɛz.ə.teɪt/, exhaust /ɪɡˈzɔst/, arise /əˈɹaɪz/

이 영상으로 연습하는 방법

  1. 먼저 말하지 않고 영상을 끝까지 듣고 모르는 단어를 적어 둡니다.
  2. 보통 속도로 한 문장씩 섀도잉하고, 화자의 리듬과 맞을 때까지 반복합니다.
  3. 자신의 목소리를 녹음해 원본과 비교하고, antidote, cultivate, detox 같은 단어에 특히 주의합니다.

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