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Have you ever found yourself trapped in a cycle of relentless thoughts about someone?
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Maybe it's an ex who broke your heart, or a crush who doesn't reciprocate your feelings.
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Whatever the case, obsessing over someone can be mentally exhausting and emotionally draining.
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But fear not, because there are ways to untangle yourself from this mental web and regain your peace of mind.
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Here are some psychology-backed strategies on how to stop obsessing over someone.
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Recognize the illusion Obsession happens when we project our desires onto someone who's unavailable and over-idealize them.
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Realistically, you probably know only about 10% of who that person truly is, and then you fill in the rest,
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and it's that 90% that you're actually obsessed with.
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You long for someone that doesn't exist.
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the idea potential and the fantasy of what could be
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and perhaps you don't even really want them perhaps you simply
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want them to want you to break free from this illusion reflect on what underlying needs
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or insecurities might be driving your obsession are you seeking validation acceptance
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or a sense of belonging through your fixation on this person by gaining insight into the deeper motivations behind your behavior.
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You can address these needs in healthier ways, like through self-validation, building strong relationships with friends and family,
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or seeking professional therapy.
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Embrace reality.
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Ever caught yourself lost in a whirlwind of thoughts about that special someone?
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replaying conversations, or imagining future scenarios, mindfulness can be a powerful antidote to obsessive thinking.
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Take some time each day to practice mindfulness meditation or activities that can help you focus on being present in the moment,
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like painting, journaling, running, dancing, or playing music.
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When intrusive thoughts about the person pop up,
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acknowledge them without judgment and gently guide your attention back to the present.
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By grounding yourself in the here and now,
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you can disentangle from obsessive thoughts and find peace within yourself. Do an emotional detox.
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When you're obsessed with someone, you probably have compulsive behaviors that reinforce and intensify the cycle of obsession.
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For example, stalking them on social media, rereading your conversations, and replaying imagined scenarios in your head.
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Just as you cleanse your body with a detox, it's essential to detoxify your mind from thoughts and emotions that no longer serve you.
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Start by setting boundaries for yourself.
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Unfollow them on social media.
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Stop bringing them up in conversations and limit your interactions with them.
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Create some distance to help you heal and find better things to fill your life with, like learning a new skill, focusing on your friends and family,
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or pursuing something you're passionate about.
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Cultivate radical self-love.
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When we harbor doubts about our worthiness or desirability, we may seek validation and fulfillment externally,
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fixating on others to fill the void within ourselves.
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But once we cultivate more love, acceptance, and compassion towards ourselves,
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we begin to recognize that our worthiness does not hinge on the approval or affection of others.
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Radical self-love is a powerful antidote to obsession, as it shifts our focus inward towards nurturing our own happiness and well-being.
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So create a self-care routine to practice daily.
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Practice positive affirmations or self-love and self-worth, and engage in more activities that bring you joy and fulfillment.
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Let go of attachment.
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Obsessive thoughts often arise from a resistance to accepting reality as it is.
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Practice the art of detachment by letting go of the need to control outcomes
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or force closure with the person you're obsessing over.
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Accept that you may never get all the answers or closure you desire and focus instead on finding peace within yourself.
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Embrace uncertainty as a natural part of life and trust that you have the strength to navigate whatever comes your way.
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Seek support.
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Don't hesitate to lean on your support system during this time, whether it's friends, family, or a therapist.
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Having someone to talk to can provide valuable insight and perspective.
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Their support, or even just their presence, can remind you that you don't have to overcome this struggle alone,
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and they can be a safe space for you to explore your feelings and discover healthier ways of relating to others.
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So, did you learn anything valuable from this video?
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Do you have any tips of your own on how to overcome an obsession?
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Share your insights in the comments down below.
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Лексика и советы по произношению к этому уроку

Этот урок разговорной практики уровня B2 построен на видео «How To Stop Obsessing Over Someone». Чаще всего повторяются слова: thoughts, self, obsession, practice, obsessing. В этом видео 58 предложений и 769 слов для шедоуинга. Речь длится 5:28. Говорящий держит ровный темп — около 141 слов в минуту, удобный для шедоуинга. Только 80% слов входят в 3000 самых частых слов английского языка, поэтому лексика сложная.

Ключевая лексика этого видео

Самые сложные слова из видео (15), с произношением и значением:

СловоПроизношениеЗначение
obsess глагол/əbˈsɛs/заци́клиться, заци́кливаться
obsession существительное/əbˈsɛʃən/одержи́мость
validation существительное/ˌvæl.əˈdeɪ.ʃən/ратифика́ция, утвержде́ние
insight существительное/ˈɪnsaɪ̯t/интроспе́кция, инса́йт
antidote существительное/ˈæn.tɪ.doʊt/противоя́дие, антидо́т
cultivate глагол/ˈkʌltɪveɪt/выра́щивать, вы́растить
fulfilment существительное/fʊlˈfɪl.mənt/выполне́ние
mindfulness существительное/ˈmaɪn(d)fʊlnəs/внима́тельность
illusion существительное/ɪˈl(j)uːʒ(ə)n/иллю́зия
closure существительное/ˈkloʊ.ʒɚ/оконча́ние, закры́тие
embrace глагол/ɛmˈbɹes/обнима́ть, обня́ть
acceptance существительное/əkˈsɛp.təns/получе́ние
scenario существительное/sɪˈnɛəɹioʊ/сцена́рий
affirmation существительное/æfɝˈmeɪʃn/подтверждение
cleanse глагол/klɛnz/очищать

Произношение, на которое стоит обратить внимание

Говорящий использует 10 сокращённых и редуцированных форм, например don't, you're, doesn't. Произносите их коротко, так, как слышите.

  • Звуки «th»: worthiness /ˈwɜː(ɹ)ðɪnəs/, therapist /ˈθɛɹəpɪst/
  • Звуки «sh» и «zh»: obsession /əbˈsɛʃən/, validation /ˌvæl.əˈdeɪ.ʃən/, illusion /ɪˈl(j)uːʒ(ə)n/, closure /ˈkloʊ.ʒɚ/, affirmation /æfɝˈmeɪʃn/
  • Длинные слова — следите за ударением: validation /ˌvæl.əˈdeɪ.ʃən/, disentangle [ˌdɪsɪnˈtæŋɡəɫ], intensify /ɪnˈtɛnsɪfaɪ/, reciprocate /ɹɪˈsɪpɹəˌkeɪt/, unavailable /ˌʌnəˈveɪləbəl/

Звуки, трудные для русскоязычных:

  • /w/ — губы округлены, это не /v/: worthiness /ˈwɜː(ɹ)ðɪnəs/, inward /ˈɪnwəd/, whirlwind /ˈ(h)wɝlwɪnd/
  • /h/ — лёгкий выдох, а не русское «х»: whirlwind /ˈ(h)wɝlwɪnd/, hesitate /ˈhɛz.ə.teɪt/, heal /ˈhiːl/, harbor /ˈhɑːbə/
  • Звонкие согласные в конце слова — не оглушайте их: obsessive /əbˈsɛs.ɪv/, cleanse /klɛnz/, compulsive /kəmˈpʌlsɪv/, idealize /aɪˈdɪəlaɪz/, intrusive /ɪnˈtɹuːsɪv/

Как заниматься с этим видео

  1. Прослушайте всё видео один раз молча и выпишите незнакомые слова.
  2. Повторяйте предложение за предложением на обычной скорости, пока ваш ритм не совпадёт с ритмом говорящего.
  3. Запишите себя и сравните с оригиналом, обращая внимание на такие слова, как obsess, obsession, validation.

Что такое техника Shadowing?

Shadowing — это научно обоснованная техника изучения языка, изначально разработанная для подготовки профессиональных переводчиков и популяризированная полиглотом доктором Александром Аргуэльесом. Метод прост, но эффективен: вы слушаете аудио на английском от носителей языка и немедленно повторяете вслух — как тень, следующая за говорящим с задержкой в 1–2 секунды. В отличие от пассивного прослушивания или грамматических упражнений, Shadowing заставляет мозг и мышцы рта одновременно обрабатывать и воспроизводить реальные речевые паттерны. Исследования показывают, что это значительно улучшает точность произношения, интонацию, ритм, связную речь, понимание на слух и беглость речи — что делает его одним из самых эффективных методов для подготовки к IELTS Speaking и реального общения на английском.

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