Shadowing Practice: 10 oddly specific things to NEVER share with anyone - Learn English Speaking with Video
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Here's 10 oddly specific things you should keep to yourself as I do my makeup.
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And just to clarify, these are things you shouldn't share like with your friends
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or like a romantic interest you just met, okay?
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Some secrets, obviously, if it's the vibe, tell people, do what you want.
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But you can't say I didn't tell you so.
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And these are going to be like really oddly specific
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because I literally have been through
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so much in my life where I've made some of these mistakes before and I really wish I didn't.
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Number one, don't tell people what phone carrier you have.
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I know that's really oddly specific, but don't tell just like the random person because there's something called one-time pin fraud.
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AI is literally getting to the point where it's scary nowadays and people could literally use your photo, make a fake ID of you,
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go into your carrier, get four lines, screw up your credit, or not even just that.
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They can just say that your phone went missing and then boom.
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All of a sudden, you're locked out of all of your accounts, your Instagram, your bank, because basically they send a one-time PIN to your phone number,
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which just got swapped to another phone.
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It essentially locks you out of your phone to where you can't even use your number anymore
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because it's literally swapped to another phone.
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So of course, all of those forgot password texts are going to your number.
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And again, this video is going to be oddly specific, but it can save your life.
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If you're on social media at all, even if you're not an influencer or anything, you need to be on your P's and your Q's when it comes to two-step verification and all of that,
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especially as AI advances.
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This is just my prediction, whatever, but I feel like there's going to be a lot more cases where AI actually messes up the court system.
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This stuff is so new that people's lives are being ruined from identity fraud, and it's all because they trusted someone they thought they knew.
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A friend shouldn't know your phone carrier.
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If someone you don't really trust is asking you, oh, what phone carrier do you go to?
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Don't tell them.
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And this might be controversial, but in reality, it's not.
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It's 100% okay if you lie in situations that can put you in danger.
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That's not me telling you to be like a compulsive liar or whatever.
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That's literally just me telling you like, girl, stay on your P's and your Q's, okay?
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Nobody needs to know that information.
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This next one might seem like common sense, but common sense really isn't that common nowadays don't tell people anything that can be used in a password.
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Your mother's maiden name, your first dog's name, you know, anything that's usually used as a second password guesser, like don't tell people that.
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Like why would a boyfriend need to know your mother's maiden name for real?
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You know what I mean?
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And this isn't me like trying to cast out on the people you love
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because obviously like you love them for a reason.
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They're in your life for a reason.
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I would hope they would never do something like
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that to you where they would like use your personal information and try to sabotage you, but you never really know someone, okay?
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And so because of that, you need to take precautions.
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Also for those wondering the foundation and concealer combo, I'm not done putting on the concealer by the way.
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I look dead, but I use the Bobbi Brown foundation.
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This is the Skin Longwear Weightless Foundation and then the Hourglass Concealer.
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Both of them have a price tag, but they're worth it.
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I might be sharing things you should never tell anyone, but I'm certainly not a gatekeeper.
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You're welcome, bestie.
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The third thing you should gatekeep is a little bit controversial.
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I don't know if the girlies are gonna agree with me, but I'm gonna say it anyways.
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Your relationship problems.
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Your relationship problems.
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Okay, I'm gonna say it very, very clear.
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If you're in a toxic situation, you know you need to get out of it.
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You already know that.
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But are you ready for it?
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And this is something I had to ask myself
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because I was always a girl who would go to my friends crying about my boy troubles and this, that, and the third just to end up back with the same guy
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because I knew I wasn't ready to let it go.
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Brow combo is the Anastasia Beverly Hills Brow Freeze Gel and then the Brow Definer.
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I'm gonna look crazy for a second as I do this cream blush
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because I always do blush and contour and then concealer.
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That's a tip if you use a lot of cream concealers or cream bronzers.
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Before you put on concealer so that way your concealer doesn't crease, do your liquid contour and blush first.
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Okay, back to what we were saying.
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Your friends They friends want to help you okay they're not
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trying to give you advice to be mean they're trying to help you unless they're a bad friend
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but most friends are going to get mad when they hear some toxic
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that you're going through because they see your value okay they see your value
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but if you keep going to them with the same problems over
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and over and over again they're going to start to distance themselves.
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And this is why I say you need to know when you're actually ready.
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And here's my thing.
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I know when I'm in a situation I have no business being in, but I'm still going to be in it.
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And I'm still going back.
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And you cannot convince me otherwise.
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I'm sorry.
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That's just how I am.
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And I won't tell anybody about it because I know I'm chaotic sometimes.
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All right.
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I can admit it.
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I'm a little chaotic when it comes to my love life, but it's my love life for a reason because I love them.
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Sorry, I'm getting a little bit dramatic, but I see both sides of it because I've been on both ends.
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I've had a friend come to me over and over and over again.
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He did this to me and then not leave.
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Like, girl, it's giving you don't love yourself.
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It's giving you don't value yourself.
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And it's giving you're wasting my time too.
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And I would get so mad when I saw my friends, you know, disrespect themselves by going back to a situation
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that they had no business being in until I did the same exact thing.
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And then I didn't tell anybody about it because in my own mind, I was trying to fix them.
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I was trying to do this.
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I was trying to do that in the third.
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And I didn't want to hear anyone's opinion on it, quite frankly.
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And that's okay.
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Okay.
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If you're in that moment where you're like, I'm self-sabotaging right now, or I'm doing something for the plot, you do that.
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I've been there, but I'm gonna be over here.
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Okay.
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And if you come to me with it and then don't take my advice, I'm distancing myself from you.
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I don't want chaos in my life and I don't want to go out of my way, stay up on the phone with you for hours on end,
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have you tell me about all of your relationship problems just to have you go back.
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That's stupid, that's dumb.
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And another part of it, if you're actually in a good relationship, sometimes people will try to sabotage it.
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And I hate to say that.
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I don't think all the time, okay?
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Sometimes there are some snakes around you though
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and you gotta be careful who you share relationship advice to
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because there's the girls who are always just like just dump
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him just dump him sometimes he's a good man okay the man is good he just did something dumb
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and i'm not talking about cheating i'm talking about you know
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like he pissed you off you know what i mean
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because we don't tolerate cheaters around here okay that's just one thing i gotta make clear
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but if he genuinely made a mistake
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and made up for it like you're gonna have girls being like oh i would have dumped him for
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that i would have okay okay really stand on that then
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and those girls who are judgmental always get hit with their karma too that's just something
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that i've experienced you know what i mean everyone goes through their toxic relationship era
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and sometimes you just gotta let your friend be in that
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but stay at a distance and that's why you need to accept people as they are
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and place them where they belong if you're getting pissed off at a friend
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because you're like girl why didn't you just leave him why
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don't you just do this sometimes they're not ready to face
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that within themselves and that's not a you issue you as a friend need to distance yourself
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if it's causing you mental distress
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but like i don't think you should not be friends with
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someone based on their relationship problems i just feel like you're involving yourself too much in
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that situation so yeah just don't share it
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if you're gonna make some stupid decisions just keep it to yourself
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and then spill the tea later that's what i do
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because you live and you learn all nighter setting spray and then we're doing the one size beauty powder
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one size beauty blush trio in the shade cheek clapper i already used the blush
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so i'm going to going to use this blush.
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This is also the highlight I use, but I'm going to do highlight later.
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Don't let girls know who your ex is.
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Don't let girls you just met know who your ex is.
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That's going to become their ex.
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Okay.
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Cause he's going to, he's going to go to them and it's going to be a he he ha ha.
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No, if it's your close friend, of course, of course, bestie, like we're going to make fun of him.
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We're going to say he's a clown because obviously I didn't go for looks, but like, seriously, don't let these girls know.
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Okay.
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They don't need to know who you've been with.
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And that's the next one.
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What number five don't kiss and tell that one's obvious, but don't post when you're out of place.
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Okay, if you're out of place and you're posting on your Instagram story, that's literally you just being like, Hey, come find me.
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Come stalk me.
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Literally don't do that don't do
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that there's no reason people need to be knowing exactly where you are leave wait two hours
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and then post it or shoo wait until the next day to post it
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because then you're content prepping you know what i mean this it's the age of the influencers okay
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so you can content prep you went out to dinner two nights ago
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and all of a sudden you're at home in your bed
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and you're like let me let me pretend i'm going to dinner it'll definitely confuse your roster
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but but in a good way.
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I mean, that's what I do on my Instagram.
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That means you should go follow it.
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Okay.
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If you're watching this far, you obviously vibe with me.
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You obviously like me.
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Go check out the Instagram.
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We're almost at 10k, but subscribe if you want to.
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Okay.
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Am I good enough?
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Please, please like me.
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Am I good enough?
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Shut up.
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Sorry.
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I'm weird sometimes.
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I love a good trauma dump, but girl, nobody needs to know about your mom's divorces.
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Nobody needs to know.
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Nobody needs to know.
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Okay.
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Okay.
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Here's the thing.
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If the vibe is trauma dumping, then we're in a trauma dump okay we're gonna bond over
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our trauma it's fine to bond over trauma it's not
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that deep but when it is that deep and
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when it's a stranger and
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when you're in a professional setting why are you talking to me about your mom's divorce
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and don't get me wrong i order myself a yappuccino every single morning i know i yap
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and sometimes it's trauma okay sometimes it's trauma
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and that's just how it is
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but i think you should keep certain traumas to yourself
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if you do it do it in a joking way okay don't be weird
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and make the conversation dull like do it in a funny way if you're gonna trauma dump Don't make it serious.
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Don't make me say, oh, I'm sorry.
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Like, why am I saying sorry?
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I didn't hurt you.
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That's the next one.
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What?
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Number seven?
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I don't know what number we're on.
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If you're meeting someone new, don't tell them about your past.
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This is the NYX, I don't know, eyeliner.
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I put it in my waterline.
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Don't tell the man you just met about your past.
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Okay.
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And I think this goes for anyone, but this is for the girlies.
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Obviously, I'm doing a makeup tutorial.
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I feel like it's mostly the girls here.
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If you're a man, it's cool too.
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Okay.
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I'm not going to make you feel weird for being here
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but if you just met a man okay you don't need to be talking about how your ex hurt you
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because he's gonna do the same thing
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if anything say your ex was great okay don't talk about
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the parts where he was bad until you're actually like involved with the man you know what i mean
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because first date you're saying oh he did this to me he did
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that to me that's just him taking down notes he's like oh okay
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so she tolerates this she tolerates cheating she tolerates lighting she's
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like he's taking notes being like damn he did her like
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that i'm gonna do her worse i'm gonna do her worse
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he is going to do you worse wake up wake up he's gonna do you way worse
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and you're gonna be crying
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and you're gonna be like why did he do this to me
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because you literally said this is how my ex hurt me
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you gave him a tutorial babe like can we please be honest right now i don't care
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if you lie to the man okay i don't care
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if you say my ex did this this this
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and this for me i don't care what you got to do just don't tell him you cheated on you
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and dogged you out don't tell him
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that shit at this point in this dating economy
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that can be inferred okay
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but you can still say oh he opened every door of
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mine he bought me flowers he did highlight all the good positive things he did even
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if he didn't do it okay you're manifesting him doing it
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because obviously in men's mind men are competitive okay
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if you approach a date like okay this is just how
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i've been treated you know obviously i'm gonna wait i'm not
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gonna rush to open the door i'm gonna wait for him to open in the door.
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I'm going to wait for him to take the lead.
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It's going to set off the stage for you to be treated better because from the beginning, he should be treating you like a queen.
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He should be courting you.
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I think some of y'all need a little bit more respect for the love bombing phase.
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And I'm not saying that in a funny way.
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I'm saying that in a legitimate way.
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Like feel the honeymoon phase.
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Shit.
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Why are we talking about trauma on our first date?
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Why are we talking about how your ex did you dirty on your first date?
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Of course, the man is going to be scared.
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I'm not saying live a lie.
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I'm not telling you fabricate your entire existence and say you grew up in a perfect two pant household and you were, you know, rich.
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No, I'm not saying that.
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I'm just saying don't share things right off the, like, you know what I mean?
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The trauma comes out later.
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It's like, can we have peace in the first two months of meeting each other?
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Next, don't share mistakes you're actively working on, you know, regrets you have that are just unnecessary.
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Some people will never understand, all right, and it's okay that you've made mistakes in the past.
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Like, I feel like so many people would be like, oh, I would never, I would never do that.
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No, yes, you would, and you've done some things that you regret in your past.
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If you're actively working on becoming a better person, like, don't get me wrong, this doesn't apply to, like, people who've done horrible, terrible things and are sitting on death row.
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I'm just talking about like maybe you led someone on
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or you didn't communicate yourself effectively
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or you screamed at someone like you know what I mean things like
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that there's going to be times where you're obviously in the wrong ask yourself
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if this person has the awareness in order to understand your change
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and if they don't you just like don't really mention it
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because at the end of the day like nobody needs to know your deepest darkest mistakes
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or ways that you fumbled or things like that.
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Back to lighthearted things.
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Don't give someone your drink.
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Are you stupid?
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If even a friend, like even a female, like yes, most females, you can trust them with your drink because like we're women.
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There should be no reason you're drinking out of someone's bottle.
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There should be no reason that you're letting someone you don't know prepare your drink unless it's the bartender.
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All right.
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Unless it's the person literally working there and he hands you it.
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Not to like weirdly steer the conversation super deep, but like things happen fast.
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And especially with your girls like watch out for them even watch out for girls
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that are strangers like if you see something weird like get someone involved
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because you never know
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if you're saving their life next don't show people your vision board I just made a vision board
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and I was hesitant I showed like my close friends
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because I don't know about y'all but like I'm really delulu
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when it comes to my achievements and the things I want to do
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and so I can't be just showing like the regular average person my vision board
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because they're gonna be like oh you want to be on the red carpet one day
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shut up like okay god forbid you have dreams god forbid you have things you want to achieve in life
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so yeah don't share people your vision board keep it to
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yourself like i don't really believe in like someone evil eyeing
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me really affecting me like yes people look at me
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and are jealous or things like that i'm fine with
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that hoes can be mad you know like every hoe has the ability to be mad i'd be mad too
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if i were y'all however i don't need to show y'all my dreams
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because then it just makes me feel like y'all are involved in a process you shouldn't be involved in.
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This is for my Delulu brain.
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You know, my dreams are for me.
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It's not for anyone else.
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It's not to prove to people this, that, and the third.
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It's literally just to make me feel good about myself and to have a vision for my future.
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And so if you're making a vision board this year, yeah, just don't really show anyone.
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Why do they need to know?
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They don't need to know.
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This lip liner is so cool because it just like peels off or lip stain, whatever.
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I use it as a liner.
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I just rub out whatever I feel like doesn't look right
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and then i put a gloss on top of it this is the maybelline gloss the last oddly specific thing
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that you shouldn't tell people about is
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if you've done any crime i know that's like really obvious
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but i feel like people get online nowadays and went like i used to shoplift i used to do like
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digital footprint is a thing put your brain cells together
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and realize that like not everyone is going to be on board with
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that again like don't discuss your past mistakes or things like that
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don't just come on the internet
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and be like yeah these are the crimes i did this
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is a tutorial on how to do crime like go log off touch some grass okay
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but my makeup wait my makeup my makeup my makeup okay i'll tag all the products i use below
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because i'm not a gatekeeper there are things i don't tell y'all
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but i'm not a gatekeeper there's also just like little ones
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like don't tell people what car you drive don't tell people
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your driver's license number don't tell people your social like obvious ones don't be dumb
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but these were just some oddly specific ones and kind of of just like a little rant for you guys.
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If you're new here, my name is Natalie.
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This is where I share ways I'm getting my shit together so that you can get your shit together.
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If you like more of that, be sure to hit that subscribe button.
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Check out my Instagram.
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All my links are down below and be sure to comment and let me know what you agree with, what you disagree with.
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And that being said, I love you guys so much and I'll see you guys next week.
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Yes, I'm looking at the viewfinder for like most of this video.
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That's because I'm doing my makeup.
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Yeah.
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Vocabulary and speaking notes for this lesson
This video has 322 sentences and 3696 words to shadow. The speech runs for 16:27. The speaker talks fast, about 225 words per minute, so expect linked and reduced sounds. 86% of the words are among the 3,000 most common in English; the rest is worth studying before you start.
Key vocabulary in this video
15 less common words from the video, with pronunciation and meaning:
- trauma /ˈtɹɔm.ə/ (noun) — Any injury to the body of a living thing.
- dump /dʌmp/ (verb) — To release, especially in large quantities and chaotic manner.
- blush /ˈblʌʃ/ (noun) — An act of blushing; a pink or red glow on the face caused by embarrassment, shame, shyness, love, etc.
- oddly /ˈɑdli/ (adverb) — In a peculiar manner; strangely; unusually.
- carrier /ˈkæɹi.ɚ/ (noun) — A person or object that carries someone or something else.
- tolerate /ˈtɑ.lə.ɹeɪt/ (verb) — To allow or permit without explicit approval, usually if it is perceived as negative.
- toxic /ˈtɒk.sɪk/ (adjective) — Having a chemical nature that is harmful to health or lethal if consumed or otherwise entering into the body in sufficient quantities.
- highlight /ˈhaɪˌlaɪt/ (verb) — To make prominent; emphasize.
- nowadays /ˈnaʊ.ə.deɪz/ (adverb) — At the present time; in the current era.
- cheat /ˈt͡ʃiːt/ (verb) — To violate rules in order to gain, or attempt to gain, advantage from a situation.
- password /ˈpæs.wɜɹd/ (noun) — A word relayed to a person to gain admittance to a place or to gain access to information.
- vibe /vaɪb/ (noun) — An atmosphere or aura felt to belong to a person, place or thing.
- tutorial /ˌtjuːˈtɔːɹɪəl/ (noun) — A self-paced learning exercise; a lesson prepared so that a student can learn at their own speed or convenience.
- sabotage /ˈsæb.əˌtɑʒ/ (noun) — A deliberate action aimed at weakening someone (or something, a nation, etc) or preventing them from being successful, through subversion, obstruction…
- sudden /ˈsʌd.ən/ (adjective) — Occurring quickly with little or no warning or expectation; instantly.
Phrasal verbs you will hear
- talk about (verb) — Used to draw attention to the speaker's characterization of someone or something.
- check out (verb) — To record the departure or withdrawal of someone or something (such as guests, employees, books, etc.).
- go back (verb) — To return to a place or state after having been there at a previous time.
- go for (verb) — To try for, to attempt to reach.
- go through (verb) — To travel from one end of something to the other.
- look at (verb) — To observe or watch.
- put on /ˌpʊt ˈɒn/ (verb) — To don (clothing, equipment, or the like).
- shut up /ʃʌt ʌp/ — Stop talking (usually in the form of making annoying, irrelevant, or false comments, during a period of peace and quiet, or when one is not allowed to talk)…
Pronunciation to watch
The speaker uses 222 contractions and reduced forms, such as don't, I'm, you're. Say them the short way, as you hear them.
- The “sh” and “zh” sounds: blush /ˈblʌʃ/, sabotage /ˈsæb.əˌtɑʒ/, controversial /ˌkɑn.tɹəˈvɝ.ʃəl/, rush /ɹʌʃ/, essentially /ɪˈsɛnʃəli/
- Long words — get the stress right: controversial /ˌkɑn.tɹəˈvɝ.ʃəl/, essentially /ɪˈsɛnʃəli/, legitimate /lɪˈd͡ʒɪt.ɪ.mət/, communicate /kəˈmjuːnɪkeɪt/, unnecessary /ʌnˈnɛs.əˌsɛɹ.i/
How to practise with this video
- Listen to the whole video once without speaking and note the words you do not know.
- Start at 0.75× speed, shadow it sentence by sentence, then go back to normal speed once it feels easy.
- Record yourself and compare with the original, paying attention to words like trauma, dump, blush.
Grammar in this video
The structures the speaker uses most, with the exact words from the video:
| Structure | In the video |
|---|---|
| Present perfect have/has + past participle — a past action that still matters now | have been · I've made · I've been |
| Passive voice be + past participle — the focus is on what happens, not who does it | being ruined · can be inferred · i've been treated |
What is the Shadowing Technique?
Shadowing is a science-backed language learning technique originally developed for professional interpreter training and popularized by polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. The method is simple but powerful: you listen to native English audio and immediately repeat it out loud — like a shadow following the speaker with just a 1–2 second delay. Unlike passive listening or grammar drills, shadowing forces your brain and mouth muscles to simultaneously process and reproduce real speech patterns. Research shows it significantly improves pronunciation accuracy, intonation, rhythm, connected speech, listening comprehension, and speaking fluency — making it one of the most effective methods for IELTS Speaking preparation and real-world English communication.