Shadowing-Übung: Why Every Couple Struggles With Closeness and Distance - Englisch Sprechen Lernen mit Video

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In the life of every couple and individual lies a tension between two central and contrasting needs.
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The need for togetherness on the one hand and for separateness on the other.
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We all want at one level a lot of togetherness.
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We want to merge bodies, to sleep tightly entwined, to share every moment, to break down the barrier between I and you,
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to get back to what we all had at the start, complete union with someone else.
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But at another level we also very much want and need separateness.
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We have to maintain our integrity.
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We need time to think alone.
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We have to be ready to meet the obstacles and challenges of our working lives unaided.
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We want to get on with our projects and friendships.
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If we try to represent these two contrasting wishes with a motoring metaphor,
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we might say that there is in every love story an accelerator that points to togetherness and a brake that creates distance.
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We might also say that whenever a couple gets into trouble, it's in some way because the accelerator and brake functions have proved difficult.
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There is a muddle, there is exaggeration, no one is speaking about who is doing what and how.
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Ideally, both people can toggle gently and adroitly between brake and accelerator.
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They discuss, consciously and with kindness, their wishes for space and closeness.
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A period of intense togetherness can be followed, gracefully, by some distance.
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They can say, after a night of lovemaking and chat, let's spend tomorrow apart.
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They don't turn their fear of abandonment into a terror of persecution.
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They aren't so embarrassed about their need for separateness or afraid of the other's anger that they lapse into evasion or silence.
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But sadly, too often, things come very unstuck around brakes and accelerators.
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One person can't ever use the brake gently.
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They jerkily put an ocean between themselves and the partner that panics the other, who slams the accelerator in turn.
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One person has to carry all the yearning and need.
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The other gets to seem indifferent and aloof.
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One person is very, very hungry.
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The other person has to be in an anorexic fast, which is unfair on both of them.
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One person carries a fear that the moment they so much whisper that they need a bit of space, they'll set off fury in their partner.
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They can't find a way to admit to the humble, key and serene truth.
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They both, without being sadistic, need togetherness and separateness.
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At times, the wish for separateness can manifest itself in affairs or manic use of pornography or alcohol.
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Rather than being able to say, and before that to think, I'm in danger of being overwhelmed, the person acts out their wish for distance in a pain -inducing form.
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They start to message an ex.
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They use work as an excuse to spend a long time out of the house.
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They develop an obsession with sailing or fishing.
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Their symptoms jump into their bodies.
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They become unable to sleep anywhere near their partner.
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They can't orgasm with them.
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Sound use of brakes and accelerators is something that we should, if things go well, learn in childhood.
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It begins with mothers.
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They are initially entirely merged, quite literally, with their offspring.
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It's an enormous effort for them to give birth and then to let go, to let the child have its own wishes, its own preferences, its own moods,
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to allow the child to be separate without persecuting it.
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How tempting to hold the child too tightly or exile them.
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For their part, small children don't make any of this easy.
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They natively press the accelerator very hard.
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They may want to marry mummy.
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They want to spend all their time with daddy.
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They refuse to go to school.
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They don't want a sibling.
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It takes a lot of gentle, kindly care to help the child to find their way to separateness without too much humiliation or fear.
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A co -parent, who may or may not be dad, can be helpful.
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Humour comes in handy one might call jokes the perfect way to handle the tension between accelerator and brake.
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In adult life, the opposite of braking and accelerating willy -nilly is thinking.
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If we can think about all of this, we're spared the drama of having to act rashly or obscurely.
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We can say with love, I think we might both need some space after last night, or I think we need to see each other before we both get scared.
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The couple can get close and then take distance without becoming daunted or mean.
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The couple can laugh about how tricky it is to get text messaging or sleeping arrangements right.
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They learn how to drive without careering the car of love off the road.
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Wortschatz und Sprechhinweise zu dieser Lektion

Dieses Video enthält 59 Sätze und 805 Wörter zum Nachsprechen. Der gesprochene Teil dauert 4:50. Der Sprecher spricht in natürlichem Tempo, etwa 167 Wörter pro Minute, ähnlich wie im Alltagsgespräch. Nur 81 % der Wörter gehören zu den 3.000 häufigsten im Englischen, der Wortschatz ist also anspruchsvoll.

Wichtiger Wortschatz in diesem Video

15 weniger häufige Wörter aus dem Video, mit Aussprache und Bedeutung:

  • brake /bɹeɪk/ (Substantiv) — Bremse. A device used to slow or stop the motion of a wheel, or of a vehicle, usually by friction (although other resistive forces, such as electromagnetic fields or…
  • contrast /kənˈt(ʃ)ɹæst/ (Substantiv) — Kontrast. The degree of this difference.
  • tension /ˈtɛnʃən/ (Substantiv) — Spannung. The condition of being held in a state between two or more forces, which are acting in opposition to each other.
  • gently /ˈd͡ʒɛntli/ (Adverb) — sanft. Without strong force or quickness: softly, lightly.
  • tightly /ˈtaɪtli/ (Adverb) — eng. In a tight manner.
  • merge /mɝd͡ʒ/ (Verb) — zusammenlegen, zusammenfügen. To combine into a whole.
  • silence /ˈsaɪ̯ləns/ (Substantiv) — Stille, Schweigen. The absence of any sound.
  • hungry /ˈhʌŋ.ɡɹi/ (Adjektiv) — hungrig, Hunger haben. Affected by hunger; having the physical need for food.
  • mood /muːd/ (Substantiv) — Gemüt, Stimmung. A mental or emotional state, composure.
  • helpful /ˈhɛlp.fl̩/ (Adjektiv) — hilfreich, hilfsbereit. Furnishing help; giving aid; useful.
  • anger /ˈæŋɡə/ (Substantiv) — Ärger, Zorn. A strong and unpleasant feeling of displeasure, hostility, or antagonism, usually combined with an urge to yell, curse, damage or destroy things, or harm…
  • marry /ˈmæɹi/ (Verb) — heiraten. To enter into the conjugal or connubial state; to take a husband or a wife.
  • friendship /ˈfɹɛn(d)ʃɪp/ (Substantiv) — Freundschaft. The condition of being friends.
  • intense /ɪnˈtɛns/ (Adjektiv) — hochgradig. Of a characteristic: extreme or very high or strong in degree; severe; also, excessive, towering.
  • refuse /ɹɪˈfjuːz/ (Verb) — sich weigern, verweigern. To decline (a request or demand).

Phrasal Verbs, die du hören wirst

  • break down (Verb) — versagen, den Geist aufgeben. To stop functioning.
  • come in /ˌkʌm ˈɪn/ (Verb) — ins Spiel kommen. To enter.
  • get back to (Verb) — sich melden. Return to (an activity)
  • get on with (Verb) — fortfahren, sich begeben. To proceed with; to begin or continue, especially after an interruption.
  • set off (Verb) — losmachen, abgehen. To leave; to set out; to begin a journey or trip.
  • think about /ˈθɪŋk əˌbaʊt/ (Verb) — (jemand) denken an. To ponder.

Aussprache, auf die du achten solltest

Der Sprecher verwendet 10 Kurzformen und abgeschwächte Formen, zum Beispiel can't, don't, aren't. Sprich sie in der kurzen Form, so wie du sie hörst.

  • Die Laute „sh“ und „zh“: contrast /kənˈt(ʃ)ɹæst/, tension /ˈtɛnʃən/, friendship /ˈfɹɛn(d)ʃɪp/, obsession /əbˈsɛʃən/, persecution /ˌpɝsəˈkjuʃən/
  • Lange Wörter – auf die Betonung achten: integrity /ɪnˈtɛɡɹəti/, ideally /aɪˈdi.ə.li/, persecution /ˌpɝsəˈkjuʃən/, accelerate /ɪkˈsɛl.əˌɹeɪt/, pornography /pɔɹˈnɑ.ɡɹə.fi/

So übst du mit diesem Video

  1. Höre dir das ganze Video einmal an, ohne zu sprechen, und notiere die Wörter, die du nicht kennst.
  2. Beginne mit 0,75-facher Geschwindigkeit, sprich Satz für Satz nach und wechsle zur normalen Geschwindigkeit, sobald es leichtfällt.
  3. Nimm dich auf und vergleiche mit dem Original; achte dabei auf Wörter wie brake, contrast, tension.

Was ist die Shadowing-Technik?

Shadowing ist eine wissenschaftlich fundierte Sprachlerntechnik, die ursprünglich für die professionelle Dolmetscherausbildung entwickelt und durch den Polyglotten Dr. Alexander Arguelles populär gemacht wurde. Die Methode ist einfach aber wirkungsvoll: Du hörst englisches Audio von Muttersprachlern und wiederholst es sofort laut — wie ein Schatten, der dem Sprecher mit nur 1–2 Sekunden Verzögerung folgt. Anders als passives Hören oder Grammatikübungen zwingt Shadowing dein Gehirn und deine Mundmuskulatur, gleichzeitig echte Sprachmuster zu verarbeiten und zu reproduzieren. Studien zeigen, dass es Aussprachegenauigkeit, Intonation, Rhythmus, verbundene Sprache, Hörverständnis und Sprechflüssigkeit signifikant verbessert — was es zu einer der effektivsten Methoden für die IELTS Speaking-Vorbereitung und reale englische Kommunikation macht.

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