Shadowing Practice: How To Know Yourself - Learn English Speaking with Video
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Bye you Bye you Many of us are wandering the earth,
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accomplished in many ways, capable of fulfillment at many points,
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but with a fundamental wound that stops us from becoming who we truly might be.
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We don't quite know who we Oh.
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It isn't, of course, that we can't remember the basics of our biographies.
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We're unsure around two things in particular: Firstly, we don't have a stable sense of what we're worth.
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And secondly, we don't have a secure hold on our own values, or judgements.
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Without knowing who we are, we tend to have particular trouble coping with either denigration or adulation.
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If other people decide that we are worthless or bad, there will be nothing inside us to prevent us from swallowing their verdicts in their entirety,
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however wrongheaded, extreme or unkind these might be.
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We'll be helpless before the court of public opinion.
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We'll always be asking other people what we deserve before seeking inside for an answer.
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Lacking an independent verdict, we also stand to be unnaturally hungry for external praise.
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The clapping of an audience will matter to us far more than would ever be wise.
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We'll be prey to rushing towards whatever idea or activity the crowd happens to love.
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We'll laugh at jokes that aren't funny, uncritically accept undeserving concepts that are in vogue,
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and neglect our truer talents for easy, popular wins.
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We'll trail public opinion slavishly, constantly checking the world's whims rather than consulting an inner barometer in order to know what we should want,
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feel and value.
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We need to be kind on ourselves.
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No one is born with an independent ability to know who they are.
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We learn to have an identity because, if we're blessed, in our early years, someone else takes the trouble to study us with immense fairness,
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attention and kindness, and then plays us back to us in a way that makes sense and that we can later emulate.
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years and use as a defence against the distorting verdicts from hurried or ill -intentioned others.
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Knowing who one is, is really the legacy of having been known properly by somebody else at the start.
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This early identity building tends to unfold with apparently innocuous but life -saving small steps.
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"That must really have hurt," a parent might say in response to an upset, thereby validating an infant's own feelings.
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Or "It's okay not to feel happy on your birthday," the parent might say at another point,
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delicately upholding an infant's less typical response to certain events.
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Ideally, the child isn't just known, he or she is also interpreted as likeable.
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A good parent offers generous interpretations.
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They're on the side of the child
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and are always ready to put the best possible gloss on moments of ill temper
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or of failure which forms the basis upon which resilient self -esteem can then later emerge.
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Now, that's the ideal, but it can, of course, go very wrong and often does.
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A parent may offer mirroring that is out of sync with the reality of the child.
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"Look, who's such a happy little boy or girl?" a parent might insist, when actually the opposite is clearly the case,
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thereby badly scrambling the child's ability to connect with their own emotions.
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Or the parent might only lend the child a very harsh, punitive way of interpreting itself,
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repeatedly suggesting that the child is ill -intentioned or no good.
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Or the parent may simply not show very much interest in the child, focusing themselves elsewhere.
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so that the child grows up with a feeling that not only is it not worth cherishing, but also because it hasn't been adequately seen and mirrored,
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that it doesn't even quite exist.
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a feeling of unreality is the direct consequence of emotional neglect.
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Realizing that we lack a stable identity is a sobering realization.
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But we can, with a fair wind, start to correct the problem at any point.
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We need to seek out the help of a wise and kindly other person perhaps a good psychotherapist, someone who can study us closely,
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mirror us properly, and then validate what they see Through their eyes, we can learn to study, perhaps for the first time,
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how we really feel, and take seriously what we actually want.
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We can, by being witnessed generously,
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more often learn to take our own sides and feel increasingly solid inside trusting ourselves more than we trust the crowd,
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feeling that we might be able to say no,
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not always swaying in the wind and feeling that we are in possession of some of the ultimate important truths about us.
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having come to know ourselves like this, we will be a little less hungry for praise, a little less worried by opposition,
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and a lot more original in our thinking.
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we will have learned the vital art of both knowing and befriending who we, really are.
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Our Know Yourself cards can help us to better understand the deepest, most elusive aspects of ourselves.
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Follow the link now to learn more.
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Bu dersin kelimeleri ve konuşma notları
Bu C1 seviyesindeki konuşma dersi “How To Know Yourself” videosuna dayanıyor. En çok tekrarlanan kelimeler: parent, feeling, ourselves, learn, verdict. Bu videoda gölgeleme çalışması için 58 cümle ve 843 kelime var. Konuşma bölümü 5:45 sürüyor. Konuşmacı dakikada yaklaşık 146 kelimelik dengeli bir hızla konuşuyor; gölgeleme için rahat bir tempo. Kelimelerin %82’i İngilizcede en sık kullanılan 3.000 kelime arasında; geri kalanına başlamadan önce bakmakta fayda var.
Bu videodaki önemli kelimeler
Videodaki en ileri düzey 15 kelime, telaffuzu ve anlamıyla:
| Kelime | Telaffuz | Anlam |
|---|---|---|
| verdict isim | /ˈvɜː.dɪkt/ | hüküm |
| barometer isim | /bəˈɹɑ.mə.tɚ/ | barometre, basınçölçer |
| emulate fiil | /ˈɛm.jʊ.leɪt/ | öykünmek |
| innocuous sıfat | /ɪˈnɑkjuəs/ | zararsız |
| psychotherapist isim | psikoterapist | |
| resilient sıfat | /ɹɪˈzɪl.jənt/ | dirençli, elastik |
| scramble fiil | /ˈskɹæmbl̩/ | acele etmek |
| clap fiil | /klæp/ | şak |
| wander fiil | /ˈwɑndɚ/ | gezinmek |
| helpless sıfat | /ˈhɛlplɪs/ | âciz |
| entirety isim | /ɪnˈtaɪ.əɹ(ə)ti/ | bütünlük |
| realization isim | /ˌɹɪə.laɪˈzeɪ.ʃən/ | gerçekleştirme |
| worthless sıfat | /ˈwɜːθ.ləs/ | değersiz, kıymetsiz |
| swallow fiil | /ˈswɑ.loʊ/ | yutmak |
| immense sıfat | /ɪˈmɛns/ | kocaman |
Bu videodaki dil bilgisi
Konuşmacının en çok kullandığı yapılar, videodaki sözcüklerin aynısıyla:
| Yapı | Videoda |
|---|---|
| Edilgen yapı be + fiilin üçüncü hâli — kimin yaptığı değil, ne olduğu önemli | is born · been known · isn't just known |
| Present perfect have/has + fiilin üçüncü hâli — geçmişte olan ama şimdi de önemli olan bir eylem | have hurt · hasn't been · have learned |
Dikkat edilecek telaffuzlar
Konuşmacı we'll, don't, we're gibi kısaltılmış biçimleri 18 kez kullanıyor. Bunları duyduğunuz gibi kısa söyleyin.
- “th” sesleri: thereby /ðɛɹˈbaɪ/, worthless /ˈwɜːθ.ləs/
- “sh” ve “zh” sesleri: adulation /ˌæd͡ʒəˈleɪʃən/, slavishly /ˈsleɪvɪʃli/, cherish /ˈt͡ʃɛɹɪʃ/, realization /ˌɹɪə.laɪˈzeɪ.ʃən/, accomplish /əˈkɑm.plɪʃ/
- Uzun kelimeler — vurguyu doğru yere koyun: adulation /ˌæd͡ʒəˈleɪʃən/, barometer /bəˈɹɑ.mə.tɚ/, delicately /ˈdɛlɪkətli/, undeserving /ˌʌndɪˈzɝvɪŋ/, unnaturally /ʌnˈnæt͡ʃ(ə)ɹəli/
Türkçe konuşanların zorlandığı sesler:
- /w/ — dudaklar yuvarlak, /v/ değil: sway /ˈsweɪ̯/, wander /ˈwɑndɚ/, worthless /ˈwɜːθ.ləs/, swallow /ˈswɑ.loʊ/, consequence /ˈkɑn.sɪ.kwəns/
- Kelime başındaki ünsüz kümesi — araya ünlü eklemeyin: punitive /ˈpju.nɪ.tɪv/, scramble /ˈskɹæmbl̩/, slavishly /ˈsleɪvɪʃli/, clap /klæp/, sway /ˈsweɪ̯/
- /æ/ — “e”den daha açık: validate /ˈvæl.ɪ.deɪt/, adulation /ˌæd͡ʒəˈleɪʃən/, scramble /ˈskɹæmbl̩/, unnaturally /ʌnˈnæt͡ʃ(ə)ɹəli/, clap /klæp/
Bu videoyla nasıl çalışılır
- Videonun tamamını konuşmadan bir kez dinleyin ve bilmediğiniz kelimeleri not edin.
- Normal hızda cümle cümle tekrar edin; ritminiz konuşmacıyla aynı olana kadar her cümleyi yineleyin.
- Kendinizi kaydedin ve orijinaliyle karşılaştırın; verdict, barometer, emulate gibi kelimelere özellikle dikkat edin.
Gölgeleme Tekniği Nedir?
Gölgeleme, başlangıçta profesyonel tercüman eğitimi için geliştirilen ve çok dilli Dr. Alexander Arguelles tarafından popüler hale getirilen, bilim destekli bir dil öğrenme tekniğidir. Yöntem basit ama güçlüdür: ana dili İngilizce olan bir sesi dinler ve hemen yüksek sesle tekrar edersiniz — konuşmacıyı 1-2 saniye gecikmeyle takip eden bir gölge gibi. Pasif dinleme veya dilbilgisi alıştırmalarının aksine, gölgeleme beyninizi ve ağız kaslarınızı gerçek konuşma kalıplarını eşzamanlı olarak işlemeye ve yeniden üretmeye zorlar. Araştırmalar, telaffuz doğruluğu, tonlama, ritim, bağlı konuşma, dinleme anlama ve konuşma akıcılığını önemli ölçüde geliştirdiğini göstermektedir — bu da onu IELTS Konuşma hazırlığı ve gerçek dünya İngilizce iletişimi için en etkili yöntemlerden biri yapar.