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- I personally feel uncomfortable around conflict.
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- Now, we're here today to find out how to argue.
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- But conflict is useful.
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The question is, how do you deal with conflict the most effectively?
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Here we go.
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I am author of Negotiating the Nonnegotiable: How to Resolve Your Most Emotionally-Charged Conflicts.
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Have you found yourself in an argument that felt so frustrating, so at a core aggravating?
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- That's the silliest opinion I've ever heard.
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- It felt just nonnegotiable?
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Well, congratulations, you're a human being.
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We all experience conflict in our lives, and seeing what's going on in our world today, my hunch is you were probably having at least one of these conflicts about politics.
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Our country has fallen into what I believe is a tribal trap.
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Anything that that other side says, I shall not believe, I shall not give any credibility to, and I'm gonna do everything I can to prove I'm right, you're wrong, and to stifle you down to raise me up.
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The problem is not with the what, what are we arguing about, the problem is with the how.
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- How should we argue?
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- How can we be more effective?
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And what I've found is that there are three big barriers that we can actually overcome to have more effective conversations.
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The big things, one, identity, two, appreciation, and three, affiliation.
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Let's start with identity.
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- Now, first of all, this is a hot issue.
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- Why do we get so emotional in these conflict situations?
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It often goes back to something deeper: identity.
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What are the core values, the core beliefs that are feeling threatened inside of you as you're having that conversation with the other side?
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The moment your identity gets hooked in these conflicts, all of a sudden your emotions become Boy, this is a wholly different conflict now.
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It's now your pride.
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Your sense of self is on the line.
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You need to know who you are and what you stand for.
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What are the values and beliefs that are driving me to fight for this stance on this issue?
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The more you understand who you are, the more you can try to get your purpose met and stay balanced, even when the other threatens those core values and beliefs.
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Each side wants to feel appreciated, and yet the last thing they wanna do is to appreciate the other side.
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That's a problem.
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- Listen and understand.
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- When you're in the midst of the conflict, don't talk.
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Take the first 10 minutes.
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Consciously listen to the other side.
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What's the value behind their perspective?
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What's the logic, the rationale?
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Why do they hold this perspective on immigration or healthcare?
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Once you truly understand and see the value in their perspective, let them know I hear where you're coming from, and you know what?
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That makes sense.
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There is nothing more in the world that we like than to feel appreciated.
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Recognize your power to appreciate them.
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Third, affiliation.
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What's the emotional connection like between you and the other side?
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We typically approach these conflict situations as me versus you.
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My opinion on healthcare versus yours, my party's perspectives on immigration versus yours.
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That's just gonna leave the two of you like rams butting heads.
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- Find common ground.
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- Turn that other person from an adversary into a partner, so it's no longer me versus you, but the two of us facing the same shared problem.
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Ask the other person, "Look, what's your advice "on how we can get as many of our interests met "at the same time?" Change the nature of your conversation.
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Now, you put these three things into practice, it can transform your relationships.
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Imagine what would happen if we started a revolution, but a positive revolution of greater understanding, greater appreciation, greater affiliation, how we could transform politics, how we could transform our country and ultimately our world.
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I believe it's possible, but it starts with each one of us.
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Vocabulario y notas de pronunciación para esta lección
Esta lección de conversación de nivel C1 se basa en el vídeo “Harvard negotiator explains how to argue”. Las palabras que más se repiten: conflict, value, versus, perspective, identity. Este vídeo tiene 53 frases y 656 palabras para practicar shadowing. La parte hablada dura 4:22. El hablante habla a un ritmo natural de unas 150 palabras por minuto, cercano a una conversación cotidiana. El 87 % de las palabras está entre las 3.000 más comunes del inglés; conviene repasar el resto antes de empezar. 13 de sus 53 frases son preguntas, así que sirve para practicar la entonación de las preguntas y las respuestas cortas.
Vocabulario clave de este vídeo
Las 14 palabras más avanzadas del vídeo, con su pronunciación y significado:
| Palabra | Pronunciación | Significado |
|---|---|---|
| affiliation sustantivo | /əˌfɪliˈeɪʃən/ | afiliación, filiación |
| transform verbo | /tɹænsˈfɔɹm/ | trasformar, transformar |
| nonnegotiable adjetivo | innegociable | |
| threaten verbo | /ˈθɹɛt.n̩/ | conminar, amagar |
| adversary sustantivo | /ˈæd.vəɹˌsɛɹi/ | adversario, adversaria |
| aggravate verbo | /ˈæɡ.ɹə.veɪ̯t/ | agravar, empeorar |
| frustrate verbo | /ˈfɹʌsˌtɹeɪt/ | frustrar |
| stifle verbo | /ˈstaɪf(ə)l/ | sofocar |
| consciously adverbio | conscientemente | |
| rationale sustantivo | /ˌɹæʃ.əˈnæl/ | fundamentación, fundamento |
| amidst | /aˈmɪdst/ | en medio de, en pleno |
| credibility sustantivo | /kɹɛd.əˈbɪ.ɫɪ.ti/ | credibilidad |
| tribal adjetivo | /ˈtɹaɪbəl/ | tribal |
| stance sustantivo | /stæns/ | postura |
Phrasal verbs que vas a escuchar
| Palabra | Significado |
|---|---|
| find out verbo | averiguar, anoticiarse |
Frases que vale la pena repetir
Frases cortas y completas del vídeo que puedes reutilizar en la conversación diaria:
- The question is, how do you deal with conflict the most effectively?
- What's the value behind their perspective?
- What's the logic, the rationale?
- What's the emotional connection like between you and the other side?
Pronunciación a tener en cuenta
El hablante usa 14 contracciones y formas reducidas, como you're, gonna, I'm. Dilas en su forma corta, tal como las oyes.
- Los sonidos de “sh” y “zh”: affiliation /əˌfɪliˈeɪʃən/, rationale /ˌɹæʃ.əˈnæl/
- Palabras largas — cuida el acento: affiliation /əˌfɪliˈeɪʃən/, adversary /ˈæd.vəɹˌsɛɹi/, credibility /kɹɛd.əˈbɪ.ɫɪ.ti/
Cómo practicar con este vídeo
- Escucha el vídeo entero una vez sin hablar y anota las palabras que no conoces.
- Empieza a velocidad 0,75×, haz shadowing frase por frase y vuelve a la velocidad normal cuando te resulte fácil.
- Grábate y compara con el original, prestando atención a palabras como affiliation, transform, nonnegotiable.
¿Qué es la Técnica de Shadowing?
Shadowing es una técnica de aprendizaje de idiomas respaldada por la ciencia, desarrollada originalmente para la formación de intérpretes profesionales y popularizada por el políglota Dr. Alexander Arguelles. El método es simple pero poderoso: escuchas audio en inglés nativo y lo repites en voz alta de inmediato, como una sombra que sigue al hablante con solo 1-2 segundos de retraso. A diferencia de la escucha pasiva o los ejercicios de gramática, el shadowing obliga a tu cerebro y músculos de la boca a procesar y reproducir simultáneamente patrones de habla reales. Las investigaciones muestran que mejora significativamente la precisión de la pronunciación, la entonación, el ritmo, el habla conectada, la comprensión auditiva y la fluidez al hablar, convirtiéndola en una de las metodologías más efectivas para la preparación del IELTS Speaking y la comunicación en inglés en el mundo real.