Shadowing Practice: Stop Taking Everything Personally | Mel Robbins #shorts - Learn English Speaking with Video

Les maken...
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- Learning how to take nothing personally will change your life.
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Because most of what people do, it has nothing to do with you.
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Let their mood be theirs.
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Your life is yours.
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That's where you take your power back.
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See, one of the biggest ways to lose your peace of mind is to give someone else yours.
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That's why you're picking up on a tone.
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That's why you feel like you have to manage their mood, because they seem like they got it together, but then they're acting so weird.
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That's why you gotta learn to just Let people deal with themselves it doesn't mean that you don't have compassion.
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It doesn't mean that you don't care about people.
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It means that you recognize that there's a very important boundary between you and other adults.
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You are not responsible for managing other people's moods.
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You're not responsible for managing other people's expectations.
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There's one person.
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that you're responsible for, and it's you.
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When other people don't like your boundary, when you're letting them be in a bad mood, when you stop fixing everybody else's problems,
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when you stop bending yourself in knots and twisting yourself into all kinds of uncomfortable positions just to make everybody else happy.
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When you start drawing that boundary and you just kind of let people Deal with themselves?
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and they don't like it, it doesn't mean the boundary's wrong, it means it's working.
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See, people don't like it when you start changing.
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That's okay, let them.
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You got to focus on the let me part.
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Let me manage myself let their mood be theirs My mood is mine.
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Let their life be their life to fix.
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Let me focus on my life and the things that I need to fix.
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So here's what I want you to start practicing.
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When someone comes at you with an attitude, when someone's energy is off, when a text feels weird, when you catch yourself spiraling,
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when you start feeling like you've got to become the police or the parents to grown adults...
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want you to say to yourself out loud if you can let their mood be theirs And then you say, my life is mine.
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See, you can care about people without absorbing their problems.
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You can have compassion that somebody is in a bad mood or feeling disappointed or sad or low or whatever,
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without making it your job to fix it.

Woordenschat en spreektips bij deze les

Deze video bevat 32 zinnen en 406 woorden om na te spreken. Het gesproken deel duurt 2:33. De spreker praat in een natuurlijk tempo van ongeveer 159 woorden per minuut, dicht bij een alledaags gesprek. 90% van de woorden hoort bij de 3.000 meest gebruikte Engelse woorden, dus de woordenschat is goed te volgen.

Belangrijke woorden in deze video

12 minder gangbare woorden uit de video, met uitspraak en betekenis:

  • mood /muːd/ (zelfstandig naamwoord) — humeur, stemming. A mental or emotional state, composure.
  • boundary /ˈbaʊndɹi/ (zelfstandig naamwoord) — grens. The dividing line or location between two areas.
  • theirs /ðɛɚz/ — het hunne, de hunne. That or those belonging to them; the possessive case of they, used without a following noun.
  • compassion /kəmˈpæʃ.ən/ (zelfstandig naamwoord) — medelijden, deernis. Deep awareness of the suffering of others that people have to the point of them being motivated to relieve such states.
  • tone /ˈtəʊn/ (zelfstandig naamwoord) — toon, noot. A specific pitch.
  • disappointed /ˌdɪsəˈpɔɪnɪd/ (bijvoeglijk naamwoord) — teleurgesteld. Defeated of expectations or hope; experiencing disappointment; let down.
  • uncomfortable /ʌnˈkʌm.fɚ.tə.bl̩/ (bijvoeglijk naamwoord) — ongemakkelijk. Not comfortable; causing discomfort.
  • bend /bɛnd/ (werkwoord) — buigen, plooien. To cause (something) to change its shape into a curve, by physical force, chemical action, or any other means.
  • expectation /ˌɛk.spɛkˈteɪ.ʃən/ (zelfstandig naamwoord) — verwachting, afwachting. The act or state of expecting or looking forward to an event as about to happen.
  • spiral /ˈspaɪɹəl/ (zelfstandig naamwoord) — spiraal. A curve that is the locus of a point that rotates about a fixed point while continuously increasing its distance from that point.
  • absorb /æbˈsɔɹb/ (werkwoord) — absorberen, (in zich) opnemen. To include so that it no longer has separate existence; to overwhelm; to cause to disappear as if by swallowing up; to incorporate; to assimilate; to take in…
  • knot /nɑt/ (zelfstandig naamwoord) — knoop, knot. A looping of a piece of string or of any other long, flexible material that cannot be untangled without passing one or both ends of the material through its…

Phrasal verbs die je zult horen

  • deal with (werkwoord) — behandelen. To handle verbally or in some form of artistic expression; to address or discuss as a subject.

Uitspraak om op te letten

De spreker gebruikt 15 samentrekkingen en verkorte vormen, zoals don't, you're, doesn't. Spreek ze kort uit, zoals je ze hoort.

  • De klanken “sh” en “zh”: compassion /kəmˈpæʃ.ən/, expectation /ˌɛk.spɛkˈteɪ.ʃən/
  • Lange woorden — let op de klemtoon: disappointed /ˌdɪsəˈpɔɪnɪd/, uncomfortable /ʌnˈkʌm.fɚ.tə.bl̩/, expectation /ˌɛk.spɛkˈteɪ.ʃən/

Zo oefen je met deze video

  1. Luister de hele video één keer zonder te spreken en noteer de woorden die je niet kent.
  2. Begin op 0,75× snelheid, spreek zin voor zin na en ga terug naar normale snelheid zodra het makkelijk gaat.
  3. Neem jezelf op en vergelijk met het origineel; let daarbij op woorden als mood, boundary, theirs.

Wat is de Shadowing-techniek?

Shadowing is een wetenschappelijk onderbouwde taalleermethode die oorspronkelijk is ontwikkeld voor professionele tolkentraining en gepopulariseerd door polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. De methode is eenvoudig maar krachtig: je luistert naar native Engelse audio en herhaalt het onmiddellijk hardop — als een schaduw die de spreker volgt met slechts 1–2 seconden vertraging. In tegenstelling tot passief luisteren of grammaticadrills, dwingt shadowing je hersenen en mondspieren om echte spraakpatronen tegelijkertijd te verwerken en te reproduceren. Onderzoek toont aan dat het de uitspraaknauwkeurigheid, intonatie, ritme, verbonden spraak, luisterbegrip en spreekvaardigheid aanzienlijk verbetert — waardoor het een van de meest effectieve methoden is voor IELTS Speaking-voorbereiding en echte Engelse communicatie.

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