Shadowing Practice: Stop Taking Everything Personally | Mel Robbins #shorts - Learn English Speaking with Video
Creating lesson...
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- Learning how to take nothing personally will change your life.
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Because most of what people do, it has nothing to do with you.
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Let their mood be theirs.
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Your life is yours.
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That's where you take your power back.
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See, one of the biggest ways to lose your peace of mind is to give someone else yours.
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That's why you're picking up on a tone.
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That's why you feel like you have to manage their mood, because they seem like they got it together, but then they're acting so weird.
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That's why you gotta learn to just Let people deal with themselves it doesn't mean that you don't have compassion.
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It doesn't mean that you don't care about people.
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It means that you recognize that there's a very important boundary between you and other adults.
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You are not responsible for managing other people's moods.
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You're not responsible for managing other people's expectations.
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There's one person.
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that you're responsible for, and it's you.
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When other people don't like your boundary, when you're letting them be in a bad mood, when you stop fixing everybody else's problems,
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when you stop bending yourself in knots and twisting yourself into all kinds of uncomfortable positions just to make everybody else happy.
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When you start drawing that boundary and you just kind of let people Deal with themselves?
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and they don't like it, it doesn't mean the boundary's wrong, it means it's working.
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See, people don't like it when you start changing.
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That's okay, let them.
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You got to focus on the let me part.
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Let me manage myself let their mood be theirs My mood is mine.
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Let their life be their life to fix.
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Let me focus on my life and the things that I need to fix.
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So here's what I want you to start practicing.
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When someone comes at you with an attitude, when someone's energy is off, when a text feels weird, when you catch yourself spiraling,
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when you start feeling like you've got to become the police or the parents to grown adults...
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want you to say to yourself out loud if you can let their mood be theirs And then you say, my life is mine.
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See, you can care about people without absorbing their problems.
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You can have compassion that somebody is in a bad mood or feeling disappointed or sad or low or whatever,
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without making it your job to fix it.
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Vocabulary and speaking notes for this lesson
This video has 32 sentences and 406 words to shadow. The speech runs for 2:33. The speaker talks at a natural 159 words per minute, close to everyday conversation. 90% of the words are among the 3,000 most common in English, so the vocabulary is easy to follow.
Key vocabulary in this video
14 less common words from the video, with pronunciation and meaning:
- mood /muːd/ (noun) — A mental or emotional state, composure.
- boundary /ˈbaʊndɹi/ (noun) — The dividing line or location between two areas.
- theirs /ðɛɚz/ — That or those belonging to them; the possessive case of they, used without a following noun.
- compassion /kəmˈpæʃ.ən/ (noun) — Deep awareness of the suffering of others that people have to the point of them being motivated to relieve such states.
- tone /ˈtəʊn/ (noun) — A specific pitch.
- disappointed /ˌdɪsəˈpɔɪnɪd/ (adjective) — Defeated of expectations or hope; experiencing disappointment; let down.
- twist /twɪst/ (verb) — To turn the ends of something, usually thread, rope etc., in opposite directions, often using force.
- uncomfortable /ʌnˈkʌm.fɚ.tə.bl̩/ (adjective) — Not comfortable; causing discomfort.
- bend /bɛnd/ (verb) — To cause (something) to change its shape into a curve, by physical force, chemical action, or any other means.
- fixing /ˈfɪksɪŋ/ (noun) — The act of subverting (fixing) a vote.
- expectation /ˌɛk.spɛkˈteɪ.ʃən/ (noun) — The act or state of expecting or looking forward to an event as about to happen.
- spiral /ˈspaɪɹəl/ (noun) — A curve that is the locus of a point that rotates about a fixed point while continuously increasing its distance from that point.
- absorb /æbˈsɔɹb/ (verb) — To include so that it no longer has separate existence; to overwhelm; to cause to disappear as if by swallowing up; to incorporate; to assimilate; to take in…
- knot /nɑt/ (noun) — A looping of a piece of string or of any other long, flexible material that cannot be untangled without passing one or both ends of the material through its…
Phrasal verbs you will hear
- deal with (verb) — To handle verbally or in some form of artistic expression; to address or discuss as a subject.
- come at (verb) — To get to, especially with effort or difficulty.
- do with (verb) — Only used in to do with
- pick up on (verb) — To notice, observe, learn, or understand, especially something otherwise overlooked.
Pronunciation to watch
The speaker uses 15 contractions and reduced forms, such as don't, you're, doesn't. Say them the short way, as you hear them.
- The “sh” and “zh” sounds: compassion /kəmˈpæʃ.ən/, expectation /ˌɛk.spɛkˈteɪ.ʃən/
- Long words — get the stress right: disappointed /ˌdɪsəˈpɔɪnɪd/, uncomfortable /ʌnˈkʌm.fɚ.tə.bl̩/, expectation /ˌɛk.spɛkˈteɪ.ʃən/
How to practise with this video
- Listen to the whole video once without speaking and note the words you do not know.
- Start at 0.75× speed, shadow it sentence by sentence, then go back to normal speed once it feels easy.
- Record yourself and compare with the original, paying attention to words like mood, boundary, theirs.
What is the Shadowing Technique?
Shadowing is a science-backed language learning technique originally developed for professional interpreter training and popularized by polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. The method is simple but powerful: you listen to native English audio and immediately repeat it out loud — like a shadow following the speaker with just a 1–2 second delay. Unlike passive listening or grammar drills, shadowing forces your brain and mouth muscles to simultaneously process and reproduce real speech patterns. Research shows it significantly improves pronunciation accuracy, intonation, rhythm, connected speech, listening comprehension, and speaking fluency — making it one of the most effective methods for IELTS Speaking preparation and real-world English communication.