Pratique du Shadowing: The Love Lessons We Never Learned - Apprendre l'anglais à l'oral avec la vidéo
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It can be easy to feel, as we look back on our lives, that we have been singularly inept in our choices and behaviours.
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Why did we waste so long here?
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Why didn't we see what they were doing there?
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Why didn't we speak up sooner?
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Or hold our nerve?
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In such self-recriminatory moods, it can be more than merely sentimental to remind ourselves of a fundamental fact about relationships
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that we miss when we despair of our conduct.
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They sit in an area of exceptional importance,
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in which we are granted astonishingly few chances to practice before having to make vastly consequential decisions.
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Imagine if we were asked to become great violinists and were given all of six lessons to perfect our craft.
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Or if we were expected to master the javelin after four perfunctory throws.
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We'd know the odds were stacked against us.
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We'd have compassion for our often miserable performances.
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We'd understand what we were up against.
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Without us being aware, much the same level of unpreparedness holds true of relationships.
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Even a highly experienced lover might have only eight partners before getting married.
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Most of us have two or three.
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Someone might have shared a home with just one other person before deciding to place a new human being on the earth.
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None of us has ever been asked to pass an examination in love before going on a date.
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From the other side of failure, we chastise ourselves for how little we've understood.
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We don't appreciate how much there is to understand how infinitely more complicated relationships are than any musical instrument.
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It's entirely to be expected that the sounds we make are frequently terrifying.
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Let's imagine that there are some 30 key lessons to learn about relationships,
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30 things we might have to get the hang of before having any real chance at managing our lives successfully.
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We might begin to summarize these lessons as follows.
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Always speak up when you're feeling undervalued.
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Complain with clarity and kindness not despair or rage.
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You try to persuade anyone to love you.
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Don't set out to fix anyone's childhood.
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An absence of attraction is fateful, but then attraction isn't enough.
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They should be like a best friend, but this isn't just a friendship.
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Resentment at a mother or father has a very long tail.
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Someone who hates therapy doesn't just hate therapy, they're liable to hate introspection and dialogue too.
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Flee from anyone defensive.
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get together with someone just because they are right on paper.
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If something breaks down once, the chances of it ever working a second time are beyond minimal.
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And so on and so forth.
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The challenge is that though we might state these lessons simply enough,
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to get the hang of each one properly requires at least eight months and more usually several years or even decades.
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We need to experience the finer nuances of the issues through summers and winters, through journeys and work crises, in the slow despair of quiet Sunday afternoons.
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We need time, encouragement and the right to fail without tragedy.
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We wouldn't be any less generous after telling a trumpet player to support their notes from the diaphragm.
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In a depressed moment in middle age, we might try to categorize phases of our love lives according to the slow lessons
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that we've taken away from each one of them.
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For example, don't keep making an effort if they're not.
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Caitlin, four and a half years.
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Beware of people who can't articulate their emotions.
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6 months Don't wait around hoping they'll explain why they acted as they did 3 years
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Don't have children before the bond is properly formed 20 years
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We would need to live to at least 500 years old to stand any realistic chance of picking up our craft.
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Instead, we're rushed on stage and have to work out the right way to hold the bow before a live audience.
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Those who haven't generated disaster and mutiny are luckier than they are talented.
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We aren't miserable because we're stupid, but because we weren't ever trained,
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because we exist in a culture morbidly and mysteriously resistant to emotional education.
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We leave things to chance, out of a feeling that it might be cold or unromantic, to apply some of the same basic discipline and foresight
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that we would resort to before operating a lawn mower or floor polisher.
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We teach people to become brain surgeons and pilots, yet leave the roles of partner and parent to intuition.
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A better arranged culture would itemise the key lessons of love for people in their last year of school,
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and then impose a universal intensive training programme with some of the rigour of an architecture or accountancy qualification.
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We would think of novels and films not as entertainment
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but as chances to hone the lessons of love we'd learnt in an analytical form elsewhere.
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We'd use video games to place us in digitised scenarios before we had to face them in reality.
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We'd ask ourselves for patience and be aware, without humiliation, of how blind we necessarily were.
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We've made a mess, no doubt.
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We don't, on top of everything else, need to be surprised that we did so.
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This is a game
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with at least 30 traps in it
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and we began to play long before we'd ever realized that the instruction manual had been tossed aside.
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Vocabulaire et conseils d’expression pour cette leçon
Cette leçon d’expression orale de niveau B2 s’appuie sur la vidéo « The Love Lessons We Never Learned ». Les mots qui reviennent le plus souvent : lessons, chance, relationships. Cette vidéo contient 68 phrases et 893 mots à répéter en shadowing. La partie parlée dure 5:41. Le locuteur parle à un rythme naturel d’environ 157 mots par minute, proche d’une conversation courante. Seuls 81 % des mots font partie des 3 000 mots les plus courants en anglais, le vocabulaire est donc exigeant.
Vocabulaire clé de cette vidéo
Les 15 mots les plus avancés de la vidéo, avec leur prononciation et leur sens :
| Mot | Prononciation | Sens |
|---|---|---|
| despair nom | /dɪˈspɛə(ɹ)/ | désespoir |
| miserable adjectif | /ˈmɪz(ə)ɹəbəl/ | misérable |
| attraction nom | /əˈtɹækʃn̩/ | attraction |
| accountancy nom | /əˈkaʊnt.ən.si/ | comptabilité |
| categorize verbe | /ˈkætɪɡəˌɹaɪz/ | classer, classifier |
| chastise verbe | /ˈt͡ʃæstaɪz/ | châtier |
| diaphragm nom | /ˈdaɪəˌfɹæm/ | diaphragme |
| fateful adjectif | /ˈfeɪtfəl/ | décisif |
| foresight nom | /ˈfɔɹsaɪt/ | clairvoyance, prévoyance |
| introspection nom | /ɪntɹəˈspɛkʃən/ | introspection |
| itemize verbe | /ˈaɪtəmaɪz/ | détailler, énumérer |
| javelin nom | /ˈd͡ʒæv.(ə.)lɪn/ | javelot |
| mutiny nom | /ˈmju.tə.ni/ | révolte, mutinerie |
| mysteriously adverbe | mystérieusement | |
| nuance nom | /ˈnjuː.ɑːns/ | nuance, détail |
Les verbes à particule que vous entendrez
| Mot | Prononciation | Sens |
|---|---|---|
| break down verbe | tomber en panne | |
| pick up verbe | soulever | |
| work out verbe | /ˌwɝk ˈaʊt/ | calculer |
Des phrases à répéter
Des phrases courtes et complètes de la vidéo, à réutiliser dans la conversation de tous les jours :
- Why did we waste so long here?
- Why didn't we see what they were doing there?
- Why didn't we speak up sooner?
- We'd know the odds were stacked against us.
- We'd have compassion for our often miserable performances.
La grammaire de cette vidéo
Les structures que le locuteur utilise le plus, avec les mots exacts de la vidéo :
| Structure | Dans la vidéo |
|---|---|
| Voix passive be + participe passé — l’accent est mis sur ce qui arrive, pas sur qui le fait | are granted · were asked · were expected |
| Present perfect have/has + participe passé — une action passée qui compte encore maintenant | have been · has ever been asked · we've understood |
| Propositions relatives who / which + proposition — une précision sur une personne ou une chose | Someone who hates · people who can · Those who haven |
Prononciation à surveiller
Le locuteur utilise 32 contractions et formes réduites, comme we'd, don't, we've. Prononcez-les sous leur forme courte, telles que vous les entendez.
- Les sons « sh » et « zh »: attraction /əˈtɹækʃn̩/, consequential /ˌkɑnsɪˈkwɛnʃəl/, introspection /ɪntɹəˈspɛkʃən/, intuition /ˌɪn.tjuːˈɪʃ.ən/, humiliation /hjuːˌmɪliˈeɪʃən/
- Mots longs — placez bien l’accent: miserable /ˈmɪz(ə)ɹəbəl/, accountancy /əˈkaʊnt.ən.si/, categorize /ˈkætɪɡəˌɹaɪz/, consequential /ˌkɑnsɪˈkwɛnʃəl/, introspection /ɪntɹəˈspɛkʃən/
Les sons difficiles pour les francophones :
- /tʃ/ et /dʒ/ — à ne pas adoucir en « ch » et « j »: chastise /ˈt͡ʃæstaɪz/, javelin /ˈd͡ʒæv.(ə.)lɪn/, encouragement [ɪnˈkʌɹɪd͡ʒmənt], arrange /əˈɹeɪnd͡ʒ/, rage /ɹeɪd͡ʒ/
- /r/ anglais — langue recourbée, sans frotter la gorge: despair /dɪˈspɛə(ɹ)/, miserable /ˈmɪz(ə)ɹəbəl/, attraction /əˈtɹækʃn̩/, categorize /ˈkætɪɡəˌɹaɪz/, diaphragm /ˈdaɪəˌfɹæm/
Comment s’entraîner avec cette vidéo
- Écoutez la vidéo en entier une fois sans parler et notez les mots que vous ne connaissez pas.
- Commencez à la vitesse 0,75×, répétez phrase par phrase, puis revenez à la vitesse normale quand cela devient facile.
- Enregistrez-vous et comparez avec l’original, en faisant attention à des mots comme despair, miserable, attraction.
Qu'est-ce que la technique du Shadowing ?
Le Shadowing est une technique d'apprentissage des langues fondée sur la science, développée à l'origine pour la formation des interprètes professionnels. Le principe est simple mais puissant : vous écoutez de l'anglais natif et le répétez immédiatement à voix haute — comme une ombre suivant le locuteur avec un décalage de 1 à 2 secondes. Les recherches montrent une amélioration significative de la précision de la prononciation, de l'intonation, du rythme, des liaisons, de la compréhension orale et de la fluidité.