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It's one of the puzzles of relationships that after a hugely promising few months or years,

one of the members of a couple may start to exhibit notably aggressive and unyielding behaviour.

Out go their previous tenderness and loveliness, and in come roughness and neglect.

All they seem to want to do is to go out alone with their friends or flirt with strangers.

One might wonder if it's the other person in the couple who might somehow be to blame for this.

Perhaps they've done something wrong, and they're being, in certain ways appropriately, punished for not living up to expectations that they set.

But the truth may be a great deal more circuitous and complex.

In certain cases, the partner is in fact being punished, but not for doing anything wrong.

If we can put it this way, they're being punished precisely for doing things rather right.

They're being punished for not abandoning their lover, for not being cross, for not being mean, for not looking elsewhere, for not shouting,

for not bullying and for not humiliating.

They're being punished for their sweetness, crushed for their gentleness and tormented for their faith.

Why on earth might kindly behaviours prove problematic?

Because, in one of the truly oddest -sounding phenomena of love,

the kindness of the partner may trigger an intense wish in a person to punish their lover for what, many years before in their childhood,

a parent did wrong to them.

It's the very sweetness of the partner, their kindness and loyalty, their disinclination to violence and unreason,

that create the perfect conditions in which a hurt party will experience

and then redirect a resentment and a rage that were actually owed, but could never be delivered to, a disappointing parent.

The appalling behaviour winds up as a hugely peculiar and deeply tragic tribute to a unique degree of generosity and care.

The arena in which this pattern can most clearly be observed is not directly in relationships, but in adoptive families.

Research repeatedly shows that the nicer a recipient family is,

the more an adopted child is liable in adolescence to become very difficult indeed.

They will steal from their adopted family, perhaps scrawl on the walls, scream at them during arguments, parents, tell them that they loathe them,

and then leave the house for hours slamming the door behind them.

What in heaven's name have we done to deserve this?

The adoptive parents may ask themselves in despair.

And the answer, entirely odd though it may sound, is absolutely nothing.

Which is exactly why you're being hurt so badly.

You're being treated horribly for not being horrible.

You're being made to feel what the abandoned infant once had to go through when no one else cared to listen.

You're having to hear cries that went unheard.

You've created the very conditions of safety in which intense pain can finally find a way out.

A version of the very same dynamic can unfold more surreptitiously in adult love.

Behind every drama that a person in a couple may cause, every holiday they ruin, every month they chew up,

is a muffled, incoherent, but essential complaint.

Where were you when I really needed you?

How dare you be so kind to me when all I've had is cruelty all my life?

How can I possibly deal with this loveliness when pain has been my home all along?

Fuck off and die for trying to save and adore me.

There is no alternative here but insight great,

enormous, boundaried compassion, and an awareness that the person who's acting up still wants love very badly,

they just have no clue how to accept it.

One day, after much thought and therapy, perhaps long after the relationships ended,

the destructive party needs to find a way to express the truth to the first person who ever loved them.

Thank you for being kind enough to elicit my rage and my sadism.

Apologies, deep apologies, for trying to destroy you for your unremitting love.

I never wanted to harm you.

I just had no idea what to do with the pain inside me.

In the skies up above, angels will be weeping.

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本課的詞彙與口語要點

這節 C1 級別的口語課以影片“Why Hurt People Hurt People”為素材。影片中反覆出現的詞有：punished, parent, behaviour, relationships, partner。這段影片共有 50 個句子、701 個單詞可供跟讀。講話部分時長為 4:46。說話人語速平穩，每分鐘約 147 個詞，很適合跟讀。只有 80% 的單詞屬於英語最常用的 3,000 詞，詞彙難度較高。

影片中的重點詞彙

影片中最難的 15 個單詞，附發音和釋義：

單詞	發音	釋義
punish 動詞	/ˈpʌnɪʃ/	懲罰 /懲罰, 處罰 /處罰
adoptive 形容詞	/əˈdɒptɪv/	養 /養
sweetness 名詞	/ˈswitnəs/	甜味
hugely 副詞	/ˈhjuːd͡ʒli/	大大
kindness 名詞	/ˈkaɪnd.nəs/	恩惠, 仁慈
abandon 動詞	/əˈbæn.dən/	放棄 /放棄
apology 名詞	/əˈpɑ.lə.d͡ʒi/	道歉, 致歉
adolescence 名詞	/ˌædəˈlɛsəns/	青少年
circuitous 形容詞	/sɚˈkjuːətəs/	迂迴 /迂迴
elicit 動詞	/ɪˈlɪsɪt/	引出
humiliate 動詞	/hjuːˈmɪliˌeɪt/	羞辱, 侮辱
loathe 動詞	/ˈloʊð/	厭惡 /厭惡, 討厭 /討厭
sadism 名詞	/ˈseɪdɪzəm/	虐待狂
scrawl 名詞	/skɹɔːl/	塗鴉 /塗鴉, 塗鴨 /塗鴨)
torment 名詞	/ˈtɔː(ɹ)mɛnt/	苦痛

影片中出現的短語動詞

單詞	釋義
go out 動詞	出, 出口
go through 動詞	通過 /通過

值得反覆跟讀的句子

影片中簡短而完整的句子，可以直接用在日常對話裡：

What in heaven's name have we done to deserve this?
Which is exactly why you're being hurt so badly.
You're being treated horribly for not being horrible.
You're having to hear cries that went unheard.
Where were you when I really needed you?

影片中的語法

說話人最常用的結構，並附上影片中的原話：

結構	影片中的用法
被動語態 be + 過去分詞 — 強調發生了什麼，而不是誰做的	being punished · be delivered · be observed
現在完成時 have/has + 過去分詞 — 過去發生但與現在仍有關聯的事	they've done · You've created · I've had

需要注意的發音

說話人用了 11 次縮略和弱讀形式，例如 they're, you're, I've。請按聽到的簡短形式來說。

“sh” 和 “zh” 音: punish /ˈpʌnɪʃ/, disinclination /ˌdɪsɪŋklɪˈneɪʃən/, surreptitiously /sʌɹəpˈtɪʃəsli/, compassion /kəmˈpæʃ.ən/, expectation /ˌɛk.spɛkˈteɪ.ʃən/
長單詞——注意重音位置: apology /əˈpɑ.lə.d͡ʒi/, adolescence /ˌædəˈlɛsəns/, circuitous /sɚˈkjuːətəs/, disinclination /ˌdɪsɪŋklɪˈneɪʃən/, humiliate /hjuːˈmɪliˌeɪt/

中文母語者容易讀錯的音：

/v/ — 不要讀成 /w/，上齒輕觸下唇: adoptive /əˈdɒptɪv/, loveliness /ˈlʌvlinəs/, destructive /dɪˈstɹʌktɪv/, observe /əbˈzɜːv/
詞尾子音 — 要讀清楚，後面不要加母音: punish /ˈpʌnɪʃ/, adoptive /əˈdɒptɪv/, loveliness /ˈlʌvlinəs/, sweetness /ˈswitnəs/, kindness /ˈkaɪnd.nəs/
/r/ 和 /l/ 的區別: horribly /ˈhɔɹəbli/, scrawl /skɹɔːl/, surreptitiously /sʌɹəpˈtɪʃəsli/, cruelty /ˈkɹu(.ə)lti/, problematic /ˌpɹɑ.bləˈmæt.ɪk/

如何用這段影片練習

先完整聽一遍影片，不要開口，記下不認識的單詞。
用正常速度逐句跟讀，每句重複到你的節奏與說話人一致為止。
錄下自己的聲音並與原聲對比，特別注意 punish, adoptive, sweetness 這類單詞。

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