Практика Shadowing: Why Hurt People Hurt People - Изучайте разговорный английский по видео
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It's one of the puzzles of relationships that after a hugely promising few months or years,
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one of the members of a couple may start to exhibit notably aggressive and unyielding behaviour.
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Out go their previous tenderness and loveliness, and in come roughness and neglect.
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All they seem to want to do is to go out alone with their friends or flirt with strangers.
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One might wonder if it's the other person in the couple who might somehow be to blame for this.
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Perhaps they've done something wrong, and they're being, in certain ways appropriately, punished for not living up to expectations that they set.
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But the truth may be a great deal more circuitous and complex.
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In certain cases, the partner is in fact being punished, but not for doing anything wrong.
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If we can put it this way, they're being punished precisely for doing things rather right.
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They're being punished for not abandoning their lover, for not being cross, for not being mean, for not looking elsewhere, for not shouting,
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for not bullying and for not humiliating.
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They're being punished for their sweetness, crushed for their gentleness and tormented for their faith.
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Why on earth might kindly behaviours prove problematic?
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Because, in one of the truly oddest -sounding phenomena of love,
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the kindness of the partner may trigger an intense wish in a person to punish their lover for what, many years before in their childhood,
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a parent did wrong to them.
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It's the very sweetness of the partner, their kindness and loyalty, their disinclination to violence and unreason,
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that create the perfect conditions in which a hurt party will experience
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and then redirect a resentment and a rage that were actually owed, but could never be delivered to, a disappointing parent.
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The appalling behaviour winds up as a hugely peculiar and deeply tragic tribute to a unique degree of generosity and care.
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The arena in which this pattern can most clearly be observed is not directly in relationships, but in adoptive families.
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Research repeatedly shows that the nicer a recipient family is,
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the more an adopted child is liable in adolescence to become very difficult indeed.
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They will steal from their adopted family, perhaps scrawl on the walls, scream at them during arguments, parents, tell them that they loathe them,
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and then leave the house for hours slamming the door behind them.
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What in heaven's name have we done to deserve this?
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The adoptive parents may ask themselves in despair.
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And the answer, entirely odd though it may sound, is absolutely nothing.
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Which is exactly why you're being hurt so badly.
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You're being treated horribly for not being horrible.
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You're being made to feel what the abandoned infant once had to go through when no one else cared to listen.
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You're having to hear cries that went unheard.
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You've created the very conditions of safety in which intense pain can finally find a way out.
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A version of the very same dynamic can unfold more surreptitiously in adult love.
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Behind every drama that a person in a couple may cause, every holiday they ruin, every month they chew up,
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is a muffled, incoherent, but essential complaint.
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Where were you when I really needed you?
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How dare you be so kind to me when all I've had is cruelty all my life?
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How can I possibly deal with this loveliness when pain has been my home all along?
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Fuck off and die for trying to save and adore me.
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There is no alternative here but insight great,
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enormous, boundaried compassion, and an awareness that the person who's acting up still wants love very badly,
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they just have no clue how to accept it.
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One day, after much thought and therapy, perhaps long after the relationships ended,
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the destructive party needs to find a way to express the truth to the first person who ever loved them.
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Thank you for being kind enough to elicit my rage and my sadism.
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Apologies, deep apologies, for trying to destroy you for your unremitting love.
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I never wanted to harm you.
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I just had no idea what to do with the pain inside me.
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In the skies up above, angels will be weeping.
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Лексика и советы по произношению к этому уроку
Этот урок разговорной практики уровня C1 построен на видео «Why Hurt People Hurt People». Чаще всего повторяются слова: punished, parent, behaviour, relationships, partner. В этом видео 50 предложений и 701 слов для шедоуинга. Речь длится 4:46. Говорящий держит ровный темп — около 147 слов в минуту, удобный для шедоуинга. Только 80% слов входят в 3000 самых частых слов английского языка, поэтому лексика сложная.
Ключевая лексика этого видео
Самые сложные слова из видео (15), с произношением и значением:
| Слово | Произношение | Значение |
|---|---|---|
| punish глагол | /ˈpʌnɪʃ/ | нака́зывать, наказа́ть |
| adoptive прилагательное | /əˈdɒptɪv/ | приёмный |
| sweetness существительное | /ˈswitnəs/ | сла́дость |
| hugely наречие | /ˈhjuːd͡ʒli/ | весьма́, о́чень |
| kindness существительное | /ˈkaɪnd.nəs/ | доброта́, любе́зность |
| abandon глагол | /əˈbæn.dən/ | отка́зываться, оставля́ть |
| apology существительное | /əˈpɑ.lə.d͡ʒi/ | извине́ние, проще́ние |
| adolescence существительное | /ˌædəˈlɛsəns/ | ю́ность, мо́лодость |
| appalling прилагательное | /əˈpɔːlɪŋ/ | ужа́сный, ужаса́ющий |
| circuitous прилагательное | /sɚˈkjuːətəs/ | окольно |
| elicit глагол | /ɪˈlɪsɪt/ | вызыва́ть, вы́звать |
| gentleness существительное | /ˈd͡ʒɛntl̩nəs/ | мя́гкость, доброта́ |
| horribly наречие | /ˈhɔɹəbli/ | ужа́сно, стра́шно |
| humiliate глагол | /hjuːˈmɪliˌeɪt/ | унижа́ть, уни́зить |
| incoherent прилагательное | ры́хлый, несцементи́рованный |
Фразовые глаголы, которые вы услышите
| Слово | Значение |
|---|---|
| go out глагол | выходи́ть, вы́йти |
Фразы, которые стоит повторять
Короткие законченные фразы из видео, которые пригодятся в повседневном разговоре:
- What in heaven's name have we done to deserve this?
- Which is exactly why you're being hurt so badly.
- You're being treated horribly for not being horrible.
- You're having to hear cries that went unheard.
- Where were you when I really needed you?
Грамматика в этом видео
Конструкции, которые говорящий использует чаще всего, с точными словами из видео:
| Конструкция | В видео |
|---|---|
| Пассивный залог be + причастие прошедшего времени — важно, что происходит, а не кто это делает | being punished · be delivered · be observed |
| Present Perfect have/has + причастие прошедшего времени — прошлое действие, важное сейчас | they've done · You've created · has been |
Произношение, на которое стоит обратить внимание
Говорящий использует 11 сокращённых и редуцированных форм, например they're, you're, I've. Произносите их коротко, так, как слышите.
- Звуки «sh» и «zh»: punish /ˈpʌnɪʃ/, disinclination /ˌdɪsɪŋklɪˈneɪʃən/, surreptitiously /sʌɹəpˈtɪʃəsli/, compassion /kəmˈpæʃ.ən/, expectation /ˌɛk.spɛkˈteɪ.ʃən/
- Длинные слова — следите за ударением: apology /əˈpɑ.lə.d͡ʒi/, adolescence /ˌædəˈlɛsəns/, circuitous /sɚˈkjuːətəs/, disinclination /ˌdɪsɪŋklɪˈneɪʃən/, humiliate /hjuːˈmɪliˌeɪt/
Звуки, трудные для русскоязычных:
- /h/ — лёгкий выдох, а не русское «х»: hugely /ˈhjuːd͡ʒli/, horribly /ˈhɔɹəbli/, humiliate /hjuːˈmɪliˌeɪt/, unheard /ʌnˈhɜː(ɹ)d/
- Звонкие согласные в конце слова — не оглушайте их: adoptive /əˈdɒptɪv/, unfold /ʌnˈfoʊld/, unheard /ʌnˈhɜː(ɹ)d/, destructive /dɪˈstɹʌktɪv/, observe /əbˈzɜːv/
- /ŋ/ в конце слова — носовой звук без «г»: appalling /əˈpɔːlɪŋ/, unremitting /ˌʌnɹɪˈmɪtɪŋ/, bullying /ˈbʊ.li.ɪŋ/
Как заниматься с этим видео
- Прослушайте всё видео один раз молча и выпишите незнакомые слова.
- Повторяйте предложение за предложением на обычной скорости, пока ваш ритм не совпадёт с ритмом говорящего.
- Запишите себя и сравните с оригиналом, обращая внимание на такие слова, как punish, adoptive, sweetness.
Что такое техника Shadowing?
Shadowing — это научно обоснованная техника изучения языка, изначально разработанная для подготовки профессиональных переводчиков и популяризированная полиглотом доктором Александром Аргуэльесом. Метод прост, но эффективен: вы слушаете аудио на английском от носителей языка и немедленно повторяете вслух — как тень, следующая за говорящим с задержкой в 1–2 секунды. В отличие от пассивного прослушивания или грамматических упражнений, Shadowing заставляет мозг и мышцы рта одновременно обрабатывать и воспроизводить реальные речевые паттерны. Исследования показывают, что это значительно улучшает точность произношения, интонацию, ритм, связную речь, понимание на слух и беглость речи — что делает его одним из самых эффективных методов для подготовки к IELTS Speaking и реального общения на английском.