Shadowing Practice: Let Them Be Who They Are | Mel Robbins #Shorts - Learn English Speaking with Video

Creating lesson...
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people only change when they're ready to do the work to change for themselves and
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so the strategy with the let them theory is you force
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yourself to just let them be yeah let them be who they are let them be who they're not
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and that includes if they have opinions that
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you're offended by that includes if they drink too much that includes if they're rude that includes
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all those things that you want to change and you may be correct
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that it would be wonderful if they would change
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but the the major mistake I was making is I thought
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if they changed things would get better yeah what this taught me is the moment
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that you force yourself to accept people as they are
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which actually is love yeah and you create this space between you
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and the other person where they are allowed to have the
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dignity of their own experience they are allowed to have their
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own opinions they are allowed to screw up their life they're allowed to be addicted they're living their life
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so when you say let them you create space for acceptance
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and non -judgment you create space for compassion you create space since you're removing the judgment to actually lean in
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and be more curious about what's going on
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and then the let me part was revelatory for me
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because i would always get so on edge about these oh god it's so and
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so going to be there do we have oh yeah you
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know we all have the person in the extended family
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that now my energy shifted yeah and so i'm going in different
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and so when i started saying let me let me just ask myself what do i value
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and if i value family or if i value showing up for people
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or if i value long -term friendships okay well then i'm going because it's my value i'm choosing and
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if i know who i'm walking into let me look at
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what i can control i don't have to stay overnight yeah i can just stay for two hours
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and if they're upset by that let them
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and i can leave any conversation any text chain any dinner table anytime i choose
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and when you start to realize wait you're not trapped you actually have more power you go into it calm

About This Lesson

You're practicing English with "Let Them Be Who They Are | Mel Robbins #Shorts" using the Shadowing technique — a method originally developed for professional interpreter training.

Focus on sounding like the speaker — not just repeating words. With 15–30 minutes of daily practice, you'll build real-world speaking confidence.

What is the Shadowing Technique?

Shadowing is a science-backed language learning technique originally developed for professional interpreter training and popularized by polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. The method is simple but powerful: you listen to native English audio and immediately repeat it out loud — like a shadow following the speaker with just a 1–2 second delay. Unlike passive listening or grammar drills, shadowing forces your brain and mouth muscles to simultaneously process and reproduce real speech patterns. Research shows it significantly improves pronunciation accuracy, intonation, rhythm, connected speech, listening comprehension, and speaking fluency — making it one of the most effective methods for IELTS Speaking preparation and real-world English communication.

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